Hi guys,

First off, I recently just found this subreddit and have basically rethought so many aspects of my life so thanks.

In my self reflecting, I realize that perhaps my two biggest problems right now is I'm too nice (yes, I know it's probably because my inner confidence isn't complete and I'm working on it) so escalation to me is super confusing and of course approach anxiety. I'm working on my second problem now, but would love some tips on escalating.

During my dates, I do immediately break the touch barrier with a hug. I'll give playful touches to the arm or shoulder and all that. But going from those playful touches to the longer touches/arm around her is something I'm not quite comfortable with. So for example:

I'm watching a movie with a girl. We're close, sharing a blanket. During funny moments when we talk or what not, I'll touch her shoulder. I can probably work in a way to touch her hair or face too. So the touch barrier has mostly been taken down. How do you go from that to arm around her/cuddling?

Thanks!