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You can't bail that easy! Especially if you really had a good connection. (Read the article!)
/r/seduction17/04/18 03:29 PM
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Responses?
/r/seduction17/04/18 02:55 PM
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It is very naive and foolish to think that these problems are caused by "masculinity".
/r/seduction27/03/18 03:17 PM
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So what about these things makes them "masculinity"? Why is mistreating women "masculine"? Don't you see the dishonesty and bias in your argument? You're labeling all sorts of bad things as "masculinity" and then saying "masculinity" is toxic. It's not. It's your idea of masculinity, which you learned from feminists that is toxic.
/r/seduction27/03/18 03:09 PM
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Wow, we were heading to the top of the sub before the politically correct downvote brigade attacked this thread. I would not have expected that here.
/r/seduction27/03/18 03:00 PM
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So the way some men weld their masculinity is toxic. What ways are those? Is it possible that the WAY you weild something is important here.. it's the actual REAL ISSUE that is being discussed? After all, it's not fists that start a fight, it's the way some people wield their fists that starts a fight. It would be pretty silly to say that "fists start fights", wouldn't it?
/r/seduction27/03/18 02:49 PM
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Poor brainwashed kid. Explain how, after thousands of years of civilization, nobody noticed masculinity was "toxic" until a bunch of feminists decided to declare it so in the 70's.
/r/seduction27/03/18 02:10 PM
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Formerly from Love Systems.
/r/seduction08/03/18 04:00 AM
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Interesting article, but nothing that the average person couldn’t figure out. Perhaps expanding and trying to identify what the real root causes of the broken dating market would make a more interesting article. That's the next article :)
/r/seduction07/03/18 05:52 PM
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This is a follow up from yesterday's blog post where I asked whether the dating market was broken. I took the feedback from Reddit and my mailing list and tried to dig a bit deeper into what is going on.... let me know what you think.
/r/seduction07/03/18 02:31 PM
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Thanks man. Still, I have to ask: Do you really think "being yourself" is the best way to change one's dating life? Shouldn't it be about standing out and differentiating yourself from the competition? Those aren't mutually incompatible goals. It's not really that difficult to stand out if you have a strong sense of identity and are confident about communicating it.
/r/seduction06/03/18 03:47 PM
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I think that when you meet in person you have a big advantage, but if you don't build the right emotional connection it will often come to nothing. I know there are a ton of guys who get huge flake rates with cold approach. It doesn't have to be that way. There are some pretty solid strategies to cut flakes down well below 50%.
/r/seduction06/03/18 03:38 PM
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I wrote this article because guys keep telling me the dating market is "broken"... I was wondering what you guys had to say about that. Here's the follow up blog post
/r/seduction06/03/18 01:54 PM
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This guy gets it.
/r/seduction28/11/17 06:22 PM
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I would start by asking myself - what's a disagreeable part of myself that I hide from women I date? I'm not talking about the absolute worst part of you (which probably shouldn't come out in dates), but a part of you that you actually identify with, or even like, but that other people sometimes have a problem with. That's the beginning of getting in touch with your badboy side.
/r/seduction28/11/17 04:58 PM
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Answering questions on tapping into your "bad boy" side.
/r/seduction28/11/17 03:25 PM
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For guys who reach a certain level of success, it can be a problem. Especially if you are a rich guy with no game, the women who approach you are very often more about the money than your average woman (who doesn't go around looking for rich guys to snag).
/r/seduction07/11/17 11:01 PM
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Does that work for you?
/r/seduction07/11/17 07:37 PM
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There are actual suggestions at the bottom of the article. After your comment I expanded on them a bit: "Hey, I saw you back there and I like your style, you have this classy vibe going on. Are you (related question)?" With this line, you can replace "classy vibe" with "creative", "sporty", "intellectual", "badass" or any adjective that sounds like it would fit her style. This opener will hit the best if the word you use reflects what she is trying to communicate to the world. Another simple but…
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:15 PM
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Thanks man! I know it's basic but you gotta start somewhere some times!
/r/seduction18/07/17 06:36 PM
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Thanks man!
/r/seduction18/07/17 02:24 PM
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Hey guys! Thanks so much for calling in and participating! It was an awesome show!
/r/seduction28/02/17 02:39 AM
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Great questions man! For both questions it's about getting control of your emotions. Breakups can be super painful so you need to a) control your emotions and b) not put yourself in a situation where that will be nearly impossible to do. So to answer question 1 - Just stay chill, act like normal and resist the urge to tell her how you feel or act out. Set up an excuse so you can take off if you have to. For Question 2 - The decision to block or not again relates to you. If you find yourself enga…
/r/seduction27/02/17 10:24 PM
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See #22 on the sidebar there. --->
/r/seduction27/02/17 06:39 PM
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No just wondering if he watched the show.
/r/seduction13/02/17 05:31 PM
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Good stuff man! - You didn't get this from our Tinder Challenge video last week did you? Because that sounds a lot like the stuff I was throwing out at the end of the episode :)
/r/seduction13/02/17 02:49 AM
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We're starting in 20 minutes now. Please upvote for visibility!
/r/seduction07/02/17 12:38 AM
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Yeah. If you register on the page we'll make sure to send you a recording.
/r/seduction06/02/17 11:59 PM
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If you have questions you want to ask us, put them here - we're also going to have a 1800 number.
/r/seduction06/02/17 09:56 PM
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You can say things even if she doesn't ask you.
/r/seduction25/01/17 07:37 PM
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Just reply "cool, I'm going to go chat with the guys. I'll be around". If she comes to find you, it's a big indicator of interest. If she doesn't, you can still re-open later like nothing happened.
/r/seduction25/01/17 06:51 PM
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This is a training on Social Anxiety given by Daniel Vercetti to subscribers on our mailing list. I thought I would post it on youtube for you guys to enjoy. Comment here or on the youtube page.
/r/seduction25/01/17 03:41 PM
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I seem to recall Robbie Williams was trying to get in on that action.
/r/seduction21/01/17 02:06 AM
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The benefits go well beyond looks. Working out increased your confidence, reduces your risk of joint injury (if you do it right) and causes people to treat you better in general. It's like having money in the bank - there really are no downsides.
/r/seduction21/12/16 07:33 PM
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Yes. But not if you call it "your gainz".
/r/seduction21/12/16 07:22 PM
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So these quacks define psychologically unhealthy ideas as "masculine norms" and then shockingly discover that men who adhere to psychologically unhealthy masculine norms are psychologically unhealthy! BS trendy gender libel.
/r/seduction23/11/16 10:06 PM
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Recording is here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xXuqDdt3pls
/r/seduction18/11/16 01:02 AM
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This is going to be fun.
/r/seduction17/11/16 11:47 PM
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Hmm, I'll check that out.
/r/seduction10/11/16 10:14 PM
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Glad you liked it man! The desire to be desired is one thing that guys have a really hard time understanding, but once you start looking for it, you see it in a lot of interactions and suddenly things just make more sense.
/r/seduction10/11/16 09:01 PM
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Fixed - thanks for noticing that!
/r/seduction10/11/16 07:59 PM
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I'll be checking in all day to answer any questions you might have.
/r/seduction10/11/16 04:14 PM
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This is great advice - I remember when I was just starting out, whenever I would feel nervous or awkward, I would always realize I was focusing on making her happy (something I could not control). When I would catch myself doing that, I would think "What do I really want right now, how am I feeling?" and I would share that with her. Not surprisingly, that was usually the best thing to say. "Holy crap, these seats are uncomfortable! Lets get out of here" "I have this huge craving for chicken wing…
/r/seduction10/11/16 03:01 PM
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Welcome to Toronto man - you're going to love it. Here's some quick non-generic advice. 1 - Multiple venues. This is a really simple thing you can do that makes it way easier to keep a date fun. Just plan on doing multiple things over a relatively short period of time. For example, meet at a coffee place, walk around the neighborhood, grab a quick bite and then dessert somewhere else. Toronto is great for those sorts of dates. On the other hand, some guys will just do one thing with a girl for h…
/r/seduction08/11/16 07:05 PM
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Yep. You might be surprised to learn that a lot of women (including classically "hot girl" types) actually have full blown social anxiety - the sort that plenty of guys on /r/seduction have. And while it's probably not as socially isolating to have SA if you're a hot girl, they still do the exact same thing a SA guy would do if a hot girl came up to him and started making conversation. They freeze, give one-two word answers, and then excuse themselves and beat themselves up over it.
/r/seduction07/11/16 08:45 PM
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I agree that plenty of women won't meet after just 5-6 messages back and forth. However, I think it is a very good strategy to TRY to get her to meet up after 5-6 messages, and if she thinks she needs to get to know you better, be perfectly cool with it, keep talking, and bring up the idea of getting together later. A woman learns a lot about you by the way you handle a "not yet". If you get discouraged or whiney, she notices. If you get pushy and aggressive, she notices. If you get frustrated a…
/r/seduction07/11/16 05:18 PM
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Most guys on seddit underestimate how bad the average guy is at hitting on women. When she says she gets hit on by guys all the time, she's not talking about guys coming up to her confidently and engaging her in conversation. She's probably talking about: 1) Guy who make lame compliments and then stand there slack jawed. "You're really hot.... " "Thanks" "....." 2) Guys who try to do dumb stuff for her and then act all creepy. 3) Guys who get drunk and make a nuisance of themselves. Eliminate al…
/r/seduction05/11/16 04:08 PM
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Psychology today is pretty cool - they've interviewed several of our instructors, and seem to be open to researching this sort of thing. In fact, most psychologists I've spoken to about "game" find it fascinating - but they wouldn't touch it with a 10 foot pole for political reasons.
/r/seduction01/11/16 06:29 PM
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If you think it is a problem, then it will be a problem. If you treat it like it's NOT a problem, it will NOT be a problem. So relax.
/r/seduction14/10/16 11:59 PM
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Well-grounded women usually prefer to play a passive role in dating - while needy women tend to be more likely to take the initiative. So if you're a passive guy yourself, you'll miss out on the cool girls and wind up with the needy ones. Also, women can sense weakness. The crazy women are drawn to it, and the confident ones are repelled.
/r/seduction14/10/16 11:54 PM
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For you: https://www.lovesystems.com/blogs/dating-advice/117746309-the-real-secret-of-confidence-that-nobody-has-told-you-yet
/r/seduction14/10/16 06:34 PM
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Awesome man! I started my journey when I was 19 by hopping on a plane to Thailand by myself. Travelling by myself meant getting into tons of uncomfortable situations that helped me grow a great deal. I didn't talk to ANYONE for the first 5 days I was there, then I started to make friends, and by the end of my trip I was a different person. Some advice: 1) I've never been to Budapest but I've heard the women are hot and it's really hard to game there. 2) Don't let dodgy strangers hug you or get i…
/r/seduction10/08/16 03:33 PM
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I disagree with the guys who say you should avoid shy girls - shy women can be great to date. The first thing you need to do is not react to their anxiety. If they blow you off or don't reply because they're anxious, just let it go. You don't have to pretend it didn't happen, just forgive them. Simply doing that properly will REALLY help - anxious people are often anxious about their anxiety, and so letting her know you understand she has anxiety and you aren't put off by it is anxiety reducing …
/r/seduction31/07/16 04:09 PM
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Some places have attitude, but they're really nice places inside. So the attitude is annoying, but I at least understand why they have an attitude. Other places have a snobby attitude, but they're actually just a big empty room with nothing really to offer except a lot of hype. I really dislike those places.
/r/seduction29/07/16 03:32 PM
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Honestly, it depends on your "scene" a little bit. Generally, things that make a big difference to me include 1) Music Volume - All clubs are loud, but some are ULTRA LOUD making conversation impossible, 2) Seating - Some clubs only have seating in the VIP area, which is annoying if you're using conversational style game 3) W to M Ratio - I think a lot of guys obsess over this way too much. Some places with high W to M ratios are still easy to pickup, because the guys have no game. But if the pl…
/r/seduction29/07/16 02:43 PM
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Professional Nightclub-goer here. My best advice is to go to the right nightclub. Some are really great, and others are really terrible. Partly it's about a place that fits your personal preference, but also some clubs are really just set up to treat everyone who isn't a VIP badly. From your comment history, it sounds like you're a musician, so you will probably have the most fun (and best results) in a club that plays something at least close to your style of music.
/r/seduction29/07/16 12:47 PM
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Absolutely man - over thinking things is a total killer. Warming up is the #1 thing you can do to improve your game.
/r/seduction28/07/16 06:30 PM
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First you gotta learn to read wampum, then it's pretty simple. The Great Law of Peace
/r/seduction27/07/16 06:27 PM
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This goes for all social conversations - but it obviously doesn't apply to business conversations. Here's a secret - open up about something, just a little bit. So if someone says "What did you do this weekend?", don't just answer the question ("I went to the park with my freinds"). Just open up a bit more "I went to Mount Royal Park with my friends. I have to say, it's my favourite place in the whole city. I get claustrophobic if I don't get out into nature at least a little bit on the weekend.…
/r/seduction26/07/16 06:15 PM
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I did a survey a while back and 21% of the guys who answered said that keeping conversations going was their biggest problem. Here's a tip - boring people tend to think that it's the CONTENT of a conversation that makes it interesting. While interesting people realize that it's the delivery and the emotion that makes a conversation interesting. That's why boring people drone on about their vacation to Hawaii (it's an interesting subject) while this guy can talk about seeds for a half hour and ke…
/r/seduction25/07/16 09:42 PM
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It is funny/strange. But it's true. Attraction is very much based off of first impressions - much more so I think than other sorts of relationships. I explain why a bit in this blog post.
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:01 PM
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'sup guys. I'll be checking back in here all afternoon answering questions on the stuff we learned from this study. Cajun too.
/r/seduction08/07/16 04:04 PM
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I don't know what the science says, but I know from experience that long-term, your happiness in a relationship is 100% dependent on your partner's personality, and 0% dependent on their looks. People with bad personalities are not fun to date, no matter how beautiful they are.
/r/seduction03/06/16 01:46 PM
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Well, let me tell you what worked for me (I'm in a serious relationship these days). 1 - Go for older guys - I'm 35, and I wouldn't date 25 year old me. I wasn't very interested in a serious relationship until I neared 30. That's probably a bit late, but you're still better off dating older guys. 2 - Add to his life - Why do people stay together? Is it for companionship? For sex? Honestly, you can get both of these things outside of a relationship. It needs to be more than that. I'm in a relatio…
/r/seduction06/05/16 03:39 AM
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Don't count your chickens before they're hatched. Seriously though, you should not be treating this like it's a sure thing. You want to be outcome independent, and recognize that you can only control yourself and your own actions, not what happens to you. If you keep those attitudes in mind, you will be relaxed and things will likely go well. If you get over-eager or anxious, you still stand a good chance of screwing up a sure thing. Trust me, I've done it.
/r/seduction06/05/16 03:15 AM
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:)
/r/seduction06/05/16 12:27 AM
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You shouldn't ask a talking fish how to make a fish.
/r/seduction06/05/16 12:17 AM
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So we agree that the correct analogy should be: "You don't ask a talking fish how to make a fish."
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:20 PM
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What one was that, and why was it bad?
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:15 PM
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"Love will find you when you stop looking" sounds like a polite way of saying "you're coming across kind of desperate."
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:12 PM
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Did you try being yourself yet? I've heard great things about just being yourself.
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:11 PM
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Ouch... I really need to write a blog post about the "just be yourself" thing. It's in this weird spot where it's undeniably true, yet completely misleading advice. It's like saying to your unemployed friend "Just be yourself, and eventually you'll find a great job".
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:10 PM
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So true. Not to mention a lot of the time women are asking questions just to make conversation, and they don't really care what the answer is. It's much better to talk about what you actually want to talk about.
/r/seduction05/05/16 10:09 PM
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Anyone want to share the worst dating advice they've ever gotten from women?
/r/seduction05/05/16 04:41 PM
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Women flake for a lot of reasons. For example Because she just gave you her number to get rid of you. Because your phone/text game sucks Because she was attracted to you but she woke up the next day and realized she doesn't know who you are. Because she's playing games Because she got back together with her boyfriend. Making her doubt whether you'll hang up isn't going to help you with any of these things. It's more important that you build a strong connection and have solid phone and text game.…
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:35 PM
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Here's the deal man. Women won't make a move on you. You can wait till the end of time, and it won't happen. You need to put yourself out there, and see how she reacts. This is doubly true with shy women. Here's what you don't want to do - don't make some big awkward confession over dinner. Also, don't go into the interaction like you're terrified or that you're doing something wrong or shameful. Instead, start with the attitude that SHE LIKES YOU. I know you don't know for sure whether she does…
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:28 PM
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Usually you should treat this like a "shit test". She's going to judge you on how confidently, intelligently and honestly you answer the question, not by what the answer actually is. If the answer is "it depends" you should reply with something like that. If you seriously are just looking for a hookup, then be honest about it - there are plenty of women looking for hookups online. Describe what you want in emotional terms, not logical. "I just want to wake up tomorrow morning wondering what the …
/r/seduction25/04/16 03:47 PM
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C'mon, there's more to it than that :) I discuss how you ALWAYS have a relationship with the people around you. But yeah, if you only wanted to read one line, that would be it.
/r/seduction25/04/16 03:19 PM
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Thanks man. It's a mistake I've seen a lot of guys make.
/r/seduction25/04/16 02:36 PM
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That conversation was really weird. Yes, you were 110% dancing monkey. Your "humor" is not hitting. You come across like you're just looking for attention or reactions from her. Send fewer jokes and make them funnier. Send Jokes at HER expense. For example, tell a girl she's creepy or make her prove she's not a serial killer - it's funny, but it also forces HER to engage, rather than you just being entertaining.
/r/seduction25/04/16 11:52 AM
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The point of that line is that it sparks the conversation. If she's kinky she'll follow up with stuff like "oh yeah, how hard?" and try to go deeper into the subject where you can find out what they're into. And just FYI, it's not like there are two different kinds of women: kinky and vanilla. Women range from not very kinky to really really kinky, and you need to find out where they lie on that spectrum. The "vanilla" women who would react positively to this joke are most likely just "slightly …
/r/seduction22/04/16 10:01 PM
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When she says something bratty, I reply: "If you were my girlfriend I would spank you for that." That line gets the point across pretty well.
/r/seduction22/04/16 08:29 PM
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My philosophy has always been that women are attracted to the feeling of being desired by a powerful man who she can trust. Jerks do a few of these things right. A lot of jerks give off a powerful, non-needy vibe, and aren't afraid to show desire when they want. But that does NOT mean you have to be a jerk.
/r/seduction22/04/16 08:26 PM
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You're experiencing a psychological sticking point. You've been taught to feel ashamed for your desires your entire life - it's very difficult to start accepting your desires and acting on them. Even tougher to realize that women desire to be desired. The solution? Think it over. Confront your limiting beliefs in your mind. I have a sticking point meditation on my site if you look for it. But mostly just keep on working on it.
/r/seduction14/04/16 04:57 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being a decent person, having integrity, treating women as equals. What's wrong is if the best word a woman has to describe you is "he's nice". It's basically saying "well he's boring, but he's not a serial killer. I think the essence of attraction for women is "the feeling of being desired by a powerful man she can trust". Being nice can create trust (unless it's a manipulative kind of nice), but it does very little to display desire or inner power. So no, nice doesn'…
/r/seduction13/04/16 10:07 PM
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Well, now we have PROOF. That's worth something.
/r/seduction10/03/16 04:17 PM
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Limiting beliefs BTFO!
/r/seduction10/03/16 04:06 PM
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That's an interesting hypothesis. My take is simply that women prefer guys who make a move. Why? Because they desire to be desired, and they want to be desired by a guy who knows what he wants and goes for it. But I don't doubt that self-image has something to do with it too.
/r/seduction10/03/16 03:54 PM
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Chris Shepherd here: feel free to ask questions here or in the blog comments. I'm sure this will provoke a bit of discussion.
/r/seduction10/03/16 02:35 PM
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Congrats man! As I say to a lot of guys, seduction is like high school - if you're still in it after 4 years you'd better be teaching!
/r/seduction22/02/16 02:58 PM
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I can't imagine enjoying anything. You need to deal with these deep seated inner issues before game will be much help for you. I think I know what I want to do with my life already. I want to become rich and produce something that a lot of people use and respect. However I'm definitely not enjoying the progress of getting there so in that manner I'm just goal oriented. Nothing against trying to become rich, but why would you try to become rich if you don't enjoy the progress of getting there and…
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:25 PM
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It's not an affiliate link, it's the blog post this is from.
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:21 PM
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My question; If you purposefully change your behavior in order to get something you want from someone(sex), how is this different from manipulation? If "changing your behavior to get something you want" constitutes manipulation, than wearing a nice suit to a job interview and basic manners constitute manipulation - I think your definition is way too broad. In any case, Game (done properly) isn't about changing your behaviors to get something you want - it's about changing your behaviors to creat…
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:20 PM
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I'm self conscious 100% of the time. Thinking about my body language and analyzing every word I say and thinking whether it was the correct/cringey/abnormal thing to say. Sounds like you might be over-thinking things, and perhaps taking advice from the wrong segments of the game community. Improving yourself with women doesn't just mean taking on a bunch of behavior as an act - it means working on yourself on the inside out, in the same way that an athlete trains his body. Have you been training…
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:10 PM
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Like.. can a guy with very little that women want (not even a good job) improve? Absolutely man! Of course you can improve. And don't presume that you don't have what women want, or that you can't get those things. You can improve your job situation, you can build your confidence, and you can improve your art and move yourself from below-average to well above average in not much time. But first you have to believe it's possible, otherwise you won't even give it a proper try.
/r/seduction20/12/15 06:08 PM
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Got this from my blog I think game does not work but I won’t say looks and money are everything like other denialists. Game does not work because it is trying to create a fake self confidence through memorized sentences, actions, etc… Also main idea of game is that you have to act like an asshole to get girls. I am a living proof that game does not work. I don’t have good looks, my looks are even below average, I am research assistant and trying to live with little money university gives me. But…
/r/seduction19/12/15 07:38 PM
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Thanks man. Contribute if you've got anything.
/r/seduction19/12/15 07:08 PM
2

