Looking for something casual? Here's why you shouldn't say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now."

CANTgetAbuttPREGNANT · 2016-04-25T15:41:38+00:00

Much more effective just to say "I really like the way things are between us, and I think it's great keeping it casual". This has worked great for me and I have 3 fwb.

aldenso · 2016-04-25T14:51:34+00:00

TL:DR: "I’m not looking for anything serious right now. Don’t get me wrong, I think you’re awesome and I like hanging out with you, I just really enjoy my freedom."

WillKane · 2016-04-25T15:38:47+00:00

What about when you are first messaging with someone online and they ask what you are looking for?

rondeline · 2016-04-25T22:54:49+00:00

You're missing a big component...it's critical to know -when- to say this.

You don't say it after you hooked up!

Awston · 2016-04-25T14:18:02+00:00

This is excellent advice.

a_nus · 2016-04-25T17:33:45+00:00

It took some trial and error for me (a couple of mad girls and broken hearts) but I've been using this one lately, and it hasn't failed me: "I want to be straight forward with you. I'm not looking for anything serious right now, but I do enjoy your company and am down to keep hanging."

I've gotten nothing but positive responses telling me how they appreciate my honesty and how they'd love to keep hanging out casually.

meh613 · 2016-04-25T23:30:25+00:00

This is lame, just be blunt about what you want -- leave no room for misunderstanding and be sure to stick to it. Likewise, if things change, be blunt about that too.

BearBong · 2016-04-25T21:58:27+00:00

These websites.. So much nope to be had. Even more hilarious when op's replies have negative votes.

I think too many guys in this sub get caught up in the cycle of reading these crap blogs vs going out and being an authentic, attractive human.

just-jake · 2016-04-25T23:51:15+00:00

I am all for tact but it's all kinda BS.

By relationship the girl obviously means serious/exclusive.

Title	Looking for something casual? Here's why you shouldn't say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now."
Author	Tenmagnet
Upvotes	131
Comments	25
Date	April 25, 2016 11:55 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4gcyos/looking_for_something_casual_heres_why_you/
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