This Craigslist Missed Connection really captures the feeling of not being able to approach.

Guacomaco · 2013-08-08T14:19:29+00:00

Definitely not the tone I expected this little story to have. Badass though, even outside the scope of seduction and game. Poetic shit right there.

CrankRED · 2013-08-08T15:23:42+00:00

More than capturing the feeling of not being able to approach, i think it captures the feeling of regret that comes from a lifetime of not being able to approach.

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-08T17:51:59+00:00

Holy fuck that is good writing.

FountainsOfFluids · 2013-08-08T18:17:09+00:00

I'm fairly sure it's a metaphor for the man's life and relationship with his wife, who he regrets not making a deeper connection with. The key line is

But no, you were gone. And I realized most likely I would never see you again. And I thought about how amazing it is that you can know somebody for sixty years and yet still not really know that person at all.

It's only approach anxiety on the surface. This is about the fear of true intimacy.

Heizenbrg · 2013-08-08T15:03:57+00:00

Man what a beautiful piece, reminds me of Paperman, the Dysney short movie, at least that ends well. Just made me realized about the dozens of missing opportunities we have with people, and the excuses we give for not striking up a conversation with them ( " I'm too tired", " Don't feel like talking", "She's probably busy"). Then again, striking up a conversation with someone on a subway, let alone flirting, is pretty scary. Utter silence, it's just the two of you talking, everyone is in on the conversation trying to figure out how it will end.

TheToeSnail · 2013-08-08T20:41:07+00:00

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ImJustAMan · 2013-08-08T14:35:22+00:00

Nothing worse than that senseless paralyzed feeling.

Gelnn · 2013-08-08T18:39:54+00:00

I wanted him to go to like 90 and she dies and decomposes on the train & still he says nothing.

Gamion · 2013-08-08T17:11:18+00:00

I’ll talk to her before daybreak; I’ll talk to her before Tuesday. The longer I waited, the harder it got. What could I possibly say to you now, now that we’ve passed this same station for the hundredth time?

She stuck around just the same as you.

kerouacs · 2013-08-08T16:11:51+00:00

Damn I though this was going to be something different... well that was a great way to start my day

RandomassDude · 2013-08-08T17:40:54+00:00

I wasn't expecting that post to be beautiful

2013-08-08T19:13:11+00:00

"Hi, I'm so and so. What's your name? Oh man that's an ugly/pretty name. I'm headed to somewhere. How about you? Well here's my stop, can I get your number, I'll text you sometime."

A lot easier than riding the train to the end of the line.

txroller · 2013-08-08T16:28:48+00:00

I've read those missed connection posts. I've always thought they were really lame. If you can't go up to someone and talk to them in public why would they want to start an email relationship with you???

colucci · 2013-08-08T15:47:38+00:00

A good motivation to approach is that if you don't within a reasonable time, you'd seem awkward or creepy, or both.

With all due respect, approaching is probably the easiest part of the whole 'game', if you want to call it that.

polished · 2013-08-09T00:46:18+00:00

So this is a reddit post, linking to blogspam, that's a copy/paste job of a craigslist ad?

BlamesDean · 2013-08-08T21:59:07+00:00

Wow. This kinda happened to me a week ago on a bus. Kicked myself over a lot the rest of the night.

The story is motivating though. Yet I can't help the feeling that most openers that come to mind are irrelevant.

Brojays · 2013-08-09T01:30:45+00:00

Vanity_Shmamity · 2013-08-09T02:45:17+00:00

That was heart wrenching.

2013-08-09T05:37:37+00:00

what a chode ay!

TheTrevLife · 2013-08-10T23:22:40+00:00

I don't think I've ever been emotionally paralyzed like that before. That was a really weird feeling, reading that. It was both sad, fear, and disappointment.

Title	This Craigslist Missed Connection really captures the feeling of not being able to approach.
Author	Tenmagnet
Upvotes	354
Comments	59
Date	August 8, 2013 1:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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