You did it, it's working! Ask her some open ended questions!
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:51 PM
2

Try something just a bit more than "hi".
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:51 PM
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I'm old, snapchat baffles me. Chicks send me their boobs and pictures of their dogs and stuff on it and I don't know what they're trying to achieve "Yeah, you're hot. Come over to my place".
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:50 PM
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Ok, well I'm exactly twice your age, so take my advice with a grain of salt. Honestly, I would just shoot her a line, like "Hey X, how have things been going? I haven't seen you in forever!". If she likes you (which apparently she DID) she will probably respond back positively. If she doesn't like you, you're probably not going to change her opinion of you at all over facebook so you're screwed. So it's really low risk - if she's responding to you, she probably likes you. If she's not responding…
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:47 PM
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That's why you don't "study" game for months before putting it into practice. You're like some guy who "studied" racing, learned everything about tuning his car and how to powerslide, watched a bunch of rally-car videos and bought a supercharged rally car and then drove it straight into a ditch, and realized - I know nothing about racing. The secret? Keep trying, and make a point of learning from your mistakes. As for sexualizing things, here's a tip for the beginner: Act like SHE is hitting on …
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:43 PM
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Let me get this right: this is your plan 1: Message her on facebook 2: Get her snapchat 3: ??? 4: Profit! See the missing step? Honestly, I would wait until she's online, start up a conversation, try to move the conversation towards something that implies some sort of real-world get together (there's something cool going on at xyz place I'm excited about) and then get her number. Your problem is that you need to create a connection with her, and get her around to the idea of perhaps meeting up w…
/r/seduction19/12/15 04:36 PM
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That's kind of like asking "is a brisk walk a good substitute for running". No, it's not a good substitute, but it might be a good way to start if you need to "train up" before you move on to more difficult exercises. One thing though - don't presume that speed dating will necessarily be easier than cold approach for getting positive responses from women. It'll be more comfortable, and you'll probably feel a bit less anxious, but women can still be really picky at speed dating. You're probably m…
/r/seduction19/12/15 03:47 PM
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I've lived in Toronto for 8 years, and outside of Toronto for the same amount of time. And no, Toronto is not really any harder than any other city in North America, despite the fact that there's a legion of whiney dudes in Toronto who complain about the city. Here's the thing though, Toronto is big, so there's a big difference between gaming at one bar vs another. If you go to places that suck, you will have a hard time. If you find the good places, you'll love it.
/r/seduction19/12/15 03:43 PM
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No, it works differently for men.
/r/seduction18/12/15 05:55 PM
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Really? It's also on my blog at Tenmagnet.com (second post from the top)
/r/seduction18/12/15 01:27 AM
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Thanks man.
/r/seduction17/12/15 09:41 PM
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I have literally never seen anything remotely like this. I've never seen construction workers go to a club straight from work, and I've never seen hot girls at the kind of place where that might happen.
/r/seduction17/12/15 08:18 PM
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Where do you hang out where dudes in rags are picking up hot chicks? Do they charge cover? Fyi I only have one of the things from your list above and I do fine.
/r/seduction17/12/15 07:49 PM
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That you know of.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:56 PM
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That's the scariest one. Narcissists and Histrionics don't really care about you and treat you like an object, but BPD chicks actually want to suffocate you to death with their insanity. Bipolar and Schizophrenia don't make you deal hard drugs or disrespect your boyfriend. Chances are she has a bad lying, dishonesty and exaggeration problem combined with a million other things. Also, keep in mind that she only has to say "he hit me" to the cops or people at your school and you'll be fighting for…
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:51 PM
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Also, read about these and see which one most describes the girl in question.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:46 PM
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RUN. You like her because you THINK she likes you, because she flirts with you and smiles. She is pulling your strings because she KNOWS it works. She will not hook up with you because a) she's not attracted to you, she's just manipulating you, b) she has more to gain from stringing you along rather than giving you what you want and c) you don't really like her. Trust me, there are some people that ALWAYS make you regret being involved with them, even when you get what you want. This sounds like…
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:36 PM
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Luck happens to those who are prepared to capitalize on opportunity when it presents itself.
/r/seduction07/11/15 01:52 PM
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Controlling your thoughts and emotions is the #1 most important skill in being a fully developed human being. Congratulations!
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:31 PM
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Yes, you should say excuse me. The general rule of "don't apologize for yourself" still holds - you should not say "excuse me" as if you're truly sorry for talking to her. You don't say excuse me in the way you might if you spilled a beer on her or smashed into her full-speed because you were looking at your cellphone. You say excuse me in the way that a normal, polite person does when they're trying to grab another's attention. For example, the way you might say "excuse me" to the barista at St…
/r/seduction22/10/15 08:22 PM
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I wouldn't move cities JUST for women. However, living in a place that you LIKE and that you CHOOSE is a million times better than living in a place because you're forced to for work, or because you just wound up there for some reason and can't be bothered to move. I grew up in a shithole city, and leaving was absolutely the best decision I ever made. I was scared when I made the move, and I had plenty of friends that stayed behind because they just weren't willing to risk it, but it definitely …
/r/seduction08/10/15 09:36 PM
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A wing is great if you can find one, especially if he's a bit better than you.
/r/seduction07/10/15 09:07 PM
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Accepting your shortcomings is not the same as being oblivious to them.
/r/seduction07/10/15 08:43 PM
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Drinking can help your game in the short-term, but in the long term it's TERRIBLE for your game. I go over it in some detail in this video, but basically you DON'T learn new things when you're drunk, and most importantly you don't get that real experience of actually pushing through anxiety, fears, etc. Instead you just drink those things away, and they come back. Do not become dependent on alcohol to game. It's really bad for you.
/r/seduction07/10/15 08:27 PM
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No, I'm not saying you should stop all dating. However, if you want to improve your success with women, you should recognize that going to the gym will be at least as useful as studying game.
/r/seduction07/10/15 06:22 PM
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I think you need to work on your negative beliefs man. You have a 2 month dry spell and you're getting down on yourself? That's just inner game. You have weight issues - that's something that is 100% in your control, so focus on that first. Online is a perfectly good way to meet women. But weight and self-confidence issues will hurt you the same online as they will in bars or any other dating scenario, so you should deal with them first.
/r/seduction07/10/15 02:55 PM
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So question is why seduction is very different than other skills? Why it can not be practiced or improved? It isn't. The entire premise of your belief is wrong. Seduction is a skill like playing guitar or playing baseball. Some people have innate talents, but for the most part, practice makes the difference between mediocrity and excellence. I think to be confident, you need to have something like good looks, a lot of money or good career. You should watch the video. The entire point of my argum…
/r/seduction07/10/15 01:46 PM
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Hey, this is Chris Shepherd. If anyone has any questions or comments they want to ask just post them in this thread and I'll make sure to reply to them.
/r/seduction07/10/15 12:40 PM
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Hey, Chris Shepherd here... I absolutely agree that meditation is one of the best things you can do to achieve that non-judging state of mind. I've been very much into meditation since I first started in Seduction over 10 years ago and it's something I still do on a regular basis. I also wrote a blog post entitled 10 steps to real self confidence that has some other tips that you might find useful.
/r/seduction07/10/15 02:14 AM
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This is a really tough one. The difference between "confident guy who likes me, omg soooo hot" and "needy creeper" is really subtle. . For the most part, the difference is not what you do but where your actions are coming from (or appear to come from). Desperate guys come from a place of scarcity, they don't see themselves as worthy of the women they are pursuing, they are outcome dependent and we don't trust their motivations because they hide them. Confident guys come from a place of abundance…
/r/seduction28/09/15 06:24 PM
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I'm not Hootie, so I can't speak for him, but last time I was in Miami I found that Ocean Drive was a lot better than Lincoln Road for daygame.
/r/seduction25/09/15 01:12 AM
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I saw Aziz's standup bit on texting and it was hilarious (and very true). Anyway, just buying the book right now - my guess is it will be more humorous than informative, but I like Aziz Ansari's work.
/r/seduction16/06/15 08:23 PM
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There used to be a group called the Brisbane fraternity that had a bunch of former students of mine, check it out and see if it's still in operation.
/r/seduction16/06/15 08:18 PM
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In a group? My favourite go-to line for girls in groups is: So, what are you guys doing tonight? Wait, let me guess: (And say to each girl... I'm presuming there are 3) 1 - You're getting drunk, 2 - You're flirting with boys, 3 - And you're keeping these two out of trouble. It's normal, moderately funny, and gets the girls to open up "No, I'm the flirty one" etc...
/r/seduction11/06/15 07:34 PM
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Yeah, I have yet to find a really big awesome venue in Paris. I have no doubt such a place exists, but I just haven't run across it yet. No doubt it's horribly expensive and hard to get into. The smaller bars in Montmartre and Mouffetard are really nice though.
/r/seduction11/06/15 12:29 AM
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Paris is awesome. I love it. I'm actually heading there next week and Cajun is in Monaco as we speak. Best neighbourhood overall is Montmartre - it's a bit outside the city centre and is very typically Parisian without being too touristy. There are a lot of nice small bars as you go up the mountain (off the main boulevards) that attract locals. Do you speak french? Because that helps immeasurably. If you don't speak French, learn a few words and pretend like you're trying, rather than walking in…
/r/seduction10/06/15 09:52 PM
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They're kind of "stiff" by american standards. They don't flirt the way american girls do. It's hard to read their signals.
/r/seduction10/06/15 03:25 PM
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I made a video on this a while back: How to pick up in Germany Personally, I think German girls are great, but they are a bit strange by American/Canadian/UK standards and I go over the difference a bit in the article.
/r/seduction09/06/15 08:39 PM
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What's up fellas. Hootie and I sat down last week to do a podcast on inner game, and I thought I would share it with you guys. It's all free, no need to subscribe or anything. Do you guys have any inner game related questions you want to ask? Also, for those who are interested, I also appeared on evening talk radio in Toronto and answered some questions, including "do women only care about your job" and some other interesting ones. That podcast is here
/r/seduction11/05/15 05:04 PM
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Yo, Chris Shepherd here (the subject of the article). The idea that I pay women to high-five me at bars is ridiculous, though I understand there are a lot of guys who think stuff like that happens.
/r/seduction01/05/15 06:55 PM
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Text game? Dates? Reply below!
/r/seduction28/04/15 10:05 PM
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So, when am i getting interviewed for this!? ;)
/r/seduction25/04/15 02:49 AM
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Wanting to attract every woman is a great fantasy, but it's not realistic, and it's actually unhealthy if you take it too seriously. After all, do you really want to attract EVERY woman? The narcissistic ones, the dumb ones, the crazy ones? Or would you rather attract a TYPE of woman, and be extremely good at that? Maybe a type of woman that you actually liked. All the guys I know who are good at this stuff have a type. They FEEL like they can attract almost any woman, because the type of woman …
/r/seduction07/01/15 04:54 PM
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Yeah, just relax man. It seems like this girl likes you. Text her just a bit during the break, or even call a bit, and then hit her back up when you're free. Make sure she knows you're super busy though. And in general, don't text too much. Most guys text way too much, and bore girls. Get her on the phone a bit and most importantly, go for a meet-up.
/r/seduction03/12/14 05:03 PM
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CREED? (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻
/r/seduction03/12/14 05:01 PM
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Gently. :) The secret is to do it very gently, the very first time she does it. Just tease lightly.
/r/seduction03/12/14 05:00 PM
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Yeah, my account got hacked and all my videos were deleted. My google plus page got turned into gay porn. I had backups of most of them, but my "Toxic Women" video can't be found anywhere anymore. The new links are different than the old ones. Here's the link to my channel. It has all the videos that are remaining. https://www.youtube.com/user/TenmagnetLS
/r/seduction02/12/14 01:34 AM
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I know. Working on it.
/r/seduction02/12/14 12:46 AM
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You need to have a bit of attraction or interest before you start, because otherwise you won't be able to get her to open up at all enough for you to reward her, but it doesn't require much attraction. I often tell my students to start going into qualification early to test to see whether they have attraction.
/r/seduction01/12/14 10:51 PM
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Thanks for the feedback man. Anyway, I disagree with you. Yes, he is asking all the questions - but we only have a 5 second slice of the conversation we're looking at. And the "c'mon, you gotta give me something to work with" should be seen as more of a tease than pleading. If a girl is making bad conversation, I tell her. Anyway, it's a fictionalized conversation - I'm just trying to illustrate how qualification works in a way that is simple and easy to understand, rather than being particularl…
/r/seduction01/12/14 07:13 PM
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Am I the Tenmagnet? I guess you could say so. I'm Chris Shepherd, the Love Systems instructor, the guy behind tenmagnet.com, etc. I don't think there are any other ones :)
/r/seduction01/12/14 04:10 PM
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8 More women have come forward and at least one is willing to put her face to an allegation. When this story first broke, the "evidence" was just the Toronto Star saying "We have heard anonymous reports that Jian has done bad things" and that was it. And I was very sceptical, since I don't think anonymous hearsay is worth much. But, this story is real testimony, in the (alleged) victim's own voice, and even though she's anonymous to us, she's not anonymous to the hosts, or to her friends, or to …
/r/MensRights30/10/14 03:52 AM
