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Respectfully, stop whining about how hard it is. Stop worrying about his effect on your sets. Worry about your effect on your sets. If you're getting AMOGed accidentally because you're boring or someone is more interesting, that means you suck in set and need to improve.
/r/seduction27/07/26 02:46 PM
-1

Stop framing it is as you vs. your friend. If anything, it's you and your friend; the girls are just along for the ride. This is a learning opportunity. It sounds a lot like you are communicating neediness in your sets. Fix your body language and subcommunication, and continue learning. Try emulating his behavior while in-set.
/r/seduction27/07/26 02:07 PM
4

$50 says your body language is not fine. Here's an article on what you can improve in set: https://www.scribd.com/document/63375869/25-Points-Tyler-Durden
/r/seduction27/07/26 11:44 AM
1

What's the problem? You're bad at opening, he's good at opening. Just chat up the girls in his wake, and be a wingman. Learn from watching him, and notice what he's doing well. I guarantee the difference between you two is not that he's three inches taller. I can't believe you're blaming your friend for opening sets and dragging you along.
/r/seduction27/07/26 11:41 AM
1

Lol he does?
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:34 PM
5

Is that a joke? Tyler dropped out and did nothing but game for like 5 years straight before founding rsd. He got laid.
/r/seduction21/07/26 08:02 PM
22

Move on to other women.
/r/seduction21/07/26 06:41 PM
19

Move on
/r/seduction21/07/26 06:05 PM
1

This sounds more like autism than ADHD
/r/seduction20/07/26 10:03 PM
1

You're just making shit up. Nobody said any of these things and you are drawing a bunch of nonsensical conclusions.
/r/seduction20/07/26 07:51 PM
3

Narcs?
/r/seduction16/07/26 04:37 PM
5

What the fuck?
/r/seduction15/07/26 05:31 PM
1

This girl is repeatedly trying to fuck, and you are dropping the ball.
/r/seduction11/07/26 07:02 PM
-1

Are you trying to bang one of them? How is this on topic?
/r/seduction11/07/26 06:06 PM
1

Probably not, unless you're doing like 100 approaches that night
/r/seduction09/07/26 03:09 PM
3

Look at little Goblin Jr. Gonna cry??
/r/seduction09/07/26 03:08 PM
4

Is that some kind of Eastern expression?
/r/seduction07/07/26 03:05 PM
3

The problem isn't feminism, feminists are by and large very sex-positive. You probably don't like them because they call a spade a spade: they're against transactional,unhealthy and coercive relationships with massive power and leverage differences, all with people who probably aren't in the same phase of their life and aren't looking for the same things. I would say NYC (or really any major city) might not be a good fit for you if you have a chip on your shoulder against progressives, seeing as…
/r/seduction01/07/26 09:37 PM
59

Lol it's called the friend zone. If you want to be her friend, continue hanging out with her. If, not, move on.
/r/seduction29/06/26 05:12 PM
2

At his peak, CaptainJack had a 1 in 6 closing rate.
/r/seduction28/06/26 02:24 PM
1

Reading between the lines here: you're old, approaching young girls in Seattle exclusively for sex, have a chip on your shoulder about liberals and feminists, and are mostly getting blown out off the approach. My recommendation, outside of a lifestyle overhaul and therapy, is pay for hookers. That's the only way to get guaranteed sex. Pickup isn't a scam, but it's for guys who don't have contempt for the women they're meeting. Meeting women should be enjoyable outside of a selfish payoff (adrena…
/r/seduction16/06/26 01:48 PM
4

What kind of circle jerk nonsense is this? There is no objective rating system, and no specific body or face type implied by the rating system. '9s have small tits'?? Sounds like youre just attracted to girls with small tits. Your personal experience is in no way the benchmark for everyone else, and your shorthand is meaningless to other people who don't share your experience, views and preferences.
/r/seduction10/06/26 04:59 AM
3

Did you read the post?
/r/seduction01/06/26 09:21 PM
1

That's not something you can mimic or emulate, you need genuine internal change and catharsis to do it. In other words, you need therapy, and you need to process and make peace with your past. Plus a few thousand conversations where you go and try these things.
/r/seduction22/05/26 05:11 PM
17

If this a joke?? Never.
/r/seduction01/05/26 05:16 AM
5

5'9" is average height.
/r/seduction29/04/26 01:41 PM
2

I cannot make sense of this rambling, run on sentence. How about some punctuation?
/r/seduction19/04/26 04:46 PM
1

Outside of carrying a literal sign, there is no ethical way to do this. You're probably going to get arrested, too.
/r/seduction18/04/26 03:04 PM
111

Club promoter
/r/seduction13/03/26 01:43 PM
37

Love it. Or even saying "That's all you get for now" really sets the dynamic.
/r/seduction10/03/26 08:47 PM
61

Because it can backfire spectacularly if not done correctly.
/r/seduction08/03/26 07:47 PM
6

I don't agree. Ppl aren't expecting to get approached in a grocery store, so you're not going to get a lot of invitations.
/r/seduction07/03/26 05:49 PM
4

Sure, it could just mean you're in Antarctica. Excellent point
/r/seduction04/03/26 08:35 PM
17

Text him "Heyyyyyyy u up? ;)"
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:40 PM
1

Have some self respect and move on. She isn't into you. It's irrelevant how much you'd like to have a relationship. Maybe she has some friends she could set you up with
/r/seduction03/03/26 05:33 AM
1

You need to be at parties, not cold approaching. *In college, parties are the Nexus of social activity and romance. Make friends that throw parties. Throw parties yourself. You need to network. Cold approaches and tinder are going to be way more effort with way worse results.
/r/seduction26/02/26 08:05 AM
54

Tell her some 40k lore about Space Marines
/r/seduction16/02/26 07:26 AM
2

Terrible idea. Don't do it.
/r/seduction13/02/26 01:42 PM
0

It was a job fair. Maybe she was more concerned with being professional? You need way more reference data before you try to draw sweeping conclusions like this.
/r/seduction13/02/26 07:12 AM
1

Find a therapist to speak with. Untreated mania is not a good thing.
/r/seduction10/02/26 07:24 PM
1

I don't agree with those numbers. It's way less than 99
/r/seduction09/02/26 09:09 AM
1

DM you for the advice? That's what the post was for, dum dum. Ridiculous bait and switch.
/r/seduction09/02/26 09:08 AM
15

It's certainly a prerequisite, but it's not the 'only thing that matters'. Attraction alone won't be enough; there needs to be trust, comfort, and managing of logistics and obstacles.
/r/seduction26/01/26 04:28 PM
5

You basically must immediately talk to her in the gym to retroactively justify following a stranger. At least she seems interested, so that's another reason to do it immediately. If you don't say hi basically the second you see her, this will implode.
/r/seduction15/01/26 01:51 PM
9

The real lesson here is don't fuck your coworkers.
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:26 PM
4

Terrible idea. Don't do it.
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:22 PM
1

Work the clit, ask how she likes it, check in occasionally, have a safe word
/r/seduction28/12/25 03:30 PM
1

You can show respect by not crossing any boundaries that she establishes, and respecting any obvious body language cues. Beyond that, focus on amusing yourself, connecting, establishing a non-needy and non-judgmental vibe, and getting in your kino.
/r/seduction23/12/25 09:36 PM
1

If you're feeling sick and go out, there's like a 90% chance you'll get sicker as a result. How about you take care of yourself, and then you'll feel up to going out more often. Anyone who's going out night after night knows how this cycle of exhaustion can catch up to you.
/r/seduction16/12/25 02:15 PM
5

How about you also meditate on men who have developed lasting and fulfilling marriages, children, grandchildren, legacies, etc? Why are you just meditating on relationships that didn't work out? Seems kind of telling.
/r/seduction11/12/25 06:33 PM
2

While there is some truth to this, be careful to not make too many generalizations around this. You always hear from a bunch of redpilled shitheads who make blanket statements and draw wrongheaded conclusions about this subject. Fantasies don't reflect on a person's self-esteem, worth, worldview, etc. There's a lot of things that are fun to think about, but you wouldn't want to actually deal with in real life. Remember, it's only a fantasy: a safe and controlled environment where they can scratc…
/r/seduction11/12/25 05:34 PM
1

Sounds like you've been rejected/friendzoned. Decide whether youre ok being platonic friends, or move on.
/r/seduction11/12/25 04:50 AM
1

Yeah literally all the time lol. You run that risk talking to strangers.
/r/seduction06/12/25 10:53 PM
3

X Your looks barely matter if you have poor social calibration and/or social skills. Also, who cares you were with a hot girl once? That doesn't entitle you to certain women or women's reactions. You still have to do the work, which is often humbling. Being mad about getting humbled won't get you anywhere. Keep going out, and leave your expectations at the door.
/r/seduction04/12/25 02:53 AM
1

So you approached like 30-40 women total? That's not exactly a ton of women, and you shouldn't be expecting huge changes within 2 months, especially at that slow rate of approaching.
/r/seduction04/12/25 02:38 AM
14

You gotta keep spinning the plates. It's how you get over oneitis, and how you narrow down your rotation and find a new 'the one'. It also keeps you from being too needy- you can't negotiate if you don't have other options.
/r/seduction03/12/25 02:40 PM
7

If you've read any of his old stuff on mASF, you'll know he was the real deal in terms of having skills. Sure, there were a few stronger guys individually, like Sinn and CapnJack, but denying his skillset and methodology completely is ridiculous. He gave up all of his free time and ambitions to do nothing but pickup for like a decade. I concede he's weird, opportunistic, and even manipulative (didn't hear anything about a gangrape tho), but he was absolutely a world class pickup artist. BTW, eve…
/r/seduction30/11/25 08:49 PM
1

Sluts need love too. Chat her up, wear a condom!
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:34 PM
7

On what planet is this a field report???
/r/seduction17/11/25 06:38 PM
4

Congratulations on your preferences. Confused as to why it's worth an announcement.
/r/seduction17/11/25 01:42 PM
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She did it as a networking thing. The more followers, the stronger the brand. I didn't think she even thinks of you outside of a professional context
/r/seduction13/11/25 02:23 AM
10

Absolute armchair gibberish
/r/seduction12/11/25 02:42 PM
1

Now get rejected tomorrow.
/r/seduction06/11/25 06:20 AM
42

Respectfully, you literally could have stopped after the first paragraph. Every subsequent point is literally a rehashing or rewording of the first paragraph.
/r/seduction28/10/25 07:04 PM
1

What is 'jow'?
/r/seduction26/10/25 05:24 PM
89

🫵 You --made-- this slop With ChatGPT And wasted ☝️ Our time
/r/seduction24/10/25 02:35 PM
2

...so the whole post is just clickbait?
/r/seduction21/10/25 08:02 PM
4

Sandclock is a more literal description, I like it
/r/seduction12/10/25 01:42 PM
8

Sand clock body lol ... You mean hourglass figure??
/r/seduction12/10/25 01:31 PM
1

#productsandservices
/r/seduction03/10/25 07:33 PM
1

Is this spam rambling bullshit, or is this rambling bullshit spam? Excelsior!
/r/seduction30/09/25 04:41 PM
2

Dating hard :( Buy his products and services!
/r/seduction30/09/25 04:41 PM
0

I mean, what you wrote and what OP described aren't the same at all.
/r/seduction19/09/25 05:01 PM
-1

Also if a girl is that forward, i may 2nd guess as well cause tbh how many times has she done something like this This is some bullshit slut-shaming, girls are allowed to be horny and have a sexual history.
/r/seduction19/09/25 04:39 PM
68

You're not obligated to reciprocate. If you didn't want to, then you did the right thing. Although you probably should have shut it down earlier so that you could meet someone else.
/r/seduction18/09/25 09:02 PM
1

Holy shit this is a garbage post. How to stop flakes: have sex immediately. And then you concede they will flake, anyway. Thank you for a post with all noise and no signal. Next time, give your post a day, and if you read it back then and it still sounds good, then post it.
/r/seduction11/09/25 11:59 AM
2

That's a rejection. You just move on, there's really no follow-up needed. If the girl wanted to date you, she'd find a way.
/r/seduction09/09/25 12:34 AM
1

Talking to a girl in the cafeteria is not a warm approach. College is all about parties. You wanna get laid, you attend and throw parties. Make friends, throw parties, establish value in that scene, then meet girls. That's a warm approach.
/r/seduction04/09/25 04:57 AM
1

Woof, possibly the worst approach ever short of shitting your pants while making eye contact.
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:25 PM
1

WTF is a bus store
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:21 PM
2

That is so much fucking work for such a meagre payoff. Terrible ROI
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:19 PM
1

Agree with the first sentence, strongly disagree with second sentence, especially for guys with approach anxiety. Getting out of your comfort zone is part of picking up girls
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:15 PM
2

I can't tell if this is satire. Truly an urgent scenario, please update us on the funny glasses TikTok. We're all waiting with bated breath!
/r/seduction28/08/25 07:29 AM
2

Ooh, right you are! That 2nd study sounds pretty solid. I was also surprised to see that bald men looked taller. Thanks for the followup, that's some good reading.
/r/seduction26/08/25 08:15 PM
1

EDIT: Honestly, upvoted for providing an actual source. I assumed you were completely bullshit. I don't particularly love the study, as it compares 25 totally different guys with little to control the outside variables (like varying degrees of natural attractiveness) beyond hair/bald. Even then, they only survey like 50 women. Regardless, if you read and accept the findings of the study, you'll see that bald men were rated 3.61/7, while hirsute men were rated 3.73/7. It's only a 3.12% decrease i…
/r/seduction26/08/25 06:29 PM
26

Please see a mental health professional.
/r/seduction26/08/25 03:13 PM
4

"8.6%". Source? Edit: 8.6% it is.
/r/seduction26/08/25 02:14 PM
2

No social circle? No time? No game? That's what online dating is for. Spend the extra money to get it professionally improved with pro headshots and visual tweaking, lots of feedback on your profile, and maybe even the 'elite' subscription levels for quick access to whatever matches you get.
/r/seduction25/08/25 11:39 PM
11

Are you sure it's a date? Two girls sounds more like a friends hangout.
/r/seduction22/08/25 02:12 PM
4

Leave her alone and let her do her job. You've just told us she's too busy for flirting, yet insist on doing it anyway. After work or at some other venue. Don't be that guy.
/r/seduction21/08/25 09:14 PM
1

You just said $10 is expensive.
/r/seduction20/08/25 07:07 PM
3

Ill occasionally ask to meet for coffee but the vast majority of the time I'll ask them to come to my house or sometimes meet at like a park. Yes it is
/r/seduction20/08/25 06:53 PM
2

Good luck with changing the future of psychology / starting a cult.
/r/seduction13/08/25 01:24 PM
1

Incorrect. It's a disqualifier to display disinterest, and isn't necessarily in the form a tease. It's used early on before rapport has been built, as a gambit to display high value and differentiate yourself from other fawning guys. In MM terms, it's an IOD.
/r/seduction05/08/25 11:29 AM
10

I strongly recommend therapy. You have some deeply ingrained shame and patterns of thought that you need to grow past. Professional help can get you there.
/r/seduction26/07/25 03:12 PM
12

An undergrad interviewing 26 students hardly feels definitive, but it's certainly an interesting read.
/r/seduction24/07/25 08:38 PM
5

Ridiculous. You're an anonymous user with no account history. Post up some field reports. Establish even a shred of credibility. Then you can start panhandling for money.
/r/seduction24/07/25 05:06 PM
2

If your wife isn't going to be more active to make this happen, then you could use online resources/apps. There's no way to get a unicorn FWB on your own without fucking her yourself at least once. Maybe if you guys joined some kind of kink community, that might be a good inroad towards finding a third.
/r/seduction21/07/25 01:17 AM
18

You're probably asking the wrong crowd. This subreddit is full of guys who want to be Leonardo DiCaprio. That being said, a relationship with an older man is certainly 'unorthodox' and rife with potential for inequalities and fucked up power dynamics. Not to mention you're probably at different stages in your lives. If it's just sex, I'd say it's a little less fucked up, just because those imbalances don't come into play as much. At the end of the day, it's your decision, but you should make it …
/r/seduction18/07/25 02:02 PM
2

On dating apps, being average height (which you are) will be a slight disadvantage. In meatspace, being average height won't negatively affect your chances at all. However, since you are clearly hung up on your height, I advise making peace with it by speaking to a therapist. Edit: reading through your responses, I'm going to reemphasize that you should seek therapy regarding both dating and your height. Copy pasting your bit about height and sex shows how obsessed you are with the issue, to the…
/r/seduction10/07/25 12:10 PM
1

Unless you're talking about proximity and eye contact, then I call bullshit.
/r/seduction06/07/25 08:48 PM
4

In all honesty, women who like you will make the first move. Objectively wrong. Unfortunately, you do have to expend energy and effort meeting women because they will not do it for you.
/r/seduction05/07/25 01:46 PM
10

That's still fear, just fear of discomfort.
/r/seduction01/07/25 04:29 PM
20

I, for one, am shocked- SHOCKED! to discover that women ghost on dates. This will shake the Seduction community to the core, mark my words.
/r/seduction28/06/25 09:01 AM
2

4 approaches??!!! Bro, you could get 100 approaches under your belt in a weekend. You are way too green to start drawing conclusions about whether cold approach works or doesn't work. 4 is frankly a pathetically small sample size.
/r/seduction26/06/25 07:08 PM
1

Nah bro. You're on the clock. A month of no hookup is probably already too long
/r/seduction15/06/25 11:56 AM
4

It really isn't. Please write an actual and complete post instead of this trial version AI slop
/r/seduction13/06/25 10:45 PM
4

There are absolutely mistakes.
/r/seduction04/06/25 02:37 PM
18

Right idea, but promoting the nightclub you are much more involved interacting with the women. Owning a nightclub means liquor licenses and vendors.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:31 AM
0

#1 job would be a (successful) nightclub promoter in a huge city, as long as body count is your only rationale for career. You could not be more ideally placed.
/r/seduction31/05/25 03:29 AM
4

Are you talking about texting, or social media, or in person, or what? When you meet somebody new you should absolutely try to keep a conversation going, as their likely MO is not to chat up strangers. You can stop trying to keep the conversation going after you've hooked. Ironically, I don't understand the point of this post. What exactly are you trying to communicate?
/r/seduction30/05/25 01:22 PM
29

Option 4: she's an asshole
/r/seduction19/04/25 10:49 PM
19

The whole fist
/r/seduction17/04/25 11:15 PM
3

What is the point of this post? To complain? If you aren't compatible, meet somebody else with a higher libido.
/r/seduction14/04/25 11:40 AM
1

Agree that simply saying Hi, introducing yourself and maybe 1 light riff should be enough to get it started. No context needed. Also, if you've got it, flaunt it- you can wear gym outfits that really accent parts of your body that you like.
/r/seduction11/04/25 01:31 PM
7

Lol wtf is this
/r/seduction10/04/25 12:25 PM
2

Touch grass, bro
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:37 PM
2

What kind of gooner nonsense is this? You're trying to fuck the girls you see in banner ads?
/r/seduction04/04/25 04:04 PM
2

Is that the dumbass that would go on about his lucky shirt? That guy was so obnoxious.
/r/seduction25/03/25 01:14 PM
1

Keep going. A phone number can potentially mean nothing at all, and you should proceed as such.
/r/seduction21/03/25 04:02 AM
11

Dan Bilzerian is a shithead who spent his life laundering his criminal father's stolen millions through poker and setting up expensive Instagram photo ops. Unless you come from millions, his advice is less than useful.
/r/seduction19/03/25 01:40 PM
2

Yes, it is as good as it gets in the US for getting laid. Good luck with your "enhanced gaming".
/r/seduction13/03/25 05:37 PM
1

You can't text your way out of disinterest. Next
/r/seduction13/03/25 11:58 AM
12

This is a shit test. How are you guys not seeing that? Treat it like you would any shit test, by mocking it and exaggerating the similarities to a job interview.
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:38 PM
1

I like this response, not because it was a clever solution, but because it was openly dismissive of her attempts to qualify you with a heavily loaded question. In other words, a shit test. If she wants to qualify you that heavily, she can try later, after she's gotten to know you, but it's not gonna be the first thing you discuss.
/r/seduction09/03/25 06:33 PM
3

Easily Las Vegas, at least in the US. Most of the people you meet are on vacation, and looking for a good time.
/r/seduction06/03/25 11:56 AM
1

She's gonna get so fucking turned on by my 3 hole punch. Shouldn't be legal to flex this hard
/r/seduction27/02/25 06:09 PM
2

Narrator: He hadn't.
/r/seduction25/02/25 04:49 PM
36

Dumbest shit I've ever heard. Sure, don't model after successful guys because risks. Success is actually a simple repeatable process once you do the work. That's the hard part. Guys are struggling because they aren't approaching enough, and maybe because they have poor social calibration. Not because they haven't bought enough scratch tickets to differentiate themselves.
/r/seduction25/02/25 02:10 PM
1

You would kiss her after she JUST SAID you didn't have permission to kiss her? There's a legal term for that...
/r/seduction23/02/25 04:46 PM
2

A cold read is a refrigerated book. Make sure to leave it in the crisper for a better cold read.
/r/seduction19/02/25 04:15 PM
1

Devon??! Whhaaaughhhre you doing here?
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:41 AM
3

'Anywhere you go, there you are.'
/r/seduction29/01/25 03:11 PM
1

In what world is this a field report?
/r/seduction29/01/25 06:11 AM
2

Same as at any other height, just slightly less effectively.
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:53 AM
25

Respectfully, you're either lying or something else incredibly obvious is going on that you're omitting. Girls absolutely flake at a higher rate than 1/80. Maybe if they're like arranged marriage dates, or you're a model/celebrity, or you're dating ppl over 50 or something, otherwise I call bullshit. Your numbers are wrong. Edit: yes, even the 'high quality' girls
/r/seduction02/01/25 09:20 PM
0

...Yes? Obviously. You just do what you can. Not sure how productive it is to ruminate on some bullshit you don't control.
/r/seduction02/01/25 09:12 PM
3

Low effort spam
/r/seduction19/11/24 01:35 PM
-3

Ur dad
/r/seduction14/11/24 08:00 PM
11

If you're able to truthfully maintain 2 hrs of this kind of constant mindfulness, then you must be unbelievable at meditation.
/r/seduction14/11/24 01:42 PM
0

Invest heavily in a good editor.
/r/seduction31/10/24 05:34 PM
1

I think you're thinking of social proof. RAS primarily oversees motor functions, sleep/wake functions, and some other reptilian responses.
/r/seduction29/10/24 05:29 PM
126

It's not happening, meet somebody else new.
/r/seduction29/10/24 08:25 AM
1

LOL yes, this is a Minecraft discussion server.
/r/seduction21/10/24 05:54 PM
3

I think he meant grifters.
/r/seduction21/10/24 05:10 PM
2

It's a movie, and not a very good one. I wouldn't read into it too much. Also, if you're trying to be a canonically insane villain attracting a canonically insane love interest/henchman, you have bigger problems.
/r/seduction07/10/24 04:36 PM
7

This is teetering on being a full-blown shitpost. It's definitely not useful.
/r/seduction06/10/24 03:23 PM
16

In Faerun, duh. I get barmaids all the time, although my DM has asked me to stop the sexual roleplay.
/r/seduction06/10/24 03:19 PM
4

Why are you farming out this decision? It's obviously up to you alone, end of story. This is barely even on topic.
/r/seduction19/09/24 01:01 PM
7

... There might be a few things more intimate than that
/r/seduction09/09/24 04:09 AM
14

I've seen the most success at your mom's house.
/r/seduction16/08/24 03:21 PM
0

You can't and you shouldn't try. Just be honest about (and meet) your current needs; trying to recapture something that's gone is how you end up looking foolish.
/r/seduction08/08/24 01:12 PM
2

*desserts
/r/seduction06/08/24 05:29 AM
8

No, negs are supposed to be rare and exclusively used for 9s/10s in high intensity situations.
/r/seduction23/07/24 06:51 PM
5

Nope, I like a straightforward rejection, saves time and effort. I think women overestimate how badly most guys will take a clear rejection.
/r/seduction16/07/24 06:10 PM
5

If she's got you on the sun/mon schedule, I think you're her 3rd option, not 2nd.
/r/seduction14/07/24 06:47 PM
2

That's just how flings do. You might navel-gaze over a more substantial relationship, but it was only two months. Gotta move on and keep the plates spinning.
/r/seduction11/07/24 11:46 AM
2

HH EE LL LL OO
/r/seduction08/07/24 11:19 PM
4

Fact: Greek letters < Greek words Be a Malakas Male, only catch is you gotta do like the ancient Greeks do and fuck boys
/r/seduction04/07/24 03:47 PM
9

The problem is you. Get therapy.
/r/seduction02/07/24 07:40 PM
1

You don't escalate via text, you do it in person.
/r/seduction17/06/24 08:50 PM
0

*anonomos
/r/seduction15/06/24 05:30 PM
25

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but college is logistically the easiest place to get laid. It will require more effort moving forward.
/r/seduction11/06/24 03:20 PM
2

You can't cook there?
/r/seduction09/06/24 03:01 PM
24

Being a Sociopath is good because you get to manipulate and take advantage of ppl! Straight up predator headass logic, you need therapy bro.
/r/seduction09/05/24 02:26 PM
7

younger non expired women Did you want to try again and say that in a non-shitty way?
/r/seduction08/05/24 04:12 AM
2

