Hello guys, I am 23 year old guy who recently ended a 7 year old relationship. We both realized that we are in different lifesituations right now and things have changed and we have to end it here. But that’s not the point now

We can to basic math, I was in a relationship since I was 17 years old. So my whole teenager phase I had no dating and haven’t meet or texted any girl. And I am kinda lost at the moment. I am not searching for any relationship. But because I had no contact to any girl (except of old school friends which are also her friends), I want to meet new people. It is not my priority but I would like to get new experiences, both in meeting people but also in having intimacy.

When I was younger, I was always good in talking to girls. Even in our relationship, when I was on a party, I haven’t had any problems in meeting new people or talking to girls (with no intentions of course). Just a couple weeks ago I was invited to a birthday and I was talking to some boys and girls and was leading the conversation. I am not an extrovert but I am not shy as well, as long as the other side is open to talk to. Thats why I can with no problem talk to people if there is a reason to talk to them if you know what I mean? If I imagine myself approaching a random girl in a bar whereI have no connection with and only seeing her, I think I couldn’t talk to her that easy. There has to be a reason, like mutal friends or an invitation somewhere.

This as only a side note, that I can build a connection, but only in certain circumstances.

And because I haven’t met any girls, neither in reallife nor dating apps, I have no Idea how to meet new people and what’s the best way to do so. A good way would be in a group of people like the birthday I told you. But that’s really really rare that I am on a situation like that. I have some friends, but I mostly meet with them alone. We are not going to any parties and they don’t have many people they meet besides me. So I just can’t meet new people by meeting with friends, because we are our own little circle with no other people. So my only way is either to ask other friends if they can invite me somewhere, but I don’t want to do that right now. I can go and search for myself but I don’t know where and how to start. I could approach a girl sitting in a coffee shop yeah, but I don’t really know anything about cold approaching. And I could use dating apps, which I also haven’t used once. And all I hear is that people complain about them, that they used them 12hours a day and don’t get any matches and its frustrating.

So I want to ask here for advice. What should I do, where do I start? Like I said. I have no circle which I can easy access to meet new people. I don’t have any place I go (hobby, work etc) wehre I can meet someone new. I am searching for a new job right now, I I also heard to not shit where I eat. I don’t really have female friends, except of 2 old school friends. All my male friends are either in a relation or shy af. So my only option to meet new girls is by getting active myself. And I am kinda good in talking but ONLY if the circumstances are right.

And like I said. I am freshly out of the relationship. So I am in no need. I want to work on myself. But I also want to experience the dating life which I couldn’t while I was younger