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How do other guys do it in your country? As I understand it, in a lot of Muslim countries it's really important to be discrete, so people use a lot of instant messaging and other ways to communicate with women, rather than walking up and talking to them. I remember I had a student once who was Saudi, and he told me that they used to drive past girls, put on a little show with their car (honking, swerving etc) and then pop their trunk and as the trunk opened, it would reveal a piece of cardboard …
/r/seduction23/10/14 10:43 PM
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Hey man. Thanks for the review. It was an awesome energy this year and im glad you liked it.
/r/seduction23/10/14 07:11 PM
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Yes! The advice to just "next" any woman who tries to reschedule a date is one of the dumber PUA ideas. Women flake for all sorts of reasons, and most of them have nothing to do with you. Blog post on it here If she flakes once, and gives a bit of notice, it's no big deal. If she stands you up (gives no notice) or flakes more than once, then I start getting a bit annoyed and usually move on.
/r/seduction15/06/14 06:36 PM
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Thanks man. If you like it please upvote.
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:55 PM
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Global News Montreal asked me to give some good seduction/dating advice for a morning TV show, and I tried to think of something I could talk about that would be mainstream acceptable, useful, and not common knowledge or trivial. Anyway, it's been getting a great reaction, especially from people who aren't into "game". This might be a good video to show your buddies who need game but are a bit closed-minded about it.
/r/seduction13/06/14 01:06 PM
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Super true - Confidence is about letting go of that worry and attachment to the outcome, and to judging oneself. I talk about it in a lot of depth in this blog post, if you're interested.
/r/seduction12/06/14 11:25 PM
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Haha, I also usually need a few drinks to get my dance on - either that or some REALLY good music.
/r/seduction08/02/14 01:02 AM
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You need to text her the day of the date to confirm. If you don't confirm, you'll get flaked on all the time. And if you're playing silly games like not texting her for some reason, you're going to screw up your chances of making a date happen. Phone game is not the time to play hard to get. Here's an article i did on flaking that might be helpful: http://www.tenmagnet.com/flaking-six-reasons-women-flake-on-dates-and-how-to-deal-with-it/
/r/seduction07/02/14 04:00 PM
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Thanks man. A lot of this is the standard PUA advice - have other options, don't put her on a pedestal, make sure to always keep your dignity and respect, etc. A friend gave me an example that is kind of helpful - imagine you want to get your car tuned up, and you go to the mechanic and say "I really want you to fix up abc"... in that scenario, you have the power. But if you wait for the car to break down, and come to the same shop, you don't have any power....
/r/seduction19/01/14 01:05 AM
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Women don't like nice guys. They like men with integrity. But they simply don't like "nice" guys.
/r/seduction18/01/14 04:44 PM
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Guys - there were a ton of questions for this one, and I had a bit of extra footage from Sydney so I've made a part two to this video that goes into a bit more depth and answers some questions from this thread. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1vhw24/a_simple_yet_perspectivechanging_theory_of/ Please upvote them both if you like them!
/r/seduction18/01/14 02:35 AM
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Yes - and the other PUA teachings are wrong. I actually had addressed this question in an outtake, so I decided to make a second video that went into a bit more depth and answers your question (and others). Part two: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1vhw24/a_simple_yet_perspectivechanging_theory_of/
/r/seduction18/01/14 02:34 AM
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Part 1 is here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1vge88/a_really_simple_theory_of_attraction_that_will/ Please upvote them both if you like 'em!
/r/seduction18/01/14 02:33 AM
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Thanks man!
/r/seduction18/01/14 01:16 AM
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When I was a kid, we used to say, "I'm rubber and you're glue. It bounces off me and sticks to you". Of course, the Buddha's way of describing it is much more eloquent.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/14 03:43 PM
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Meh, I'm a full time PUA (and open about it) and that's never held me back. You need to be passionate about what you're doing and have your act together.
/r/seduction30/12/13 07:52 PM
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Exactly. If you dress nice and work out and have game, you're in the top league.
/r/seduction30/12/13 03:48 PM
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Sigh... bullshit shitty pickup artists making everyone look bad.
/r/seduction06/12/13 08:26 PM
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I made that video because I dated a girl like that and I just WISHED someone had warned me. I could have caught the signs so much earlier. Glad it helped you. Pass it around if you run across another guy who's in a similar situation.
/r/MensRights04/12/13 09:22 PM
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Good for you man. You dodged a bullet (almost literally). Fyi, I made a video about the three kinds of women that you really want to watch out for. Which type do you think your ex is? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZGjDf2xNoc
/r/MensRights04/12/13 05:44 PM
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I've been working on it for a while now... some day...
/r/seduction04/12/13 02:31 AM
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delete
/r/seduction04/12/13 02:30 AM
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For the record, I once went out gaming on Valium, and felt the exact same way. 0 anxiety... but also 0 motivation. Don't abuse prescription drugs, kids.
/r/seduction03/12/13 09:56 PM
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Interesting problem - I can see how losing your excitement about approaching would also cause you to lose your anxiety. I think you kind of know the answer to your problem - cutting down on fake sources of stimulation (like porn) and video games and stuff will probably help out. Booze, bad food, antidepressants can all cause the problem you're experiencing too.
/r/seduction03/12/13 09:21 PM
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Answering questions (or you guys can comment on youtube)
/r/seduction03/12/13 08:51 PM
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But that's just someone using a good concept to try and sell a bad concept. If someone said "Show your family you love them and buy them a KFC Chicken Dinner". Does that mean showing your family you love them is a bad idea? As I said before - "Man Up" means "act like an adult", which is something that everyone should do. But a big part of being an adult is learning how to not let self-serving people manipulate you.
/r/MensRights28/11/13 06:35 PM
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If you look at your cellphone, next to the "text" icon, is a picture of an old-fashioned phone handset. If you press THAT button, your phone will set you up with a voice connection that you can use to TALK to a woman. TALKING to a woman has certain advantages over texting, namely, that you can hear the sound of the other person's voice, speak in real time, and shoot the shit for a few minutes. If you actually TALK to a woman between meeting her online and going on a date, you really improve your…
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:52 PM
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Honestly, I think "man up" is a perfectly good term, and is usually used appropriately. The only problem I have with it is that it assumes that acting like an adult is a quality that only men need to embrace. Man up = grow up.
/r/MensRights28/11/13 04:47 PM
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Yep - but in the comments of the original post, it was pointed out that this was only a CERTAIN KIND of exposure. For example, people who had been tortured experienced MORE pain than people who hadn't. Exposure generally desensitizes you to certain stimulus. But bad experiences can have the opposite effect, sensitizing you when (and if) things go wrong. So approaching is great as long as you're competent enough to not get thrown out of bars or socially ostracized. I say this because I had a form…
/r/seduction27/11/13 02:43 PM
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A lot of women play "sexual chicken"... that is, they act really bold and then gauge your reaction to see if you're confident and masculine enough to handle it. If you flinch, you lose. The answer is to escalate back. I'd put your arm around her and pull her in. I'd say something like "You're not allowed to grab my ass. That's a spanking". If she's bluffing, you called her bluff and she'll get shy. But if she's not you're going to be really sexual right away. These are the kinds of sets where yo…
/r/seduction26/11/13 06:28 PM
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There's nit much to add here that hasn't been said, except to add that there are a lot of clubs out there that are simply too loud to realky talk in, no matter how loud you are. If your ears are ringing in the morning, I suggest finding a quieter club.
/r/seduction17/11/13 04:58 PM
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If you're getting negative body language, then you want to change what you're doing. If it's in set, I'll usually leave after a minute or two if I'm getting clearly negative body language. If it's a speech, I'll try to engage the audience somehow. It can still throw you off at first, but if you practice, you can learn how to turn negative body language around.
/r/seduction13/11/13 10:08 PM
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It looks like you have some self image issues. Think about it - you say you're an uninteresting guy, but you have interesting "parts" of your life, and hobbies. What do you think makes a person interesting except that they DO interesting things now and then, and talk about it? I've been told I'm a pretty interesting guy, and I still spend 8h a day sleeping, a few hours a day cooking food, a few hours a day on the internet, a lot of time on trains and sitting around in airports. In fact, if you c…
/r/seduction13/11/13 04:35 PM
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Thanks man. I try to put out my best stuff; things that are new and innovative.
/r/seduction13/11/13 04:29 PM
3

I filmed this baby when I was in Prague last month. It's based on a blog post that went viral here (and elsewhere) about a year ago.
/r/seduction13/11/13 02:25 PM
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This is just your sexual anxiety talking. The dude was impressed. The girl liked you. You can't predict the future, and every phone number is a bit of a gamble. Relax.
/r/seduction10/11/13 02:10 PM
8

A common problem. Picking up is kind of like playing guitar. Except you can play guitar in your basement alone, and nobody has to hear you suck, but you can't do that with pickup. Embrace the idea of failing a bit at the beginning.
/r/seduction09/11/13 10:21 PM
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You're probably coming from the frame that "picking up" is bad or wrong or cheezy. You're the guy who was afraid that girls would know you liked them. What you find out when you get into game is that women LIKE being hit on, so as long as your opener isn't stupid, and it's delivered with a bit of confidence, you can pretty much say whatever you like.
/r/seduction09/11/13 09:21 PM
1

I totally think that meditation is a great way to improve confidence, though it doesn't replace TAKING ACTION. I made an inner game meditation page that has some meditation specifically for dating related anxieties, if you guys are interested. Usually you have to sign up for my mailing list to get this link, but whatever. http://www.tenmagnet.com/inner-game-meditation/
/r/seduction07/11/13 10:42 PM
1

Inb4 dozens of guys sharing stories similar to mine.
/r/seduction07/11/13 03:31 PM
1

Well, at Love Systems the American instructors bust the balls of the UK instructors a lot, about British girls being pasty and overweight. E.g. Miss Scotland Honestly though, there are a lot of gorgeous girls in the UK. My only real experience is with London though, and there are not many places in London that compare with NY, LA or Miami bars. The advantage though is that English guys can clean up with their accent if they head overseas.
/r/seduction31/10/13 12:21 AM
2

If its not full and you come in quietly I don't see why not.
/r/seduction30/10/13 07:14 PM
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I haven't taught in the UK for a few years now. I'll see if I can get one of our UK based instructors to answer some questions. My impression is that picking up in the UK is pretty much the same as in the US, except everything is just a bit worse :)
/r/seduction30/10/13 02:44 PM
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I'm actually here now, but heading to berlin at 6. I taught in prague once... I would definitely come back if there was demand for another Love Systems program.
/r/seduction30/10/13 02:41 PM
1

FYI guys, I will be in Berlin tomorrow, giving a talk for only 10 euro (to cover the meeting space). To find out where and register, follow [this link:] (http://www.tenmagnet.com/meet-berlin-thursday/)
/r/seduction30/10/13 02:14 PM
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There are so many pretty girls in Munich though! It's way better than most places in the USA! I found they were pretty friendly, but I probably have the advantage of being a foreigner, and automatically kind of interesting. Still, I found my students did really well as well. The ice is thick in Munich, but once you break through, you're in a better spot than where you would be in the USA, just by breaking the ice.
/r/seduction30/10/13 02:11 PM
2

Being intimidating is usually an advantage, since you can turn it off. After all, a guy who is unintimidating can't really just change his facial expression and come across as a badass, but a badass can just say a few nice words and people open up. So what should you do if you come across as intimidating? Just make a point to soften yourself up on the approach or just after. A casual smile or even a bit of (usually not recommended) passive/submissive body language can take the edge off. Or you c…
/r/seduction23/10/13 07:42 PM
1

That's Dr. THE Tenmagnet to you! :)
/r/seduction23/10/13 11:29 AM
3

Amazing man - the guys who usually get the most out of the seduction/pickup scene are usually guys who have their lives together in general, but are simply being held back by unproductive views about women, masculinity and relationships (the sort you learned in church). Good luck!
/r/seduction22/10/13 03:15 PM
4

He who reacts least, wins. Until a fight actually breaks out, then the guy who reacts fastest usually wins.
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:32 PM
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First of all, you have to realize that this isn't about having one night stands - this is about the fact that you leave women feeling used after one night stands. They're different. I have high standards for what I want in any extended dating or hooking up, and as a result I frequently call things off after the first night. Sounds like you're sleeping with girls to gratify your ego rather than because you're really into them. Personally, if I don't like a woman enough to hook up with her twice, …
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:25 PM
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The key is, don't react - don't let their behaviors control your actions at all. Keep doing what you were doing, in a relaxed and calm manner, and let them get huffy. Say to the girls "do you know this guy?" just to make sure it's not a brother or something (which changes how you need to react).
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:12 PM
2

So was I man, so was I. Women are subtle. If you were good at reading their social cues, you'd be a ladies man already :)
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:10 PM
3

You don't know unless you try. If a girl is dancing nearby, I'll often use that as an excuse to open, but it's not a 100% success rate. Wheras if a girl is giving you eye contact AND she's next to you, you really have to screw up for that to not work out.
/r/seduction20/10/13 06:12 PM
1

Mamie clafoutis on st dennis near sherbrooke station.
/r/seduction18/10/13 07:34 PM
2

It's really simple, but a lot of guys have been conditioned to not assert themselves. For me, it was an ex-girlfriend who would flip out whenever I asserted myself, or went after what I wanted. She'd call me selfish for the most trivial things. It took quite a while for me to re-learn how to assert myself after that. Why do you think you have had trouble communicating what you want?
/r/seduction18/10/13 03:42 PM
1

This is a problem I've seen in a lot of guys. Thoughts, comments, questions?
/r/seduction18/10/13 02:09 PM
5

Because that's my reaction when people whine. I'm not talking about a death in the family or something serious.
/r/seduction18/10/13 12:59 PM
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The problem with women telling you their problems is this: Would you tell a girl you liked your problems? Of course not, you'd try to impress her. Honestly, when a girl starts telling me her problems, I just react as if she's making herself look bad (which she is, usually). So i'll usually just act pretty disinterested and say something slightly judgmental. So if she's complaining about guys I'll just roll my eyes and say "sounds like you date a lot of losers". And that's true... that's what it …
/r/seduction18/10/13 03:28 AM
1