"Unless... Haha JK... Unless..."
/r/seduction02/05/24 05:25 PM
5

Weird flex but OK
/r/seduction22/04/24 07:45 PM
4

Also, is it really a massive undertaking to someday own a house Gonna cut you off right there- assuming you're in anywhere with a moderate population, Fucking YES it is a massive undertaking. Have you seen the real estate market??? Also best of luck inviting hot 20 something's to your house in your 40s.
/r/seduction22/04/24 06:59 PM
7

200% Dennis Reynolds energy
/r/seduction18/04/24 04:19 AM
1

Doesn't sound like she's much of a friend, I'm confused why your calling her a 'best friend'.
/r/seduction15/04/24 05:30 PM
4

Smart 'look'??? Lol, the problem isnt your clothes! It's your overbearing personality, obviously! It sounds like you're a mansplaining and patronizing egotist with poor social awareness. Plenty of people 'know everything' and don't annoy other people. Good on you for recognizing that other people are finding you abrasive, that's the first step in the right direction. Your first stop is therapy. Figure out why you want to be the only voice in the room. Edit: Also, you may be autistic, see what a …
/r/seduction12/04/24 02:48 PM
7

Lol wut??? It's literally a question about seduction.
/r/seduction21/03/24 09:52 PM
1

No. It's expensive and no one is going to ask. You'd still have to go meet women afterwards, and it wouldn't make it any easier.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:17 AM
1

Zero is alarming, one is concerning, the rest is gravy. The only concern is STDs.
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:14 PM
1

You prefer triple digits, I get it
/r/seduction26/06/21 07:13 PM
54

That's a great list for being a butler.
/r/seduction03/04/21 04:22 PM
9

-maximize your physical appearance -read social cues, esp. interest & discomfort -stay non-needy -get social proof in venue -have closing logistics figured out
/r/seduction03/04/21 04:21 PM
3

Wrong. Effective comfort comes after initial attraction. Without high value, making yourself seem safe and attainable is what every chump is doing.
/r/seduction20/02/21 02:46 PM
-19

Occam's Razor says the guy probably is poor or weird (who likes Applebees?). The woman is petty, but so is the responder. It's just shitty people all the way down.
/r/PussyPassDenied28/01/21 12:29 AM
24

Deffo drunk
/r/PussyPassDenied27/11/20 04:14 PM
1

I'm not sure I understand what your point is.
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:26 PM
15

Agreed, there is a sizable subset of women that won't make the first move, due to principles, time management, options, forgetfulness, middling interest, etc.
/r/seduction21/10/20 05:02 PM
1

That sounds very needy. Don't worry about the other guy unless he is physically there. Run your game, and have other options
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:13 PM
2

This is 75% garbage. Women don't have a monopoly on manipulative behavior. Being actually nice isn't a bad thing. You're so close, but missing the most important parts. "Niceguys" absolutely want something when they are nice. It's a clumsy and ineffective attempt at ingratiation and manipulation, hence not getting laid because it's usually obvious.
/r/seduction24/09/20 03:17 AM
2

You have to learn social skills. Math is just a topic of conversation. Intellectual pursuits are topics of conversation. If it's a shared interest, you can vibe on that, just like if you were both morons and shared an interest in sleeping. Hell, sometimes flirting feels like you're barely talking about any logical topic whatsoever. You can up your odds by being in socializing locations where intellectuals are more common, but you can't skip past the fundamentals. The fundamentals are covered els…
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:43 PM
3

Setback. The most important part of opening is vibe, confidence and flow. Your instinct to ponder, be logical, serious and circumspect, parse your words, and speak properly will interrupt the natural flow. Also, it needs to be fun and relatively accessible, at least at the start, so any references to esoteric info should be kept to brief mentions, unless she latches onto the topic.
/r/seduction20/08/20 08:57 PM
4

You're so needy, I can practically smell it. She isn't interested. Move on. Everytime you try to think about zany ways to get her back (which you never had), you look more and more clownish. Respect yourself, respect your time, meet other women.
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:16 AM
1

Flaking is super common. You never know what's going on behind the scenes, and you never have absolute certainty. All you can do is work the odds.
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:06 AM
1

Must have been hard to write this while driving your lifted truck and pounding Monster energy drinks. You actually can take care of yourself and your needs without being a toxic misanthrope.
/r/seduction19/08/20 05:42 PM
6

There's a lot of magical thinking in this sub that if you take up a hobby, are successful professionally, and stop focusing on women, you'll magically learn social skills and be surrounded by women. No one seems to grasp it's its own skillset. You don't need an unassailable baseline lifestyle to pick up girls, plenty of bartenders and club promoters are knee deep in women.
/r/seduction19/08/20 03:25 PM
1

...for cheap!
/r/MensRights29/05/20 02:08 AM
1

No, haven't noticed it.
/r/seduction12/02/20 01:59 PM
2

GFTOW
/r/seduction20/11/19 01:48 PM
3

"In a hurry" is one thing; the lady in the video is slowly ambling through a mall. Fair game. I don't agree it's rude and invasive to talk to someone who's walking. Off-putting, possibly, because it's unusual. If they're busy, they tell you so, convo over. If you want to talk to someone, that doesn't make them prey. Hyperbole much? It's conversation, not Rambo: First Blood.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:55 PM
-1

Are we discussing the approach or the post-rejection plowing?
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:44 PM
3

Every part of someone's day is 'getting on with their day'. No one can know or not know the itinerary of a total stranger, nevermind their mindset, etc. and it can all be quickly revealed and resolved with a brief conversation. You're basically just saying don't talk to walking women. I readily concede the approach here is not great, and shows poor pacing in terms of physical proximity, but the general concept of talking to a stranger on the move isn't bad or wrong.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:38 PM
3

Apparently talking to someone that's in front of you is hunting, stalking and trapping, and if you aren't ?perpendicular? to someone, you shouldn't talk to them. Also, conversations that take up time are unwelcome because they conflict with a schedule. Gosh, I guess the solution is to talk to nobody, or possibly get their receptionist to pencil in a conversation for you.
/r/seduction13/11/19 10:38 PM
-1

Straight up... WTF is your problem? That is a cold approach. If you don't approve, you're in the wrong sub.
/r/seduction13/11/19 10:32 PM
1

Depth of field is literally something you can get in an app.
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:44 PM
1

If you've got a low key game like Cornhole (bags), that's a good starting point
/r/seduction20/08/19 09:03 PM
2

Your penis size is her problem, not yours. Plenty of girls are 100% OK with what you've got. If one girl doesn't like it, there are plenty more where she came from that will. Honor your dick. Just because it's not the way someone else wants doesn't make it less worthy.
/r/seduction19/08/19 11:56 PM
2

I'm cringing because you're one meeting with HR away from getting fired.
/r/seduction30/07/19 08:46 PM
1

Don't be evasive about it, but throw out some obviously fake and dumb jobs beforehand. If pressed, just say you work in sales. Offer her a discount on tongue depressors. It's not LinkedIn, you don't need to provide your official title and responsibilities.
/r/seduction30/07/19 05:21 PM
2

I did this and it was a mistake, looking back. Learning how to communicate better is something you should do off the books on your own time. Your career should be something that you find fulfilling and rewarding in its own right. Keep them separate, and definitely don't try to run game at work.
/r/seduction30/07/19 04:25 PM
3

You fucked up the date, probably.
/r/seduction15/07/19 09:31 PM
1

If the sex change is a result of recognizing that they are a transperson, then it's neither eccentric nor drastic. If it's a stupid hypothetical, then yeah, really dumb.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/07/19 02:26 PM
1

That's something that's very easy to reframe. You've mostly been having fun on your own and haven't wanted to get thrown into any old relationship you don't see going anywhere, etc. Just remember the specifics aren't really any of her business, but you can give value but truthful answers. Say you don't have a lot of experience with serious or long term relationships.
/r/seduction25/06/19 08:08 PM
2

You're in college. Go to college parties. Talk to girls there. You've got access to the Alaskan pipeline of pussy, being in college. Literally, they're all next door.
/r/seduction12/06/19 10:27 PM
3

It's always a good idea to go to the gym. It has many ancillary benefits that will improve your game and life, including additional testosterone, serotonin, and strength. For looking good, it's more important that you focus on your grooming and making sure your clothes fit really well, especially if you have an unusual body type (skinny/beanpole). There's no reason skinny can't be attractive.
/r/seduction30/05/19 06:16 PM
2

These are great! A few additions from Tyler Durden's 25 Points: 1) FIDGETY MOVEMENTS AND TIGHT SHOULDERS AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY OR BEING TOO BUSINESSLIKE OR "SOPHISTICATED" (not laughing or being relaxed) = very visible subconsious (or conscious) self-doubt, overcompensating through non-relaxed state, where you're prepared to deal with anything that could happen. Ever met someone who doesn't blink when you talk to them? 2) TALKING TOO FAST = worried that people will stop listening to …
/r/seduction17/05/19 05:33 PM
1

Don't fuck with your job. Career and pussy should never threaten one another. Meet other women, there's only a few billion around.
/r/seduction17/05/19 04:57 PM
1

Yes, you are 100% a "direct employee". The school pays your salary, with a portion matched by the federal government. One girl that you misread or that you rubbed the wrong way complains to the department about sexual harassment by a tutor, and you're in a world of hurt - no financial aid and a Title IX investigation. Source your leads elsewhere and learn the lesson that career and pussy should never threaten one another.
/r/seduction17/05/19 02:51 PM
1

As a direct employee of the school, you're right on the edge of Title IX violations (assuming you're in the US). All it takes is one wrong girl and you'll be in deep shit. It is sooo not worth it. Seriously, check it out. The school stands to lose a lot and they will take it out on you. Like I said before, if you're a college/uni student, you don't really need additional streams of approachable women, they are all around you.
/r/seduction17/05/19 02:29 PM
1

Then that's a job. If you're a student you should have zero problems meeting girls on campus without jeopardizing your income.
/r/seduction17/05/19 01:40 PM
1

Are you getting paid?
/r/seduction17/05/19 01:30 PM
1

Don't do it because you'll lose your fucking job. Lol wtf are all these 'go for it' people thinking? Don't shit where you eat, and especially not @ university, where that stuff is scrutinized.
/r/seduction17/05/19 06:04 AM
8

Sorry if I misunderstood, you told her you wouldn't leave her room until she kissed you??
/r/seduction13/05/19 07:17 PM
1

It is what it is. It's working for you, so I wouldn't overthink it. As long as you can stay in the moment, no biggie
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:40 PM
1

If you don't want to get back together, you need to cut it off. In fact, either way, you need to cut it off. It's not healthy to get a bunch of calls chastising you about how you screwed up and what you did wrong, etc. I recommend you move on and stop reading into this.
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:35 PM
2

Streetwear is fine. Additionally, not just for teens.
/r/seduction26/04/19 11:56 AM
4

A sexual compliment isn't an opener, it's a catcall. Stop doing that.
/r/seduction13/04/19 05:37 AM
6

Totes still not OK. Big violation, stealing personal information
/r/seduction03/04/19 09:53 PM
0

It's a story about an autistic guy that can't effectively communicate with women who also climbs mountains. Not super motivating for meeting women.
/r/seduction17/03/19 05:17 PM
-3

???
/r/seduction17/03/19 02:50 PM
1

If you have the game to back up those standards, it wouldn't be an issue.
/r/seduction13/03/19 11:45 PM
3

You're better served at school getting invited to parties, as that's the real nexus of meeting women in that environment. No reason you can't day game, as well. To answer your question, it's irrelevant what other peoples' milestones are. You're not other people.
/r/seduction13/03/19 07:57 PM
2

if you actually like the girl a lot AKA have no other options
/r/seduction13/03/19 07:03 PM
1

The why can be many things. Your conversation is probably boring and/or extremely rapport seeking. Your body language is probably awful. You might have hygiene issues. You might be ignoring clear body language clues. You might have poor eye contact (either too little or too intense)
/r/seduction27/02/19 07:30 PM
1

The simple reality is that good guys with good jobs are what is scarce. If your goal is to be a beta provider and marry a girl a decade past her prime when she's ready to settle down, this strategy is fine.
/r/seduction19/02/19 07:27 PM
1

That's a pretty difficult and roundabout way to remain passive when it comes to meeting girls. Maybe you could just go up and talk to these girls before you are fully self-actualized and living your best life... Otherwise, you're waiting until you're about 40 to bang.
/r/seduction19/02/19 06:54 PM
1

Always some bullshit instead of learning social skills. Get a better job/cooler hobbies/be more woke, etc. The core issue is a lack of social skills, it doesn't matter how much you snowboard.
/r/seduction19/02/19 06:52 PM
1

Don't try and fuck her in the bathroom or a car. Just go back to her place, or a willing friend's. Additionally, rectify the situation as soon as possible.
/r/seduction12/02/19 03:50 AM
1

Did you go there just to get laid?
/r/seduction01/02/19 08:10 PM
1

Get her phone number next time.
/r/seduction20/01/19 06:58 PM
2

No.
/r/seduction11/01/19 12:24 AM
0

Move on. Stop being a whiny bitch. There's no way we could nor should tell you how to get back with your ex. That ship has sailed.
/r/seduction09/01/19 10:13 PM
1

Casually and humorously.
/r/seduction04/01/19 03:57 AM
1

Being the greatest pickup artist of all time is a terrible goal. It's also impossible in a city of 60k. Start going out with a wing. Every night if possible. Read Models by Mark Manson. Keep a journal. Set ambitious but reasonable goals and use your wing for accountability and emotional leverage to get yourself to actually do it. If you want to get good, you'll have an intense pain period as you acclimate to socializing and dealing with social pressure. Make sure you're doing this for the right …
/r/seduction18/12/18 05:37 AM
2

Lots of people pipe up about the 'new paradigm of pickup' after banging one attractive girl. Few are qualified. Most of the stuff they mention is barely field tested/wrong (don't nod, 'relatableness' AKA being relatable is dumb), or very idiosyncratic (put a pencil in your mouth while you read, toothy smiles) and ineffective for other people. You also praise the importance of high volume: Your brain must wire new neural pathways, and in order to do, you have to fire those pathways day after day …
/r/seduction13/12/18 03:30 PM
1

How exactly did you 'go down the rabbit (w)hole' if you don't even do cold approaches... AKA what are your qualifications?
/r/seduction13/12/18 02:09 AM
5

Fuck shit tests Then It's just a test to see if you're full of shit. See you later virgins!
/r/seduction11/12/18 04:19 AM
2

Wu fuck wild wit da trigger
/r/seduction11/10/18 03:46 AM
1

The actual definition of negging, according to the guy who developed them, is a disqualifier (statement of disinterest) that is used on girls with 'bitch shields', AKA women that have been already saturated with approaches, and are brushing off all guys approaching them. It's only used at the beginning of the Attraction phase and is supposed to be relatively innocuous, like calling out fake nails or playing a 'pull my finger' game. The 'negging' you're referring to is the form that has been eith…
/r/seduction10/10/18 02:59 PM
2

What if the best case scenario that you imagine actually happens? You won't go to jail or become a community-wide pariah for literally saying hello. Don't do anything scandalous, and it'll be fine.
/r/seduction01/10/18 07:55 PM
1

Are they strangers? Friends? Acquaintances? Day game? Night game? Did you get into comfort? Elicit her values?
/r/seduction03/07/18 01:21 PM
9

Absolutely, it's a cop out. You're avoiding committing to the concept.
/r/seduction29/06/18 01:38 PM
1

Anyone who grooms and goes out 5+ nights/week and 10+ sets /night will probably see pretty massive success within a year or two, barring social anxiety, learning disabilities, or big sexual hangups. In the words of Ronnie Coleman, "Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, but nobody wants to lift no heavy-ass weight."
/r/seduction14/06/18 08:23 PM
22

No u
/r/seduction29/05/18 05:51 PM
3

Well, again, you're wrong and you're projecting. Don't ask questions like 'do women want ltr's?' if you've already drawn your own conclusions and won't accept other answers.
/r/seduction28/04/18 06:15 PM
1

Absolutely terrible idea. Start seeing other girls.
/r/seduction22/04/18 04:52 PM
1

Your biggest issue here is the setting. A crowded city area, especially at night, is not a natural setting to approach guys unless you have an ulterior motive (panhandling or selling something or someone). You need to immediately distinguish yourself as someone who is not pushy and speaking from emotions rather than trying to accomplish something. OR just approach in private establishments where an approach like this won't meet so much resistance.
/r/seduction19/04/18 11:59 AM
1

Why pep? That's not your job, and it's not what she's looking for. Just listen and acknowledge her difficulties. Stop trying to solve them. Ever heard 'he's a good listener'? That's what it refers to. Listen, acknowledge, empathize, maybe ask a few questions, and only change the topic once it's run its course. That's not necessarily true if you just started talking, but if you have a rapport already, just let her vent.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:44 AM
1

Absolutely. I just rejected a 7 recently because she was being sketchy as hell and I didn't want any part of the drama storm she was creating.
/r/seduction10/04/18 12:29 AM
1

That is exactly how you do not run social circle game. You're either oblivious or on the spectrum if you didn't notice a lot of friction. Take it as a lesson that social circle game is about reputation management as much or more than it is about just kicking it to girls and hustling up some phone numbers.
/r/seduction01/04/18 02:41 PM
7

"my parents aren't home, and we can watch Netflix. But we can't go into my room, actually yes we can totally go into my room." that's some top secret code right there, but if I cracked it correctly, she's looking to smash lol. Literally just start touching her and getting close until you are basically spooning and go from there.
/r/seduction30/03/18 09:35 PM
1

This is turning into a semantics debate. Direct means a direct SOI (Statement of Interest). It doesn't have to be 'you're pretty' verbatim, although that is Direct, but something along those lines that demonstrates you are interested in her.
/r/seduction24/03/18 04:24 AM
1

You said: Generally, on the street, when you are meeting girls in public, you don't want tell women that....
/r/seduction23/03/18 10:10 PM
1

On the street, you absolutely go direct. It creates the sorely needed context for a conversation.
/r/seduction23/03/18 09:26 PM
7

That happens roughly never during daytime. Daygame is almost completely cold- waiting for positive acknowledgement is not a functional strategy.
/r/seduction04/03/18 02:20 AM
1

There's nothing wrong with introducing silence, as long as the conversation is fully hooked. Also, it's better for day game than night game. As far as whether it seems lame, watch 'Drive' and tell me if the main dude seems lame. He has like 5 lines in the whole movie.
/r/seduction13/02/18 10:38 PM
2

How many approaches are you doing a day /week? What's your close ratio?
/r/seduction01/02/18 10:12 PM
3

It mostly means population, although if you only daygame in one place every day, acreage also matters. THE POINT IS not about the inevitable obstacles of daygame. The point is that daygame is not an effective tactic. The best tactic is gathering a large social network such that you know the party scene, including throwing your own, and leverage the social proof to approach girls in a social environment.
/r/seduction25/01/18 06:12 PM
7

Parties. Go to parties. That is the nexus of all social access in colleges, except for Greek life. If your college is small you WILL get a reputation for approaching during the daytime.
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:49 PM
1

Still way too long homeboy
/r/seduction25/12/17 12:27 AM
1

Stop wasting so much time on such a bad investment of time. Other girls will show up, your time should be valuable enough that you don't waste it on a long shot.
/r/seduction21/12/17 10:25 PM
3

Have some alcohol on hand, as well as a movie/netflix ready to go. Use alcohol or some item of interest that you hype up to get them back. Then have some drinks and either put on a movie or play some music and share some pictures from a trip /whatever.
/r/seduction26/11/17 01:44 AM
1

Assuming you are actually a student, the best place to approach girls is at parties. If you're not going to parties, that's pretty much your problem right there.
/r/seduction11/10/17 07:54 PM
3

Go with a wing, and have at least one goal when you're there to keep yourself pushing against anxiety, etc
/r/seduction29/09/17 08:59 PM
7

Wat dat mouf do tho?
/r/seduction29/09/17 05:06 PM
2

Lol wtf are you talking about? You didn't answer a single question I asked. You want feedback, but aren't willing to give any details. Best of luck with your 'hope of hooking up with hot women'...
/r/seduction23/07/17 09:08 PM
1

More context: do you live in Mexico? Where and when are you meeting girls? How are your energy levels? Are you hooking the conversations?
/r/seduction23/07/17 07:20 PM
1

Sorry, but that outs you as not being an authority on the subject. Next you'll say vocal projection and eye contact aren't important. If you just said 'it's a numbers game', and left it at that, I'd completely agree.
/r/seduction17/07/17 11:43 PM
1

Body language doesn't matter? This is ridiculous
/r/seduction17/07/17 06:03 PM
9

This is above our pay grade. Straight up, you should see a therapist.
/r/seduction15/07/17 01:09 PM
2

I still don't understand the crab bucket metaphor...
/r/seduction18/06/17 01:23 PM
1

Honestly, get a coach. You don't need to put up these numbers if it's not helping you improve. My best guy on the Internet suspicions are that you have massive calibration problems and - don't take this as an insult - may have light Aspergers. Don't stubbornly commit to 10k approaches instead of addressing the root issue. Enlist the help of a professional.
/r/seduction14/06/17 03:23 PM
3

This friend is holding you back. You can agree to continue being each other's security blankets, or you can start pursuing your goals. Your new behaviors - which are to be applauded - are threatening the dynamic you two had, and he'd rather see you fail so he doesn't have to address his own shortcomings. "Above sex" - absolutely ridiculous.
/r/seduction08/06/17 09:26 PM
2

Good. Unsubscribe. A loudmouth naysayer that shits on guys trying to figure things out isn't welcome here.
/r/seduction22/05/17 09:15 PM
1

Emotional overload is a common issue when you repeatedly do a lot of anything difficult. It's just something that you work through. There's nothing shameful in being where you are. Keep pushing, keep meeting girls, and keep an open mind. If you can enjoy- or at least tolerate- the process of meeting new people and having fun with it, you'll be seeing huge dividends. That being said, you need to have perspective and realize that you're undoing years of unhelpful social conditioning and gaining so…
/r/seduction22/05/17 03:36 PM
-1

I've found mastering the art of Beyblades has dramatically improved my success.
/r/seduction09/05/17 11:33 AM
1

There's definitely some things that you're not seeing. Get impressions from others to address issues. Also, what kind of 'outlandish things' do you say?
/r/seduction05/05/17 08:36 PM
1

There's no need to talk about it until you're getting physical with a girl. Just say you're 'pretty inexperienced'. It's sort of a lie by omission, but you convey the issue without the stigma.
/r/seduction05/05/17 07:51 PM
5

...take a used condom with you? Do you put it in your pocket or something?
/r/MensRights27/04/17 03:05 PM
0

Absolutely ridiculous clickbait headline.
/r/seduction12/04/17 12:36 PM
1

I'm sympathetic to her aims, but she's put her special in a box where negative feedback can be brushed off instead of taken seriously.
/r/PussyPassDenied16/03/17 01:35 PM
1

How about flank or lay down suppressing fire?
/r/seduction15/03/17 07:32 PM
82

More importantly, what is a doopliss?
/r/seduction15/03/17 12:29 PM
19

What in the wide, wide world of sports are you talking about?
/r/seduction14/03/17 06:08 PM
1

Go with a friend/wing who can help you maintain a positive emotional state and will push you into social situations. If you can't do it alone, very some backup.
/r/seduction10/03/17 01:22 AM
8

Notable absence of skin care routines and music reviews.
/r/seduction18/02/17 09:09 PM
0

Awesome! Ignore all the haters, congrats on posting up content here!
/r/seduction06/12/16 05:21 AM
3

Nope, people sign releases for commercial broadcasts for monetary reasons, but people have no reasonable expectation of privacy in public life this.
/r/seduction06/12/16 05:16 AM
1

Rejection is a part of the process, no matter how good you are. It's actually a positive - on a small scale, it's self disqualification based on irreconcilable differences, and on a large scale, it's indicative that what you're doing isn't working.
/r/seduction30/11/16 01:27 PM
1

First you get wrist control.
/r/PussyPassDenied16/09/16 04:18 PM
2

4 women are underwhelmed by 1 male?
/r/PussyPassDenied04/05/16 10:11 PM
1

Is this a joke? I don't even understand the question, but the answer has something to do with fedoras. Seriously, let's get at least a tiny bit on topic here.
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:07 PM
2

Maybe it's time to stop dressing like Terry from Reno 911...
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:05 PM
1

It's funny because when I describe a 5, people think I'm describing some kind of hideous or obese nightmare.
/r/seduction07/03/16 03:04 AM
2

Sounds like you were really caught up in the frat life, and I can't speak to that, but your not the only guy who went to college here. Very little issues with cockblocking, especially if you were a known quantity with their friends. Definitely way easier than going out as a graduate, professional and beyond. Besides, wasnt one of the benefits of frats that they streamlined the process of meeting girls, making it easier, having social proof, etc.? If you were having trouble with girls being spoon…
/r/seduction07/03/16 02:16 AM
6

Sorry man, I think it's a great reframe to position it this way in your mind, but sex is easiest in college. Trust is already established, the proximity is insane (single girls living in the same dorm), the girls are mostly single(I found this changes dramatically out of college), etc. I can't speak to Greek issues, as my college didn't have them, but you never get so many single girls in one place with so few obstacles to hooking up. The answer isn't to rationalize disappointing results, but to…
/r/seduction07/03/16 12:59 AM
1

Sense of humor A huge, veiny rack
/r/seduction13/01/16 08:04 PM
1

Yes, it is possible. Also, not all women have their minds made up before you start talking. There are a subset that will never like you, and those will always like you, and those who are somewhere in the middle. All you can do is stack the odds in your favor, and get as good as you can. Some people will never like you, and that would be the case no matter who you were. Once you move past that, you can focus on girls that are in the other two camps. Don't give yourself a bullshit excuse to not im…
/r/seduction27/12/15 05:40 AM
1

