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corentinus_ll · 2019-09-23T19:38:27+00:00

You should have done this from the start pal, but I’m happy you finally found out.

The number one dating advice: Start with yourself. You’re all about pleasing others (typical nice guy crap) while your first priority should be you. Be a guy who girls want to be around. Not a guy who wants to be around girls.

flowers4dayz · 2019-09-23T19:54:22+00:00

I'm not sure what your end goals is...if it's just to hook up to be in a more serious relationship. But as a woman, I can say that it's not about saying or doing the right thing at the right moment. Meeting someone that you have a connection with cannot be approached formulaically or analytically. It's not enough to show a girl you like her. WHY do you like her?? When I met the man who is now my husband, he wasn't this suave, sophisticated guy. Tbh he wasn't even super attractive to me. The thing that got me to give him a chance was the fact that he listened, really listened to what I was saying on our first date and I felt SEEN by him. So many dates I had been on before where the guy had just been interested in me as a woman, but not as the actual person I am. Other guys had seen a pretty face and tried to go for it...being a nice guy, caring, interested, whatever...but I never felt like these other guys were actually seeing me. It may sound weird, but I feel like my husband was seeing my brain on that date...instead of just my face or my body or my accomplishments. And him "seeing my brain" was the biggest turn on and made the foundation for our relationship.

Idk if that makes sense or if you are just over it...but so many times on this subreddit I see people saying "well I'm doing everything right but girls don't respond, etc." ...but it's not a formula where if you're nice girls will like you. It's about connecting with a person. And sometimes you just don't connect. There's a reason why people date so many people before finding a person they connect with and have chemistry with - because it is not a common thing. And anyone who says it is a easy, common thing to find is either 1) really really lucky or 2) has really really low expectations.

I might be telling you things you already know. I don't think you're a pussy like one of the commenters posted...and honestly with a name like Stankwagon??? whatever, I won't even go there. But I only bother to say this because if you have a desire to be with someone, it probably won't just go away. That's just speaking from my experience. And if you DO decide to get back out there, just to be yourself (so cheesy, right?? but it's also true) and if connections form, they form, and if you don't, you know you dodged a bullet. Because who wants to be with someone who isn't crazy about them???

And again I guess this is really all from a relationship standpoint...if you don't want a relationship, just a hookup then you can just disregard most, if not all of it.

Stankwagon · 2019-09-23T19:24:36+00:00

You sound like a pussy. No wonder you have trouble with women.

Title	Done
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Date	September 23, 2019 7:17 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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