You have to work on your "thin slice" - take the stereotypes people attribute to you and take advantage of them. Maximize the positive, minimize the negative. When I think Russian, I think cold, stoic, drunk, dashcams, bad drivers, strong, manly, and dangerous. So, you want to take advantage of the stoic, strong, manly, dangerous stereotypes, and make sure you don't fall into the cold, drunk stereotype. Then you make fun of the dashcam/bad driving stereotype for a laugh.
/r/seduction16/10/13 11:43 PM
3

Phone numbers can be SUPER flakey - but you're doing a lot worse than even a guy with bad game would do. You must be actively messing things up. First: Build Comfort - You want her to see you as a THREE DIMENSIONAL human being before you get the number. That means you have to be more than just that funny cute guy at the bar, you need to be Koontz, the vollyball playing graphic designer whose dog is afraid of squirrels (or better than that). Second: Make plans - Before getting the number, instead…
/r/seduction16/10/13 11:18 PM
1

Tell her what happened. If it's private, you don't need to go into any details.
/r/seduction12/10/13 04:15 PM
3

Sometimes being confident can make people feel a bit shy. But all you need to do is add a bit of nice-guy to it, and now you're just a really stand up cool guy. In short - don't worry about being too confident, worry about being a jerk.
/r/seduction09/10/13 11:25 PM
1

Honestly, the way you know is: 1 - Make a move 2 - If she responds positively, you know how interested she is. Being timid and doubting and trying to pussy-foot around won't really let you know if she's interested, and will probably hurt her attraction for you.
/r/seduction09/10/13 01:03 PM
1

Thanks man!
/r/seduction04/10/13 10:35 PM
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Congrats man! Here are some things I noticed that were really good: I say her name and tell her to look at me then I go in for a kiss and my ?>god was it amazing. I got an erection immediately. And she giggles and >I say "I've literally never gotten an erection from just a kiss, you must be >good" (Of course little does she know that was my 2nd kiss of my life) >She was really turned on and tugged on my shirt for a little more kissing >action. This is a good example of sexualization - she's obvi…
/r/seduction02/10/13 03:32 AM
1

I think it's only a real negative if you treat her badly afterwards or you're not on the same page with what you want. Otherwise, I think it's perfectly fine, and could possibly strengthen a relationship. I haven't hooked up with a friend much, but I have plenty of women I hooked up with when I first met them who I am now friends with. They're some of my best female friendships because the sexual tension isn't really an issue anymore.
/r/seduction01/10/13 06:30 PM
1

Women don't desire men - they desire to be desired. Once you understand that, you understand why 9/10, they will NOT chase you, even after sex. Sometimes it happens, but it's the exception, and you're limiting yourself to a very small subset of women if you refuse to take the lead and initiate.
/r/seduction30/09/13 10:15 PM
4

You should read more about stoicism - it is NOT about repressing emotions.
/r/seduction30/09/13 02:52 AM
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Yep - the Stoics knew their shit. In fact, the biggest new movement in modern psychology (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is based on stoicism. It seems the Greeks knew a lot more about psychology than Freud. Philosophy - to the Ancient Greeks and Romans - encompassed psychology, economics and what we would call self-help. Ancient Greek philosophers basically practiced psychology, giving people emotional and personal advice and providing counselling and therapy. They honed their practice over 700…
/r/seduction30/09/13 02:47 AM
1

Dude, you need to get a job and get out of that house. Not feeding you!? That's bullshit!
/r/seduction29/09/13 07:52 PM
1

Honestly, I think studying with a girl you're interested in is probably not a good idea. Here's why - you want to create chemistry, and the rules of the friend zone are that you need to move things forward romantically fairly early. (7h is a good amount of time). Here's what I suggest instead - tell her you're going to be at the library/study space on XYZ evening. Tell her you prefer to study alone, but if she's going to be around, you should go for coffee afterwards. You want to spend time with…
/r/seduction29/09/13 05:36 PM
7

I think that it's pretty funny that the only woman in this thread has the most positive comment. Seriously, being decisive is attractiveness 101. It doesn't mean being bossy, but it's probably one of the most important habits you can cultivate for attraction. Here's how I do it - and it's a bit softer than what Tony advises. I'll usually ask a woman a question before I make a decision on her behalf, and then I'll pay close attention to her reaction. The idea is to be decisive but also PICKING WH…
/r/seduction28/09/13 02:31 PM
1

The real kind of crazy you want to look out for is Cluster B Personality Disorders. These are the kinds of "crazy" people who actually make the people around them crazy, and ruin other peoples lives.
/r/seduction26/09/13 08:53 PM
1

Has anyone else read the book yet?
/r/seduction26/09/13 07:22 PM
2

If a girl SEEMS crazy on the first date, it means she's really crazy. Most crazy people can keep it together for 2-3 hours at a time. Those that can't are usually completely bonkers.
/r/seduction26/09/13 03:43 PM
14

Mark Manson wrote a good post on STD's here: http://markmanson.net/std-guide
/r/seduction26/09/13 12:18 PM
15

Wear a condom always. Don't stick your dick in crazy. Relax.
/r/seduction26/09/13 04:22 AM
2

A lot of pretty girls are bad conversationalists - but the good thing is, if SHE's a bad conversationalist, you can actually have a conversation YOU think is boring, and she still thinks it's great. I've gone on dates with pretty boring girls before, and even though I thought I was doing terrible, at the end of the date I get told "wow, I had such a great time, you're so interesting". So basically, the advice is plow through, and relax. A lot of women are a lot more interesting when you get to k…
/r/seduction21/09/13 07:30 PM
5

Honestly, you can do whatever you want. But I've personally noticed that girls who hold out a bit longer - while still showing interest - tend to get guys "hooked" a bit better. So my advice is to tease him a little bit, if you want a relationship. Let him know you like him in a sexual way, but make him wait a bit and he'll appreciate you more. I know - this is a statement against my own interest, but I can't deny it works.
/r/seduction21/09/13 07:27 PM
2

Did you put on sunscreen? :)
/r/seduction20/09/13 05:01 PM
1

Honestly, I think there's often a bigger difference between two bars in a given city than there is between countries like the US and the UK. A cool bar in the UK is going to be better and easier than a crappy bar in the US, and vice versa. If I had to say something about different countries it would be: Canada = this is my baseline, and it's pretty well balanced. USA = Depends from city to city, some places you need to be more arrogant than in Canada, other places are pretty Canadian in outlook.…
/r/seduction20/09/13 04:47 PM
3

Hey man, thanks for the review. Just so everyone knows, I asked the guys at my inner game seminar yesterday to post reviews if they liked it, and mentioned Reddit as one of the sites they could post a review to. This isn't an ad, and it's not written by me. Anyway, I hope this isn't perceived as spamming the forum. If you guys don't like it or it's against policy, I'll stop doing it. Also - Ryan, don't be afraid to give out some of the "secrets" I shared. As long as you don't post the whole lect…
/r/seduction20/09/13 04:37 PM
1

Then do it in 3 or 4 dates man - do what works! You also want to make sure you're making girls feel good and especially feel desired after sex. If you don't follow up properly, you'll lose a lot of girls and leave bad emotions in your wake, but if you make women feel good for hooking up with you, you'll build stronger relationships and generate no bad karma.
/r/seduction20/09/13 02:08 PM
1

A lot of pick up stuff reinforces the idea that you need to be special or remarkable to pick up women, but that's really not the case. You only need to be better than the other guys by a noticeable amount - and that's not really hard. Being bold, confident and interesting is enough, you don't have to be a rockstar. Once you realize this, you'll probably lose the desire to lie. Also, make your life interesting, and learn how to talk about it in an interesting way and you'll be golden.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:43 PM
2

This is super true - I put a LOT of work into my profile, editing it, especially the opening paragraph, and then tweaking it and seeing how the tweaks seem to change my reactions. As for messages, I usually send stuff that is short and sweet. The main goal is to get a girl to check my profile and see if she likes what she sees.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:35 PM
1

I reccomend reading some good philosophy for inner game stuff. Epictetus, Seneca, Marcus Aruelius, Socrates, Buddha. Also good fiction like Ernest Hemingway, Bukowski, maybe even some orwell. Nick hoss made a great pua reading list that is worth checking out.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:31 PM
1

Lol, thanks.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:28 PM
2

As I mentioned earlier, the best dates have a lot of different things going on over a few hours. So I would invite her to a fun neighbourhood and go from spot to spot. Coffee shop > park to play frisbee >ice cream shop > somewhere else would be a good setup. Spend less than an hour at each place and it'll stay interesting.
/r/seduction19/09/13 06:20 PM
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First of all, don't worry about being a bit too aggressive. If you ARE a typical nice guy, your idea of "aggressive" is probably pretty tame. A good distinction between passive, assertive and aggressive is passive = letting people control you, assertive = you control yourself completely, but don't try to control others, aggressive = you try to control others. So being assertive means doing what you REALLY want to do, without worrying about what she might think, but also not trying to control her…
/r/seduction19/09/13 05:50 PM
2

You don't want every text to be an invitation. Engage her in a comfort conversation, either via text or over the phone. That should reinvigorate things. Women, especially 17 year old women, can't be expected to take the initiative. I think it's probably still "on" for you.
/r/seduction19/09/13 05:40 PM
1

It's psychological - our society fills people with a lot of insecurities and weird ideas about sex, and it's very hard to change those deep-seated beliefs and behaviours.
/r/seduction19/09/13 05:38 PM
1

If those guys are making you confused, ditch them. Frankly, I really dislike their stuff. I get emails a few times a month from guys who have the exact same experience as you.
/r/seduction19/09/13 05:37 PM
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You want to be subtle about it. What are the things that asian women seem to respond to in you? Highlight those when you describe yourself. How do asian women seem to perceive themselves? Describe that in your "message me if" section. You probably don't want to specify race explicitly, but you might do something like this: Message me if: You like to cook. Bonus points if you can make bulgogi or dim sum. You're a little shy. I like dating shy girls, but I never get to meet them. They're hiding at…
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:48 AM
2

Yes. I always give girls a hug when I meet them for this reason. And if there was no physical contact it was YOUR FAULT.
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:33 AM
1

When it comes to photos, I use those rating apps to see what ones women respond to. badoo.com has one of those. It's often completely arbitrary - one photo I like gets a 3, while another photo that looks worse gets a 5. I have yet to break the 5/10 mark though :)
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:30 AM
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You need to read more of seddit man. Women aren't attracted to gifts, they're not attracted to nice gestures or unexpected romantic things - they're attracted to power, most importantly the inner power that people call confidence. You need to show some of that to create those butterflies in her stomach. That means being cocky, assertive, going after what you want, and making moves confidently, at the right time. Forget about unexpected romantic things, you need to grow a giant set of brass balls…
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:27 AM
1

Whenever you have a problem like this, the root cause is psychological. Something in your brain is making you freeze up, and you need to figure out how to get around it. I wrote my strategy for getting over this sticking points like this on my blog. http://www.tenmagnet.com/how-to-get-over-sticking-points/
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:22 AM
1

Meditation is highly recommended, but first you have to ask yourself - why do I feel guilty talking to people? You need to learn to not feel guilty living your life for yourself, and pursuing your own self-interest.
/r/seduction19/09/13 10:21 AM
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Nope. The worst case I ever encountered was a guy who was so awkward when he arrived he made ME awkward during my presentation. Actually, I think he arrived 45 minutes early for the seminar and just kind of sat there in the room, as I prepared, looking really awkward. He was doing great by saturday night, and then I ran into him a year later and he was one of the top local guys in the "lair".
/r/seduction19/09/13 01:45 AM
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The best advice I can give is to create a really banging profile. Get better pictures, write your profile in a voice that doesn't take things too seriously and target a particular niche of girls with your profile as opposed to being generic.
/r/seduction19/09/13 01:05 AM
1

Meditation Warming up by chatting with random people. Good wingmen Playing games to pump myself up, like jaggering. Just opening and not worrying about the outcome.
/r/seduction19/09/13 01:03 AM
2

First step is to identify what sort of need is holding you back. Is it a need for attention, approval, safety? Then you need to take action to reduce or eliminate that needy thought pattern. I go over it a bit in this post on sticking points. You might like the meditations: http://www.tenmagnet.com/how-to-get-over-sticking-points/
/r/seduction19/09/13 01:00 AM
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You're lying to yourself. You're messaging her because you're codependent, because you're bored or lonely without her, and her replying would meet some emotional need you have. You need to leave her alone for a good long time. Maybe you can be friends, but not until you move on properly.
/r/seduction19/09/13 12:59 AM
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Honestly, I would say that online dating isn't really a good idea for someone in your situation. It will give you the feeling of progress, but without the progress. You need to learn at least the basics of picking up and attraction in real life. If you do online game at this point, I think you'll probably just spend a lot of evenings messaging chicks on OkCupid rather than going out. When you're in a tough spot in life, you need to start choosing the HARD path, not the easy path. Online dating i…
/r/seduction19/09/13 12:55 AM
2

I mean to turn around a set that is not going well. You can totally turn around sets where the girl doesn't like you - especially if she's just giving you a hard time. Turning around indifference is harder. And then sometimes what seems to be a bad set is just a girl who is shy or awkward, and you don't really need to turn it around so much as you need to "warm it up".
/r/seduction19/09/13 12:45 AM
7

Your focus should be directed at your weakest elements.
/r/seduction19/09/13 12:40 AM
2

1 - You can turn those things around, but it requires work, and I'll only really do it with women who I think are worth it. If a girl is properly boring the fuck out of me, it's not worth it. There has to be something there to keep me, even if it's only a bit. 2 - I like Mark Manson. I've heard Mark's criticism of bootcamps, and my reaction is: Mark has no idea what a Love Systems bootcamp is like. Our bootcamps are really carefully structured to improve certain core skills to the maximum extent…
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:39 PM
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1 - My first two years were pretty interesting. Game was different then, I didn't have the advantage of a lot of the good models you guys have - game was really weird and there was a lot of bad advice that held me back. Nonetheless, I started getting pretty good results quickly, and at the end of two years I had had a lot of pretty wild sexual experiences and was dating a girl I thought was fantastic. I think my best experience was when I was having sex with a model at a punk rock concert and th…
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:28 PM
3

So you get angry when you feel rejected perhaps, and that brings out a feeling of loneliness? I once spent three weeks on a farm in British Columbia, picking fruit and hardly talking to anyone. What I learned there was that loneliness isn't something to be afraid of. Life went on, peaceful and quiet and enjoyable. Since then, I haven't feared loneliness. And of course, when you stop fearing loneliness you become more confident and attractive and less lonely.
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:26 PM
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Your question is really too generic to answer. The key to attraction, IMO, is women want to be desired by a powerful man. You need to communicate some power, some value, before you'll get her attention. Then you start showing some desire.
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:23 PM
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I'm obviously big on self-improvement. I don't think there's any necessary conflict between striving and happiness, but you need to come at it with the right attitude. Many people who push themselves really hard are motivated out of insecurity or the desire to fill a hole in their lives, so they're not happy. These people tend to burn themselves out, and find themselves achieving great things but never enjoying them. On the other hand, other people focus on being happy, but find themselves drift…
/r/seduction18/09/13 10:22 PM
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I've written on flaking a few times. Usually you're not building enough comfort, or you're screwing up on the phone. Building good comfort means actually getting kind of deep into the conversation, and revealing details about your life. It means painting a picture of yourself as a 3d guy who women can relate to, rather than just being the funny guy or the cool guy they're attracted to. Building comfort properly really reduces flaking. http://www.tenmagnet.com/flaking-six-reasons-women-flake-on-d…
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:32 PM
3

Meditation is really good. Do you know what you're angry about? What kinds of thoughts are making you have that reaction?
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:24 PM
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Movies are a bad first date. I prefer to run around town doing a lot of things. Coffee, sushi, park, then drinks is the sort of date I run. Replace drinks with ice cream and you might have a good date idea for a 16yo.
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:23 PM
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No problem - There's only so far you can take things at school, and then you need to get her outside of a school context to move things further. I would definitely invite her out - thing of something cool to invite her to. Like a party, or hanging out at a pool, or something like that. What do you have that would make a good date idea?
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:16 PM
1

Yes. And done well, with confidence.
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:11 PM
1