Nope, it's a pay-to-play scenario. Besides, that's an outcome-based orientation. Plus, it should be enjoyable to meet new people, especially those with boobies. If you're very concerned about it, you can use online dating to hone in on the type you're looking for.
/r/seduction27/12/15 05:35 AM
1

Are you talking about TD's 25 points? I thought they were pretty explicit and understandable. What were you confused about?
/r/seduction06/10/15 12:38 AM
1

You're probably fucking up the fundamentals. Here is a link to Tyler Durden's 25 Points, which cover most of the fundamentals. Your opener should generate IOI's often if you're doing everything right. Increasing attraction is a big topic, and there is a lot of material out there. My personal favorite is teasing the girl in a good-natured way where she can laugh at herself. You can use the cocky and funny stuff from DD back in the day. Use DHVs, tell cool stories, playfully ignore her if she's in…
/r/seduction05/10/15 07:09 PM
3

Are you out of your goddamn mind? "Not hugging is seriously one of [your] boundaries"? You're basically saying "Respecting other peoples' boundaries is one of my boundaries." Practically speaking, your insistence on hugs could be interpreted as creepy, needy and weird, depending on the girl. Sounds like you totally misread her comfort levels and made her feel uncomfortable. And then you freaked out when she established boundaries. Threatening to cut off communication on this basis is both unreal…
/r/seduction18/09/15 07:51 PM
3

That's definitely not going to be good advice for this guy. He says he's 'never been good at talking or socializing'. He gets passive and starts overthinking what to say. "Be you" and "ask questions" isn't going to be useful.
/r/seduction18/09/15 07:44 PM
1

Well, the first and most important rule is don't make it obvious that you're doing it to prove something (in this case, pre-selection). So you're already setting yourself up for a hard time. Honestly, don't be a scumbag. Flirting on your own is fine and recommended, but if you're on a date, and you are clearly flirting with someone else, that's disrespectful. You should expect the same from anyone you'd go on a date with. If you wanted to create jealousy, that's not the way to do it. Instead, Go…
/r/seduction18/09/15 07:35 PM
1

This is unclear. Did you bang the 10?
/r/seduction31/08/15 12:14 AM
1

Your 4th picture is great! Your 2nd picture is OK. 1 and 3 suck, due to picture quality, KFC and that stupid fucking hat (sorry if you love it) Also, your 3rd one isn't even facing the camera (a no-no). Put together a few outrageous/social pictures, instead. Also, get your profile to be compelling, funny and tight (aka brief)
/r/seduction30/08/15 04:50 AM
1

Bots / instagram ho's / attention-whores, most likely. How many of these 9's respond to you in an actual conversation?
/r/seduction30/08/15 04:45 AM
1

This is for banging under-18 teenagers? What the hell?? 1000% uncool and inappropriate.
/r/seduction30/08/15 04:41 AM
5

Uh... don't set up morning coffee dates. That's the best advice you'll get. People don't fuck in the AM, especially not for the first time. If you had the game to get someone to bang in the morning, you wouldn't need to ask the question in the first place. Also, you'd have to choose who you're inviting to see in the morning. The girls who might do something like that (alternative, very sexual, non-judgmental) probably don't do coffee dates in the first place. Maybe tea or yoga or something. Agai…
/r/seduction30/08/15 04:39 AM
3

Flirt and touch her. Make intense eye contact, don't talk business.
/r/seduction30/08/15 02:53 AM
23

Huh. You learn something new about sex crimes everyday. The whole thing smacks of miscarriage of justice.
/r/MensRights01/08/15 04:37 PM
103

Wrong. The defense lawyer was under the impression that the defendant would qualify for the Holmes Youthful Trainee Act (as it applies to statutory rape charges for 17-20 year olds) which would allow for him to recieve a lighter sentence and avoid being placed on the sex offender registry. Unfortunately, the judge is a vindictive moron and threw the book at him. Upon appeal, assuming they have a good defense lawyer and a non-moron judge, they should be able to secure a lenient ruling under HYTA.
/r/MensRights01/08/15 04:24 PM
7

I'm 5'3", too, bro. Now can we talk? Specifically about your murdering?
/r/PussyPassDenied23/05/15 06:20 PM
3

You would literally kill for that height? Seems like a petty reason to commit murder.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/05/15 05:56 PM
1

Antagonizing the obstacle?
/r/seduction21/05/15 04:27 AM
1

To answer your question, yes, alphas can be, and often are, hilarious. They are self- amusing and not qualifying themselves. In fact, most alphas have a good sense of humor.
/r/seduction21/05/15 04:15 AM
1

The answer, of course, is that you make these decisions to violate your own boundaries, not her. Your neediness allows you to rationalize acting against your best interests, and your lack of frame control allows your relationship to go down avenues you'd prefer to avoid. Simply reinforce your boundaries. Cut off lengthy text convos, don't engage specific threads, stay focused on what you want. If you want this girl, stick to the plan and decide how to proceed after you've hooked up.
/r/seduction21/05/15 04:12 AM
1

I've spoken with a bunch of reputable guys on this subject and they unanimously say not to compliment all the girls in the group
/r/seduction21/05/15 03:42 AM
1

Do whatever is in your control to improve your appearance and grooming. Then approach a while bunch of girls until you get some positive reference experiences. Eventually, AS LONG AS YOU KEEP TALKING TO LOTS OF GIRLS, this problem will take care of itself.
/r/seduction21/05/15 03:40 AM
1

First you have to bang her, dummy! Stop trying to skip steps!
/r/seduction21/05/15 03:36 AM
1

Go fuck ten other women.
/r/seduction21/05/15 03:32 AM
2

Right, but I had read that only 3 of the 13 girls were linked to those texts/social media.
/r/MensRights19/05/15 08:00 AM
2

My understanding was that only some of the accusations were likely false (through txt msg evidence), while the rest were not disproven.
/r/MensRights19/05/15 06:10 AM
1

Read the FAQ, you're asking about literally everything this entire subreddit covers.
/r/seduction25/03/15 05:39 PM
1

Can you be more specific? One friend? Several girls? Romantically interested in you or approve of you as a romantic prospect for her? Also, what context?
/r/seduction25/03/15 05:37 PM
2

Here's a link to a DropBox with his old ASF archives, password included for access.
/r/seduction23/02/15 11:21 PM
1

I might have an old zip archive of his stuff, I'll check if it's still there.
/r/seduction23/02/15 10:20 PM
1

Keys to the VIP had some basic bro game in display, but you're wasting your time trying to learn game by watching.
/r/seduction19/11/14 11:30 AM
0

I imagine this and one of those shiny Dragonball Z collared shirts are similar.
/r/MensRights14/11/14 11:56 PM
1

Here
/r/seduction07/11/14 02:35 AM
2

There are plenty of cool guys in the game, you just have to find them. Sometimes there are guys with whom you can't relate or who annoy you. I'd say let them know they're being weird, and look to meet new people. At the end of the day, you can't judge anything by one example; I wouldn't generalize based on one bad experience. Really, you should take it as a valuable experience. It's a lesson- or reminder- about the importance of social calibration and social intuition.
/r/seduction27/10/14 03:55 AM
1

Are you fucking kidding me? Then weed yourself out genetically. Be the end of your line. Stop complaining about not getting laid if you refuse to stop jerking off all day and spend a little time actually meeting people. You'll get no pity here for being too lazy and making too many excuses to do the basics.
/r/seduction17/10/14 06:39 PM
0

You definitely don't want to 'become the type of man that will make any girl want you'. First of all, your future vision of yourself should be internally generated, based on who you want to be. Moreover, you don't want to attract every girl. You want to be polarizing and weed out girls who aren't on board with your game plan.
/r/seduction17/10/14 05:35 PM
1

One of the biggest concepts of game is amusing yourself. Now that's limited to a narrower spectrum during daygame, but the onus is still on you. You don't just want to get to know her, you want her to get to know you. Amuse yourself. TL;DR: Boring conversation is your fault.
/r/seduction30/09/14 03:48 PM
1

Prude.
/r/seduction30/09/14 03:13 PM
3

Wrong. This is reactive and boring. Your identity, which should be fully formed, should be polarizing and screen out girls you don't want.
/r/seduction30/09/14 05:06 AM
1

Any luck with your badge?
/r/seduction17/09/14 12:40 PM
1

when their age is in question that's a completely different game Huh?
/r/seduction16/09/14 02:49 PM
0

Don't compliment their backpack unless it's cool. Tease them for a huge backpack or a dorky looking one. A compliment on their backpack would be like complimenting them on a piece of paper. "Oh, cool piece of paper! Hi, I'm readonyluser, and my compliment was just a indirect and supplicating way to start this conversation."
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:54 PM
0

Boooooo! Taking risks is the name of the game. Worst case scenario you've had a fun interaction and found out for a certainty that it's a no go, rather than sitting there and mentally disqualifying every girl for reasons that are 100% in your mind.
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:50 PM
1

Sounds like bad game poisoned the well. It's almost a certainty that you haven't generated enough attraction. Focus on escalating to sex and lay some good pipe to up your rep. EDIT: Important that you cultivate social awareness. You might be a creeper! Don't be needy, don't make girls uncomfortable, don't suck value.
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:38 PM
4

RSD school is based on degrading attitude towards women with I'm gonna use you as a disposable sperm receptacle attitude I am not going to judge.
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:35 PM
1

That's not a fair criticism. There are some guys who are doing their thing and simply aren't around attractive women unless they 'go out' to meet them.
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:32 PM
1

I'm not sure what being in a committed relationship has to do with leaving /r/seduction, but I wish you the best, regardless. Don't get lazy!
/r/seduction10/09/14 01:12 PM
3

UH... a world where nobody is accountable for their actions? Are you fucking kidding me? That would be bad. Most, if not all, of the worst abuses are specifically countered by accountability. There's your conversation. Now we can shut it down.
/r/MensRights02/09/14 08:32 PM
1

Smile and play against any negative stereotypes girls might have of a huge black dude. Dress well, be friendly/nice, not cheesy and not thuggish. Social and friendly will work wonders for black dudes. Also, for you, I would stop worrying about IOI's when you're walking around. Just chat up girls you want to talk to. However, looking for IOI's in a social environment is a different story. Just don't be too overt or leering.
/r/seduction29/08/14 02:43 PM
52

But you still need to build rapport and create attraction before any of that shit even happens. So you're telling me that this is more of a line that is used to finish the night?
/r/seduction29/08/14 02:32 PM
1

So this was all done by memory?
/r/seduction23/08/14 03:58 PM
0

Clearly stupid. There's no way a guy with 5 years of experience could have anything of value to offer to the sexual gurus over at /r/seduction.
/r/seduction22/08/14 09:00 PM
1

See above question in response to your answer. EDIT: ;)
/r/seduction22/08/14 07:08 PM
1

I'm trying what seems like every way to meet girls What have you tried? How many times? What results have you gotten?
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:33 PM
1

Nope, that was for shit-test IOIs, like when a girl would say "You're so hot, let's totally hump." as a lark, instead of actually meaning it.
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:19 PM
1

Can you specify what you mean by 'the bullshit'?
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:16 PM
1

Well, ignoring the obvious hyperbolic term 'sex god', are you suggesting it's impossible that Dan could've gotten good enough at sex over 5 years to write an instructional book on the subject?
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:10 PM
2

Guys that are actually in the field fuck a 4. It's only slightly below average looking. I've banged 4s for all kinds of reasons: because she was stacked, or I was drunk, or I was super horny, she was fun to be with, etc. Keyboard jockeys have the most unrealistic expectations of their PU careers. Nothing but dimes, celebrities, video vixens and strippers: a constant crescendo of unending success. On a bad night, the best PUAs might get rejected by a 4 for sex. A guy with an average girl above 6 …
/r/seduction22/08/14 06:00 PM
1

Most of these are not useful/important for anything besides ego gratification. I could understand if you were trying to keep track of which girls you had slept with, and which sorority they were in, and maybe even how attractive they were, to see if you were increasing the quality of girls. But tenths of a rating? Cup size? Height? Ego.
/r/seduction22/08/14 05:49 PM
1

I don't see it being a binary scenario. Dan is a pretty smooth guy, and very clever. I've found it to be a great resource and it dovetails well with a lot of the fast & loose ideas you read in The Way of the Superior Man.
/r/seduction22/08/14 05:45 PM
2

It's ruined my life! Dogs and children scream and run away when they see me! Joseph Merrick had it easy! You'll never successfully game again nooooooooooooooo
/r/seduction19/08/14 07:18 PM
1

I agree that it's bad policy and patronizing to tell girls to smile. I don't follow that it shows you have no standards and are desperate. Moreover, it boggles my mind that people assume these girls are paid actresses. It's not hard to run hundreds of sets and find one that went well and put it up on youtube. I can practically guarantee you that she's not a paid actress, because that's money down the drain for a guy who talks to girls for a living.
/r/seduction18/08/14 10:48 PM
2

Ditto /u/ThrowawayPUA on the small-chunking. Only learn and implement one or two things at a time until they're automatic. Generally, you'll notice your mistakes when you make them (you'll realize you had bad eye contact, etc.). If there's a specific sticking point, I recommend bringing that up and seeing if anyone has any ideas for how to fix it. Tyler's 25 points will have a lot of crucial fundamentals for you, and you can use that as a mental checklist of whether your game is on point.
/r/seduction18/08/14 05:47 PM
2

I would agree with the exception that in this particular instance, he went the extra step to actually help change her mood, basically teasing her into it. If he had just commanded her to, that would be annoying, like someone telling me to dance for their amusement.
/r/seduction18/08/14 05:38 PM
1

Just jumping in with /u/webby that your takeaway and your calling her 'kitten' are both miscalibrated. Way too intense for a daygame set.
/r/seduction18/08/14 05:32 PM
1

Which country/countries are you in? This is an opportunity for you. You get to work on the nonverbal fundamentals: kino facial expression body language dancing physical teasing escalation Just aim to stay in set long as possible without saying more than a few words. If you can say words like 'dance', 'drink', 'yes' and 'no', you've got a chance. Just imagine how much stronger your game will be once you don't rely on verbal game as a crutch. Attractive behavior is universal, although social norms…
/r/seduction18/08/14 04:08 PM
1

I just shaved it off. It's not a bad look, all things considered. I'm 29, and I'm fucking with 18-30 y/o's. I secretly believe that asians don't like the bald look that much.
/r/seduction18/08/14 03:47 PM
2

GO OUT AND TALK TO GIRLS. Advice and information right now won't be helpful for you because you have no experience and no momentum. You need to go out and just start talking to girls. Once you start figuring out what you suck at, you can single that out.
/r/seduction18/08/14 03:04 PM
1

Go out with a wing if you can't push yourself to approach.
/r/seduction18/08/14 02:51 PM
1

"Test your own prejudices"? Honestly, I'd rather not share my body count with somebody I don't know, especially if it's just to help you prove a point.
/r/seduction16/08/14 01:08 AM
1

LOL this is 100% mental masturbation nonsense. Charles Manson was charismatic. Hitler was charismatic. Idiot drug-addled itinerant wastrels can be charismatic. Here's the parts you got right: Charismatic people have confidence. Charismatic people have body language. Here's the parts you got wrong: Charismatic people are organized. Charismatic people are sharp. Charismatic people have a vocabulary. Charismatic people speak smoothly. Charismatic people look happy. Charismatic people look good. Thi…
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:59 AM
2

She's going to tell you early on if she has one and doesn't want to move forward. OCCASIONALLY a girl will not do that, and encourage your flirting, but you find out by physically escalating until she either admits to having a BF or decides to just bang anyway. If she does want to have sex, she'll generally tell you immediately before or after sex. Generally, if a girl tells you she has a BF in the attract or comfort stage, the set is over, unless it's an obvious shit test. I don't try to counte…
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:17 AM
-2

Uh... can you explain how your title "Stop Chasing Womens (sic)" is applicable? You banged one girl and suddenly you've reinvented the wheel?
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:07 AM
2

I don't ask. If it's a logistical roadblock that you see coming and know it will fuck up your set, yeah, address it. Otherwise, it's her responsibility.
/r/seduction16/08/14 12:03 AM
2

If she crossed the line, then you play it that way. You don't shrug off someone crossing the line, you do something about it. Take what she says as literal and call her out on it. Offer to have a conversation with her and HR.
/r/seduction15/08/14 07:46 PM
2

I don't think it's a great idea to do it. You're breaking one of the key rules of banging - discretion. You open up your personal life to everybody with very little payoff to it. If you wanna chat up an old flame, text her or send her a FB message or whatever.
/r/seduction15/08/14 01:18 PM
2

This is teasing/negging, not qualifying.
/r/seduction15/08/14 12:37 PM
2

Ankle -close? Ur a legend m8
/r/seduction14/08/14 11:26 PM
1

Get specific, find specific things you need to do, and do those things immediately. The more you do that, the more you create good habits and positive momentum. No need to beat yourself up or make it an emotional problem. Train yourself to get really granular when you feel overwhelmed and figure out what specific things you can do to start improving your position. Let's get specific about your initial problem you mentioned. You're lonely, which is super normal for someone your age, and everyone …
/r/seduction13/08/14 04:57 PM
1

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2c2eco/does_anyone_have_regular_success_with_daygame/
/r/seduction13/08/14 03:59 PM
1

Feeling like crap when you get rejected is a normal part of learning how to do this stuff. You get your ass kicked a few times, and it doesn't affect you as much. You're not going to develop an incredible new mental paradigm of success and self-esteem without doing some real-world work, and that's something the armchair critics will never understand. New habits are born out of action, not mental masturbation. Keep getting your ass kicked, remember to check your unfair thoughts, and it becomes le…
/r/seduction11/08/14 08:00 PM
1

With girls is always better.
/r/seduction10/08/14 02:34 PM
2

No, it's a fucking awful idea. Open relationships are one thing, rubbing it in her face is another.
/r/seduction10/08/14 03:00 AM
1

Shift your workout to later, and have all your morning stuff prepared. Then you can get more sleep between 2 and 8. If you pull, then yeah, you'll be tired and there's no way around that. I never got much mileage out of naps, but if it works for you, take advantage of it. I personally like daygame, so take advantage of that during lunch breaks, errands, gym, supermarket, etc.
/r/seduction09/08/14 02:44 PM
1

Depends on where you live. Some cities have a decent club open every day of the week.
/r/seduction09/08/14 02:41 PM
1

Thanks for your helpful advice. Anything constructive to add?
/r/seduction08/08/14 11:46 PM
2

Just ask them not to share your more personal information with others. Also, you'll get some relationship advice in /r/relationships.
/r/seduction08/08/14 05:28 PM
50

This is a great question. I don't see being blind as a huge disadvantage for you. If you were deaf, you'd be screwed. You have more opportunities to touch girls while talking, and an easy source of conversation (what life is like being blind). I'd say your biggest obstacles are more logistical, like how do you take a girl home and are you sure you're opening beautiful women. Since you're blind, you will absolutely have to qualify her based on her personality and be attracted to that. Ask about h…
/r/seduction08/08/14 05:15 PM
5

You used an advanced technique called, "Don't do anything stupid." This girl opened you and closed you. Take it for what it is - a gift.
/r/seduction08/08/14 05:03 PM
1

Feelings aren't reality. You're creating an emotional problem to avoid dealing with a real-life problem. And no matter how incredibly painful or difficult your emotions are, they're just a mechanism you're using to get your emotional fix instead of improving your life. You're not looking for guidance because you didn't even ask a question. There's nothing poetic or clever about misrepresenting your intentions. If you actually want to fix your problem, you'll actually focus on the issue, rather t…
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:37 PM
1

These are great points to hear, although I don't believe they are all that different compared to most date advice in the community. Thanks for the content!
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:25 PM
2

I mentioned it elsewhere in a response, but here's the gist of it: You want valuable content creators, you need to have value for them. That's done by having a great culture, and cool things that get people involved (Field Report Fridays, Tech Talk Tuesdays, etc.). People whining about how shitty the culture and demographics are actually contribute to the problem (granted, there are some great points in your post). As in seduction, creating value instead of seeking value is the best policy. Crea…
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:21 PM
1

Yes, there are a lot of keyboard jockies, and yes, most of the content is generated by newbies. That's just our demographic, a bunch of socially anxious wannabes, a few intermediates, and maybe a handful of experienced guys. The only solution is to champion great posts and attract guys who are good, which is usually done by having a great subreddit culture. More fun = More value, right? Doesn't just work on girls...
/r/seduction08/08/14 04:11 PM
1

You have a filter in your mind of conversation. You determine subconsciously through your mood, context, subconscious and other factors, where it is set. You need to lower the filter. Talking about pretty much anything is OK, even bowel movements, getting boners, monster truck racing, etc. As long as you start talking and keep her engaged, it's pretty much all gravy. There are things that will help along the way, like well-phrased questions, teasing, threading, stories, games, etc., but they wil…
/r/seduction08/08/14 03:57 PM
1

/r/askseddit
/r/seduction08/08/14 03:52 PM
1

Rather than lazily calling you out for shitposting, I'll get specific with your post. He's fearless, has a great sense of humor, is very outspoken, doesn't care what people think of him, courageous, fights for justice (working for the DEA to find Heisenberg). He isn't scared of anything, and isn't afraid of a challenge. The value in this post is that acting in the face of fear is good ("courageous"), and being non-reactive is good, although Hank's actually very reactive and concerned about other…
/r/seduction08/08/14 03:50 PM
1

Can you provide me some insight into what kind of handicaps you have due to Aspergers? I'm trying to think about what concrete steps to take...
/r/seduction08/08/14 03:43 PM
0

Meet more girls, stop being a chode, have real life options Edit- not trying to insult, but you need to break out of your shitty habits.
/r/seduction07/08/14 08:56 PM
0

A) You're fucking needy, so stop doing that. Stop doing so many days in a row and so much texting. Space it out. B) Ask in /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction07/08/14 08:26 PM
6

? Yes.
/r/seduction07/08/14 11:34 AM
2

Stop trying to mindfuck yourself into feeling abundance and actually acquire some options. That means going out a buttload until you get some traction with the ladies. If you're going out as you claim (incidentally, how much are you going out and how many sets do you open per day?), you just need to keep going until you start hitting results. Watch your neediness go right out the window.
/r/seduction06/08/14 08:32 PM
1

DUDE!!! WHY ARE YOU RELEASING MY TOP SECRET TECHS HERE?! ARMPIT HAIR IS MY BUSINESS MODEL, BRO!
/r/seduction06/08/14 08:22 PM
1

She's got low self esteem. Don't compliment her because that doesn't align with her reality.
/r/seduction04/08/14 10:09 PM
1

Charles Atlas?
/r/seduction04/08/14 09:52 PM
1

Don't clarify your relationship intentions unless it's a dealbreaker for you. There's a time for that, and it takes place after you've been with each other for a while. In the meantime, treat it as a shit test.
/r/seduction04/08/14 09:45 PM
2

It happens. Try to stay on topic. If you learned something or did something interesting, feel free to share, but this post isn't necessary.
/r/seduction04/08/14 09:35 PM
1

How much older are we talking?
/r/seduction03/08/14 04:33 PM
7

You're making the same mistake I made when I was 16. Don't use generalities ("I always screw up", "I'll never get laid", etc.), don't dramatize reality, don't look for pity. This post is totally off-topic, but if you have some specific questions, the community will be more than happy to help. In the meantime, instead of thinking about this as a large overwhelming problem, why don't you get specific? Write down the specific problems you're facing in this area, and your specific difficulties in th…
/r/seduction03/08/14 04:31 PM
8

Shit test. This a crucial moment in which you cannot get thrown off. If a girl rejects my kiss, I usually shrug my shoulders and immediately change the subject, showing that it doesn't phase me.
/r/seduction03/08/14 03:59 PM
2

Her friend comes to meet us (she's been looking for her) and is totally pissed. I ease her up and get them to say at the bar for a bit Can you elaborate on how you defused the CB?
/r/seduction01/08/14 05:31 PM
1

Dude, you're a teenager. How would you know about this stuff?
/r/seduction01/08/14 04:13 PM
2

Sounds like she wasn't very attracted. See if you can tease her more. Use some push-pull. If your conversation is flatlining, you need to shake up the dynamic a bit. Hand-holding can be weird. A lot of girls (especially younger ones) are turned off by it, as it has this 'romantic' connotation. It's not a standard affectionate kino, so I wouldn't take hand-holding as the gold standard of IOI.
/r/seduction01/08/14 01:18 PM
1

Words cannot express how much I can't even... Incredible. It's like going into /r/sewing and saying "How do you sew stuff?"
/r/seduction30/07/14 06:32 PM
6

Nah, dude, the onus is on you to take the lead and set up dates. A girl might like you, but she also has options, and you'll have to do the work to make it happen. A girl might go through those hoops if she has nothing else going on, but that's a lot to stake all of your interactions on.
/r/seduction30/07/14 06:01 PM
3

Dude, 9/10ths of this post is you talking about how awesome your game is, and how everybody loves you. Instead of telling us about how awesome/crazy/validating your opens and number closes are, why don't you tell us about the actual problem: aka what happens after you've gotten attraction? Where are you finding difficulty? What are your sticking posts? Is there a specific issue that you're facing? This feels like a humblebrag post, instead of actually focusing on a real, solvable problem.
/r/seduction30/07/14 02:09 PM
1

Could you elaborate on how you run it differently than a lone wolf set?
/r/seduction30/07/14 04:24 AM
2

Awesome, man. I would strongly encourage you to do a quick write up about it, either here or as its own post. There are a whole lot of guys who could benefit from it, myself included. Regardless, thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction29/07/14 08:48 PM
1

