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[–]Tenmagnet3 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (11 children) | Copy Link
Let me get this right: this is your plan
1: Message her on facebook
2: Get her snapchat
3: ???
4: Profit!
See the missing step?
Honestly, I would wait until she's online, start up a conversation, try to move the conversation towards something that implies some sort of real-world get together (there's something cool going on at xyz place I'm excited about) and then get her number.
Your problem is that you need to create a connection with her, and get her around to the idea of perhaps meeting up with you in person at some time, and that's hard to do when you're coming in with presumably 0 value or comfort.
[–]3500531 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Hmm like we live within 5 min walking distance and we knew eachother as kids. I basically accidentally friendzoned her. Shes online now but theres no real get togetherplace. We both got 2 week winter break from school (17yrs)
EDIT: My real question is why i haven't messaged her yet. Afraid of fucking up and running outta convo topics and idc why. I need shia labeouf lol
[–]Tenmagnet1 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Ok, well I'm exactly twice your age, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Honestly, I would just shoot her a line, like "Hey X, how have things been going? I haven't seen you in forever!".
If she likes you (which apparently she DID) she will probably respond back positively. If she doesn't like you, you're probably not going to change her opinion of you at all over facebook so you're screwed.
So it's really low risk - if she's responding to you, she probably likes you. If she's not responding to you, you probably screwed up two years ago when you friendzoned her and there's nothing you can do to make things better (or worse) now.
[–]3500533 points 10 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Geez just sent the hello and now im panicking annndd now she responded. Rip
[–]3500531 points 10 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah im thinking i might just start with a simple 'Hi' or smth. Id use your starter but as i said i just met her 2 days ago although briefly.
And im not really excited bout shit so idk. Not really into the dating scene and shit. We're just kids still i guess so idk
[–]giantezz 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If it were me I wouldnt really try to get the conversation to any particular place, just chat and keep building on things you are talking about maybe.
[–]3500531 points 10 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
The missing step would probably be snapping n catching up on the last 3 years. Like im 99% sure she still has those first crush feelings
[–]ZZPiranhaZZ 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey man, I'm the same age as you and I have some experience with this so I'll try to help.
First things first, are YOU interested in this girl? If you are, then you need to first let her know your intentions. You need to flirt - Don't talk to her like you used to, otherwise she might feel like you friendzoned her again. Then, like Tenmagnet said, organise a meet up. If there's no meeting place, go get some food or something, or hang out and grab some coffee, anything is good where you can talk to her. From there on you can escalate and yadda yadda, there's a lot of helpful stuff in the sidebar for this.
For the actual texting part, if it's difficult for you, this video was something that helped me : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PuzHKWYahw
If you cant be fucked watching, some basic rules that I think are good are:
. Dont flake
. Dont send more than 3 messages at once. Even 2 is pushing it.
. Dont spam emotes
Besides from that just keep the convo going, you can say some flirty shit and just put ";)" at the end and that seems to work well like 90% of the time. Also dont spend to much time just making conversation over text, this should be done in person, text her and talk for a bit then organise a meet up. Good luck.
"Hey I saw you at the store the other day and I was wondering if you wanted to talk more or hang out. I don't often see you on facebook so is there a way that would work better for you? Looking forward to catching up."
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