I don't know what Roosh advocates in daybang, so it's hard to give you advice. I have found that day game works quite well on more attractive women, but the secret is to build some good comfort after a strong opening. Most guys who fail at daygame aren't able to communicate their personality properly after the opener and that leaves the phone numbers flakey.
/r/seduction18/09/13 08:04 PM
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Honestly, when I was in mexico city last, I was using the ancient "Who lies more, men or women?" opener, and it was killing. I haven't used that one in america for 7 years, but it still works in mexico. Also, if you're speaking english, you need an opener that is really simple and easy to understand.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:56 PM
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Dude, you're in High School, so relax. The first thing is, you do NOT want to do "bar style" pickup stuff in your highschool. Bars are an anonymous environment where you need to impress women quick, and if you fail, you have zero repercussions. But high school is very different. If you're having problems with conversations ending awkwardly, my suggestion is twofold 1) End the conversation early, before it gets awkward 2) Relax, lean back, and make a point of feeling comfortable. Awkwardness is o…
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:54 PM
1

What are you doing? Are you following the stuff from Nick Hoss?
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:51 PM
4

What I've found is that in Latin countries, "direct" game doesn't work too well (it's what the local guys use), but "indirect" game works better than it does in the US. Try asking a mexican girl a good drama question - they go nuts over it.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:48 PM
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Online dating is perfectly cool and normal these days. It won't help you much if you have no game at all, but if you're good at dates and understand basic teasing and the basic elements of attraction, you can do well.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:47 PM
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I don't think it's really coherent, but I do think that game teaches a good lifestyle approach. It's about confronting yourself. It's about taking responsibility for your own life. It's about not making excuses. It's about controlling your emotions. It's about gaining experience, and making opinions based on reality. All those things are good, and not too common these days.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:45 PM
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The best way to deal with this is by acclimatization. Move yourself forward in baby steps from friendly conversation, to flirty conversation, to innuendo, to making moves. This is one reason why Love Systems breaks down everything into little steps, and gives guys routines. It's not because you really need to take things in steps, but you need to LEARN THEM in steps, and routines are a useful way for a guy who is anxious to overcome his anxiety. And then once he's comfortable, he drops the routi…
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:42 PM
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One of the most common beliefs that depressed people have is a feeling of helplessness. They have internalized a belief that they cannot change, or that they are fundamentally flawed. But the fact is, human beings are the most flexible things in the universe, and are pretty much capable of anything. The problem with the feeling of helplessness is that when it gets deeply ingrained, it combines with our natural confirmation bias to re-enforce itself. So not only do you feel helpless, but your min…
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:39 PM
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I don't do a huge amount of daygame, but like all game, if you do it terribly, women perceive it as harassment, and if you do it well, women really appreciate it. The video you linked to looks like it's done pretty poorly though. I didn't watch the whole thing but it doesn't look like that guy is doing anything but annoying those women.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:34 PM
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I'm saying that anger, hatred, neediness, and irrational fear are bad things in themselves. They are ultimately the source of most unethical behaviour. People rarely act unethically without one of those emotions being the driving force behind them.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:30 PM
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As long as you have consent I don't see why not. You'd be surprised how many women get REALLY turned on by the idea of being filmed. Try starting with a role-play and seeing if she's into the real thing.
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:25 PM
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The friend zone can come about for a lot of different reasons, but the number one reason I see is that you're not in touch with your sexuality. Guys who don't make a move find themselves in the friend zone. So my advice is: Just make a move. Also, here's my definitive post on the friend zone
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:20 PM
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I think the first thing you need to do is identify WHY you feel uncomfortable around sex talk, and how to get over that. I mention in my intro video that being good at game involves breaking down the barriers that we put up between ourselves and the women we like, and it seems like your shame is a barrier to you being open with women. You need to address it. Here's a blog post I wrote on these sorts of sticking points - in the post is a link to a meditation page that has a meditation you can do …
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:18 PM
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Whenever I go on a date with a girl, especially a first date, I always plan to go to multiple places. So we might meet at a coffee shop, then an oyster bar, then drinks. Moving from place to place has this interesting effect of rejuvenating the conversation, and making the date seem more interesting. You don't really want to spend 3 hours sitting across a table from a woman, chatting. It can feel dull, even if the conversation is pretty good. I'd say meet her for a coffee, then some cocktails, t…
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:14 PM
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The answer is yes, and yes - there are differences from country to country, but they're not as big as the similarities. For example, women everywhere like men who are assertive, but the nuances of what is assertive is different from culture to culture, so guys who would be seen as shy in N America are seen as assertive in Asia. Every time I go to a new country, I spend a few days figuring out how things differ in that country vs my baseline (Canada/North America). But it only really takes a few …
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:06 PM
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The AMA is now live: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1mnrrn/i_am_chris_shepherd_aka_tenmagnet_and_i_have/
/r/seduction18/09/13 07:03 PM
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Thanks man. I'm not too upset - the post was made a bit hastily, and the examples I used definitely could be better.
/r/seduction13/09/13 10:59 PM
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I see I'm getting slammed here in the comments, so I'm just going to post a bit to defend myself. First, this text game ASSUMES attraction. Why? Because if you don't have attraction by the time you get her number you are dead in the water. So this text messaging strategy is about building COMFORT so you can move things forward. You build comfort by communicating you're a three dimensional, interesting human being that she can have fun with and who won't turn into a weirdo or a serial killer. Any…
/r/seduction13/09/13 03:14 PM
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I'm looking forward to answering some good questions!
/r/seduction12/09/13 12:18 PM
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I never make a game out of replying later than the girl. A lot of women do this, and when two people play that game, you just wind up not talking to one another. I usually text back more or less right away. Obviously, if I'm busy I don't reply back, but I never fake business. One reason I text back right away is because I LEGITIMATELY FORGET if i don't reply back soon. As far as I'm concerned, texting back quickly isn't needy at all. Neediness or coolness is communicated by the CONTENT of your t…
/r/seduction09/09/13 04:58 PM
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Your sexual shame, not your boner, is what is hurting your chances with this girl.
/r/seduction04/09/13 05:53 PM
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It'll be really tough to get into nightlife venues. I've had 40 year old students get turned away because they didn't have their ID in Illinois. It's rediculous, if you ask me.
/r/seduction04/09/13 05:48 PM
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So what, exactly, distinguishes Christina Hoff Summers from other feminists, do you think?
/r/MensRights30/08/13 06:14 PM
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Would you agree that the victimhood complex has it's roots in patriarchy theory?
/r/MensRights30/08/13 03:55 PM
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So, I guess the question is - what causes some feminists to be the first type, and others to be the second type? Is there a particular belief or attitude that good feminists have vs bad feminists? I'm trying to drill down to a deeper level rather than describe the surface.
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/r/seduction28/08/13 07:55 PM
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Yeah, there's a lot of "catfishing" that goes on EVERYWHERE on the internet. You would be amazed how many sad losers there are (like yourself) who have nothing better to do than to sit around and make up fake ass stories about themselves for attention or online glory. The solution? Treat everything you read on the internet as being probably false, and only trust people who have some sort of real-world credibility. And don't trust people who quite clearly are acting out of a need for attention an…
/r/seduction27/08/13 06:16 PM
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I got to Vegas at least once a year for the LS Superconference. It's amazing. Las Vegas is all designed to make you feel small. They park ferraris out front, make you wait in line, and at the good spots, people are incredibly good looking and well dressed. But mostly it's fake - getting into clubs is just a matter of laying down some cash. The ferraris are usually rented, and a lot of the drop-dead gorgeous girls are nurses and schoolteachers from the midwest. Or at least that's a good attitude …
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:52 PM
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Hey, glad you liked my post. As for the self-reporting being flawed, I covered that in my previous [post] (http://www.tenmagnet.com/2013/08/what-real-estate-marketers-can-teach-you-about-women/) As for how much people are hooking up - as I say in my first paragraph, people ALWAYS have the impression that everyone around them is getting laid more than they are, but most of the time it's not true. A lot of women hook up with 1-5 guys in University and that's it. Of course, there are a few who hook…
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:34 PM
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I dunno man, calling it "the dark side" presumes you're doing something wrong. Recognizing that casual relationships are becoming the norm is not the same as being some lying cad who tricks women. In fact, it's recognizing that you don't have to be that guy to enjoy a wild bachelor lifestyle.
/r/seduction20/08/13 03:14 PM
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We need more details. What happens?
/r/seduction15/08/13 03:17 AM
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One of our top guys at Love Systems is black: http://www.lovesystems.com/team-bios/vercetti
/r/seduction06/08/13 10:50 PM
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I can see how one might not like what he says, and to a certain extent he exaggerates things, but in the end, isn't what he's saying true?
/r/seduction06/08/13 05:49 PM
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I more or less agree, but even with a guy who is being himself, there's still an element of hesitation and anxiety that women experience before she's sure. Also, there are plenty of guys out there who, even when they're being "themselves" (which is really kind of a misleading idea, after all, what else could you be?) fail to create comfort due to bad habits w/r/t body language, conversational habits, etc.
/r/seduction06/08/13 05:18 PM
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Just go out and when people ask you where your friends are, just say "Honestly, I just moved here and I don't really know that many people". This excuse is good for about 6 months after you move to a place. It won't be as good as going out with a good group of friends, but you also will probably meet a ton of people.
/r/seduction27/06/13 07:52 PM
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Even if you did a good job getting the number, you can still get flaking because of bad phone game, or bad luck. I wrote a good blog post that covers some of the more confusing reasons why women flake
/r/seduction27/06/13 07:42 PM
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You are obviously doing something VERY wrong, judging by your results. An overweight, badly dressed guy who doesn't open will usually get laid two or three times in 10 years, and you're doing significantly worse than him. It's pretty clear you don't know what you're doing wrong, and you seem to have a huge blind spot. You should probably hire a coach to help you, or at the very least ask a friend who actually knows something about women. Most likely, the advice they give will be something you in…
/r/seduction17/06/13 11:50 PM
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Totally agree - Put another way, the only way to distinguish truth from falsehood is through utility. That's the way the scientific method works; Newton's theory of physics was more useful than Aristotle's, and Einstein's added extra utility onto that. You're simply applying the same principles to social interactions - things aren't true because you THINK they are, or because they make sense, they're (more) true because they are useful in the real world. Everyone should subject their beliefs to …
/r/seduction14/06/13 08:49 PM
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Sometimes a good visualization is just picturing yourself giving off a really positive, strong, attractive energy, and visualizing other people noticing it. It helps get you in the mood for talking and being confident. Also, watching comedy videos before you go out. And also: Jaggering. Cajun and I did a podcast about it a million years ago. (http://www.tenmagnet.com/2008/12/cajun-tenmagnet-mysterymethod-pua-podcast/)
/r/seduction08/06/13 12:55 AM
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I agree - with very conservative women (which includes most traditionally raised asians), you don't really want to talk about sex in public. You might use a TINY bit of innuendo, a bit of kino, and keep it all on the downlow until you're alone. Then the crazy undercover freak comes out and you can say whatever you want :)
/r/seduction08/06/13 12:51 AM
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You probably have a huge blind spot. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_(psychology)
/r/seduction06/06/13 10:51 PM
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One thing with guy-guy relationships is that they're often kind of utilitarian. That is, guys tend to hang out with guys who provide value to their lives in some way or another, and it's often not just about having a close relationship. It makes sense, since with women, there's always the possibility of romance that can bring you together, make her want to answer the phone, give you her number, etc. But for a guy, you need to have another angle. Making a guy laugh and then saying, "You seem like…
/r/seduction26/05/13 02:51 AM
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I wrote a post on getting over limiting beliefs and sticking points. http://www.tenmagnet.com/2013/03/how-to-get-over-sticking-points/ Part of it is just chilling out and realizing that if you go out and work on yourself, you're already doing better than 90% of guys out there, and it just takes time. Part of it is just taking it easier on yourself and not beating yourself up all the time. It's kind of hard to help you without getting some perspective on what exactly your limiting beliefs are (th…
/r/seduction26/05/13 02:41 AM
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This.
/r/seduction26/05/13 02:36 AM
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Your chances go down a lot.
/r/seduction21/05/13 04:20 PM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction20/05/13 05:21 PM
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The point of the article is to explain to guys why they need to escalate (and why it's attractive), rather than to make guys feel bad for the fact they're not doing it already! So, please don't take any of this genetic stuff to mean you're "flawed". That's a terribly negative attitude that will hold you back and might reflect some negative thinking patterns about yourself that you should address. The Heartiste comments are full of guys who have that sort of negative belief, and you'd be better o…
/r/seduction20/05/13 05:13 PM
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Good advice man - you really want to take inspiration from a lot of different sources, and most importantly TRY IT OUT and see what works for you. I can't tell you how many times I've met guys where the conversation goes like this. Guy: "I've been doing Bob Smith method for the past year" Me: "Yeah? Is it working?" "Not really" "Well, why didn't you change things up?" "Well, Bob Smith says that other methods don't work". Me: (facepalm)
/r/seduction20/05/13 03:30 PM
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Learn to dance! Honestly, this is what I do whenever I have language problems with a woman. You open, have a high-school english class level conversation for a minute, and then dance. It's by far the best way to keep attraction and excitement up over time when talking is difficult.
/r/seduction20/05/13 02:09 PM
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Taking Questions:
/r/seduction20/05/13 02:04 PM
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Just did a bootcamp in Hong Kong. I forwarded this thread to a former student who goes to shanghai regularly.
/r/seduction13/05/13 09:54 PM
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Lol... that is actually the answer I gave the last time I was asked that question. :)
/r/seduction12/05/13 05:36 PM
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Just pay for the date! The fact is, in American (and moreso in the rest of the world) women expect you to pay for the date. Splitting the bill makes you look socially awkward. You don't need to take girls somewhere fancy, and usually they will offer to buy drinks after (meaning the total cost is her meal - 1 drink), but this is 100% field tested and proven: it goes better when you pay for dinner.
/r/seduction02/05/13 07:15 AM
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Cultural attitude makes a big difference between continents and civilizations - obviously Yemen isn't as good a place for game as the map would indicate, but when comparing European countries amongst themselves, or asian countries amongst themselves, it seems pretty good. As I said in the post, this map correlates pretty strongly with the direct observations made by me and a ton of other guys who have gamed overseas.
/r/seduction03/04/13 03:29 PM
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Taking questions.
/r/seduction03/04/13 02:42 PM
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I've done this a few times, and if it wasn't so damn hard to do it while running my business I would do it all the time. Here's what I do with my time when I'm on an internet diet. Read, a LOT. Make sure to have some good books. If money is an issue you can download public domain kindle ebooks for 99c, or borrow them from friends/the library. I finish a book every 2 days when the internet is shut off. (Oops, just saw your no reading comment. Reading is still good though!) Call your friends. Espe…
/r/seduction27/03/13 03:08 PM
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Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse on outcome independence. The Discourses of Epictetus for Emotional Self-Control. The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle. I liked Neitzsche a lot when I was in university, but a lot of his stuff is garbage, and most of his good points are covered by Epictetus and the other stoics and are done better. I'm currently reading "The Blank Slate" by Steven Pinker. It's really good.
/r/seduction26/03/13 06:13 PM
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I was interviewed by WGN news in Chicago, and wanted to talk about something that would have a pretty general appeal to people. It might be a bit basic for Seddit, but I hope you guys like it.
/r/seduction26/03/13 06:00 PM
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Life isn't fair man. In fact, the very idea of "fairness" is pretty much useless. Justice is an individual quality - a person can be just or not, but the WORLD at large simply isn't governed by moral principles. Learning to accept that is crucial towards getting over those feelings of resentment and jealousy.
/r/seduction19/03/13 10:53 PM
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The secret is just not to judge people till you know them. Everyone I haven't met yet is just another person until I'm 5 minutes or more into a conversation with them, when I decide whether I think highly of them or not. Suspending judgement is the key.
/r/seduction19/03/13 10:50 PM
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I'll stick around here for discussion.
/r/seduction19/03/13 06:13 PM
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I've done bootcamps in Munich and given talks to pretty large groups of guys there. Email me at (my handle) @ lovesystems.com and I'll put you in touch with the guys I know there, who can then put you in touch with the right people.
/r/seduction10/03/13 08:07 PM
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Honestly, the best place to go is straight to the source. If you have a kindle (or use kindle reader) you can buy most of them for 99c. The place to start would probably be the Apology and the books surrounding the trial of Socrates. After that I would read the Stoics, specifically the discourses Epictetus. Personally, I found the Socrates and the Stoics much more interesting and useful than Plato* or Aristotle. *Keeping in mind it's hard to distinguish what ideas are Plato's and what are Socrat…
/r/seduction07/03/13 11:44 PM
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The more I read greek philosophy, the more I realize that the Greeks knew a lot more about the mind and society than we give them credit for. Greek psychological theories were much more advanced than those of Freud or Skinner or most of the 60's-2000's theories. In fact, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which is the "hot" theory these days is based on Greek stoic psychology, and outperforms other therapies in terms of therapeutic outcomes.
/r/seduction07/03/13 06:34 PM
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I submitted this earlier today, but screwed up the URL. Apologies. I will check back every few hours answering questions.
/r/seduction07/03/13 06:30 PM
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http://www.tenmagnet.com/2010/09/tokyo/
/r/seduction07/03/13 05:15 PM
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Montreal is definitely better than Toronto. But I don't know why guys have such hate on Toronto - it's a pretty average city for game, as far as I'm concerned. The thing with Toronto is it's massive, and you'll get a totally different attitude if you go out in different neighbourhoods. The club district and the places where the 905ers hang out are pretty crap.
/r/seduction07/03/13 05:13 PM
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I only spent two weeks in France, and definitely found that Montreal women are friendlier, but I don't think France is as bad as everyone makes it out to be. People were pretty cool, in my experience. Of course, I speak pretty decent French, which was a big advantage.
/r/seduction07/03/13 05:11 PM
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Awesome strategy. Fun fact: the Greek orator Demotsthenes used to practice his oratory by speaking with a pebble in his mouth. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demosthenes " Demosthenes used to study in an underground room he constructed himself. He also used to talk with pebbles in his mouth and recited verses while running.[17] To strengthen his voice, he spoke on the seashore over the roar of the waves." I think a pen would probably be every bit as good, and less likely to chip your teeth.
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:28 PM
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As someone who's done this in a lot of cities, I think there's often a bigger difference from neighbourhood to neighbourhood or from venue to venue than from city to city. That said, here are my favorites. 1 - Las Vegas: The slogan "What goes on in Vegas, stays in Vegas" is, IMO, targeted at women. It's basically a sex tourist location. 2 - Tokyo: What most guys don't realize about Tokyo is that there is a huge modelling scene there full of beautiful Russian, Scandinavian and South American wome…
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:13 PM
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Taking questions - I'll check back here every few hours.
/r/seduction07/03/13 03:03 PM
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Double this.
/r/seduction27/02/13 09:27 PM
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I hung out with Mystery and TD, and that whole crew back in Toronto around 2002-2003, before the game came out, and was on Mystery's lounge throughout the whole Project Hollywood thing, as everything went down. First of all, Style was in the game WAY before the New York Times piece, which is when he claimed he found out about the community. He was in the "community" from at least 2001, probably before that. When project hollywood started, Neil was already well known as a guy who was pretty damn …
/r/seduction27/02/13 09:24 PM
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I teach bootcamps and students like yourself, who have their act together in life and just need a game booster are the guys who get the most out of our programs. If you still had bad social anxiety I would say fix that first, but it seems like you've gotten a good solid base, which means you'll likely get a lot from the program. Obviously, it's up to you whether you think it's worth the price (hey, it's expensive, I know), but I can say that students like you tend to be really happy, and usually…
/r/seduction21/02/13 04:29 AM
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Two ones that I use a lot: 1) Grabbing her hand and leading her places. 2) If we're in a place where we're being jostled (such as a dance floor or a bar) I put my elbows out in such a way that people don't hit her.
/r/seduction06/02/13 06:22 PM
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“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” ― Epictetus
/r/seduction06/02/13 06:08 PM
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Start light, and get more sexual as you go along. What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done... it doesn't HAVE to be sexual :) What's your favorite position? etc, etc.
/r/seduction30/01/13 05:46 PM
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Former Mystery Method Corp Instructor here. Mystery Method is still pretty good stuff, but over the years I've met a LOT of guys who took the book too seriously and didn't get much out of it. The first thing you should know is that a lot of Mystery stuff is REALLY cliche now. There are (or were) so many guys out there opening sets over their shoulders and saying "Guys, Quick Question, I need a female opinion..." that it's now as tacky as "What's your sign?" That's not to say that the underlying …
/r/seduction30/01/13 05:41 PM
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I thought I would do the old switcheroo with this one :) Perhaps some people here can identify with these lines of thinking. Lets make this list longer - anyone have any suggestions?
/r/seduction18/01/13 05:42 PM
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Google "Montreal Lair". I've done some talks for them and they seem like a good group of guys.
/r/seduction17/01/13 04:59 PM
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We had a guy with a serious stutter on Project Rockstar this year. He totally owned the fact that he had a stutter, introducing it early on, and did totally awesome. So no, it's not a deal killer. Sounds like your dating coach was a bit inexperienced and took the wrong strategy - trying to be a speech therapist rather than a dating coach. I can understand - sometimes guys come with problems that are better addressed than dealt with (such as posture, fashion and hygene problems that some guys com…
/r/seduction15/01/13 08:27 PM
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As a guy who teaches bootcamps, here's the simple truth: it's very worthwhile for some people, and less worthwhile for others. Thankfully, at least with my company (Love Systems), it's a self-selecting bunch - the guys who take the classes tend overwhelmingly to be the guys who are situated to get the most benefit out of it. The people who get the most value out of a bootcamp are the guys who just want to improve as much as possible in a limited amount of time, and move on with their lives. Thes…
/r/seduction09/01/13 08:17 PM
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First of all, often you don't want to START getting sexual over text. Usually I would do it via text only once I've established some sexual rapport in person. That said, some lines that I like: "Stop it, you're turning me on" (when she says something cool). "Are you trying to seduce me" (to something flirty), Oh and a good joke I just saw on twitter... (not field tested, but hilarious) Text One: I have sex daily Text Two: Fuck! I meant to say, I have DYSLEXIA!
/r/seduction08/01/13 11:58 PM
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I love keeping contact with the women I meet travelling. Here's what I do. 1 - Add them on facebook, so they're easy to keep in touch with. 2 - A phone call or quick chat every month or so is really powerful to keep up the connection. Even just 10 minutes can keep a long distance casual relationship on "simmer" for months and months. 3 - A phone call 3 weeks before you arrive, 2 weeks and 1 week before you arrive. Calling the day you get into town is a bit tacky :) Recognize that a lot can happe…
/r/seduction08/01/13 10:02 PM
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Striving for adequacy is not adequate. Having a small group of friends is fine, if that's what you want. Having any old girlfriend that will take you is fine, if that's what you want. But what is not ok is simply striving to get to some place where you are "adequate" and then thinking you can coast from there. Life happens, and if all you've ever strived for is adequate, one little problem sends you deep into inadequacy. If your goal in life is to slide by with as little effort as possible to ma…
/r/seduction08/01/13 09:56 PM
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That's like asking if you can be healthy while eating only garbage. The answer is pretty much no. Even if you got a girlfriend, what kind of girl wants to date a guy who is a shut in? Eventually, your relationship would likely become either toxically codependent, or she'd get sick of you and ditch you, leaving you lonelier than before. Living a good life requires pushing beyond your comfort zones, embracing challenge and adversity. That is the only way. Being lazy and living within your comfort …
/r/seduction08/01/13 05:29 PM
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Something to work out the mind in a creative way. Music, writing, reading good books... etc. Keeps you from being boring.
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:31 AM
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And those skills are good for what? Aside from pwning noobs? Related Fact: Donuts are 1% protein!
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:09 AM
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Gym + school is still not a well-rounded life (though it's better than many people). You still want to add a) cooking good food b) socializing c) non-school learning and reading d) a creative outlet e) cleaning/laundry etc. The thing is, you don't want time fillers! Time is the most precious thing you have! That's like wanting "money spenders" to get rid of all that darn cash you have sitting around. Your life is only so long, and if you want to get the most out of it, you should spend as much t…
/r/seduction05/01/13 12:06 AM
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See, that's the problem with video games. They're so easy, and give you such a reward that they're addicting. Real life can't compare. Ditch the video games and keep up the rock climbing. In time, if you stay away from video games you'll start to find real life more and more motivating. But remember, in the long run, investing your energy into REAL LIFE pursuits is ALWAYS more worthwhile than a video game.
/r/seduction04/01/13 11:41 PM
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Because at the end of the day, a person with a passion for poetry has a poem, and all you have is few kilobytes of data located on some server at blizzard HQ. All that energy you spend, all that emotion and enthusiasm and precious time will in the end amount to literally nothing. Anyway man, I don't mean to be too harsh or put you down. Video games are a fine and dandy thing in moderation, and I like playing them here and there myself. But they are a terrible thing to have a "passion" for, becau…
/r/seduction04/01/13 11:36 PM
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Video games are not a "passion", they are a substitute for passion. Having a passion for video games is like having a passion for drinking or smoking cigarettes. They make you feel good, but in the end you learn nothing, gain no skills, and you are just wasting your time. You are pouring your passion down the drain. Nothing wrong with programming, but sadly it doesn't really impress the ladies.
/r/seduction04/01/13 10:03 PM
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Let her text you as much as she wants, and just text back when you feel like replying. She will get the picture and/or go crazy soon enough, and then you'll either know you were dealing with a kook, or have a girl who texts you the right amount.
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/r/seduction04/01/13 07:36 PM
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I can't say I really agree with this. Puppy dogs playfight, because it builds closeness and helps sharpen skills. Humans do the same thing when they engage in a bit of witty banter. People engage in teasing because it gives you a good idea of how smart and confident the person you're teasing is. When done in a good-natured way, it also helps keep people sharp and builds social bonds. The problem is when insecure people do it, or when people use it to bully one another. There are tonnes of people…
/r/seduction04/01/13 07:26 PM
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I had a similar thing happen. I was in Vegas for superconference, and thought I was texting this stripper whose number I had gotten the night before. Turns out it was actually Cajun, who had lost his phone and bought a disposable phone in vegas. Thankfully, I didn't say anything too dirty.
/r/seduction31/12/12 06:08 PM
2