Awesome. Do you isolate the girl, or talk to them both, or some combo?
/r/seduction29/07/14 08:11 PM
1

Forgive my cynicism and impertinence, but have you regularly done this with group sets in the daytime? I just want to make sure the thread doesn't end up with un-field-tested theories.
/r/seduction29/07/14 07:15 PM
2

If your feelings are normal and relatable, ABSOLUTELY share them. That stuff is great. If your feelings are abnormal, toxic or potentially disturbing, do not share them, as that will break rapport with a girl and lower your value.
/r/seduction29/07/14 06:46 PM
1

Keep your head up, bud! Just remember, it's all numbers and not personal. Getting your ass kicked is just nature's way of making sure you're paying attention! As long as you learn from each set, and improve, it's a success.
/r/seduction29/07/14 02:03 PM
2

You'll get the best results from warm results, specifically from hosting parties and gaining social proof. Depending on the size of your school, it might be a good use of your time to cold approach, but you'll get much more solid results if you know a lot of the right people and are among friends.
/r/seduction29/07/14 01:59 PM
2

You're better served asking girls who are good at this. If you're asking for my advice, wear flattering clothes and makeup, make yourself available even with friends - like standing apart from them, looking around, etc. Kino guys you like, arms, chest, hands. Don't get wastey face. Talk about your interests, outside of basic socializing and your job (assuming you have a normal office job). If he's with friends, push them onto your friends to make it easier.
/r/seduction27/07/14 10:17 PM
1

Are you making a joke?
/r/seduction27/07/14 09:54 PM
1

/r/askseddit
/r/seduction27/07/14 09:50 PM
1

Great story! Follow-up on the girl and learn your lessons from the set-isolation, managing logistics and reading cues.
/r/seduction27/07/14 09:25 PM
1

This is simple. Find a reason to get her alone in one of your rooms or somewhere, and escalate. No need to overthink it. Once you know she's into you, you just need an excuse to start physically escalating. She really won't need a good excuse to be alone with you if she likes you.
/r/seduction27/07/14 09:17 PM
0

I strongly recommend not taking it. Get some approaches under your belt first. I recommend rolling with local PUA's, a lair, guys off of Seddit, really any resource you can get your hands on. If you can't do it without RSD, and you've got money to burn, take a boot camp, as it's not helpful to watch videos of it. Also review your options before you commit to RSD, as there may be other local options with talented guys. Also, make sure you know what you're working with (natural skill level), what …
/r/seduction27/07/14 09:12 PM
1

DiCarlo Escalation Ladder
/r/seduction27/07/14 08:16 PM
1

It's not like you're doing a dress rehearsal. Every day is real life, and next year will be the same as today, with minor differences. Just kick yourself into a few sets, keep up the momentum and in no time you'll be killing it. That being said, nothing is going to fucking happen until you get into some sets. That's seriously your only job right now. Get into sets, the rest does not matter.
/r/seduction24/07/14 08:31 PM
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/r/askseddit
/r/seduction24/07/14 08:29 PM
1

Right, and I'm disagreeing that womens' shit tests are 'unnecessary, manipulative, dishonest, deceitful, petty and can potential[ly] cause harm to the relationship itself'. They are absolutely necessary, natural and not malicious. David Deida has a great write up on this in The Way of the Superior Man, but essentially, it's a normal and healthy response when a woman is attracted to you.
/r/seduction24/07/14 05:30 PM
1

Shit tests are not bad behavior.
/r/seduction24/07/14 04:42 PM
1

Moving around is fine. Jerky movement, suddenly snapping your head around, fidgeting (aka demonstrating nervousness) is not. Speaking normally is fine. Speaking slowly is more attention-getting. Facial expressions are fine, especially for jokes/gags involving facial expressions. Candidly exaggerated expressions as a reaction to other people or your environment is not.
/r/seduction24/07/14 04:19 PM
2

I responded to a similar issue earlier, so forgive the copy and paste: Hey, I believe this is symptomatic of smaller conversational issues, rather than a fundamental difference of personalities. Here's a few things to think about when you're talking to girls: How quickly are you speaking? How much are you moving around while talking? Are you laughing at your own jokes? Are you using a lot of hand gestures? Are you making good eye contact? Are you qualifying yourself too much? Are you standing up…
/r/seduction24/07/14 12:37 PM
3

Anyways, you can guess what came next. Tea?
/r/seduction23/07/14 05:47 PM
1

Whatever is most conversational, try it and let us know the results! I'm sure there's an abbreviated way of getting the point across.
/r/seduction23/07/14 05:19 PM
2

Get the girl to invest more in the conversation and work on qualifying her. Have her tell you personal things, like about her childhood or her secret fears, ambitions, etc. Ask questions where she has to prove herself, like "What would you say are your best traits?", "When's the last time you were [quality that she claims to have]"? or "What are you an expert in?", etc. Basically, get her talking, contributing and trying to gain rapport with you.
/r/seduction23/07/14 11:30 AM
1

Thank you! Yes, I forgot to add a time constraint if it looks like she's busy. TBH, I haven't used a time constraint much recently, and haven't noticed the difference, but it probably helps a little bit with girls who are either wary or in a rush.
/r/seduction23/07/14 11:26 AM
2

Dude... where I live, Trader Joes is a goddamn goldmine of girls, like- totally unbelievable. Never had any problem with the employees, though.
/r/seduction22/07/14 08:02 PM
4

If you honestly can't find one thing you like about her, then why are you still talking to her? If you're just looking to get your dick wet, you can just make up some bullshit, like how she's easy to talk to, but she'll probably see through that.
/r/seduction22/07/14 07:05 PM
3

Please don't try to 'invade minds' during night game. You're better off bringing fun and positive emotions to girls rather than exploring their minds and imagining out-of-body experiences.
/r/seduction22/07/14 06:41 PM
2

Dude this website is illegible. If it's yours, you need to seriously fix it up. The text is too dark and the multicolored texts look like '90s websites.
/r/seduction22/07/14 06:29 PM
11

If getting a number, first propose a specific event on a specific day- preferably one that you guys had mentioned earlier- and then get the number. I thought that covered that point pretty well, no?
/r/seduction22/07/14 06:19 PM
0

Regularly browsing Reddit.
/r/seduction22/07/14 05:33 PM
1

LOL You don't even need to be good looking or wealthy.
/r/seduction22/07/14 03:28 PM
1

That's not necessarily true. Doing a direct opener like that does work as a verbal IOI, but you're also demonstrating so many attractive qualities when you open her directly, that it's not a bad thing. If you've never gotten a date off of daygame, and you've done it a lot, you're doing something wrong and you need to troubleshoot it. I think I'm going to write a quick and dirty guide to daygame stuff, as it might be useful for guys who are having difficulty.
/r/seduction22/07/14 03:02 PM
3

This is more of a /r/relationships question.
/r/seduction22/07/14 02:54 PM
1

It's not a permanent change, it's just a decision that you make and generally continue to make. The first time I kind of 'got over' AA, I was doing daygame with a bunch of other PUAs and they were running up to girls and starting conversations that really didn't go anywhere. Anyways, I remember doing the same and feeling like I suddenly had options and control over a part of my life that had always been a problem for me.
/r/seduction21/07/14 09:19 PM
1

Hey, I believe this is symptomatic of smaller conversational issues, rather than a fundamental difference of personalities. Here's a few things to think about when you're talking to girls: How quickly are you speaking? How much are you moving around while talking? Are you laughing at your own jokes? Are you using a lot of hand gestures? Are you making good eye contact? Are you qualifying yourself too much? Are you standing up straight? Feet wide apart? How intense are your facial expressions? Ar…
/r/seduction21/07/14 07:39 PM
1

Hey man, I'm glad to see you're hitting "shit tests". Once you learn how to naturally handle them, you'll actually appear even more attractive to her instead of thrown off course. The basic idea of a shit test is she's testing whether you're as attractive or confident, etc. as you appear. She does that by trying to throw you off balance, either by teasing, complaining, insulting, physical, etc. The secret to beating it is not to resist or take it seriously. There's a few ways to handle it, as a …
/r/seduction21/07/14 05:42 PM
1

Shit tests are 100% real and are produced by attraction. If you're doing everything right, a girl wants to check to see if you are for real. If you're gaming correctly, you should expect shit tests. If she doesn't ever shit test you, she's probably not attracted to you.
/r/seduction21/07/14 05:30 PM
3

WAT
/r/seduction19/07/14 09:55 PM
1

If you're saying shit like that, you need to be 200% congruent and confident. If any part of you doesn't scream that you deserve and expect a good response, it will fail miserably. I'd stay clear of the more aggressive stuff off the bat if I were you.
/r/seduction18/07/14 09:24 PM
1

What's the breakdown? How many open, how many hook, how many #s?
/r/seduction18/07/14 09:18 PM
1

It's just a conversation, dude. Throw in some stuff that get you where you're going (teasing, joking, kino, eye contact, proximity, being unreactive, and smiling) and you'll see things happen. Just be curious about the girl. If you walk up licking your lips and don't learn anything unique about her and/or qualify her, you've got yourself a wooden number.
/r/seduction18/07/14 07:07 PM
1

She texted me back. I set up a date on Sunday. Hopefully you have time when you're not in a rush to see some value in the FR. I guess there's no pleasing some people, but I thought this might be helpful for you...
/r/seduction18/07/14 07:01 PM
1

No offense, but you've only been at this for a few months. I've been doing it for years. Last time in set? I'm literally looking for sets ATM. EDIT: Got the number of an asian girl (maybe a 6 or 7), but we'll hopefully be hanging out on Sunday. EDIT 2: I'm surprised that the FAQ doesn't cover it, but the glossary should give you an idea of what 'attraction' and 'comfort' are. If you've been doing this for years, you should be well aware of MM's old 3-stage attraction-comfort-seduction stuff.
/r/seduction18/07/14 05:45 PM
1

Do not go too high energy in the daytime. Saying crazy stuff and jumping around is try-hard and not socially appropriate. It is not the same as a nightclub.
/r/seduction18/07/14 12:35 PM
1

You're misunderstanding the source of flaking, and how to treat it. You don't prevent it by hammering on times, dates and specifics. You need either more attracting or comfort during the initial conversation. No amount of follow-up it's going to save a set that went nowhere.
/r/seduction18/07/14 12:30 PM
1

Did you spend time on comfort? I'm finding that attraction is not enough, nor even the most important element of daygame. If I was a betting man, a lack of comfort + shrugging off the date during the conversation + you trying very hard to firm up plans to which she is visibly noncommittal = flake.
/r/seduction18/07/14 11:53 AM
1

Master? I walked her back because she was tired and on the way she mentioned that she lived in a single bedroom. "It gets lonely though, I wish I had a friend there" So we stopped at her dorm and she just looked at me as if contemplating if we should go upstairs. Literally, just ask to use the bathroom. Go inside and start kissing her. Things should resolve themselves from there.
/r/seduction16/07/14 11:42 AM
1

Well, then... it sounds like your problem is pretty obvious, huh? Find someone where you live that is willing to go with you to a bar, etc. and push you into conversations. He can even start the conversation and bring you in later. You're going to suck, which is normal, but eventually you'll get better.
/r/seduction16/07/14 11:24 AM
1

Dude, it's one random girl's in-the-moment opinion. Unless you regularly hear feedback like this, don't overthink it.
/r/seduction16/07/14 02:03 AM
1

I disagree with steps 1 and 3. Don't choose a 'method'. If you have to, do it after figuring out the way that you naturally approach women, so you don't have to reinvent the wheel. Don't try to convince your friends about anything. Don't proselytize. Don't share this stuff with people who haven't asked.
/r/seduction16/07/14 02:00 AM
1

You're wondering if you, a guy who appears to be on par with the average PUA in their AFC days, can achieve something that's been done hundreds of times before, and which moreover has a clearly delineated progression map and resources to help you along? You're asking if working consistently at a goal could yield results? Whether a person can change their destiny through hard work? LOLOLOL the sooner you recognize this line of thought as bullshit, the better. It serves no purpose to ask extreme h…
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:54 AM
1

Have you gone out with a wing?
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:45 AM
1

Whatever blows your hair back, go for it. There's no 'better' or 'worse' beyond your own value system.
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:44 AM
1

/r/askseddit
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:33 AM
1

This is actually a low self-esteem problem. You believe that having no standards/preferences creates the most opportunity for meeting women. After all, if you have no criterion for what you're looking for, then 100% of women are potential targets. In point of fact, having no standards is fucked up for several reasons, will give you awful results, and doesn't reflect a successful guy's beliefs. Don't betray your own thoughts just to get laid- it usually won't work and it fucks with your self-wort…
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:23 AM
1

Not attracted enough. 'Good conversation' and dancing won't cut it. There needs to be sexual tension and strong comfort between the two of you.
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:17 AM
1

Don't do it, don't creep on your coworkers, don't put your job at risk.
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:13 AM
1

It's a bullshit cop-out if you REALLY want to talk to her. I've sprinted to talk to a girl before, and there's no shame in it if you can maintain your value once you start talking.
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:12 AM
1

LOLOLOLOLOL Dude, I found Ice T spittin' your favorite song!!!!
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:41 AM
2

Seduction Alexbass96 doesn't encourage lying FTFY. The only consensus established is that there doesn't need to be a consensus about lying. It's a personal choice and there's no point in moralizing over it.
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:37 AM
1

Fucked if I know, man, I'm in the US of A. I'm just aware of Leicester Square by reputation. It used to be known as "Molester Square".
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:29 AM
1

If they're walking away, take command in a casual way. "Two seconds, two seconds." "Hey, hold on." "Wait, come here a sec." Also, have you actually stopped them? Have they stopped moving? Slow down your speech once you have their attention while saying hello, and they'll stop to listen. Caveat: If you're doing this in Leicester Square or something, you'll have a hard time. It's really an issue of BL, social pressure and facial expression to get wary girls to slow down or stop.
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:12 AM
1

Just don't respond when you don't want to respond. Most girls of that age are so uncertain and looking for cues for correct behavior, they'll just assume that they're doing something wrong.
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:09 AM
-1

"Oh you can just find me on Facebook, I hardly ever respond to texts." Ouch. I know you think you recovered like a pro, but she just blew you out. She wasn't attracted to you.
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:07 AM
0

Dude... this is embarrassing. Next time bring her back to your dorm or her dorm and fuck her. It may already be too late.
/r/seduction16/07/14 12:01 AM
7

Dude, you're in /r/seduction. Your first step is to meet other women. Force yourself, if you have to. Meet more women. Sleep with more women. Go fuck ten other women. If, after you've been with all these women, you're still in that zone, then you have a problem to figure out. Don't concern yourself with how often you're checking the photos as long as you're staying on course and meeting new women.
/r/seduction15/07/14 11:55 PM
1

LOL. Dude, you've assumed about 20 things about me and my mindset. At the end of the day, if I have a goal, I want to do things that work. Do you not? If you're trying to pick up girls but use a tactic that doesn't help pick up girls, what's the problem with calling that out? If your aim is to feel good and get validation from butt grinding, but not get laid, then call a spade a spade and don't pretend it's a best practice for getting laid. Getting defensive about your results is the most tellin…
/r/seduction12/07/14 04:21 PM
1

So you've not had a lot of success with this tactic, then?
/r/seduction12/07/14 04:02 PM
1

Wow - that's a very high intensity situation. What percentage of the time does this turn into a result (#close and beyond)?
/r/seduction12/07/14 03:04 PM
1

So your advice is to force yourself to undergo state change and approach groups by hugging them? What about girls that aren't on the dancefloor?
/r/seduction12/07/14 02:23 PM
2

Beforehand, more sex jokes, strong kino, have a brief discussion about sex, better eye contact and proximity. LMR- DiCarlo escalation ladder, avoid state interrupts, freeze out if you hit a dead end. Two steps forward, one step back.
/r/seduction12/07/14 01:25 PM
0

It depends. Some girls are trying to just blow you off, some actually have boyfriends. If you want to avoid clown mode, just ignore it and keep escalating. Eventually, she'll either go with it or you'll find out it's true. There's no need to come up with a clever response, and there's no 'classy' response, either. Ignore and keep going.
/r/seduction12/07/14 03:45 AM
3

It's still not too late to anonymously report her to the police. She won't know, she doesn't know where you live, there's no possible fallout to this. Think of the dozens of people who have lost thousands of dollars to her thefts. Report them, and if she was telling the truth, and all of the purchasing info lines up, no harm no foul. If someone stole your shit, wouldn't you hope that somebody would do the right thing and tell the cops?
/r/seduction11/07/14 03:27 PM
1

Was she able to at least play that game without lying?
/r/seduction11/07/14 03:23 PM
2

...Why?
/r/seduction11/07/14 03:19 PM
2

You're overthinking it. At your age, just talk to her about it. I mean, you say you guys are dating. It shouldn't even be an issue. In point of fact, this is probably a better post for /r/relationships.
/r/seduction11/07/14 02:50 PM
1

Again, I'm a little annoyed that this should be in /r/askseddit, but I will begrudgingly answer your question. Intent is a lot of things. A lot of it is eye contact. Look deeply into one of her eyes. Occasionally do triangular gazing (flick eyes between her left eye, right eye and mouth). Get in close. Closer than you feel is appropriate. KINO. <-- KINO IS HUGE. Touch her arm when you make a joke. Grab her wrist when you're making an emphatic point. Once you've hit a certain comfort level, you c…
/r/seduction10/07/14 02:19 AM
1

This is an /r/askseddit post. Since it got through, somehow, here's my response: she's not attracted to you because you aren't behaving attractively. Learn attraction, which means a whole shitton of stuff that you need to learn by going out a lot and meeting a lot of women. Otherwise, you're just spinning your wheels, and /r/seduction won't be of any real use to you. EDIT: Reading it again, it sounds more like your issue was escalation and intent. You didn't try to make things happen, you didn't…
/r/seduction09/07/14 08:57 PM
0

Physical arousal keeps me going. Seeing some cute girl with a tight butt and stacked up top makes me want to talk to her, get her clothes off, and bang- simple as that. Also, I'm naturally a lonely person when I don't have a rotation, so keeping that going is always helpful for my mood. I naturally am needy for companionship.
/r/seduction09/07/14 08:39 PM
2

Ditto. It's so patronising to think that you can swoop in and either fix or break someone else without that being part of their agenda, as well.
/r/seduction09/07/14 08:31 PM
1

Nice one! We need more guys like you! Keep it up, and please post up some field reports where you feel you learned or saw something cool!
/r/seduction03/07/14 03:00 PM
1

All that is necessary for the triumph of keyboard jockeying is that good men do nothing. Seriously, though. If this is to be a functional community based on participation, and someone's involved with it beyond lurking, they should be contributing. If you're a married guy, provide insights that apply seduction and pickup to married life and LTRs. If you're not in the field, find some way that you can be of service (actual contributory service) to others here. If you are in the field (which you sh…
/r/seduction03/07/14 01:50 PM
-1

Is that what you're getting from what I'm saying? That I think it's all bravado? then some kind of "alpha" mentality where the only way to appear to have self confidence is to "take them by surprise" Seems pretty straightforward. Italics mine.
/r/seduction02/07/14 11:25 PM
-1

Is that really what you're getting from all this? That it's all bravado? I don't mean to offend, but it sounds like you're projecting. Being married doesn't make you exempt from criticism on this front. I'm also confused why you're here, in a thread specifically about meeting new girls.
/r/seduction02/07/14 09:23 PM
-2

Sounds like a white knight fluff response. You might have a good point, but 'talk' and 'laugh' aren't really actionable suggestions. In point of fact, there are many very natural moments (mostly in clubs, etc.) where you can go straight to making out without saying anything. Granted, these interactions are quicksilver and unless you have great logistics, its likely to slip through your hands afterwards.
/r/seduction02/07/14 08:55 PM
1

Meet up in person. Set a date. Don't engage in lengthy text conversations.
/r/seduction02/07/14 05:24 PM
2

Going direct correctly is often all the attraction that you need. It's ballsy and vulnerable. I sprinkle in some attract stuff throughout the interaction, like teasing and whatnot, but usually it's unnecessary. It's a daytime thing, which means you can quickly go into deeper topics to build more trust and rapport. Just be ready to share some deeply personal things and accept what she says without judgment.
/r/seduction02/07/14 05:03 PM
1

Gotta strike while the iron's hot. Things fizzled out over text.
/r/seduction02/07/14 04:58 PM
1

If you want to weed yourself out genetically because of self-pity, be my guest. The sooner you accept that you're not somebody else, the sooner you can accept who you are and work on that person. If Popeye could accept that he yam who he yam, you can too. Until you hit the ceiling where your looks alone are actually preventing you from getting better or better results, there's no need to complain. You still have an incredible amount of room to improve on factors that you can control. That starts…
/r/seduction02/07/14 04:50 PM
1

WTF are you talking about? It's rapey to physically escalate with a girl? What are you doing in this subreddit?
/r/seduction02/07/14 04:16 PM
0

You'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who's been running patterns these days. Especially on Seddit.
/r/seduction02/07/14 03:24 AM
4

TL;DR Not depression
/r/seduction01/07/14 12:48 PM
2

Easiest and most simple easy- see what her reaction is when you get out. If she's waiting by the front door, head out. If she's not in a rush to kick you out, ask for the tour.
/r/seduction30/06/14 06:25 PM
1

Just physically escalate once you guys are alone and comfortable with each other. If that doesn't work, pull back and make her laugh and then try again later on.
/r/seduction26/06/14 02:03 PM
1

Super super low % move. Wouldn't recommend this. If necessary, you can just briefly stop her and try to justify getting a quick #-close right off the bat. Again, the likelihood anything will happen is low, but that's your only option. I wouldn't recommend doing it unless the girl is just jaw-dropping and you'd kill yourself if you didn't talk to her.
/r/seduction26/06/14 01:45 PM
1

The sooner you start talking to them, the less scary they will become. Seriously, a little momentum will take you further than a year of reflection and building self-esteem, etc. Just start talking and let your natural intent and masculine polarity do the rest..
/r/seduction26/06/14 12:40 PM
0

Yes, with two exceptions- hugs or complex fake gangsta clap handshakes.
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:13 AM
1

Why is this in /r/seduction?
/r/seduction24/06/14 11:37 PM
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Dozens of frustrating missed opportunities will quickly sap these blunders of their novelty, especially if you're going out a lot. Better to use simple quick habits to avoid lengthy headaches, awkwardness and/or blue balls.
/r/seduction24/06/14 10:48 PM
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A flake is a flake. Calling it out is at worst awkward and at best a chance to requalify. You're calling so 'she has your number'. And if her phone rings, you can leave her a playful message right in front of her. Also a girl might screw up the entry of her number or accidentally delete/close the phone. Doing it yourself or double checking briefly afterwards will eliminate the problem.
/r/seduction24/06/14 10:44 PM
2

Cool, man. You getting laid? Dates? Any metrics you want to mention?
/r/seduction24/06/14 08:15 PM
0

What's sexist about kissing women?
/r/seduction24/06/14 08:13 PM
1

Articulate?
/r/seduction24/06/14 12:37 PM
2

Then you should recognize that you're using pickup as a way to avoid making real progress in your life. Deida specifically says that in a period of transition or soul-searching, that you not focus on women, because it can cloud your purpose and distract you from what's important. The more you fill your life with the drama and emotions of pickup, the less room you have for being present, being still and being centered.
/r/seduction24/06/14 04:14 AM
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You have a compulsion and/or an addiction to the validation and talking to girls is the habit you've created to feed that addiction. I strongly recommend talking to a therapist, because there is something in your life that you are not addressing that causes you to act on this impulse. If you choose to self-'medicate' in fixing this problem, I recommend you read David Deida's "The Way of the Superior Man". He explains in greater detail where women should fit in your life. I want to further state …
/r/seduction24/06/14 03:58 AM
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Dude, your story could have ended with you having two cokes! PRIORITIES!!!?!?!?!
/r/seduction24/06/14 03:53 AM
1

Yeah, it fucking works. Do some research and you'll see pretty much every instructor out there started out below average with women, and ended up gaining a whole lot of skills and momentum.
/r/seduction20/06/14 08:57 PM
2

Love it. Thanks for the footage, good to get content in here. I love his speech pacing, and he does pretty well with starting the conversation. His banter and teases are a little awkward, and dear lord he's bad with shit tests. I can't think of anything worse than asking someone to repeat themselves while you try to think of a response. Super awkward when that happens. Also, this guy is clearly not equipped to employ 'nervous guy game', when he clearly is just running confident/brash cool guy ga…
/r/seduction20/06/14 07:26 PM
1

I'll give you a ?, because that's some good trollin'.
/r/seduction20/06/14 06:02 PM
2

Nah, man. That's just you. I've been doing pickup off and on for like 8 years, and seddit is the least lay-oriented forum I've come across.
/r/seduction19/06/14 12:55 AM
1

He also contributed the term 'sarge', named after his cat. Still, all the later canned game was reverse engineered by Mystery as a nightclub 'magician'.
/r/seduction18/06/14 09:55 PM
1

You say that as if that's a problem. What we practice here is a series of skillsets, nothing more. There's nothing noble about it. It's like with knives- knives are just tools, but some people just blow their load thinking about how cool or beautiful a knife is, how powerful they feel holding one, or how tactical their carry can be. It only becomes about more than the tool when you start obsessing/fetishizing it. If a dude wants to get laid, and then he uses what he learns to get laid, then that…
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:24 PM
1

Depends whether they've invested points in small guns and/or agility.
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:13 PM
1

Wrong. Everyone has different goals and different paths reaching those goals. If someone is in an experimental or sow-your-oats mode, maybe that could and should be his goal.
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:09 PM
2

Loaded question. Who's to say there's only one goal for every single guy? Same deal for women. Validation, connection, understanding, stability, masculine polarity, freedom, excitement, marriage, babies, sex slaves, sponsors, etc. The list goes on. You have a few super super limiting beliefs here ('girls don't want sex', 'girls only want one thing', 'you are expected to want one thing', etc.). See if you can suspend your beliefs about others, and have them show/explain what they are looking for …
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:07 PM
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His whole shtick was that NLP is enough to get laid. His material was not regurgitated by the bigger names, although at one point or another they all tried using some of his stuff (patterns, weasel phrases, etc.), simply because that was the predominant culture at the time.
/r/seduction18/06/14 04:52 PM
1

Don't read too much about seduction. The better idea would be other types of self-improvement. Seduction is born in the field. Just like a sail is pointless without wind and a destination, advice is pointless without progress towards your personal goals. My recommendation is don't read until you have a specific problem that you're looking to solve. Models by Mark Manson might be the exception, as it focuses on mindset rather than straight up pickup. I recommend reading How to win friends and inf…
/r/seduction18/06/14 04:50 PM
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Dude, I do almost exclusively daygame. Of course, I live in a big city near a bunch of colleges and have that resource at my disposal. Kino is about calibration. As long as it makes sense that I do it (usually at a high point or a punchline), then it's not weird. No touching during daytime isn't an ironclad rule. It's about doing it in a natural way at a natural time.
/r/seduction16/06/14 09:12 PM
1

Definitely not enough momentum, aka not opening enough sets and keeping your emotional state high. Secrets to maintaining state include being very physical, moving around a lot, smiling intentionally, keeping your eyesight at or above the horizon, maintaining excellent body language, taking up space, touching people when you talk, seeking amusing thoughts in everyday scenarios, and obviously jumping into as many sets as possible to keep it rolling.
/r/seduction16/06/14 05:37 PM
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Some guys honestly need a day like that if they're looking to experience a paradigm shift. The most I've done was twenty and I found it exhilarating because it was the first time I felt I had permission to talk to strangers. 100 is for hard cases and they'll probably be in state the whole time because of how new and exciting it is.
/r/seduction16/06/14 05:15 PM
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There have been guys who go to Vegas and open 100 sets in a single day. Just sayin'. Now that I've just said, I appreciate that you're sharing what you've found works. That's in the spirit of this sub, and there's always value to be found with something like this.
/r/seduction16/06/14 02:28 PM
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Been all over Japan, no, that's not the case. Unless I'm the ugly one... :(
/r/seduction16/06/14 02:20 PM
1

Let's see a picture of the tattoo!
/r/seduction16/06/14 01:53 PM
6

No Ragrets
/r/seduction16/06/14 01:53 PM
1

There's no fucking way that you could intuitively sense that a girl is 'taken'. Sorry to call you out, but most of in-field work is digesting IOIs and handling logistics. If you're running a 2 minute mile and can parse out every interaction like the matrix, it's still going to be a game of battleship to figure out where her intentions lie. Case in point: tonight, I was flirting nonstop with this girl from Djibouti, and she was ditching friends and taking the initiative to talk to me alone, and I…
/r/seduction14/06/14 04:04 AM
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Strongly disagree. You can't tell if it's 100% legit until you escalate. Plenty of girls specifically aim to do that: get validation through flirting. The only way to find out is through kino and trying to bounce/isolate/escalate.
/r/seduction13/06/14 09:47 PM
1

You're exactly correct. Not sure why downvotes.
/r/seduction13/06/14 09:38 PM
2

Getting out more often. My friends don't go out to bars, etc. Going by myself sucks, and I can easily convince myself not to go.
/r/seduction13/06/14 09:35 PM
2

'Hello darkness my old friend... '
/r/seduction13/06/14 06:11 PM
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I recommend this, except you show up late (or not at all).
/r/seduction30/05/14 05:35 PM
1

In my mind, that's a total misconception. Every girl wants to feel comfortable and connected with a guy. Unless you have built-in 'safe' indicators, like going to the same school or knowing the same people, you still have to do the legwork of creating that frame, Canadian sluts included.
/r/seduction27/05/14 10:12 AM
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Disagree. When it comes to making a girl feel comfortable and developing a connection, showing that you are at least a curious and alert person will put you guys in the same 'group'. I have the same problem gaming hoodrats- not much in common.
/r/seduction27/05/14 04:21 AM
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What part of 200 approaches without disaster isn't clear to you? If they're surprised, just smile and pace their reality, and you're back on track. A recipe for disaster is not smiling, or garbling your opener, or having garbage posture and body language.
/r/seduction27/05/14 01:19 AM
1

Well, when you're dealing with girls on the move, that's often the only way to approach them.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:19 PM
1

I disagree with a few things you said, but I mostly disagree that Wayne was the third coach of the community.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:10 PM
2

I've done maybe 200 daytime approaches from behind. It's usually only a small obstacle, not a game killer like everyone describes. Maybe you personally have had problems with it, but no need to crap on the idea.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:06 PM
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Exactly. Keeping perspective is always tough when you're with girls. So much weird biological and evolutionary machinery is in play, and keeping your head on straight and not being swayed by it is an almost zen experience. You are the unmoving rock in the rushing stream. It's like if a girl is trying to make you jealous by rolling up on another guy when you take a bathroom break, and you have to step back mentally, remind yourself that it's just another day of the week, and then roll back into t…
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:35 PM
0

Diff'rent folks, diff'rent strokes. Like in sales, it's about the needs of the client. If you can fulfill their needs, then bully! Good job! One of the few universal things that women can 'get' from men is fun. While it may seem like a good question to ask, couching it in terms of exchange of goods/services isn't helpful for your game, especially if you're unsure of what you have to offer, pessimistic or have low self-esteem. Pragmatically, thinking of it in more abstract terms, focusing on what…
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:20 PM
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I wouldn't sweat it yet, dude. Three girls is too small of a sample size too start drawing conclusions, even though inthe moment it probably feels like you are responsible.
/r/seduction23/05/14 06:25 PM
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I agree with parts of this. Talking to girls without being overly invested is good. Pushing forward (bounce, pushing for close) is good. Taking rejection in stride and as a natural part of meeting women is good. However: I don't agree with pushing for a bounce after only 2 minutes. 2 minutes in a set is a lot more brief than it sounds on paper. I don't agree that you should aim for, nor expect, a same-day lay off a daygame approach. Daygame lends itself to making connections and time bridging. I…
/r/seduction09/05/14 04:44 PM
1

I recommend taking this to /r/relationships. They deal with stuff like that pretty often.
/r/seduction02/05/14 06:06 PM
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I STRONGLY support this move. Two of the biggest cancers are "So, there's this one girl" and "Here's why I'm different" posts. Without them, maybe we can focus on growing and learning. Thank you for making this move. I know it's a big burden to moderate that stuff, but it's a great investment for the community.
/r/seduction29/04/14 09:04 PM
3

Me fail English? That's unpossible!
/r/seduction28/04/14 06:40 PM
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I would say 'not going for the numbers' is only a valid rationalization once you've done your due diligence. If you don't have enough experience under your belt, 'not going for the numbers' is a cop out to avoid facing your fears, etc. Until you've been going out and have a solid gameplan and know what an entire evening should look like from meet to whatever, you won't be prepared for the girl who is the outlier you're looking for. If you're the guy who's worked his butt off for years to get his…
/r/seduction28/04/14 04:39 PM
3

Slam her against a slightly open door while holding her. This makes a noise and looks dramatic, but isn't actually painful (the door absorbs most of the impact). Field tested. I like licking a girl's ear. I find most girls either enjoy it or find it ticklish. Kind of weird, but sometimes weird is good. Pick her up, move her around. Much easier if you're taller than her. Elaborating on the previous point: Pick her up in an over-the shoulder carry, or a ?newlywed's carry?, and literally throw her …
/r/seduction28/04/14 04:15 PM
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Have you done this IRL? You say "she usually laughs"; does that mean you regularly say that when you meet up for a first date?
/r/seduction28/04/14 04:01 PM
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Downvoting because that's not germane to the subreddit. Seduction is about more than just being confident, and whether you choose to acknowledge ideas like this doesn't alter their value. As always, feel free to not use it, but no need to poop on an idea that might help others.
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:59 PM
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That sounds like a good way to get her invested to reduce the chance of flaking. Thanks!
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:57 PM
1

"The best game is not to game". Can you help me understand what you mean by that? Do you mean that you intend to stop trying to chat up women?
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:41 PM
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UH.... The value I get from your post is don't act try-hard. That being said, how to get laid as George Clooney has nothing to do with your average redditor. We don't have international recognition, a household name, incredible good looks, known social status and connnections, and social proof coming out of our ears. There's no girl out there looking to bang you just so she can tell all her friends she banged you. You can't get into every club without waiting in line and having a table and drink…
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:35 PM
1

Partially Undressed Accountant
/r/seduction27/04/14 06:49 PM
1

Get a wing.
/r/seduction27/04/14 06:47 PM
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If she really is getting hit on left and right and is being approached by a hundred dudes in one night, you gotta use a neg. Nothing mean, just give a friendly IOD.
/r/seduction27/04/14 06:44 PM
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Ignore. I wouldn't even agree & amplify, as this is a confrontational shit test, and moving in that direction doesn't move the set forward.
/r/seduction23/04/14 03:33 AM
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Anything is interesting to someone if you put it in a context that interests them. Why do you lift? What stories do you have about it? How does lifting fit into your lifestyle? Are your experiences with exercise relatable to her experiences? Although you may find nutrition and technique exciting, it won't help without a meaningful context. First catch her attention, then you can explain the nuts and bolts of it. DO NOT launch into a rant; pay close attention to her interest and comfort levels. N…
/r/seduction23/04/14 03:26 AM
1

You already know the answer from other times you've asked about this. Here's what you need to do: stop being a pussy, stop making yourself a 'victim', and stop looking for pity. Either commit to change or allow yourself to suck forever until you die. No one's coming to save you and change your life for you. If you want change, stop broadcasting your sob story to every subreddit and start following up on it.
/r/seduction23/04/14 03:17 AM
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Do you have a job? That definitely could change things. Now, you're asking two different questions. As far as finding intellectual/knowledgeable bookworms, you're in a pickle. Two of the most important values for them are curiosity and creativity, and you've said that you don't care for art, cinema, science, etc. Are you sure these are the girls you want? Obviously you need to spend time at venues where you'll find these girls. It helps if you are in a city or near a college. As far as purpose, …
/r/seduction23/04/14 03:08 AM
1

Is this daygame?
/r/seduction21/04/14 02:06 AM
1

Is it just you and your girlfriend? Are you standing somewhere where guys could easily walk up to you? Are you smiling? Friendly?
/r/seduction11/04/14 04:19 PM
1

No worries. Of course you could blur out your face, but I won't press the issue if the idea gives you the willies.
/r/seduction11/04/14 03:00 PM
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I'm straining my mind trying to believe you. But hey, if it somehow magically works for you, use what works, I suppose. Incidentally, could I see a picture of you wearing the hat?
/r/seduction11/04/14 02:55 PM
1

Everything would be fine as wine if she hadn't used the word 'rape'. That immediately puts me on my guard, even if she's using it in that context. You can easily bang her if you hang out again, but dear lord- do you want to?
/r/seduction11/04/14 02:53 PM
2

That goes beyond fashion don't. Just stop wearing it, bro.
/r/seduction11/04/14 02:50 PM
3

Agreed. One in five is approaching legendary numbers.
/r/seduction11/04/14 02:44 PM
1

Question: Root means sex?
/r/seduction04/04/14 09:15 PM
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Don't freak out. It's normal to have problems. For right now, recognize that it's your first day and you're still a mess. Trust that most of these problems will go away without you having to do a lot of work on it. Just breathe, and speak slowly. Focus on literally speaking 1/2 as fast as a normal person talks. Once you get a bunch of approaches under your belt and it starts to feel like familiar territory, a lot of the nervousness and anxiety you feel will start to dissipate. SIDE NOTE: I reali…
/r/seduction04/04/14 09:01 PM
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The disconnect here is that you have standards of behavior and an abundance mentality. Some people aren't getting that.
/r/seduction04/04/14 08:53 PM
0

Immediately open another set. Keep your emotional state and momentum going and take it to another set.
/r/seduction31/03/14 08:10 PM
3

I always thought that 'have you seen [name]' was used to bring your wing into the set.
/r/seduction31/03/14 08:02 PM
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You're missing one of the greatest sources of leverage you can have on yourself: other people. Find a wing (maybe there's a lair in your new city). Also, recognize that your money is on the line. You're spending all kinds of money and time on this. If you don't approach, you're out hundreds of dollars and day(s) of personal time. Start with warmups, asking people for time. The faster you warm up, the easier it will be to start approaching. If you have to, drink some alcohol beforehand, although …
/r/seduction31/03/14 04:54 PM
1

Generally, if you go over and start talking to a guy, it will go well. Most of the guys who might not be as receptive are actually shy, confused or in disbelief that you're really doing that- they suspect it's a prank or robbery or something. So just have patience in letting the guy get comfortable talking to you (shouldn't be more than a minute or so of awkwardness). That being said, I'm a guy, and there are probably girls who know more about this than me.
/r/seduction31/03/14 04:50 PM
3

I'm photoshopping in like 3 David Hasselhoff's into every picture of me.
/r/seduction28/03/14 09:10 PM
0

Plenty of people meet each other in the gym. People are chatting with lifting buddies or trainers, etc. all the time. There's no reason you can't be talking to girls before/after a workout or in between sets. You don't want to be the douche-bag who goes to the gym to hit on girls; Why is it more douchey to hit on girls in the gym than, say, the beach or the supermarket or the library? let's face it, you look like an asshole [hitting on girls] when you should be working on your own physical abili…
/r/seduction28/03/14 03:47 PM
1

Well, there's two questions here. How do you get girls and how do you change who you are fundamentally. First, getting girls: don't fake the funk. Make the attractive aspects of your personality be something that she earns and discovers, rather than the upfront packaging. Woman fucking LOVE finding out the bad boy has a heart of gold. Don't pretend to be unselfish or pleasant if you're not. As long as you're not a DICK, it can be attractive to women. As for changing yourself and your motivations…
/r/seduction26/03/14 10:01 PM
1

/r/askseddit
/r/seduction26/03/14 09:22 PM
2

Use your mocking girl imitation and say "Everybody wants to fuck me!"
/r/seduction26/03/14 09:18 PM
1

That face means she's extremely uncomfortable. You'll usually get this during the day, so going direct will explain the context of why you're approaching her. Just start talking, and maybe lean back a little to give her some space if she is initially repulsed, and keep talking until she knows who you are and gets an idea of what you're about. When an aggressive panhandler runs up on me, I'm probably the same- initially alarmed and hesitant to engage them in conversation because they are unknown …
/r/seduction26/03/14 09:16 PM
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23% investment in her, 47% investment in you. If you stray beyond a 4% difference, the investment ratios will be off and you will lose the set due to inflation. Remember to keep your portfolio diverse and WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT go out and try to pick up women yourself, because you run the risk of actually leaving your room and trying something new.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:28 PM
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/r/askseddit
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:24 PM
1

The number is garbage in a setting like this. When it comes to interactions like this, you want to close the sale that night.
/r/seduction21/03/14 01:20 PM
10

That is the most bullshit thing I have ever read. Rationalize all you want, but at the end of the day, you're either hunting or you're sulking like a child.
/r/seduction21/03/14 12:36 PM
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Well, that would require more people out in the field actually making useful posts and sharing insights and techs, and Seddit is pretty much a whole bunch of guys sitting in front of keyboards writing stuff they heard, but have never applied in an effort to feel better about themselves. If we spent half the energy we spent rationalizing our lack of approaches and time in-field, there'd be a lot more useful content here.
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:43 PM
6

My understanding is that the persistence we're talking about here is persistence in escalation, i.e. pushing towards the next step (isolation, extraction, bounce, etc.)
/r/seduction20/03/14 08:41 PM
1

Yeah. I'm at best average looking, and I don't have many flattering pictures.
/r/seduction19/03/14 02:19 AM
0

So, there's this girl.... Bro. Take it to /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction17/03/14 09:19 PM
12

What the fuck are you doing on /r/seduction?
/r/seduction16/03/14 05:23 PM
1

My reasoning? If you want talent, you have to attract them. When it comes to guys who are very skilled, why would they want to spend their time in a forum where most people are debating the friendzone or asking how to date the girl they saw in the library? Fostering a productive atmosphere leads to more developments and a dynamic place for intermediate and advanced level insights. I guess that's not the moderator's goal, however. I would almost consider starting my own subreddit just for pickup …
/r/seduction14/03/14 07:28 PM
3

I definitely judge people who post on a seduction forum that don't go out and do the damn thing. I think it's ridiculous to read field reports and techs and then later rationalize it as self-improvement by osmosis. Reading a field report doesn't change who you are and how you act. Living in the real world, instead of somebody else's reality, will change who you are.
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:29 PM
2

Upvote for the phone charger thing. It's the first thing people ask when they stay over, plus that's a great way to get a free one. Just gotta get to a decent hotel.
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:26 PM
3

I'm a 12 yo at a top engineering school, and I'm SURROUNDED by dimes! I invited over Halle Berry to do some 'homework', and a gentleman never tells, but let's just say the sweatband in my fedora got a real workout!
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:11 PM
2

Actually, there isn't one that's just straight up PUA stuff. /r/pickup was around for a bit until it got banned for being un-PC. I find it annoying how /r/seduction is more about keyboard jockeying and backwards rationalizing and shaming than about pickup. I for one, would love finding /r/howtobangsluts
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:02 PM
1

You don't need to do more things. All you need is more women. Having more hobbies, etc. is an optional and partial solution.
/r/seduction11/03/14 08:31 PM
1

Then I guess I'm confused what your question is. If you're asking how you can start a successful relationship without putting any emotional skin in the game, you can't. Eventually, you must emotionally invest in someone else and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm referring only to emotional detachment from the process, from the 'inevitable manure of human drama', from the temporary inconveniences and dramas and successes and failures. You don't want to be emotionally detached from people.
/r/seduction11/03/14 12:21 AM
1

Kind of a wrongheaded way of looking at it, but there is a kernel of truth to the idea that you're artificially distracting yourself. If you're coming from a place of neediness, you'll be dealing with neediness, scarcity mentality and a whole bunch of unhelpful chemicals and hormones. The point of all of it is simply to keep perspective. Dating one person at a time is archaic and kind of clunky if you want a satisfying relationship. Rather than start seeing one person, then stop and start dating…
/r/seduction10/03/14 09:06 PM
2

DUDE. You're coming through with no flavor. You're just Tofu Man, surrounding her and trying to absorb her flavor. Work on your own flavor, and invite her along for the ride. Don't text everyday unless you expect her to respond. More importantly, you obviously have nothing else going on. Get something else going on. Have options. Talk to/sleep with new girls, plan social events, have your own life. Only the neediest girls want some vanilla guy to glom onto her. The only way for you to regain per…
/r/seduction10/03/14 07:48 PM
1

You're coming from a real disadvantage. Are you in school? If you're in school, that's where you're going to get some serious game done. Unless you refuse to meet girls your own age, stick to high school while you're in high school.
/r/seduction10/03/14 07:39 PM
1

Talking to women has so many benefits. Not just skillset, situational comfort, sexual opportunities, etc, but also a change of viewpoint or a new worldview if you do it long enough.
/r/seduction10/03/14 06:14 PM
5

Open lots of women, create abundance of options and opportunity.
/r/seduction10/03/14 03:57 AM
1

There's no silver bullet solution to this. You can't skip the learning curve.
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:51 PM
1

I've found that for myself and others that I've spoken to about it, adding/focusing on single elements of game to their MO in a piecemeal fashion has been more effective than adopting a completely new framework and trying to do everything at once. People who think knowledge is the solution read way too much and experience paralysis by analysis. They have too many things to remember and keep in mind, as well as an unrealistic expectation of how the conversations will progress (i.e. they will suck…
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:49 PM
2

Well, it's still worth checking out. Don't get into an echo chamber mentality. There's plenty to learn from all kinds of sources.
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:20 PM
1

TL;DR GFTOW
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:10 PM
1

If you're not looking to meet women, you might be better served over at /r/socialskills.
/r/seduction06/03/14 08:06 PM
2

Nice one. Thanks!
/r/seduction04/03/14 05:01 PM
1

Is a lapel mic obvious when you're in the field? Do you attach it somewhere less visible?
/r/seduction04/03/14 04:40 PM
1

What was the recording equipment you used? Do you regularly get high quality recording without a lot of shuffling and rub-up ambient sound?
/r/seduction04/03/14 04:33 PM
9

I agree that it encapsulates the Zeitgeist of the sub. Not getting laid and rationalizing failures.
/r/seduction28/02/14 09:03 PM
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You need to be less needy. The only real cure for that is options aka abundance mentality. Unless you think you can brainfuck yourself into having that abundance mentality, you can only get it by talking to a butteload of girls. Further advice: Do not seek a relationship, don't try to force a relationship. See multiple women and if you like one particular girl, you'll usually organically find yourself seeing the other girls less and less. That's the gist of how it works. Don't settle, don't get …
/r/seduction26/02/14 03:17 AM
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The less of a threat you appear to be, the more aggressive you can be with kino. Touch some butts.
/r/seduction26/02/14 03:13 AM
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You're probably being a dickhead. It's easy to confuse DGAF and being a dickhead. There's nothing wrong with being nice and considerate. If you're naturally a nice person (and there is nothing wrong with that), then you will naturally be nice to others. Just don't do it because someone else wants you to. Also, stop focusing on these 2 girls. Meet more girls, like literally thousands more.
/r/seduction25/02/14 10:57 PM
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I was under the impression that it was unconfirmed that he used steroids, and the reason for his death was a congenital heart defect.
/r/seduction25/02/14 10:44 PM
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200 approaches isn't that many. If you get numbers from 120, messed around with a few girls and got 2 lays, then you're on your way. Just keep approaching. As far as troubleshooting, what happens with the numbers? Do they pick up or text you back? Do you go on dates? How long do you talk to these girls? What's the context? Incidentally, it sounds like you might want to put the internet dating on the back burner. 40 numbers off of thousands of messages isn't a great use of your time. EDIT: ALSO! …
/r/seduction25/02/14 10:34 PM
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Punishment isn't going to help. I speak from a guy who struggled with AA for years. Find incentives and motivators. Find ways to get leverage on yourself to approach. Go with someone who forces you to approach. Put something of value on the line. Have a friend slap you in the balls if you're hesitating to force your ass in gear and walk up to her. Get super horny and let that desire propel you towards her.
/r/seduction25/02/14 10:25 PM
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Whatever you wear, make sure it fits you perfectly. Generally, the rule of thumb is dress a little better than everyone else at the venue. A little flashier, a little more clued in, a little bit more interesting. Don't pull a Mystery and go with black nail polish, 80 accessories, fingerless gloves, stilts and feather boas, because they almost certainly have nothing to do with your identity. That dude is a magician, and that's why he dresses like Criss Angel. /r/malefashionadvice is a great place…
/r/seduction25/02/14 10:16 PM
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Loving the pro:beginner ratio. It's as close as you could get to figuring out signal:noise or PUA:keyboard jockeys.
/r/seduction25/02/14 09:38 PM
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Alternatively, do not read Rules of The Game. It's kitschy and routine-based and comes from a dude who kind of sucks (dude who threw everyone he met under the bus to get a story and rationalize his relationship with Lisa Leveredge, who dumped him less than a year later.) There's plenty of great resources out there, like RSD's Blueprints, Tyler and Mystery's old mASF archives, Models from Mark Manson, the list goes on.
/r/seduction25/02/14 06:58 PM
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You only get comfortable doing after you've been doing it for a while. Like all things, you start off in a pain period as you take on new and unfamiliar behaviors. You're looking to stay in your comfort zone, but you can't expand your comfort zone without pushing your own boundaries. Go out ASAP and push yourself. There is no silver bullet, no tricks, no prep, no rehearsal. Go out, get nervous, push yourself and work through it, start conversations and just keep the momentum going. The more cons…
/r/seduction25/02/14 06:55 PM
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If you don't approach the girl, you get a slap to the nuts. Very effective!
/r/seduction20/02/14 10:15 PM
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Just being pedantic, but unless you live in an insanely high-quality city like NYC or LA, you're probably not running across a lot of honest-to-goodness 10's. Especially considering you wrote: Where I live I couldn't imagine actually coming across 30 females I'd be interested in. Just remember, there are girls out there who could blow these girls out of the water and make them look straight up dumpy. You're rolling up to mall workers and waitresses.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:46 AM
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This is spot-on. Too many keyboard jockeys throwing out garbage advice. Field experience is king.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:39 AM
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Dude, I hope to goodness you don't come off this socially retarded challenged in real life. I feel like I'm reading Napoleon Dynamite's brother's forum posts over here.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:34 AM
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Just to piggyback onto this, Mark Manson goes pretty in depth about this kind of vulnerability in Models.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:22 AM
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She's just not that into you. Three consecutive times rejecting your advances? Have some self-respect and invest your time accordingly. Since you like her, keep her on the back burner, but definitely focus on making something else happen. Worst case scenario, you're meeting new girls. Best case scenario, you un-needy yourself and un-fuck your situation or she gets jealous and she wants you back.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:19 AM
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... are you joking? Looking back at your earlier posts to seduction, I can't tell if you're doing some kind of trolling or you genuinely have these opinions. In case of the latter, DO FUCKING NOT use the girl fight routine to open someone that you share a class with. You don't need to fabricate a context to start a conversation.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:15 AM
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Give more context in the opener about why you want to be talking to her. Also, stretch it out so she can process it (I recommend giving your reasoning for coming over to talk to her). Don't jump straight to the time bridge, unless you have a plausible reason (like you have to leave and don't have enough time for a conversation). Girls almost universally appreciate it if you do it correctly (i.e. not needy and reaction-seeking and not jumping out from behind a bush or something). Most of the time…
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:10 AM
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Dude, this is the most literal and bare-bones value-sucking I've ever seen. Don't you fucking dare insist on drawing your emotions and reality from others. Create it yourself. Wanting others to give you good emotions will sink your game completely.
/r/seduction19/02/14 03:01 AM
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Make sure that you're not supplanting sex with porn or masturbating too much. You have to genuinely need to get laid. Having that real fire lit under your ass will be motivating. Eventually, your desire and arousal will overcome any objections you could come up with. Sometimes, horniness and intent can trump lousy inner game. Obviously, you should also be working on your inner game, as well (e.g. investing your time and emotions in productive ways, rewarding yourself, honoring your thoughts and …
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:58 AM
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I think just a genuine smile/laugh should do the trick. Usually in those situations, if it's actually fucking with your 'flow', the first thing that comes to mind to say or retort is something reactive and unhelpful. Being unreactive and not letting that energy infect the conversation is key. Hey, you can always isolate her to a different area to avoid the catcalls.
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:54 AM
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Dude, please don't suggest stuff you haven't personally field tested. If we're concerned about signal:noise ratio, it's not helpful to have people throw out completely unverified ideas and techs. Try stuff out on your own, preferably a dozen times or so, and then come back and share that with the community.
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:50 AM
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1) If she's genuinely upset about it, either be understanding or make jokes to shake up the mood of the convo (e.g. "Yeah, I hate getting all those catcalls."). If she's just saying it as a shit test or idle conversation, just do your best teasing imitation of her voice and say "Everybody wants to fuck me!" 2) Sounds extremely contextual. Is she saying it right off the opener? Step back, pace+lead, switch back to jokes. Is she saying it when you try isolating/bouncing? She's either shit testing …
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:44 AM
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Either jokes or just say "I'm not in any exclusive relationships right now." It's better to leave it unanswered with full disclosure early on. If it's someone you're seeing, you should be 100% straight up about it.
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:27 AM
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Most of the time I never even take a girl's bra off because it sets off too many slut alarms. You may just have to pull the panties to the side. That's actually some great advice. I've also tried the panties and pants in one grab maneuver with only moderate success; it's usually too abrupt.
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:14 AM
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Awesome! Great job leading, and a very useful FR!
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:08 AM
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Counterpoint: It's the quintessential shit test, and it's also definitely a shit test, and furthermore I would call that a shit test.
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:05 AM
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Right! Next you'll tell me nobody's ever heard the expression, "She's a nice girl, but she sells dancing boots to the goat mayor by the highway."
/r/seduction19/02/14 02:00 AM
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Here's my thoughts: Your attraction needs work Don't be needy You're being needy Move on
/r/seduction19/02/14 01:31 AM
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Eye contact, varying proximity, slow and deliberate speaking, kino (especially for emphasis), descriptive language
/r/seduction12/02/14 01:47 PM
2