For real, I spent a summer living in a bicycle shed behind a frathouse in Toronto. I managed to get and keep a cute little girlfriend for that summer. And yes, I took her to the bike shed. Here's the thing that kills attraction - shame. If you're ashamed of your place, then either the shame has to go, or the place does.
/r/seduction12/12/12 11:58 PM
2

Love Systems instructor here, I'm doing a program in DC next weekend. PM me if you have questions.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:09 PM
2

Yeah, the correct attitude to take here is basically take the attitude "You're wrong, but I'm not going to call you out on it out of politeness".
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:06 PM
1

That's why I do Karaoke now and then. Also, I'm a sadist.
/r/seduction09/11/12 06:01 AM
10

Hang out with women and listen to them talk! A lot of women get a lot of attention from guys, but they don't get the RIGHT kind of attention from the right kind of guy.
/r/seduction01/11/12 11:49 AM
4

I think we're all just getting older.
/r/seduction12/10/12 09:01 PM
13

If you went to Spice Route and only saw 2 sets, you're either blind or Spice Route has changed drastically in the few months since I've been there. Yes, people go to places, especially nicer places, with friends, but that doesn't mean that all the women there are taken or otherwise unavailable. You just need to do a little bit of gaming and mingling to see who the available women are. It's not like you can just behave the same way you would at the Brunswick House and get the same results at Spic…
/r/seduction12/10/12 03:56 PM
2

Random stuff is really the only interesting stuff to talk about with someone you don't know. Zombies would be great, as long as you didn't come across otherwise weird.
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:22 AM
3

Haven't been to Quebec City for a long time, but you won't go wrong in Montreal on St Laurent street or Crescent Street.
/r/seduction12/10/12 04:21 AM
4

I emailed Cajun, hopefully he can clear this up.
/r/seduction11/10/12 06:08 PM
18

Save your money: Here's a free link on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sj_nDPSInRI It pisses me off to no end when I and the other Love Systems guys go around doing free interviews for people, and providing GOOD content, and they turn around and start selling it. Or using my interviews to sell crappy competitor's products. It kind of makes you not want to put yourself out there and be open to interviews and helping people out. For the record guys, we only sell our stuff through the Love …
/r/seduction11/10/12 05:53 PM
1

I was in a special French program in elementary school, until I was kicked out. I also took some intensive French classes when I moved to Montreal, and made a point of listening to the radio and talking to people in French when I could. I still suck by Montreal standards. And I'm not originally from Montreal.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:17 AM
2

I found it was pretty easy, actually. I think I had a much easier time because I was a Canadian who spoke French. It allowed me to break a lot of social rules and get away with it, which I think French guys might have a harder time pulling off. Honestly, my impression was that French people don't really like other French people, and they're eager to talk to a guy like me. I'll probably write a blog post on it, because the dynamic was interesting.
/r/seduction04/10/12 01:15 AM
2

I am a guitar player. I am half thinking of bringing my guitar to the superconference and sitting around outside, annoying people.
/r/seduction03/10/12 02:41 AM
3

I am, but I don't count. :) Come introduce yourself if you see me.
/r/seduction03/10/12 01:02 AM
18

Just to play devil's advocate - some of the criticisms of the PUA scene are totally valid. As a guy who's been involved in this stuff for a long time, there are a lot of gurus and stuff who really don't like women, and who are manipulative. Not all of them, and most of the STUDENTS are good guys, but there's plenty in the whole pickup biz to be critical of. The great thing about reddit is that the voting system does a very good job of weeding out sleaze and misogyny. Keep it up.
/r/seduction01/10/12 07:47 PM
2

After the second flake I start to seriously drop the level of investment. So, after the first flake I'll often try to organize something cool again (but not the same as the first proposed date, she missed that boat). If she flakes twice, I might still try to get her out, but it's much more likely to be a super low investment date. So I'll text her and say "hey, want to come to (my neighborhood) and grab a drink?", but that's about it. It also depends on how good her excuses are. If she's working…
/r/seduction01/10/12 06:13 PM
3

I wrote this up a while back because I used to think flaking was a really big deal, and gradually I realized that a bit of flakiness is just par for the course when you're meeting new women. Hopefully this will save you guys some time and energy.
/r/seduction01/10/12 04:46 PM
1

I usually call, but texting is fine. I find most women under the age of 25 think actually calling someone on the phone is kind of weird (and maybe charming). Like you're mailing them a handwritten letter or something. :)
/r/seduction29/09/12 07:59 PM
5

Call the next day, it's just the gentlemanly thing to do. It keeps your karma/reputation clean, and who knows, it might turn into a relationship/friends with benefits kind of thing.
/r/seduction29/09/12 07:01 PM
9

Yes, you TOTALLY need to confirm. It's just normal. Usually I leave the exact time unsettled until the day of. So we had plans for wednesday evening, and I'll text with "Hey, is 7pm good for you?" and she replies back with whatever answer. And there's one more text you should send. The more a girl likes you, the more likely she is to spend 45 minutes doing her hair and show up late for your date. Women are CONSTANTLY late, for many, many reasons, so you should just let go of the idea that they m…
/r/seduction26/09/12 08:28 PM
1

Clarisse Thorn, who's AMA is at the top of the forum as we speak, has a good article on her blog that presents just one example. http://clarissethorn.com/blog/2012/07/29/rapey-pickup-artists-analysis-of-a-field-report/
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:41 AM
7

Also, if you could eliminate one thing from the pick up scene, what would it be?
/r/seduction26/09/12 01:19 AM
3

I actually don't really do any internet marketing. The Love Systems office does that, right down to the email signup on my blog. Originally though, I wrote that tagline because my blog was really ugly. So it said "I'm a dating coach, not an internet marketer. That's why my blog is ugly and full of good advice". Might as well make an ugly blog into a virtue! You're right though that now my blog is getting better, I should probably change my tagline.
/r/seduction26/09/12 01:13 AM
6

Just bought your book. Could you tell me what's in it? ;)
/r/seduction26/09/12 01:07 AM
3

I didn't say they were scammers - they provide what they get paid to do. I do believe that they knowingly use lots of persuasion tactics. And I'm not some uninformed nobody. I coached at some of the first RSD bootcamps back in 2003, in Montreal and Toronto. I hung out with Owen and Mystery regularly when they were starting out. And I am by no means the only one to make this observation. Just google it.
/r/seduction26/09/12 12:33 AM
2

I have stated my biases. I am simply stating things as I see them. People can decide for themselves.
/r/seduction25/09/12 11:49 PM
1