Cubing has been around since Ross Jeffries.
/r/seduction12/02/14 01:37 PM
1

It's super on-topic, feel free to contribute something that speaks to that. Strangers waving at a pedestrian is not seduction.
/r/seduction12/02/14 12:12 AM
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Well, I was saying waving can be part of seduction. If you're talking about someone on the street who just decides to wave at a passing stranger, who fucking cares? Do you, let them do them. This isn't /r/socialnicities and you're not Emily Post. Let's stay on-topic.
/r/seduction11/02/14 11:51 PM
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This is not helpful. Incidentally, waving to somebody works fine.
/r/seduction11/02/14 11:32 PM
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You're in a passive frame of mind. Get active. Shake out your arms, stand up, turn directly towards her, and walk in a straight line to her, then say, "Excuse me. " Your brain will do the rest.
/r/seduction11/02/14 11:28 PM
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Alternatively, tell them the time.
/r/seduction16/01/14 08:39 PM
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How is this crap being upvoted? Obviously, there's more to it than looks. Having to even explain this feels... stupid.
/r/seduction16/01/14 08:21 PM
2

Also, learn how to talk to girls and get laid... no amount of lifestyle pruning will instantly flip the Casanova switch for you.
/r/seduction13/01/14 07:35 AM
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I messaged 300 women that week with a simple message "Why haven't we had sex yet?" Only about 70 responded over the course of the next couple weeks. Emphasis mine. 25% response rate is god-tier. Are you a known person (local celebrity) or an extremely attractive guy?
/r/seduction07/01/14 11:49 AM
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Don't bring that lazy and glib garbage onto this subreddit.
/r/seduction06/01/14 04:38 AM
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If you hardly know the girl, then you will look like a fucking creeper Not true. You are coming from an avoidant mindset than a pursuant mindset. Often an aggressive open will create the attraction that allows a guy to be physically aggressive with her, like a manifest destiny. If he's ballsy enough to do it, then he's attractive enough for her to let him.
/r/seduction06/01/14 12:45 AM
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Woah... there is almost no correlation between how attractive and how sexually adventurous a girl is. Also, who wants a handjob on the ride home?
/r/seduction04/01/14 02:10 AM
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I recommend getting drinks, not dinner. It's probably too late by now, but it's much less intense, and you both get drunk and conversation will flow much better then.
/r/seduction03/01/14 11:16 PM
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We were both pretty drunk The following day I messaged her with a pictures of a sock of hers I stole she hadn't decided on [giving me] her number I followed up with a bit of light hearted banter thinking I would get another reply. I haven't... I'll let Roy Orbison explain where you are in the seduction.
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:38 PM
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The best answer is, use a wingman to occupy the other girl. If you're by yourself, you have to manage them both if you can't pawn the friend off onto somebody else.
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:27 PM
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...LOL @ your helpful advice. Have you tried rolling up on a 2 set and ignoring the 2nd girl IN REAL LIFE?
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:25 PM
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Fuck good Don't be needy (bolded specifically for you, since you sound needy as balls) Text her at night to come over and bang
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:23 PM
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I think it's an app.
/r/MensRights29/12/13 05:55 PM
1

Compare it to a baby carrot.
/r/seduction27/12/13 01:41 AM
2

Random girls on the street? Why do you care if they make eye contact with you? Unless you talk with them, eye contact isn't helpful. If you want to talk to a girl, talk to her. If you're waiting for eye contact, you're too reaction seeking. And if you just want girls to look at you, you need to pump the brakes and realize how NEEDY this mindset is. You're better off in a therapist's chair dealing with your validation problems
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:48 PM
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Long eye contact. Slow down the rate of speech. Get extremely close to her. Kino. Be playful, but not nervous gay friend playful. Double entendres, humorous sexual misinterpretation, roleplay Make sure you have isolated her!!!
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:27 PM
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Don't do research on girls' hair styles. It does not generate attraction, wastes your time and you lose the opportunity to ask about her hair while touching it. Plus, doing research on women's hairstyles is the lamest thing ever, just so you can do what? Sound like you work in a salon?
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:19 PM
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No. It is not a 'rule'. Cut off unhelpful threads. If you're getting rapport and want to get to know her, lead her talking about herself. If she's doing what most hot girls do when they start talking, she's probably complaining about shit that doesn't concern you. If she's boasting, allow her to qualify herself to you.
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:14 PM
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The answer of 'why' is easy. Alcohol is a poison which messes with your ability to process sensory information, and slows your rate of processing information. Because your body and brain are struggling to keep up, your awareness is limited to the present moment. You have the same impulses when you're sober, but the editorial or suppressive part of your brain is less active. Thus you shout when you feel like shouting because you can't maintain the dichotomy of action AND consequence in a social s…
/r/seduction28/11/13 04:00 PM
1

Women literally prefer SOME retards over SOME smart guys
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:43 AM
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I'm on my smartphone so I can't find it right now, but Tylerfrom RSD has a video just about this. Look it up.
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:34 AM
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Sex is, among many other things, a skill set. Playing tennis once doesn't make someone a different person, same with sex. Paying a bunch of money because you think that will change who you are is ridiculous. Your problem can be solved by meeting more women, eventually you'll become inured.
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:32 AM
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1000$? That's some top shelf governer's-mistress-type pro.
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:24 AM
0

That was incredible. "I eat carrots."
/r/MensRights17/11/13 07:00 PM
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You are wasting your life if you have urges to die or kill yourself and leave those feelings unexamined. You should know very well that those feelings extend beyond the scope of this subreddit and that you owe it to yourself to see a professional and figure out what options you have. I guarantee the decision to ignore your feelings and instincts will haunt you more than not having a girlfriend right now. Beyond that, just remember there's nothing you can do to fix this. It's one of those things …
/r/seduction02/11/13 11:10 PM
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No sex for a month
/r/seduction02/11/13 06:35 PM
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If she's underage, it's funny and you laugh it off while you look for another girl. Or hey, you could continue talking to them, because a conversation is a conversation. Just keep an eye on your peripherals for Chris Hansen.
/r/seduction31/10/13 07:10 PM
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Don't masturbate, don't look at porn or titillating photos of models.
/r/seduction26/10/13 07:31 AM
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It's too soon to put labels on this. You guys haven't had sex yet, no need to rush and define what it is. Play it by ear.
/r/seduction26/10/13 07:31 AM
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Is there a link or something that you're trying to share? I feel like you're referring to something...
/r/seduction22/10/13 05:45 PM
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Also, it's a pretty ridiculous marketing technique. "Do this or you WILL die".
/r/seduction22/10/13 05:37 PM
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EYE CONTACT. PROXIMITY. TOUCHING. SEXUAL MISINTERPRETATION/JOKES. SMILE.
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:38 PM
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This is some great stuff! Thanks for the reminder. However, this post should be in a different subreddit, perhaps /r/GetMotivated or /r/productivity.
/r/seduction21/10/13 05:12 PM
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Giving numbers out after planning to take over the world or start a band together is a very 2AM "bar thing", and outside of that context, there might be a dissonance between how comfortable she was with you then vs. in the harsh and sobering daylight. So basically, if there's tension when you call her, establish some comfort first thing when you chat with her, i.e. get her to laugh off the bat, relieve the tension, assume very strong rapport and continue to be the guy she liked the evening befor…
/r/seduction18/10/13 11:01 PM
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Since it sound like a very contextual close, make sure she's comfortable with you in the daytime, as well.
/r/seduction18/10/13 08:01 PM
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Sounds good! Keep us updated on the cold approaches, especially with you initiating, werrdddd
/r/seduction18/10/13 04:13 PM
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Is this daygame? How long are you talking to them on average? Are you qualifying? Do you following up on all numbers? Better yet, just describe what the average set looks like, if you work through specific phases, etc.
/r/seduction18/10/13 01:44 AM
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Read further and you'll see I already have.
/r/seduction12/10/13 04:03 AM
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Meet the people who party a lot, party with them. The more parties you go to, the more girls you meet, the more opportunitites to bang. Nuff said. Talk to people, if they're cool, invite them to a party. You just need to put in more work getting social with others. If you're looking for help emotionally processing a break up from 6 weeks ago, banging new girls is an extremely effective method (pumping all kinds of awesome hormones, engaging the 'coupling' instinct for other girls).
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:54 PM
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This is not a specific and practical list, i.e. not a helpful guide. 'Let go of X idea' and 'be more confident' isn't practicable advice.
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:47 PM
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Need more specifics for advice. Start small, however. Positivity challenge (only positive thoughts for a week) Body language Smile Take your time while talking. Literally speak at one half speed at all times. Reward good behavior from others, punish bad behavior (this isn't physical punishment, just ignoring, being cold, taking the 'party' away from them)
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:46 PM
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Own the fact that it happened, acknowledge the weirdness/zaniness of the situation, give some brief context to her emotionally as to how it happened and if you want to continue seeing her, tell her so. Make it clear that it was just a bang for her friend and there's no conflicting emotions involved (i.e. her friends' feelings are not going to be hurt). Remember that this is always something that could possibly happen, and you've done nothing wrong nor weird. Eventually all fuck buddies come acro…
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:39 PM
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You should also tell a girl you like her, especially when qualifying her. Just be specific about why or what you like about her. Obviously all of that in conjunction with escalating, etc.
/r/seduction11/10/13 09:26 PM
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Cool story. Sinn, a guy who's less active now, specifically avoided all inner game fixes. He got laid a shitload before his inner game problems came to a head. Your problem is that I'm not parroting the "inner game is everything" and "just read Models" script that is convenient for avoiding talking about brass tacks, like: are you smiling, how's your body language, are you talking too fast, are you moving the interaction forward, are you moving the girl around, do you keep shifting or breaking e…
/r/seduction09/10/13 03:15 PM
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TL;DR: textbook diagnosable narcissistic sociopath. Manipulate others, don't enjoy sex for what it is, seek leverage over others.
/r/seduction09/10/13 05:12 AM
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How many girls did you approach? How many times were you clearly rejected or told to go away? Did you try different ways of approaching/talking to girls?
/r/seduction09/10/13 05:06 AM
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Actually, you'll find the problem isn't that he lacks inner game. He clearly lacks OUTER GAME. Sinn is a great example of a guy who purposely eschewed all inner game work, and he got laid plenty. His inner game problems manifested themselves later on in suicidal depression, but outer game did get him results. The problem with OP is likely that he hasn't been adapting, reacting, and learning. If you're approaching girls for three years with nothing to show for it, one of the following is true: th…
/r/seduction09/10/13 05:04 AM
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Delicious limiting beliefs!
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:53 AM
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Turn the jokes back at your friends. Watch how they deflect or deal with the insults. Use these methods to deal with the jokes.
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:50 AM
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All that shows is that the generalizations made aren't necessarily helpful or even accurate. Define who you are by your own metrics.
/r/seduction09/10/13 04:46 AM
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This isn't a great idea unless you have no other options. If you have more time, spend that time creating a connection. The numbers you will get are going to be fairly useless unless she was extremely attracted to you and the approach was very memorable. Most gorgeous girls won't be blown away by this approach, because they're meeting interested (and interesting) guys all the time. The dirty secret is that girls will give their phone number to pretty much anyone who is normal and talks to them. …
/r/seduction06/10/13 10:47 PM
2

Flip on the ol' camcorder behind the two-way mirror and start chloroformin' the ol' knockout rag...
/r/seduction28/09/13 09:42 PM
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Best answer is go out and start talking to girls and trying to flirt with them. There is too much contradictory and paradoxical advice and information on the internet for someone with no field experience to grasp the concepts. Go out. Meet girls. Try to get laid. Once you find a problem, use resources to troubleshoot it.
/r/seduction28/09/13 07:26 PM
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You're trying to simultaneously pick up 2 girls with tough logistics (came with 6 other friends). Choose one girl, and you'll have a much easier time creating comfort and trust than trying to seduce 2 girls at the same time. You say you met the friends and you're cool with them. Proactively step up and either bounce all the girls to the next venue or isolate your one girl, find an excuse for her friends to 'temporarily' branch off (getting food, smoking a blunt), and bring the girl home. As long…
/r/seduction28/09/13 07:06 PM
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I'm here too! Wait, is this not the line for fedoras? Oh god, everybody's staring at me!
/r/seduction25/09/13 03:24 PM
1

Talk. Take action. What else are you going to do? Angry Birds and pretending you're not interested?
/r/seduction25/09/13 03:15 PM
1

Critical finishing moves on a boss AMOG yield much better loot.
/r/seduction25/09/13 02:53 PM
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For a long time, I hated rejections because I felt they established a dynamic where the girl has asserted a higher value than me. Once I realized that these values are constantly changing and are largely just perspective, I decided that nobody is 'above' or 'better' or 'cooler" than anybody else fundamentally. Once you get past this high school cool/uncool obsession, the things that matter are authenticity, fun, emotions, individuality and physical attraction.
/r/seduction21/09/13 11:46 AM
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I don't do the 'listen to energetic music and get hyphy' thing, because it just creates anxiety for me. I like meditating and being as present as possible. I get all the state pump I need from chatting sets. Any time my confidence or energy is lagging, I just focus on being present and appreciating all the wonderful things around me.
/r/seduction21/09/13 11:22 AM
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Sounds like you're manufacturing problems. Come up with a solid problem based on realistic expectations and we'll troubleshoot it. In the meantime, perhaps your unhappiness and dissatisfaction come from another source. I recommend talking it out with someone (possibly a paid professional... aka therapist if I'm not being clear) and seeing where you end up. As for improvement, the path is simple (but not easy) and delineated from countless other guys doing it. Just keep going out. If you want to …
/r/seduction21/09/13 10:14 AM
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What are your numbers? How many girls have you approached? Where does the interaction usually end? It's easy to indulge yourself and get dramatic and gloss over the details (EVERY WOMAN is rejecting me, etc. ) Stay focused on specifics and you'll find your problem probably has more specific origins. Usually it stems from a lack of attraction. Troubleshoot your average open thru close. If you don't really know what The average set is like, you need to approach more.
/r/seduction21/09/13 02:53 AM
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"Uh... pepperoni and onions, please. No anchovies."
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:45 PM
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/r/relationships
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:43 PM
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Filming yourself is a great idea, you might learn a lot about how you interact that you wouldn't notice otherwise. Still, just starting off, you need to approach a bunch without worrying so much about doing it perfect. Just get comfortable with talking to girls and having a conversation.
/r/seduction17/09/13 07:39 PM
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If you can't find women in NYC, you have problems beyond the scope of this subreddit #twilightzone
/r/seduction16/09/13 09:03 PM
1

Why did you stop at kissing? Also, why bother asking if she has a boyfriend?
/r/seduction16/09/13 08:58 PM
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Here's some extra help: Approach anxiety is a bitch to handle at first. Find a way to get massive leverage on yourself (visualize everything you're missing out on, use peers to keep you honest, put money or your reputation on the line if you fail to meet your approach goals) and do whatever it takes to get started. The second part -which is also difficult- is momentum. Approach anxiety subsides the more you're talking to girls, but when you stop for a few days, it comes back. Keep going out regu…
/r/seduction16/09/13 04:53 PM
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That's untrue. It's something girls don't want before they feel commited to you. Nothing weak about caring for people in your life. Weakness is trying to disown that part of yourself. Strength is having a vulnerability and not being afraid to let others see it. Girls don't want an emotionless robot for dating. Your approach will be successful in the short term, but if you're afraid of developing attachments with women, your love life will be unfulfilling no matter how many women you sleep with.
/r/seduction16/09/13 04:29 PM
1

The lesson? Isolate BEFORE you escalate.
/r/seduction16/09/13 02:15 PM
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Congrats on getting a makeout and phone number! Sounds like you had a lot of fun. Now, for some tough love. She opened you, she escalated with you, she isolated you, she initiated most of the kino. You see where I'm going here? You were passive throughout the whole process, and if it weren't for her judgmental cockblock friend, she'd have taken you home and pegged you with her strap-on. There's nothing wrong with having fun and going out, but you've learned all the wrong lessons here. This episo…
/r/seduction16/09/13 02:12 PM
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Here's my understanding: Most guys on /r/seduction aren't going out regularly, they certainly aren't opening sets consistently, and they don't know how to do basic socializing. There's always been a spat of keyboard jockeys, haters and complete charlatans and many of the active guys are trying to commercialize their time and efforts. Guys looking for nuts and bolts advice probably find it elsewhere. THAT IS NOT TO SAY WE SHOULDN'T BRING UP THOSE POINTS AGAIN ON REDDIT . There are some universal …
/r/seduction15/09/13 04:57 AM
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IMO that's a lie by omission. she's not making small talk, she wants to get to know you. busting her balls when she is in comfort is a break of rapport and will ruin your momentum.
/r/seduction12/09/13 11:15 PM
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To do, in no particular order: Get your house in order: take care of your body, start seeing a therapist, possibly take medication Glitter makeup Suggest hanging out. He will probably take the initiative to keep the date going (what to do/say).
/r/seduction08/09/13 03:52 PM
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Slow down and make strong, sexual eye contact. Touch her, tease her, and be sexually aroused by her. It's harder to be a dancing monkey when you're horny.
/r/seduction08/09/13 03:46 PM
2

Lock eye contact, close space between you, see how she responds to your intense gaze. You become more sensitive to how she's reacting when you're only focused on her eyes.
/r/seduction08/09/13 03:29 PM
10

Check out /r/socialskills!
/r/seduction02/09/13 10:32 AM
3

I find that 80% of those problems can be resolved by more field experience, but I don't want to keep writing that over and over.
/r/seduction02/09/13 10:32 AM
5

Your problem is neediness. You need the attention and attraction from women to feel good. I should know, I've been there (and sometimes still go there if I'm not being present). I'm not sure how to fix it besides focusing on the person you're talking to (learn more about them, listen to their stories and interests, allow them to show you they are a complete person and not just a potential lay). You can go down a pretty dark hole of trying to get that fix and wind up a sex addict or being surroun…
/r/seduction01/09/13 12:24 AM
1

they have seniors, right? just give them extra money to do it for you. that's what everyone else is doing. and not knowing any seniors isn't an excuse. roll up on one that seems cool, ask them if they'll by buy for you. maybe even your RA if you've got one. then just drive with them to make sure they don't scam you, and Bob's your uncle.
/r/seduction27/08/13 11:02 PM
1

make sure daygame isn't your main way of meeting and socializing with girls. it's much less efficient than college parties. focus on making friends and socializing rather than sniping off of cold approach. actual daygame advice? it's standard daygame, just RTFM on daygame.
/r/seduction27/08/13 07:08 PM
3

unless your wingman is conjoined at the hip, you can obviously split up if necessary. that being said, at night you're almost never going to find a girl by herself. if you look hard enough, I'm sure you'll find some impossible outlier scenario where having a wingman is bad. but in the real world, having a wingman is always better.
/r/seduction27/08/13 12:17 PM
2

kino, storytelling, comfort-building, light teasing, fluff talk. for every interview style answer you get from a girl, you actually got a lot of possible convo threads to explore. and kino. if she's attracted and comfortable AND physically engaged, bounce her elsewhere or even home.
/r/seduction27/08/13 02:04 AM
4

yes, wingmen are better. outside perspective, motivator, social aid, distracting obstacles, having your back, having laughs when nights are slow, two possible extraction locations, source of inspiration and learning. plus going out solo is intense and unusual, so unless you're 100% comfortable with being alone in a nightclub, it avoids you starting off with negative social proof.
/r/seduction27/08/13 01:58 AM
-3

throw a party for everybody on your floor. stop by, chat and collect keg money from all of them, host it using the hallway for beer pong. you'll meet people, and word will get around of you keep it fun.
/r/seduction27/08/13 01:45 AM
1

Again, only after trying this a few times will we know if it works well. You would be a rejection, what would the other 9 girls do? *Incidentally, I think the context here is that they've established a rapport, and this is during the get-to-know-you phase. **Also, I'm not a huge fan of this approach, but won't knock it because I've never tried it.
/r/seduction22/08/13 08:30 PM
1

I think that... vs. I've found that... Try it out a few times, then report back.
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:19 PM
1

/r/askseddit
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:14 PM
2

Lol at the motley crew in the 1's category.
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:08 PM
1

go out, talk to girls. don't read, talk to girls. if you're having trouble, all for help or maybe read a book on the issue. don't preemptively read, wait until you can't do it by yourself.
/r/seduction22/08/13 11:19 AM
1

Not the best advice for a 21 year old virgin. fedoras ahoy!
/r/seduction22/08/13 04:53 AM
1

you're a 21 y.o. virgin. Let's leave 'seduction' alone. here's my advice. throw a party ASAP; the first night if you can. just go door to door in your dorm, saying hi, making a little small talk and collecting $ for a keg (find an upperclassman to buy for you). keep your door open. get a hookah or alcohol or another interesting macguffin to bring people to your room/dorm. befriend everyone, guys and girls equally. you don't have to be super funny/amazing, just host, make small talk and don't be …
/r/seduction22/08/13 04:52 AM
1

as far as I know no girls' been interested all my life garbage assumption The problem is I can't ask out random girls garbage assumption , the only venue my brain thinks its ok to talk to a girl in that context in, is in class/school garbage assumption p.s. dont say bar, I don't fit in at bars due to my young looks garbage assumption See a pattern here? you have ridiculous limiting beliefs that hold you back. you're not above the process, nor are you below it, you're just in one part of the spec…
/r/seduction22/08/13 04:26 AM
2

If you like white girls, having lots of white friends is KEY! Most asians only are friends with other asians. I strongly recommend getting to the gym and working on vocal projection. Being big and loud is another great way to play against that stereotype. Also, don't have a mild appearance. Make sure your hair is very well groomed. If you're 22, it's time to cut the emo hair and get something more stylish. Can you pull this off? Kidding.
/r/seduction16/08/13 01:09 AM
3

There are few things cooler than a minority who strongly trends against stereotypes, like a big, agressive and social asian guy or a well-dressed punk rock Indian dude, etc. If you can play against stereotypes in a sexy way, it's pretty much even stevens with the traditionally acceptable guys.
/r/seduction16/08/13 12:45 AM
0

I'm making light of the fact that you could have simply said "Don't be needy", in lieu of making it a series of female testimonials. The point itself is great.
/r/seduction16/08/13 12:42 AM
0

This is the most absurd hating I've ever seen. Tyler's incredible at pickup, and has been since pretty much day one, when he was posting on mASF while going to Queen's University. I'm no Tyler fanboy, but insulting his game has got to be the dumbest way to attack the guy. I get that his behavior doesn't jive with everybody out there, and plenty of people don't like his ?voice?, for some reason. But seriously, you're trying to discredit his game? He's been doing cold approach on the hottest girls…
/r/seduction16/08/13 12:40 AM
2

Here's some comments from girls I've been with over the years, LISTEN: "Oh, Readonlyuser, I love your 14 inch penis!" "Readonlyuser, will you fuck me and all my friends, please?" "Readonlyuser, here, have a $100 bill." "Readonlyuser, congratulations for winning the Nobel Prize for your giant penis!" "You're so funny, and handsome, and good-looking, and everybody likes you, and you're so cool and funny!" Guess I'm doing something right!
/r/seduction16/08/13 12:33 AM
1

Don't do it unless they ask for it. You can't magically create emotional leverage for them, all you can do is show what success with women looks like, and allow that to sink in for them.
/r/seduction15/08/13 06:00 PM
2

Hopefully, I've set up a date from a girl I've met for that night. If not, go out and start talking to girls (I live in a densely populated area)- I'm pretty strong with daygame and weak as fuck with nightgame, so my skillset is pretty skewed. Get her to come out that night with some friends, isolate, extract, escalate, refrigerate, etc.
/r/seduction10/08/13 09:31 PM
1

I had been hearing that Captain Jack (Sinn's friend) was batting about 15% (source being Sinn, who is as reliable as a PUA comes for stuff like that).
/r/seduction10/08/13 09:24 PM
1

cold approach pickup, dude. the relationships you're talking about aren't seduction, it's inevitable social circle stuff.
/r/seduction10/08/13 09:23 PM
1

call less, more teasing, booty call them, make it purposely clear/unclear if you are seeing other women (put the idea of you seeing many other girls in her mind), be too busy more often.
/r/seduction09/08/13 03:43 PM
1

Open observantly, DO not force conversation witha barrage of questions, gauge her initial reason carefully as it's a small space where women feel threatened, make jokes, cold reads, start mild teasing once she's hooked/invested, pace her reality, once she hooks ask when she's getting off the train AKA 'which so are you heading to?', QUALIFY HER, get the number the stop before hers, propose a specific and fun thing to do later, say goodbye, give yourself a high five
/r/seduction09/08/13 03:07 PM
1

don't do any reading if you're just starting out. just go out and start talking. if that's too hard, bring a friend, or put money on the line if you don't approach.
/r/seduction09/08/13 02:59 PM
2

I personally love talking to girls on the train (although I'm talking about Boston trains). I found NYC trains to be slightly more high pressure and stifling, but nothing unbearable.
/r/seduction09/08/13 02:24 PM
2

First, get a cool hobby like snowboarding or DJing. Then totally think about girls. Then just PLOW THROUGH THE BALL HAIRS and be alpha.
/r/seduction07/08/13 05:25 PM
1

This is true for most kino, and the calibration aspect is pretty crucial, too. If a girl isn't kind of feeling you off the approach, and she shies away when you touch her, you know that it's going to be a tough set and you need to move back and regain attraction, and translate that into comfort later. If you're in a place full of girls, and you want to maximize your efficiency, moving on might be the best move, rather than salvage the situation.
/r/seduction07/08/13 05:09 PM
1

It sounds like there's a lot of stuff swirling in your mind, which is very common when you're just starting out. Keep doing it, and reflect on any patterns you see (most girls I meet are doing X, or are interested in Y, or will do Z if I ask them). I recommend going out with a friend who wants to meet women so that you can push each other into talking to girls. One technique I find helps is to lightly punch your friend in the balls if they're hesitating. I'm not joking. As far as daygame 2-sets,…
/r/seduction07/08/13 05:04 PM
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/r/askseddit
/r/seduction07/08/13 04:59 PM
2

Don't open joggers if they're running. If they've taken an actual break (instead of waiting for a light to turn, etc.), feel free. Depending on how skimpy their outfit, complement their looks inversely. It depends on the context with girls who are listening to music and wearing headphones. Are they mobile? Are they in a leisurely area? Are they interested in the environment around them? Are they doing work/papers,etc.? Sunbathers are wearing bikinis, etc. so keep it friendly- aka keep it in your…
/r/seduction03/08/13 12:20 AM
1

Stick to the three H's... hookers, hobos and hitchhikers, amirite?
/r/seduction03/08/13 12:10 AM
1

I disagree. Be a good person, hold true to your moral compass, which should be aimed in a positive direction. Don't think for a second that you have the ability to improve a woman's life for her, as that's presumptuous and arrogant. If a woman wants to make her life better, that's her job. If she asks you to help, then help her.
/r/seduction02/08/13 10:27 PM
1

If you've seen all that, but haven't noticed that guys do the same thing, then your focus has been too narrow. All people lie, rationalize, cheat, misrepresent, get inappropriately horny, break promises, etc. You probably do it, too. If you want to grow and move past this, then accept fallibility as part of the human condition. Control what you can, accept that you will experience risk, failure and the manure of human drama as part of your experience, and seek to allow people to be as real and h…
/r/seduction29/07/13 06:07 PM
1

There's no need to take the question seriously, unless a girl really wants to know for logistical reasons. Just say some bullshit. I remember an old-school shit test-style response was just to say, "I'm all alone... like Pinocchio." Say you have no friends. Say you're hiding in the bar because you're trying to escape from a gang. EDIT: Merging sets is also a great idea, as long as you've developed strong rapport with the first group. Merging sets is also crucial if you're trying to pull the hott…
/r/seduction29/07/13 05:51 PM
1

I'm 5'3". Focus on what you can change about yourself (fashion, fitness, grooming, attitude). Now, the actual game shit: be louder. Open sets like a bomb going off. Be around women. Social proof compensates directly for shortness. Hold court without hesitation or uncertainty. When you talk, assume people are listening avidly. Be more audacious with kino. When you're less of a sexual threat, you can get away with more scandalous behavior. As with all things Game-related, field experience is king.…
/r/seduction24/07/13 04:10 AM
3

Lol wat. Of course I would. Everybody wins: AFC gets his shit wrecked, giving him an opportunity to see the error of his ways. Girl gets away from creepy guy and is with a cool guy. And I find a dollar bill on the ground, and get the girl. Happily ever after
/r/seduction23/07/13 10:10 PM
1

There are a billion ways to meet girls on campus, and you choose the only place they go to get actual work done? They're practically giving it away at parties, dances, events and even local bars. Don't be the library guy.
/r/seduction21/07/13 10:53 PM
2

Not only is this cheesy, but it's time consuming, tryhard and requires a bunch of variables to line up correctly. It's cool that something interesting happened to you, but this is not a solid follow-up technique. If you have her number and facebook, you should be proposing some kind of date.
/r/seduction16/07/13 09:28 PM
1

Is there a Tinder app for Android?
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:33 PM
1

Is Tinder available for Android?
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:33 PM
1

Only focus on what you can control. Let the other stuff slide completely.
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:24 PM
2

Actually, what you're supposed to do is manage your state, rely on fundamentals and find ways to pump your state and get back in the right headspace. If you're having a crap night, that is one of the best times for learning a shitload of stuff.
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:22 PM
1

Spend more time getting to know and trust the girl. You'd be surprised how patient and supportive a partner can be when you have sexual hangups.
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:18 PM
4

Congratulations, and great job handling the logistics and the virgin obstacle! Hope things continue to work out for you!
/r/seduction15/07/13 04:15 PM
1

Better-looking girls (8,9,10).
/r/seduction14/07/13 07:46 PM
3

The most practical lesson is don't hesitate to kiss her. You missed your window of opportunity that night, and the follow-up was pointless. Next time push yourself farther.
/r/seduction14/07/13 07:08 PM
1

There's nothing wrong with what you did, just an unfortunate and painful circumstance. Just reinforce that you like her, respect her boundaries, and didn't want to drop everything right off the bat to exclusively date each other before you had both gotten to know each other.
/r/seduction14/07/13 06:58 PM
1

Get rid of field reports? Can you explain why that is a good idea?
/r/seduction14/07/13 02:36 PM
0

Strongly disagree. Aviators look awful on pretty much everyone.
/r/seduction14/07/13 02:13 PM
2

lol oh ok. You never clarified that the target was one of their friends, so I thought you just meant having social proof. Sorry for flying off the handle there. I think that there's value to be had in terms of social circle game, but those FRs aren't going to be as valuable to the guys going out 5 times a week, approaching strangers, etc. But hey, a lay is a lay, and you can sometimes get a higher caliber girl than usual if she's in your social circle.
/r/seduction12/07/13 04:20 PM
0

You've got blinders on top of your blinders. seduction is easier with social proof, so it doesn't count or shouldn't be posted? then when i point out your blind spot, you dismiss that, too. You're so narrowminded you could look through a keyhole with both eyes.
/r/seduction12/07/13 04:02 PM
1

If you're being literal, travel with some friends to different countries. travel, meet people, try new things, learn, enjoy yourself. You have no idea how young you are, and how much you have to grow, but traveling will give you some perspective and a few cool stories to impress girls with lol.
/r/seduction12/07/13 03:23 AM
1

Lol, as a 5'3" guy, hearing 5'9" guys complain about their shortness just confuses me... dude, be my height for a week, get your ass handed to you, then see how you feel about being 5'9"...
/r/seduction12/07/13 03:17 AM
1

get a wing and feedback on your shortcomings and bad habits. go out every night with a few specific things to focus on, and be sure to hammer on it. Always go for the lay. Beginner or not, you don't need the Ken Griffey Jr. swing just to go up to bat. Swing for the fences, note the obstacles as they happen, and solve the common problems you see arise.
/r/seduction12/07/13 02:55 AM
0

lol what? The game is about maximizing your strengths and optimizing the numbers game. rolling with girls is solid game. There's nothing better, noble nor more solid about a guy going out solo. sounds like the lesson you're missing is that you need more social proof, not that other guys need less.
/r/seduction12/07/13 02:49 AM
1

If you've never had a long-term sexual partner, do that first, i.e. get a girlfriend.
/r/seduction08/07/13 06:03 PM
1

This belongs in /r/relationships.
/r/seduction08/07/13 06:02 PM
1

Pretty good answer from RSD http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kd3Rs9FxguA
/r/seduction08/07/13 05:44 PM
1

Loserssaywhat?
/r/seduction06/07/13 02:04 PM
1

Not enough information about these interactions. How many girls have you tried to kiss? Are they in your social circle? Where are you meeting them? Where are you escalating? Which country are you in, and do they have different views on sex? Do you go out with a wing? How often do you go out?
/r/seduction06/07/13 01:53 PM
1

Lol 'real men'... That's just a way to state your personal preference while shaming others, like 'real women have curves'.
/r/seduction06/07/13 01:37 PM
4

she's not just someone I'm trying to hook up with. I actually like her so meeting other girls really isn't an option LOL This mentality is your problem. Scarcity mentality. Meeting and banging other women is super super helpful. It keeps you from being needy (you come across this way), fucks with your brain chemistry that wants you to start writing sonnets and putting her on pedestals, etc, and it's an attractive thing to be desired by other women. If anything, a social girl like her will be imp…
/r/seduction06/07/13 01:29 AM
1

Hilarious, made even funnier by the 'cock pinching ' typo!
/r/seduction06/07/13 01:12 AM
1

waaaaahhhh this girl posted something of value, but it wasn't enough value for me!
/r/seduction06/07/13 01:08 AM
3

I'm gonna call bullshit. I would be shocked if you can get the same positive reaction from ridiculous kino from a group in the middle of the day and at night. Day game and night game are different, and if you don't acknowledge the clear differences, you're not helping anybody.
/r/seduction05/07/13 07:45 PM
1

What helped me was not masturbating so much and putting forth a challenge with a cash penalty if I fail. I ended up talking to a hundred girls to avoid losing a hundred dollars. Also, go out with a wing who will push you.
/r/seduction04/07/13 04:56 PM
1

Before I even give advice, get more than three numbers. You don't even have enough of a sample size to determine if you ARE doing something wrong. The fact that you're stunned by three bad results shows me you're in the wrong headspace. More girls, more wooden numbers, more rejections.
/r/seduction04/07/13 04:39 PM
1

Are you in school?
/r/seduction04/07/13 12:37 PM
1

Get a wing who will work with you on the basics. A video simulation won't help as much as several failed attempts at interaction. You're not going to find a magic bullet, and if you did, you'd Miss out on all the subtle changes you'll experience. Kind of strange advice, but you may find it easier to talk with a girl when you're horny. The answer to your problem is going to be found in the real world, not on a computer screen.
/r/seduction04/07/13 06:05 AM
1

This is easy. Your numbers are useless. Work on attraction and rapport, or both. Then the numbers you get will be solid. Also, you need to approach WAAAAAAYYY more before you earn the right to complain about results. Your sample size is miniature.
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:56 AM
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Maybe on the most meta level, but in real life, lifting up a girl and saying you're going to bang her and all her friends at noon on a Tuesday might have a different effect than at night at a bar.
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:30 AM
1

I use a variation of this, it works fine, maybe with a little humor added.
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:28 AM
2

Don't explain who you are ("I'm the guy that...") unless she asks.
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:26 AM
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Works best with female family members, be old school chivalrous and polite, make them laugh, ask if you can chat with daughter after stating interest. Once you isolate her, drop the chivalrous and polite bit, be a little bit bad (conspiratorial us vs them), get phone number and get out before things get weird.
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:16 AM
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Starting out? A deeply meaningful motivation to improve. If you can't get emotional leverage over yourself to push forward, you will backslide or get mediocre results. Imagination and balls. Think of ways to push yourself and the interaction, execute. I get most guys are in a dark place when they start out, but strive to cultivate self love as well as a deep love of women. Time and money. It will take a looooong time to get really good. Be prepared to invest a lot of time, money emotions and ene…
/r/seduction04/07/13 05:09 AM
1

Be louder, draw her in close when she's talking. Move somewhere quieter. Do playful kino. Be loud and gain more attraction/compliance so that she wants to have an intelligible conversation. Don't learn lip reading, you're not 007.
/r/seduction04/07/13 12:17 AM
2

TL;DR Not a useful read. If you were X before you read this, you'll still be X afterwards. Moreover, apparently his qualifications as a guy who has a girlfriend and who did marginal amounts of research beforehand qualify him to pontificate on his moral and sexual superiority.
/r/seduction04/07/13 12:09 AM
1

Quality problem alert! Stay rooted, don't get shook, respond in a way that shows you think her challenge is cute and harmless. Every time you show she can't emotionally fuck with you, you become more attractive. It's an opportunity!
/r/seduction19/05/13 11:36 PM
1

Dude, real talk? It's kind of strange to do daygame at college. Moreover, It's Very Strange to go on dates. Sex is done through parties. Girls don't go on dates in college, too much pressure. Let's forget your game and talk about your social circle. Do you throw parties? Do you go to parties? Are your friends chill? Would these benumbered girls show up to a party if you invited them? If there are frats, then daygame on strangers is dead. The girls have social obligations and dozens of judgmental…
/r/seduction19/05/13 11:32 PM
2

Motion creates emotion. Use social cues to force yourself back into the moment. Meditate. Yell loudly or move around to pump your state. Be loud, stand tall with superman posture. Deep diaphragmatic breathing. Look for humor in every situation. Make girls laugh, make yourself laugh. Smile. Find emotionally compelling reasons to get yourself back in the right headspace. Create mental associations between joy and some other gesture or sensation. Say absurd things to cultivate a sense of outcome in…
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:52 PM
1

If you're 15 and you're doing 'daygame' because you're a nerdy loner who used to get picked on, you're already fucking up. High school is all social circle. Make friends. Stop dressing like a nerd and get a better haircut. Make girls laugh, and not polite 'please go away' laughter. Talk to girls as much as possible, use any excuse to start a conversation, and focus only on teasing them, making them laugh and gauging their comfort level. Be louder and larger than life. You need to establish an at…
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:39 PM
1

I reply with apprehension, because this is almost the classic friendzone question. If you must bang your friend, make sure your venue changes are smooth. Odds are she has already decided whether she likes you and whether she would consider sleeping with you. Your job is to make things fun and escalate smoothly. Keep her laughing, have a good reason to go back to your place.
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:13 PM
1

Find the college bars around, go there. Shouldn't be too hard.
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:07 PM
2

You don't think you're like us because you're looking for differences. Here the secret: you sound like most of the guys here. The rules apply to everyone, and although you are Unique and approach things in your own way, you are not above the game. It doesn't matter if Brahms makes you cry or Slayer makes you rage. Find venues with girls you like, develop your skillset. Sounds like you need to work on consistency and strategies to maintain or recover a positive mental state.
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:05 PM
2

It's better to have it and not need it than to need it and have to use a blunt object.
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:55 PM
1

The problem isn't her body language or your overattentiveness, the problem is low self-esteem. Start from there. Read The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden and work on improving your self-esteem. Once you trust your faculties, you won't need to worry about these bizarre self-attributions of valuelessness. That's the long fix (and the one that actually matters/works). The quick fix is teasing and quick interesting chats transitioning to inviting her out to a group event. Act like yo…
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:54 PM
2

-Walking around Harvard Yard (especially if you know the background of some of the more interesting buildings) -Walk/bike along Charles -Live shows (Scullers, Cantab, Wally's, The Beehive, Great Scott, Paradise) -Freedom Trail/Duck Tour -Tour of Sam Adams / Harpoon breweries
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:49 PM
1

This is huge. The Community Boathouse is practically free for a year pass, has regular free lessons, and once you get halfway decent, you can jump in a boat and sail up and down the Charles at will (with a lovely passenger in tow). I was also told they have regular sailing trips out to Boston Islands complete with a picnic.
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:45 PM
1

...Bullshit. You posted this up on /r/seduction. If you're not interested in this girl, why are you even asking?
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:42 PM
2

That's anachronistic advice. Young girls (OP did say @ the mall) prefer texting over calling, 9 times out of 10. It's a generational thing.
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:39 PM
2

Are you partying with them? Are you someone who throws parties? Find ways to give value and make yourself and your identity visible. Simply nodding 'sup' to people that you know in the halls won't cut it, the relationships you have need to be based on something.
/r/seduction22/04/13 01:36 PM
2

Not that I mind at all- I found your story to be very interesting- but wouldn't you be better served posting this in /r/socialskills? I don't see this being a very seduction-oriented journey that you're on.
/r/seduction06/04/13 05:47 PM
3

Unless I'm mistaken, sounding properly means correctly measuring the depth of water, akin to Mark Twain's moniker.
/r/MensRights03/04/13 06:24 PM
0

Everyone boo this man!
/r/seduction31/03/13 10:52 PM
1

Coolest spots are billiards and hookah lounges.
/r/seduction26/03/13 03:35 PM
1

Online dating. Local events. If there are literally no women in the area, and you don't want to go an hour away to meet them, then you are SOL. If it's something you're committed to, you'll find a way.
/r/seduction19/03/13 01:39 AM
1

The answer is simple. Go out and meet more women. It's easier to act like you have options if you actually have options. It's not your job to lock her down and 'get' her. Confuse the chemicals flowing through your body and brain by seeing more than one woman. That's the best way of having a clear head and evaluating how well this model is meeting your needs. Don't see her more than once a week, until it's clear that she's definitely meeting all of your needs and there's an established dynamic wh…
/r/seduction12/03/13 04:31 PM
2

NYC is not inexpensive.
/r/seduction12/03/13 04:08 PM
1

As someone that lives in Boston, I always assumed it was the other way around... interesting!
/r/seduction12/03/13 04:06 PM
12

New challenge! You've suffered a horrifying brain clot and lost the use of your arms and legs and can only communicate by drooling and smacking your lips. Your target is Megan Fox, surrounded in the VIP section of SkyBar by a group of chiseled astronauts. The stairs leading up to the section are too steep for your motorized wheelchair. What do you do?
/r/seduction12/03/13 06:53 AM
3

Improve your vocal projection. Introduce yourself to both of them, dominate the early conversation so that you can avoid not hearing/understanding their feedback, ascertain how they know each other, and then bring the girl to a quiet place to continue conversation if she's responsive.
/r/seduction12/03/13 03:12 AM
4

Going out without your phone is great as a remedial strategy, but don't continue to do it once you've overcome your difficulties. Having a phone can be extremely helpful (photo galleries for DHV, texting immediately after meeting, negotiating SNL's, getting taxis (insert Uber plug here), and the odd internet search that comes about if you're talking about some obscure topic).
/r/seduction12/03/13 03:09 AM
1

Here's your answer: there is no definitive answer. Everybody has a different moral code, so do you, let others do them, and don't try to compare or push an agenda.
/r/seduction05/03/13 06:41 PM
0

I'm pretty certain this will be the last time I touch on this, but nobody's blaming anyone for the bitch shield. If panhandlers are pestering you relentlessly on the street, you're more likely to ignore the next panhandler. It's a predisposition to ignore somebody who wants something from you. You have a 'bitch shield'. You've conjured up the image of someone who got rejected, gets butthurt and calls a girl a bitch; you've got it all wrong. A bitch shield has nothing to do with a girl's actual b…
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:33 PM
2

While we disagree about some points, and that's fine, the bitch shield should be clarified, because you're mischaracterizing it, and spreading misinformation. The bitch shield does exist. You take an attractive/high value woman, surround her with men vying for her attention, and she'll become automatically dismissive of men's efforts to talk with her. She effectively has a bitch shield. It has nothing to do with somebody's ego. It's a concept used to describe the barrier of difficulty in disting…
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:59 PM
4

-People and interactions need to be abstract to be communicated to somebody else. We're not writing a novel, we're describing a shared experience with known variables that we can describe with shared language. To communicate why something happened with a girl, knowing how attractive she is is important, as well as many other factors. A 7 is not a 10. A 1 is not a 4. Words like "really" and "very" and "pretty" change from person to person. -You don't think bitch shields exist? -A girl calling you…
/r/seduction05/03/13 04:27 PM
8

...So you're saying video?
/r/seduction05/03/13 06:28 AM
1

Text her later that night. A few interstitial texts over the next few days, then invite her to a group thing, preferably a party. In college, there is no reason whatsoever to do a 1-on-1 romantic date; it's forced and cheesy, and there's almost no situational excuse to do so.
/r/seduction05/03/13 06:26 AM
1

Don't try to bang any of the friends. Use them as social proof. Kino. You look like a boss to any girl within visual range. Once you start getting success with girls that haven't framed you as some kind of domesticated man-animal, that becomes social proof should you wish to bang your friends. I would still recommend not banging any of the friends.
/r/seduction05/03/13 06:11 AM
2

Height can be an actual physical obstacle, regardless of your feelings on the matter. For short guys, some girls won't give you a chance, some girls won't be able to see you, some moves require height, you have more difficulty getting the attention of groups, difficulty amoging (and attracting more amogs because of your unintimidating size).
/r/seduction05/03/13 06:04 AM
7

The concept is OK, but the wording doesn't work. Calling yourself an awesome guy and explicitly saying "Why should I stick around" is conceited and will turn people off. And, as always, ultimatums are not solid game. If she's not texting much, and you point that out and nothing changes, then you need to make interaction with you seem like a higher-value proposition. If that's too much work, just move on.
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:46 AM
0

Great point. Giving/demonstrating value (I'm doing X, come with!) rather than taking value (What are you up to? Are you doing X?) shines through in text messages. I find having a hard limit of casual texts per day puts a pretty good cap on how needy I could possibly come off with a girl. For me, it's 3, although there are extenuating circumstances.
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:41 AM
4

My 2 cents: Ambiguity is huge. Make her curious, capture her attention, get her thinking. Text dumb shit/non sequiturs Don't correct spelling errors. Don't be afraid to be sexual, especially if followed up by business-as-usual texts. Misinterpret things she says as sexual or her being interested in you, etc. Use emoticons with discretion. Check in on cold leads every week or two with quick anecdotes, jokes or novel/interesting but superficial questions. QUESTION FOR SEDDIT- DICK PICS: Yay or nay…
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:34 AM
1

The good fight!
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:22 AM
4

We're trying to quantify things to create some semblance of metrics, which is tough in a constantly shifting environment. HB8 represents more than just a numbered woman. Abbreviation helps us quickly refer to common tropes. At the end of the day...
/r/seduction05/03/13 05:19 AM
1

BE LOUDER, have a few things to say, make them laugh, don't fidget, gesticulate, or make exaggerated facial expressions. At a party, root yourself to someone that you both know for social context. There's nothing wrong with hitting up 8 girls in 5 minutes if you're just doing it to warm up and get into state. Just make stupid jokes and leave when the girls become less than excited.
/r/seduction03/03/13 09:21 AM
1

I just picture the majority [of] girls in bars as being obnoxious, rude and ignorant. Stop making excuses and go out and try it for yourself. If you're looking for something bad, you'll find it one way or another.
/r/seduction03/03/13 09:10 AM
0

Definitely avoid being pushy or drawing attention to yourself: make confident eye contact with the ground and whisper to her "May I have the opportunity to address you in a non-confrontational and amicable manner?" Bonus points if you have this phrase written out on an index card you can hand her. Make conversation about the weather. But don't go overboard- don't draw attention to extremely bad weather nor extremely good weather. You don't want to overstay your welcome. Finally, thank her for ac…
/r/seduction03/03/13 09:06 AM
1

That's not totally accurate. It does happen fairly often. It's not 'love at first sight' usually, but it's a thing.
/r/seduction03/03/13 08:59 AM
2

Don't stalk her, become her!
/r/seduction03/03/13 08:55 AM
1

I disagree, your game isn't the problem. The problem is your friends being resentful and spreading rumors about you. Find a group of friends that you can rely on that are doing the same thing as you. Your friends have their place, but talking to girls isn't one of them.
/r/seduction21/02/13 07:26 AM
1