No. I'm his friend though.
/r/seduction25/09/12 11:44 PM
3

Agreed. Meditate, and try to stay out of your head. Just practice being present and observing things all the time. Do not talk to yourself.
/r/seduction25/09/12 10:02 PM
1

I've had mine for 9 months, worn them about 50% of the time, and they're starting to wear. I would guess they'd last a year max, if you wore them full-time.
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:25 PM
3

Yeah, I love my vibrams, but I can't say they make me feel attractive. I wear Vivobarefoot shoes for working out and super-casual situations. They're barefoot shoes, but look more or less like a regular shoe.
/r/seduction25/09/12 07:46 PM
15

Love Systems Instructor Here - I'm biased. First, I'm surprised by the downvotes, this is news and relevant, even if you disagree with it. Second, although I'm obviously not impartial, the fact is, RSD does a lot of putting down their students, and lowering their self-esteem, while pretending to teach them. They also make their stuff confusing. This is a common cult/influence tactic. Tell people how bad they are, how you can help them, but then make it really hard for them to understand the help…
/r/seduction25/09/12 06:53 PM
3

Being random is totally cool. You DO need to have basic bodylanguage down right, but if you do it's great. One opener I use sometimes is: "Are you guys friendly?" "Good, because my mom's going to kick me out of the basement if I don't make any friends tonight". This one actually works awesome, as long as they don't believe you :)
/r/seduction24/09/12 10:21 PM
1

The guy who made the move won. The guy who didn't, lost.
/r/seduction18/09/12 08:49 AM
2

15 minutes late isn't even late. You're in the wrong by taking it too seriously. The more a girl likes you, the more likely she is to show up late because she spent 45 minutes doing her hair. Here's what I do though - I tell girls: "text me when you leave the house". Since the date is usually closer to my place than hers, I don't even get dressed till I get that text message. This down waiting around for girls to nearly zero.
/r/seduction18/09/12 06:21 AM
1

Sounds like you're reading some crappy PUA advice - there's a lot out there.
/r/seduction14/09/12 07:07 AM
1

After my last post, people were looking for more practical solutions. So I wrote up a list of things you can do.
/r/seduction10/09/12 01:35 PM
5

Ahh, frosh week. For those in the USA, Frosh is the Canadian term for freshman. First, recognize that most everybody is in the same boat as you. They're all new to school, and they are all looking for friends. They also have no idea at this point whose cool, hooked up, fun, so might as well be you. So don't be afraid to ask people to invite you out. don't even be afraid to admit that you're looking to make friends: it's perfectly acceptable in the first month of school, it only gets a little bit…
/r/seduction05/09/12 08:41 PM
1

Thanks a ton man.
/r/seduction05/09/12 01:23 PM
1

Don't judge man. :) No seriously, you're right. I have been meaning to clean that up for a while.
/r/seduction05/09/12 03:19 AM
5

Quick! Everyone downvote this. He's onto me. :)
/r/seduction04/09/12 09:09 PM
2

Absolutely, all I would ask is that you link back to my post. If you could use the words "inner game" and "self confidence" in the anchor text that would be even better.
/r/seduction04/09/12 09:08 PM
11

I don't deny that competence is a big part of things, but in the end, confidence is still not judging. There are a lot of people who are very competent, but judge themselves harshly and still lack confidence. And there are a lot of people who are moderately competent (or incompetent) who are very confident, because they have the right mindset - for example me, with my guitar playing. Obviously it's easier to not judge or worry if you're good at something, but being competent is neither necessary…
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:20 PM
2

It's funny, I actually had a similar problem when I was a kid, and fighting. Every time I would almost get into a fight, I would just freeze up and my arms would go limp. I could never even throw a punch until I took kickboxing lessons at 19. Anyway, on my blog, if you sign up for the email list, you will get access to some meditation MP3's you might find useful. One of them, called "sticking point meditation" is about visualizing anxiety-producing situations and becoming more at ease with them.…
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:10 PM
36

I mention in the article that "non-judgemental evaluation" is acceptable, especially when you're out of "the moment". But judging - ascribing "good" or "bad" to yourself, or using words like "slob", which contain a strong value judgement, are almost always counterproductive. The "slob" in your scenario should evaluate himself and say "I'm overweight, I need new clothes, and a haircut". That's an evaluation, not a judgement. If you call yourself a "slob", you're implicitly implying that "slobbine…
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:33 PM
2

Glad you liked it.
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:13 PM
2

Doing proper comfort is really crucial to preventing flaking. If she feels like she knows you, you'll be way more likely to get a meet up.
/r/seduction28/08/12 08:05 PM
9

Not necessary, but thanks. I just thought it was funny to see my own advice here.
/r/seduction28/08/12 04:27 PM
14

Yes.
/r/seduction28/08/12 03:50 PM
35

Genius :)
/r/seduction28/08/12 01:02 PM
3

As a guy who has been in this thing from pretty much the beginning (2002, I was there the second time Mystery and TD went out together), I totally agree.
/r/seduction18/08/12 11:06 PM
7

First of all, Hank Moody is basically a rip-off of Charles Bukowski's alter-ego character "Henry Chinaski". I totally recommend you read some Charles Bukowski, as it is considered great american fiction, is very entertaining, and is rather insightful in a really twisted, dark way. Hank Moody, and Bukowski, are compelling because they're rude yet honest and live by their own values in a way that brings them into conflict with polite society and "regular" people. Hank Moody is partly a degenerate,…
/r/seduction16/08/12 03:53 PM
1

This kind of stuff usually only happens in the minds of guys who don't actually go and approach.
/r/seduction14/08/12 12:50 AM
2

Agreed. A lot of guys don't realize how tacky PUA-talk sounds to your average person in the community. The fact is, calling women "HB7's" and stuff like that sounds both stupid and rude. And then when you sound stupid and rude, people don't listen to what you're actually saying. The moral of the story is, use english when talking about dating, and you probably won't get treated like an asshole.
/r/seduction10/08/12 10:19 PM
8

All the time man. That's what we do.
/r/seduction09/08/12 09:12 PM
21

Cajun called the girls "retards". Also, here's a photo of Cajun - I mean beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but come on. :) https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=4271277586698&set=a.4271277266690.2183850.1428876812&type=1&theater
/r/seduction09/08/12 04:06 PM
1

Awesome man.
/r/seduction09/08/12 01:41 PM
1

There are a bunch of techniques - first, just realizing that judging yourself is the problem can be helpful. Meditation and "mindfulness" practice is really helpful as well - these are associated with buddhism, but you don't have to be buddhist to practice it. Jon Kabat Zinn is a good meditation teacher that has books and cd's that are non-religious and non woo-woo.
/r/seduction08/08/12 01:56 PM
-1

Confidence is not judging yourself and thinking your great. It's not judging yourself at all.
/r/seduction07/08/12 04:19 PM
5

What you're describing is not a pickup technique, it's the absence of pickup technique. But yes, they probably did it on purpose.
/r/seduction06/08/12 07:13 PM
40

A good rule of thumb I follow is "Anything I wouldn't do in a gay bar is an indicator of interest". So picture you're in a gay bar - sometimes you might meet eyes with someone, but you'd look away pretty fast. Anything longer than that is interest.
/r/seduction03/08/12 09:28 PM
2

That's awesome man! Glad my advice helped you!
/r/seduction02/08/12 06:46 PM
10

Fucking yeah man, that's why I love being involved in this stuff. Getting a handle on your romantic and personal relationships is one of the best things you can do for your long term happiness. Keep it up!
/r/seduction02/08/12 02:23 PM
5

Totally true about German girls being serious. Like, if you ask them where's a good club in town, they will give you the addresses and directions to the top five places in Munich. It's really kind of funny and you need to cut their thread to make the conversation flirty again.
/r/seduction02/08/12 01:59 PM
2

We go to Munich a few times a year. Probably next time will be in the winter. It'll be posted on Lovesystems.com
/r/seduction01/08/12 04:07 PM
2

You can only help people if they want to help themselves The sad fact is, a lot of people would rather wallow in self-pity than actually help themselves. There is very little you can do for that person until they chose to turn themselves around.
/r/seduction01/08/12 02:52 PM
4

Love Systems Instructor here. I've taught in Munich twice this year, and I can assure you it's 90% the same. You get a little bit more coldness off the opener, but once you're through that, it's actually easier. Here's the thing - while Germans might be more reserved, they're also less used to meeting charming outgoing people. So when you approach strongly, with good bodylanguage and some confidence, and especially if you can make a girl laugh in the first minute or two, you really, really stand…
/r/seduction01/08/12 02:47 PM
3

I usually use "sweet nothings" to say really dirty things that I couldn't say in public. So, for example: "If your friends weren't here, I would take you on this table" "Stop it, you're making me hard" "I am going to spank you for that" "You know how to turn me on, don't you?" etc.
/r/seduction14/07/12 04:01 PM
5

I actually talk about this at the end of my podcast But, essentially, you do things pretty much the same, perhaps toning it down a bit, but you shouldn't expect the same reaction. A shy girl will often give you very little kino and few IOI's. Just keep moving forward and get her alone with you, and usually she will open up once she's in your apartment.
/r/seduction05/07/12 10:50 PM
4

The problem with this is it's framed like a question. Instead, you should say "Hey, come up and see my apartment. It's awesome!" And start walking.
/r/seduction19/06/12 07:51 PM
1

I never do that on purpose, but I will definitely "flake" on a girl if there is a good reason. A good example is when the weather is really nasty, usually I'll call up earlier and the day and re-schedule.
/r/seduction19/06/12 07:27 PM
2

Fyi guys, I'll answer questions on this topic if posted in the comments.
/r/seduction19/06/12 03:46 PM
-5

Sounds like this girl is a bit messed up.
/r/seduction14/06/12 03:40 PM
2

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/f9ozx/iama_real_life_hitch_i_help_men_meet_women_teach/
/r/seduction12/06/12 09:36 PM
1

You guys are doing some good bugging. Keep it up :)
/r/seduction12/06/12 07:40 PM
5

This is correct.
/r/seduction12/06/12 04:56 AM
2

At Lovesystems, we have instructors that range from 5'5, to 6'4, and probably about 150lbs to 250. The big guys DO need to have less aggressive bodylanguage, but it's not a big difference. My guess is you are calibrating this wrong. As a big guy, you can grab people's (and women's) attention more easily, and you can get away with a more laid back body language. "Locking in" would help.
/r/seduction12/06/12 02:06 AM
26

I noticed that this wasn't already on Reddit, but I think it belongs here. Bug me in the comments and I'll try and make him do an AMA.
/r/seduction12/06/12 01:31 AM
3

Just text her again, it's not a big deal. Don't invite her out though - instead ask her a question and start a 2-3 text message conversation before asking her out. You may want to address the fact that people think you had sex. It's probably on her mind (if she knows about it), and would almost certainly get a response. Treat it like it's a joke. Something like "Apparently everyone at the party thinks we had sex the other night. Are you trying to ruin my good reputation :) " Also - meet her alon…
/r/seduction29/05/12 11:49 AM
4

I don't disagree that they might be useful for a guy trying to learn this stuff, but women absolutely HATE field reports. They (understandibly, I think) hate the idea that a guy might sleep with them and post about it on an online message board, even if it's totally anonymous. Seriously, have some girl find your field reports, and tell me how that works out :) That's why I, and most other guys who are in the public eye, are very circumspect about how we talk about the women we meet/date. Anythin…
/r/seduction17/05/12 04:39 PM
2

I hate to toot my (best friend's) horn, but Cajun on Keys to the Vip has got to be one of the best videos out there. (Link goes to my blog, fyi)
/r/seduction17/05/12 01:24 PM
3

This is very true. As a guy you can/should set the tone in a lot of interactions, if you don't, things get weird. Women (and people in general) often look to you for a cue on how to feel/act about things. So, if you're trying to reflect HER emotions - basically being too sympathetic - and she's reflecting YOUR emotions, there's a feedback effect and it forms some sort of McGyver laser of relationship shittiness and things spiral out of control. This is what happens when you get into those annoyi…
/r/seduction17/05/12 01:11 PM
9

First of all, as someone who has been in this scene since before the beginning, the "Seduction Community" has always gotten very mixed press. I think there are a bunch of reasons. 1 - Some (loud) people in the seduction community are huge jerks. 2 - Male sexuality is viewed as threatening. 3 - Some people in the community advocate creepy things and bad attitudes. Some examples are rating women by numbers, encouraging "field reports" (which violate taboos about bragging and discretion), being sec…
/r/seduction17/05/12 12:51 PM
1

Honestly, I've never been on an RSD bootcamp, so I can't say much about how their classes differ from ours. Probably it varies a lot instructor by instructor (as it does with Lovesystems). What I can say is this - One, Love Systems gets the best reviews in the business, both from our students, and from the media who follow our programs. There's no other company out there who put themselves out there the way Love Systems does. Check out reviews on theattractionforums.com, or any other site. Check…
/r/seduction28/04/12 08:19 PM
3

Cajun actually already did an AMA - but it's in the r/iama subreddit.
/r/seduction27/04/12 07:28 AM
2

It's actually a running joke between Cajun and I that I look like an idiot in almost every photo that has ever been taken of me.
/r/seduction25/04/12 08:42 PM
2

Treat it like it's no big deal, because it isn't. I would just reply "No prob. Have fun" and then call/text the next day. Usually you should invite girls out a few days in advance. Inviting her for an "impromptu date" sometimes looks a little bit like maybe you had no plans and were feeling bored....
/r/seduction25/04/12 08:33 PM
5

South Beach is amazing. Don't be intimidated, most of the gorgeous, well dressed women you meet are really just waitresses from Illinois on vacation (or at least that's a good attitude to have). Go to the Shore Club, the Delano, Nikki Beach, the Gansevoort or the W. Don't tip, they have already charged you 18%. Go to Wet Willie's on Ocean Drive and get a large sized call-a-cab slushie, if you dare.
/r/seduction25/04/12 08:24 PM
1

I met Mystery at a bar called "Montana" in the club district. I actually ran into Twentysix (aka Extramask in the game) in the washroom, and recognized him from a photo he had put up. He was kind of creeped out, but he was out with Mystery and Tyler Durden, and we gamed a bit together. 2) I don't talk about bootcamp venues, because if I do they fill up with guys who are just coming out to watch the programs and it detracts from my student's experiences. Suffice to say we go out to some popular T…
/r/seduction25/04/12 08:17 PM
3

Montreal is a great city. People are chilled out here and know how to have a good time, and the women are lovely.
/r/seduction25/04/12 07:29 PM
2

Acting normal, like everything is cool, should always be your default option. So yeah, just talk to her like a normal person.
/r/seduction25/04/12 04:24 PM
2

Haha... even stuff like that isn't a big deal. The stuff that will really kill your reputation are: a) Being selfish b) Being disloyal c) Being indiscreet d) Making women feel bad about themselves (slutty, ugly, used or disrespected) e) Being needy Any of these things will hurt your reputation badly. On the other hand, if you get a reputation for being strong, loyal, courageous and popular with the ladies, you can screw up in a lot of other ways, and people will still respect and like you.
/r/seduction25/04/12 04:04 PM
2

The Game and How to Win Friends and Influence people are definitely recommended. Way of the Superior Man is also good.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:58 PM
2

Honestly, I prefer doing spontaneous openers, or picking a new opener every night. I teach this stuff so much I get sick of using canned stuff (even though it works great for my students).
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:57 PM
3

My favorite cities to teach in are: Las Vegas, Miami, Montreal and Tokyo.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:55 PM
2

I highly recommend Jon Kabat Zinn. Specifically I like his audiotapes, but I read one of his books and it's quite good.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:34 PM
2

We try to do a mix of self-improvement and inner game type stuff, and practical outer-game type stuff. I think most guys really need both to see maximum benefit. Competence breeds confidence, which breeds competence again. If you have one without the other, it doesn't really work.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:33 PM
2

Thanks man! And yeah, this thread is going a bit long! 170 replies so far!!
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:31 PM
2

Girl game is a totally different ballpark. It's quite tough because most women don't want to approach guys - they want to be approached. I would teach her how to give good approach invitations.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:31 PM
2

Well, I'd have to rate Love Systems at the top. Not just because I work for Love Systems, but because we have more experience than anyone else in doing and teaching this stuff, so we've developed a great philosophy over time - one that works and is non-weird. As for David DeAngelo, he's a great marketer. He has probably done more than anyone else to bring "game" to the masses (probably as much as Neil Strauss). But most of his best stuff is the interviews he does with other people. Of the stuff …
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:28 PM
1

The cajun one gives some good advice. You want to play a long-term, social circle game where you build up some good social proof and then use it. Make a lot of friends, be the life of the party, and when you're making moves, be discrete about it. College game is really not hard, but you do need to keep an eye on your reputation.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:22 PM
3

I hate super loud clubs. But the way you do things is by just being super direct with the bodylanguage, and as wonton says, spinning. Re reading your post, you say you were at a super-loud concert, not a club. Super loud concerts are pretty lousy places to pick up. I would pick a better venue, or at least game at the back where perhaps you can be heard.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:19 PM
3

1) Women like sex and men who have a strong, unapologetic sexuality. 2) Women either like me, or the WOULD like me if they got to know me. 3) I am interesting, smart, and sexy. 4) It's always on. At least until it's totally obvious it's not (like I get a "no")
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:05 PM
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First of all, if you're meeting women through your social circles, you don't need to use most of the lines and routines that people talk about a lot on these forums. A lot of that stuff is club/bar specific, and not really applicable to schools and stuff. However, the attitudes and beliefs of a strong "alpha" guy are really helpful to men at all stages of their life. It's really great to try and cultivate these attitudes when you're young, because they carry with you the rest of your life and wi…
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:03 PM
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Fuck man, depression is a bitch. First off, I would suggest that if you're really feeling depressed, get in touch with a medical professional. Depression is a real disease, and it can get out of hand on you sometimes. I would also suggest not taking game too seriously until you have your depression handled. Work on cultivating good friendships, and building a solid foundation before you go out macking chicks at clubs. There are guys in this scene who ignore their "real" life and go out sarging a…
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:56 PM
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www.lovesystems.com man!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:49 PM
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I never really hung out with Neil Strauss, but Mystery was always really, really good. As for your seduction stuff, some chicks don't want to have sex with you. If you think that's a problem than you have a problem. I usually go the phone number -> date route because the women I'm interested in (gorgeous + cool) aren't usually the SNL type. And what to look for? You communicate that YOU are looking for a SNL, and if she looks like she likes that idea, then you're good to go.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:49 PM
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Scream! Puke!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:44 PM
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Being fit helps a ton. You don't need to be a bodybuilder, but if you're not engaging in some sort of physical activity on a regular basis, you're hurting your health, and you're hurting your attractiveness. So play a sport, or do a workout program like Rippetoe's Starting Strength (google it). Even if you only gain a few pounds of muscle, working out changes your posture, your testosterone levels, and the way clothes fit you. That, combined with it's health benefits, means you're a complete foo…
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:43 PM
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Sounds like you're boring. "Not much" is pretty much the most boring answer you can give to any question. How about "I'm just heading home from work. Would I get in trouble if I poked my bosses' eyeballs out?" Now, I'm not saying that's the best text to send, but see how it provokes a response?
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:39 PM
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Lol, no. I think that's Chris Shepherd, the DJ. this is me.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:34 PM
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Ok, there are a lot of questions here. I'll try to answer them in order. You're never too YOUNG to quit the PUA scene. Being in PUA is like being in high school - people need it, but if you're still there after 4 years you better be teaching. On the other hand, you ALWAYS need to be working on self improvement, you always need to be aware of how your relationships are going, and you always have to stay confident and strong and go after what you want, and not get weak and complacent. I can't tell…
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:30 PM
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The hard thing with exceptionally beautiful women is pursuing them confidently, without coming across needy. THEY usually play hard to get instinctually, because they're just used to men hitting on them all the time. They (and this is related to the earlier point) usually don't give a lot of flirty signals, because when they do, guys get weird*. So what do you do? You need to come in with the attitude that you're good enough for her - that she OUGHT to like you. You need to be non needy (outcome…
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:04 PM
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No, I don't think Toronto is particularly tough. It's tough compared to smaller cities in Canada, but it's easy compared to New York or LA. All in all, I think Toronto is a fair bit easier than similar-sized cities worldwide. I think Toronto has a lot of good PUA's for a bunch of reasons. First, the nightlife is very good and democratic. There aren't many places that are hard to get into in the city, and even the top places have open door policies. You'd be amazed how rare that is, worldwide. Se…
/r/seduction25/04/12 04:44 AM
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I am passably billingual, but every time I pick up French girls, it happens mostly in English. I now deliberately try to pick up French girls to practice my French. And I like the St-Sulpice.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:49 AM
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I might try that. I've done the beer + clamato thing a few times and it's pretty good.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:24 AM
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"Who lies more" still kicks ass in Mexico City. Girls freak out over it and call their cousins and invite all their friends over to answer the question. It's really weird.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:22 AM
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It's an old French man drink. Very civilized.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:10 AM
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I would totally go for the Underwater City. I'm actually a part-time Cthulhu cultist.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:07 AM
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Good question. It totally depends on how I'm feeling. My favorite mixed drinks are, Vodka Soda, Pastis, Wiser's Deluxe and Scotch (neat). My favorite beers are Pacifico, Steam Whistle, and Olde English 800.
/r/seduction25/04/12 03:06 AM
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There is a ton of merit to that. How much time should you read about working out vs actually lifting weights? Or reading about music vs playing your instrument. If anything, 2:1 is too much reading. You should be going out for 5 hours for every hour of reading.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:59 AM
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PM'd you with top secret amazing pickup locations. (Seriously though, my favorite place to pick up is probably the most popular bar in the city).
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:53 AM
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I usually presume she likes me if she says that.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:52 AM
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Good question - Beyond Words is pretty much the hardest core of the hard core body language stuff. If you want more than that, you should probably take acting classes or a bootcamp.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:49 AM
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You should all check /r/malefashionadvice/ and /r/wicked_edge/
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:47 AM
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I think I look more like Robert Downey Jr, but we both get it a lot, despite looking completely different.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:45 AM
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Yeah, if you want to do stuff like that you need to screen. Be sexual right off the bat, find out who she's there with and the logistics, and if she's not sexy, single and without a chaperone, you move on.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:36 AM
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Hey man, Sorry if I came off that way. I appreciate the honest feedback. Sometimes I do get prickly, especially when I'm in a hurry to get some information out before class ends. Anyways, I'm sorry If I was condescending and I want you to know that students are ALWAYS welcome to ask questions in class even if I am way behind on the curriculum!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:32 AM
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Probably not man! We do Boston, maybe Halifax sometime. But do they even have girls in Maine?
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:30 AM
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Go to different places, and try to shake it up a bit. But yeah, it's fine.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:29 AM
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I got a boner when you said gravy and motor oil. I'm totally going for #2. It's obviously the most heterosexual choice. (hey look it's Cajun everybody!)
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:26 AM
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Oh man, I can't give away my favorite Toronto places, they're too good!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:24 AM
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Totally check out Magic Bullets. The best thing to do though is practice a bit. Just get used to talking to women on busses and in public, even if you're not hitting on them. It'll really help you on the program. Good luck!
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:23 AM
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Some women don't want to sleep with you the same night. Suck it up.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:22 AM
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It depends more on the context and the environment. The best way to approach really hot girls is using spontaneous stuff and doing so after they've already noticed that you're a really cool guy with a lot of friends around. Going in totally cold always sucks compared to that alternative.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:20 AM
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Hey man! Glad you enjoyed the program. As for relationship advice - I don't know if I can fit it into a reddit sized chunk. The best piece of advice is - define boundaries. You need to set strong boundaries for two reasons, first, to determine where YOUR private space is in the relationship, so you don't become hen picked, and bitter, but more importantly because a boundary also defines what SHE is entitled to in the relationship. And then you need to be consistant with the boundaries. If a woma…
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:18 AM
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Strong eye contact, good bodylanguage, and look to see if she makes strong eye contact back. Then you just go for it. However, super loud clubs often suck ass.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:02 AM
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Show that you like her, but don't escalate physically until you get her one on one. Also, be patient. Also, if a chick is really religious, and not just fake religious, she might just not sleep with you and you have to accept that.
/r/seduction25/04/12 02:01 AM
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Inner game is super important - in the end improving your inner game is the best thing you can do for your success with women, and your life. But it's also the hardest thing to change. There's also a lot of gobblydeegook new age shit around inner game. I don't know about the Tyler Durden stuff you're talking about, but it sounds gobbledygookish. Psycho Cybernetics is a good inner game book. As for the number of women I've slept with, sorry man, but you're right. I'm a public guy who puts his rea…
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:59 AM
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Usually hitting venues I like and being the man.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:47 AM
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The things I love about this job are a) I help people. It's amazing to see the gratitude I get from my students. b) I can pick my schedule - I live in Montreal, but decided to go to Australia for February, how awesome is that. c) I get to work with my best friends - out of my 10 favorite people in the world, at least 5 are Love Systems instructors. d) I get enough time to devote to other interests - I just finished a graduate degree and I'm writing a book. Try doing that working at Target!
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:45 AM
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You need to talk and say something man. Once she sees you as an interesting guy (aka, you have basic attraction) then she might be interested in answering her questions, but the first step is always grab her attention and make a strong first impression, and you need to do that by talking, either about yourself, or better off about things that are interesting.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:42 AM
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It isn't natural. But it's ballsy as shit. I prefer to do day game as I'm going about my business, and I see a woman I find extraordinarily attractive, rather than hanging out in a park and opening every girl that walks by. That's not natural and I don't recommend it.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:40 AM
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It's called EDITING! You want to minimize the plot details (how you got there, what you did beforehand) and expand the details that have emotional resonance (how you felt, the look on dave's face when he saw the tiger). A good book for storytelling is "On Writing" by Sol Stein.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:38 AM
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Sounds like things are going well man. Have confidence! The best second date is whatever you're comfortable with. Since she knows you better and is more comfortable with you, you have a bit more leeway than with a first date. Try to make it in your neighbourhood, and that you have some kind of plan to get her back to your place if things go well. Meeting for a drink or two is always good. Other than that, just make sure the date kicks ass and you should be fine.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:37 AM
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Common advice for guys that doesn't work: Just be yourself and you'll meet the right girl eventually. Imagine if we said that to people about jobs! Just be yourself and eventually you'll become CEO of General Motors!!! The problem is it's not even totally wrong; you do need to be genuine. But so many people take that to mean that they should sit on their asses and wait for what they want to come to them. Conventional PUA wisdom that is wrong? I don't even know where to begin. I think the biggest…
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:34 AM
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Honestly, I don't really remember any blow outs. It's not that there weren't any, but they never mattered. It's not like I got punched out or hit with a beer bottle or anything. For the record though, I can tell you that in 10 years of doing this stuff, I have NEVER had a blow out that mattered to me or affected my "real" life negatively beyond that evening.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:25 AM
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I saw Conan live once, and you know what he does? He has a comedian go up before him to warm up the audience, so when he comes out he kills. If you want to pull off more risque humor, you need to learn how to gauge how warm the group is. That means not being inside your head, but observing the people you're talking to. You start with something small, then you build up. I will say absolutely outrageous things some times, but I'm always aware of how warm the crowd is.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:20 AM
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Good for you. I teach a few routines in my classes, for guys who are starting out (hey, they work), but I always encourage guys to make their own stuff. What kind of routines are you talking about though? Openers?
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:17 AM
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I have only bad stories that come from not following that advice.
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:16 AM
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If you are passionate about what you're talking about, you will always be interesting. Look at David Attenborough. That guy can describe a snail for three hours and I would watch the whole thing. He just SOUNDS interesting, and it's mostly because he is passionate about what he talks about. When people say 93% of what you say is non-verbal, what they mean is that 93% of the IMPRESSION you leave is caused by your non-verbals. It means that talking about paper bags with passion is better than talk…
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:16 AM
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Well, in my classes the guys who get good quickly are the guys who put their ego aside and just do what the instructors say. The buddhists call it "beginner's mind" - someone who comes to a situation with their mind open, ready to learn. If you're self-studying, the first thing you need to do is make sure the people you're getting advice from actually know what they're talking about. Pay attention to who you get advice from - do they seem like the kind of person you want to be like? If no, you p…
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:12 AM
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Also, I should add that I'm a huge Redditor! I spend wayyyyy too much time on this site!
/r/seduction25/04/12 01:07 AM
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Yo! Thanks for having me guys. Looking forward to it.
/r/seduction25/04/12 12:06 AM
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Thanks man. We don't really do a lot of advertising or promotion compared to the other guys, we just teach good seminars and let our reputation speak for itself.
/r/seduction12/04/12 08:55 PM
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Haha... Judging from the single post you have, and your reddit name, I think I know who this is :) You're coming to Montreal this summer, right? Should be awesome!
/r/seduction12/04/12 08:52 PM
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Don't worry about it. Just own it. And be thankful you're not going bald!
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:35 PM
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I look forward to answering your questions!
/r/seduction12/04/12 06:34 PM
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Just relax and act normal/cool from now on. You can't "undo" a mistake like that by doing the opposite (and being cold), if that's what you're thinking.
/r/seduction06/04/12 09:08 PM
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Usually if a woman puts her arm on me early in the conversation, I will consider it a flirty or friendly gesture. The "rules" (they're not really rules but anyways) of interacting with women and the "rules" of interacting with men are really completely different.
/r/seduction06/04/12 09:06 PM
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The best response is the minimal response that gets him to screw off. Sounds like you did a pretty good job. Being non-reactive doesn't mean not reacting at all. It means underreating, rather than overreacting.
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:34 PM
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I helped write Magic Bullets and I'm a senior instructor for Love Systems, so I think I'm qualified to answer your question. Anyway, here's the deal. Touch is one of the ways that human beings establish social dominance, but also social connection. So when two people touch (like a handshake) it's friendly (and equal), but when one person touches another, and the other doesn't touch back, it establishes a dominance vibe. Here's a photo that illustrates what I'm talking about. See how Putin looks …
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:21 PM
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Man, we use EVERYTHING at Love Systems. I probably spend about 1% of my time talking about routines (they're useful for guys who won't open, that's about it) and much more about being in state, escalating and stuff. We don't have an attitude that there's "one way" to be attractive, so we teach everything, and we have dabbled in everything that works. The result is our bootcamp, which (by the way) gets better reviews than any other bootcamp around by a wide margin. The idea that Love Systems is a…
/r/seduction06/04/12 02:05 PM
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I stopped teaching Mystery stuff over five years ago. Sometimes rival companies suggest that we're still wearing furry boas, but it's completely false. For the record, I have never worn a furry boa. The stuff we teach now is completely different than the old MM stuff, and way, way more advanced. Our book, Magic Bullets captures the style, but even that is a few years old, while I update my seminar every 3-4 months.
/r/seduction05/04/12 08:03 PM
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Thanks man. One of the the things I've always been working on is making the stuff I teach more natural and easier for the students to actually implement without being weird. I've been working on it for 6 years (since I was with the Mystery Method) and we've come a long way from that system.
/r/seduction05/04/12 01:34 PM
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Yo Dawg, I heard you liked The Game, so I made a game of The Game so you can practice game while you're gaming.
/r/seduction29/01/12 12:14 AM
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http://www.theattractionforums.com I admit, I'm a bit biased though :)
/r/seduction02/04/11 04:03 PM
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Depends: First date, you want to pay, just don't go to anything you can't afford. And don't go to movies. A cheap, fun restaurant is usually the way to go, or even just a bar. After the first date, if you want to go duch, just say, "I'll get half of this" or something like that. Usually though, I will pay for 60-70% of the bills when they come. So we split dinner, but I pay for drinks, or vice versa. Paying just that little extra amount often makes thinks a lot easier.
/r/seduction27/03/11 05:13 PM
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Just to add to Savoy's response - Every review I've gotten has been from a student I remember from a bootcamp. The fact is, only a small number of our students have posted on the forums much. I've heard it said that with most forums, the number of accounts is 10% of the number of people reading (lurking) a forum, and the number of active posters is 10% of the number of accounts. This seems about the ratio at the Attraction Forums. So, there are a whole ton of guys out there who follow Lovesystem…
/r/seduction16/02/11 09:16 PM
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Hey, Lovesystems instructor here. Ok, first off, I would talk to her for a bit before you meet up. You don't want your very first interaction to be a 2.5h car trip. Call her on the phone and talk for 10-20 minutes. I would give her a hug when you see her, before the car trip. Don't try to make a move on her during the car ride, that will be really awkward. I would wait till a high moment, probably in the evening after you're done, or perhaps on the hill somewhere if you find a place that's parti…
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