Improve your diet, start doing squats, lunges, and crunches.
/r/seduction21/02/13 07:21 AM
3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CYFcZtO-QOE
/r/seduction16/02/13 10:02 PM
3

Consistently go out with a wing, push each other. Eventually, you'll start approaching more. There's no real quick fix to overcoming fear.
/r/seduction16/02/13 09:59 PM
2

It's a condensation of a bunch of great sources and ideas that he compacted into a form he understands with a few supporting anecdotes. A lot of great information, especially if you haven't spent time doing the reading, etc.
/r/seduction10/02/13 01:01 AM
5

It helps.
/r/seduction10/02/13 12:58 AM
1

That's definitely a different perspective; I guess it's never going to be a smooth enjoyable process for everyone. But really, is it any skin off your back if someone outs themselves as being disingenuous? I feel like it saves you some time and energy, and gives him a shot of embarrassment for his forgetfulness, and then everyone moves on with their night. Incidentally, 2 hours is a shockingly small amount of time to forget a girl. Maybe he just didn't notice your friend in time?
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:53 PM
2

Honestly, it really depends on how many beautiful women are around. Given a large enough population, everybody's name and face kind of fades. If you've ever met triple digits of people in a month, the faces and names don't last. My personal opinion is that a woman can be beautiful and you can acknowledge that verbally without being obligated to have some kind of emotional commitment to her. If I find a girl attractive, it's not a given that I now have an emotional attachment to her. Beauty is sk…
/r/seduction09/02/13 03:48 AM
1

Same with sexual tension. You can make her laugh by doing stuff that's slightly inappropriate.
/r/seduction08/02/13 09:53 PM
1

How often are you going out or talking to girls? How long have you kept up a sustained and regular effort to meet people?
/r/seduction08/02/13 09:50 PM
6

Frankly, if a guy wants to get good with women, he will inevitably be that guy at least once or twice. If you suck with girls, you'll need to talk to a lot of them, and eventually you'll retread the same ground by accident.
/r/seduction08/02/13 09:43 PM
2

That's garbage. Cold approaches are good. My social circle is full of guys who are in long term relationships and/or married. All of the girls I know are the same. That's why I meet new people. If you're scared shitless about making mistakes and being ridiculed for forgetting a girl, that's not a good thing. My point is, you do you. Desperation is a good thing. Desperation is the stage that drives most of us to begin to improve ourselves. The beginning of self-improvement is a great deal of tria…
/r/seduction08/02/13 09:42 PM
1

Not super seductive, kind of lazy and unattractive. Girls don't want to be notified via popup that a seduction has begun. It's like middle school dating where your friend tells her friend that you like her.
/r/seduction08/02/13 01:49 AM
1

+2 on this. Don't put a timeline expectation on it. The only expectation you should have is that as long as you do your best you will eventually get better and see improvement.
/r/seduction08/02/13 01:26 AM
4

To be frank, the amount of feminists who aren't down with the Vagina Monologues is small. I think feminists feel a need to rally around the Monologues, despite some of the glaring issues that come along with that.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 08:37 AM
2

Just because a woman thinks her rape was good doesn't mean you include her insane story in what is allegedly a collection of thoughtful discussions/anecdotes on sexuality.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 08:33 AM
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Yeah, a smattering of gender equity feminists. Whereas most feminists are 'proud vagina warriors' and love the anti-hetero, anti-male message the play encapsulates, and are not offended by the particular segment in question.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 08:24 AM
2

It's starting to sound more like 'rape' to you is 'sex that you don't approve of'. There is a legal precedent for what rape is, and this is rape on statutory grounds.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 08:22 AM
3

Am I the only person who dresses/grooms well and doesn't notice extra attention when I'm out there? Or would I only notice if I dressed like a schlub for a month in order to see the contrast?
/r/seduction05/02/13 04:42 PM
2

If you look into it a little bit, several surveys report that Japanese women are twice as uninterested in sex as Japanese men. Make sure you know you're correct before you generalize about this. Also, Japanese culture is only weird to you, and vice versa. You have a really disturbing belief about cultural superiority here, and I think it's kind of fucked up/racist.
/r/seduction02/02/13 09:36 PM
2

I recommend just saying iku over and over.
/r/seduction02/02/13 09:33 PM
1

If you're doing what I think you're doing, you're hovering and talking yourself up before the approach. As long as you're not in plain sight, do something that interrupts your physiological and mental pattern of fear, posture, breathing, etc. My recommendation? Lightly punch yourself in the nuts. Not enough to hurt or injure yourself, but a reminder you've got balls, and it prevents you from thinking about garbage. As you experience this change in physiology, turn it into momentum, immediately s…
/r/seduction01/02/13 10:09 PM
1

Are you advocating this kind of friendship? It sounds like a fucking nightmare!
/r/seduction01/02/13 09:48 PM
2

Hey dude, two choices: either be right, or be happy. You can get logical, defensive and 'correct', and the seduction is over. You can manage the shit test, not take yourself so seriously, and continue the seduction. Don't let your ego get in the way of attracting a lady, and don't confuse hurt ego with boundary violation. She has no emotional commitment to you, and thus owes you nothing, so she might act in a way you don't like. If you draw your boundary at "You can't say anything I don't like o…
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:05 PM
1

To everyone saying, "Move on", this is a prime example of a shit test. Shit tests are healthy, normal parts of attraction. I'd be more surprised if there were no shit tests. Learn to pass the shit test and move forward, not move on. Remember the bard: "The course of true love never did run smooth." Don't expect every interaction to be a smooth, perfect seduction of mutual ego masturbation. EDIT: Also, OP, if you haven't even run across this shit test, why are you trying to find responses to it? …
/r/seduction01/02/13 06:59 PM
1

If you're a normal guy that doesn't weird her out, and is generally OK to be around, a girl will give you a platonic phone number the vast majority of the time. Phone numbers are only useful as a reliable way to continue an interaction. If the interaction isn't going anywhere, then the phone number isn't going anywhere, either.
/r/seduction01/02/13 06:09 PM
0

Thanks, man. I couldn't bear to watch it...
/r/seduction30/01/13 07:23 PM
1

State management is about more than fucking girls. But since we're talking about fucking girls, here's some real talk. I hear rationalization like that, all the time: You're out there, living it, while other guys are thinking too much. Thinking about this is boring. You're above the issues of state management because you don't take the whole thing seriously. Guess what? If you go out consistently and have no state management, you will be inconsistent and have a lot of really bad nights, even if …
/r/seduction27/01/13 02:36 PM
1

Rock n' roll
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:10 AM
1

That would be true if anybody gave a fuck about what other people are doing in a bar. People's radius of observation is like 5 feet, and they only consider the things they see as it affects them. No one gives a shit if there's a bottle in your hand. Most people won't even think to look. When you're at a bar, you feel like everyone is observing you and you feel social pressure. That observation and pressure is something you create in your own mind. In reality, if guys see you, it's either as rand…
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:07 AM
1

If that's true, wouldn't it be easier if you hadn't smoked in the first place?
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:02 AM
2

You realize how loaded with excuses this is, right? You started off with a super negative attitude, and you allowed that to snowball. You could have solved the whole problem right at the beginning by looking for something positive about the environment. You ignored the fact you were in an exciting bar full of social people. You ignored the fact that a girl liked you and wanted to talk to you. You ignored the cute girls who surrounded you. You don't need a drink, you need a reality check. Take a …
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:59 AM
0

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=gXwMXp0NV1I#t=52s
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:53 AM
1

If you're drinking enough to get social, you've already fucked up. Sober game is about state management. If you fudge the part where you get social and happy by using alcohol, you've missed out on the biggest and most useful part of the game: getting social, staying social and dealing with negative stimuli.
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:50 AM
15

You're not getting it. The fact that you're evaluating the night solely based on the events that transpired means you don't understand it. State is an emotional state. It's something contained within yourself, and although you can reflect that state onto the outside world, it's no guarantee of success in any way. Optimum doesn't mean perfect, you don't become a perfect social machine if you're in state, you just have more awareness and less of a filter on which behaviors you act on.
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:44 AM
2

I actually have a problem where I'm constantly referencing things, in ways that are contextually appropriate and funny, but most of them fly over people's heads.
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:32 AM
1

I think there's a lot of people who think that these guys are gods or expect inhuman success from them. They're just guys who are really good at this and do it consistently. You might go home with a hotter girl than them at some point and they might get blown out of a set that loves you, but that doesn't mean you're 'better' than they are. They're more consistent and consistently better.
/r/seduction26/01/13 03:26 PM
1

When I saw him live about a year ago, he wasn't even aware of Reddit.
/r/seduction26/01/13 03:17 PM
9

Are you one of the Project Hollywood guys?
/r/seduction24/01/13 09:58 PM
3

There's no way that you're coming off cocky solely because of great body language. I'm guessing the issue is that you carry yourself physically like a confident person, but don't carry yourself behaviorally like a confident person (perhaps overcompensating for your self-consciousness?). Otherwise you wouldn't even be asking this question. The discrepancy is probably weirding people out. Practically speaking, your 'problem' is fine. Not every group of people has to like you. Stop assuming a singl…
/r/seduction24/01/13 06:08 PM
2

For SNLs, do not tell a girl you want to wait. For girls that you went on a 'date' with, there's no huge benefit to waiting if you can connect emotionally. I have literally no idea what you're talking about when you recommend getting friend-zoned a couple times. You're saying push for sex too hard?
/r/seduction24/01/13 06:02 PM
1

It works fine, field tested.
/r/seduction24/01/13 05:55 PM
10

It's like a fedora: it usually doesn't work, and if it does work it would have been just as effective without it.
/r/seduction24/01/13 05:48 PM
3

You hit it?
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:55 AM
1

I don't love it. Especially with younger girls, having a context to leave together is usually pretty important, even if it's ridiculous.
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:52 AM
4

If you're talking about at a party or bar, etc., this is pretty straightforward. Look your best Be surrounded by women Be centered and unreactive
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:39 AM
1

Don't SAY shit! Pull her in, commence triangular gazing, gauge her response, and go for it or move on like nothing happened and try again later.
/r/seduction21/01/13 03:19 AM
2

Yeah, dude, if you guys are friendly, you're doing him a favor by letting him know that the environment of his bar is fucked up. I don't see any reason to play it cool like you intend.
/r/seduction20/01/13 04:13 PM
1

And/or it's bad luck.
/r/seduction20/01/13 02:01 AM
1

Reading that got me pissed. How well do you know the manager? I would let him know asap that his guy is power tripping.
/r/seduction20/01/13 01:45 AM
4

...Have you ever field tested this?
/r/seduction15/01/13 04:05 PM
2

It is possible. Don't do it.
/r/seduction08/01/13 04:37 PM
7

Nothing says erect like spandex. FTFY
/r/seduction08/01/13 04:35 PM
6

That is a facile and shortsighted answer. If you like needless and avoidable drama, then yeah, crossing your arms and being IDGAF all day is a great strategy. If you want to avoid a girl having other women and pickup and porn rubbed in her face when she browses, you'll seek to fix the problem. It's why I lock my phone. Even if she knows everything, rubbing material evidence of it in her face is not cool.
/r/seduction08/01/13 04:31 PM
1

You're not going out regularly yet. It's premature to take a bootcamp, and you will not see meaningful progress if you take one now. First, commit to a month of consecutive nights out. 30 days, 30 outings. Then see where you stand. I recommend only taking bootcamps when you can't figure things out on your own. Next thing. You want to get good, it will take months and/or years. Even if you take a bootcamp every weekend, it will still take months and years. There's only so much that you can accele…
/r/seduction08/01/13 01:17 AM
5

Take the value out of it that you can find. Some great transitional stuff, and cool ideas. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the tummy-tummy contact. It really is intimate, yet kind of unexpected.
/r/seduction06/01/13 03:44 PM
2

I recommend feeling out what approach you're comfortable with. That means get a general overview of beliefs and behaviors (Mark Manson's Models) and then just go out and do a bunch of field testing to see how you generally behave. That will color in your preferences much better than reading a bunch of somebody else's ideas. From there, you'll have a better idea of where you're going. I wish I had spent more time going out when I initially got into this stuff. If you're not spending much more tim…
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:16 AM
1

I'm rusty on this, what's generally the best move to respond to an IOD? I always find myself getting flustered or just talking over it.
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:11 AM
1

You'd be surprised. Most of the time when I make jokes about shit like that, girls get it.
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:09 AM
1

You don't have to verbalize your attraction for her that explicitly. Use your actions. And don't tell her she's special. I'm not suggesting the inverse, but just don't bring up that lovey-dovey validation nonsense before you've even hooked up. If you haven't had sex with a girl, you're still getting to know her and can't possibly be certain that she's special to you.
/r/seduction04/01/13 02:02 AM
17

One more con: this is the least attractive thing you could possibly do, short of crying and curling up in a ball. Seriously, this is not good advice.
/r/seduction04/01/13 01:59 AM
1

Which group or publication has you listed as coach of the year? What do you have to offer that the already knowledgeable and talented field can't?
/r/seduction03/01/13 01:00 PM
35

Do you actually straight up tell girls you want to stay in and see a movie for the 2nd date? That seems kind of forward...
/r/seduction01/01/13 03:34 PM
2

LOL I could visualize the pitchforks being handed out.
/r/seduction01/01/13 06:20 AM
4

Fucking obnoxious misinformed views. The same kind of unresearched opinions that made people think flu vaccinations cause autism or that ion bracelets do anything. At first, I tried to correct the glaring mistakes and straw men being thrown around, but eventually I stopped caring or trying.
/r/seduction01/01/13 06:02 AM
5

Been there. Or I watch a TV show while drinking my protein shake and it turns into the entire season of said TV show.
/r/seduction31/12/12 08:10 PM
2

They both have their place.
/r/seduction31/12/12 07:52 PM
42

Attractive from afar, but far from attractive.
/r/seduction31/12/12 07:29 PM
3

It's the right idea (frame managementment), but too aggro. Something more playful that shows you're still having a good time.
/r/seduction31/12/12 07:27 PM
2

You, sir, are no lady!
/r/seduction30/12/12 06:13 PM
2

I think your response works just fine. I also believe that if she says this line, the majority of the time, it's going to be a playful shit-test, which should be met by a playful response to maintain that sort of energy between the two of you. I think your response will work fine, but it slows down the momentum and connection you're sharing with the girl. If the girl is giving this shit-test with a straight face and no humor, your response would be perfect: neutral, but calling her out.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:55 PM
1

Dude, you fucked up. You don't have any alternatives to say, you haven't field tested these lines and you poop on anybody who tells you otherwise. Stop being giant ego-man and start looking to add value to the discussion (adding value does not mean writing paragraphs of defense of your behavior).
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:49 PM
1

That makes more sense, but I'm still shocked that you haven't had problems with exercise, illness, work performance and even sexual performance.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:36 PM
1

I don't do it every week, but I routinely go out until 3-4am at least one night per week, maybe two. or Huh? I do 1-2 weeknights and then also the weekends. Which one of these is true? And if you're staying up 4 nights a week for a year, and don't agree with me, I call bullshit.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:08 PM
1

The key word is subtlety. You can be into cannibal corpse and still express that with edgy accents on a more readily palatable outfit. Get some ideas online from designers out there who incorporate rock n roll elements in their collections.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:26 AM
1

If you're committed to meeting women, you'll need a stable and sustainable schedule, because managing that shIt is tough. I'm talking vitamin supplements, naps, healthy diet, etc. or you will burn out after three weeks and get sick. If you're going out once a week, you'll never make real progress.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:21 AM
4

Look back and see how your post isn't constructive. OP is proposing a technique that I can attest works, and you poop on it without proposing an alternative.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:14 AM
14

This thought process is extremely scarcity-minded. You don't live in an enclosed room of a hundred women and the entire spectrum of dating isn't a zero-sum game. If the intent of this post is to motivate you, so be it, but I personally object to this concept.
/r/seduction27/12/12 05:10 AM
1

Well, where did the manipulation start? What kind of manipulation is over the line? How much of the stuff that people do everyday is a form of manipulation?
/r/seduction22/12/12 05:27 PM
1

To this day, I can't believe this used to be a thing.
/r/seduction22/12/12 05:27 PM
2

I don't see this being an insecurity thing. I think the sudden withdrawal of your presence sexually makes her aware of how bad she wants it and how disingenuous her LMR is- the thinking being "Okay, that was just some stuff I was saying or doing, but now there are undesirable consequences to my behavior". If, on the other hand, she really didn't want to bang, and you did, it's still the right move. Sometimes people just want that physical connection and there was a mismatch of expectations.
/r/seduction22/12/12 05:20 PM
2

Friends have more emotional investment in the relationship. We're not talking about someone with whom you have deep rapport and understanding. It's more like if some dude you met once at a networking event calls you up and invites you to hang out.
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:22 AM
2

Some girls just won't take resonsibility for making this stuff happen. There are a lot of variables involved, so I think it's worth a followup if it's not a clear flake.
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:20 AM
6

I think he meant VHS.
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:16 AM
3

From the Sidebar FAQ that is required reading: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/pbkxs/glossary_of_terms_hz/
/r/seduction20/12/12 12:31 AM
2

Go to parties, throw parties, see the same people a lot, social proof, easy logistics, just be discreet. Totally a different rant, but don't tell nor imply to anyone that you had sex. Have a strong identity that transcends 'guy that bangs anybody he can'. This isn't 100% guaranteed, but if you do or are something distinctive that identifies you, that can be enough. Be a photographer. Be a DJ that actually cares about the music. Be in a band. Be a scene guy. Be a black British dude. Have a distin…
/r/seduction18/12/12 08:55 PM
2

My only question is... is she aware that you're in her room?
/r/seduction17/12/12 06:02 PM
8

And his family read his entire browsing history... no parent should have to live through that.
/r/seduction13/12/12 02:07 AM
2

Before anyone says anything, yeah I've read that sidebar and a lot of material about seduction. I'm not new to this and I've known about the community for years. There's your problem right there. You've read too much and you didn't apply any of it consistently. You're in college. Go out to meet girls and you cannot fail. Make lots of friends, don't get super drunk, stay on point. Problem solved.
/r/seduction13/12/12 01:08 AM
8

So goddamn true. That alkey was ahead of his time... RIP alkey!
/r/seduction13/12/12 01:02 AM
3

Your argument was completely soured by a bunch of ad hominem bullshit. You're right, but you're an asshole.
/r/seduction13/12/12 01:00 AM
8

Women may forgive your spelling errors, but Reddit never will.
/r/seduction13/12/12 12:59 AM
2

The best way to learn is with a wing.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:53 PM
2

GFTOW Go Fuck Ten Other Women
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:53 PM
1

Don't put it in the passive form. it's your job to make friends and go to these parties. That's what college game is.
/r/seduction07/12/12 03:12 PM
0

Did you get her name tatted on you? "<3 MOM"
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:50 PM
2

I have to agree with this guy. I'm all about women being sexually liberated and doing whatever the fuck they want with whomever they want. The more they fuck, the better they are at fucking. For some reason, though, if they rub it in my face, it's a turnoff. Get some rapport with the guy first and insinuate it as nonverbally as you can.
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:44 PM
2

Most women don't have the balls to really run game on guys. If you want to approach guys, that's one thing. If you want guys to approach you, that's different. If you're hitting on guys: Go over and talk to him (say "You know, it's not polite to stare and then not say hello." if you can't think of something on the spot. It's not nearly as cheesy as it reads on paper and most guys will be falling over themselves at this point anyway). Speak slowly. Make him aware of your logistics (ride home, boy…
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:39 PM
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Make college friends and commute to parties.
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:25 PM
1

I find the more accurate trend is AskSeddit - Beginner, specific questions Seddit - Off Topic, Armchair Theories, Game Analogies and occasional value.
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:22 PM
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Text a girl with some cool/funny/goofy stuff, get on her radar, let her know you're busy, don't refer to making plans until you're free again. Don't kino beyond an initial handshake, light incidental kino and a goodbye hug during the daytime. That shit gets weird and uncomfortable really quickly during the daytime, and if you have to ask, you're not calibrated enough to pull off something that aggressive.
/r/seduction06/12/12 08:54 PM
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It's in the FAQs. It's found in a cursory search. ASKSEDDIT is where people are supposed to provide an answer or a link. I'm downvoting you for chastizing me for no reason and for spelling "to" incorrectly! Shazam! EDIT: To be fair, it is a Simple Questions Thread, so I shouldn't be on full forum police alert.
/r/seduction04/12/12 04:36 AM
1

You waited a week to text her after you hooked up?
/r/seduction04/12/12 03:17 AM
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A quick search will give you answers.
/r/seduction04/12/12 03:15 AM
1

Lead her somewhere else.
/r/seduction01/12/12 06:33 PM
1

I was under the impression he doesn't still do personal coaching...
/r/seduction01/12/12 06:32 AM
1

You think it would be hard to get laid at resorts and swinger clubs?
/r/seduction30/11/12 10:12 PM
0

Fahkin' Boston.
/r/seduction30/11/12 03:27 AM
1

One useful thing: be LOUD and lead.
/r/seduction25/11/12 02:51 AM
2

DAE sweet sweet karma?
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:56 AM
2

Specifics: jokes, self-amusement teasing / cocky-funny Kino interesting stories See the pattern? Stuff that emotionally engages her. Its not about you, its about her (or both of you). Change her state.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:54 AM
1

Honestly, if you're salty because he gave you some tough love, you need thicker skin. Your ego is getting in the way of seeing the value he's offering.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:43 AM
3

Cry a river, get over it, then get over yourself. You're getting awesome feedback and the second you hear something that doesn't line up with your worldview, you freak out and jump on the high horse. Listen when people are giving you help.
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:29 AM
1

Congrats! Step up your game and be the initiator! Don't be passive and rely on girls to roll up on you!
/r/seduction25/11/12 01:23 AM
0

A lot of girls DO want to meet guys at the gym. I always hear stuff like, "You never know who you're going to meet at the gym." Some girls are OK with it, some aren't, just like with anywhere else.
/r/seduction20/11/12 08:27 PM
0

This isn't a seduction problem. This is a relationship problem. They deal with stuff like this exclusively. Take it over to /r/relationships.
/r/seduction20/11/12 08:22 PM
1

"Hang out sometime"? That's where this went wrong (at least on the texting side). Be specific, have plans and invite her along. Saying "sometime" is unproductive and shows that you're emotionally messed up over whether she likes you and you need closure. Also, you probably need to make her more attracted beforehand such that she wants to see you.
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:46 PM
0

You mean seductive sexy sexual tension?
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:36 PM
1

Saying no is your leverage. Either refuse her frame or lose all the power in the sex-scheduling process.
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:06 PM
1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=wUZxSf_P2r0#t=59s
/r/seduction19/11/12 07:58 PM
3

This book answers the question in more depth than you might be prepared for. http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges/dp/1591792576/ref=la_B001JP7M1A_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1353348564&sr=1-1
/r/seduction19/11/12 06:09 PM
1

Easy answer: allow your desire for her to overcome your personal stumbling points. If you want to fuck her bad enough, and that sex feels like a realistic possibility in your mind, you'll find a way to push past your fears. Less easy answer: force yourself to do it, even poorly. And then do it a lot more, and eventually it will become something you're comfortable with. This is probably better on /r/askseddit
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:09 PM
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You never get rid of AA permanently. There is no permanent solution where you don't have to work as hard. If you consistently are meeting girls, you allow yourself to start conversations more easily. However, the fear doesn't go away, you just redefine what is worth saying to girls and which girls you can talk to.
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:05 PM
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Don't spell it out, ever! You can't define what the night is about for both of you. Sexiness is something that you feel in the moment, and trying to pin down specifics and hold someone to a timeline of sexiness isn't sexy. It's also unsexy to use prior agreement in lieu of actually turning her on in person. In other words, don't try to hedge your bets or get some kind of insurance against failure. Instead, just do what everyone else does- when she comes over, go for it. If she doesn't go for it,…
/r/seduction19/11/12 03:58 PM
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There's usually a few Pre-Christmas holiday parties, but yeah,it can be a slow season. Good time to be in the malls, though, as they'll be jammed up with girls.
/r/seduction19/11/12 03:38 PM
1

There's plenty of subs dedicated solely to self esteem and self improvement, etc. /r/seduction is generally more about seduction.
/r/seduction18/11/12 07:53 PM
1

It sounds like what you're looking for is beyond the scope of this sub.
/r/seduction18/11/12 07:16 PM
2

Then Faq's and searches are your friend. There have been plenty of good threads about women like yourself looking to meet more guys.
/r/seduction18/11/12 05:50 PM
1

It is possible, it just takes a lot of work. You're just working against the fact that your friendship has no solid grounding/context.
/r/seduction18/11/12 06:01 AM
1

Are you looking to meet women or men?
/r/seduction18/11/12 05:59 AM
2

Assuming night game, clarifying your relationship preferences before you've even had sex feels like TMI. It's an important conversation to have once she explicitly wants to know.
/r/seduction18/11/12 05:43 AM
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The only way to get any traction in your life with women right now is to physically go to locations with women, force yourself to talk to them, and continue doing it consecutively for a month or so. You'll suck at first (a lot), but you'll eventually start to feel some momentum. If you can't commit a month to going out and chatting, you're going to have a bad time. I recommend finding someone in your area who is down to go out and meet women, having a backup/wingman helps you stay focused, deal …
/r/seduction15/11/12 04:56 AM
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To be frank, I don't believe that you've banged a few 10's. There's very few places on the Earth that even have a lot of legit 10's walking around. And if you're not meeting them in nightclubs (assuming I read that right), it seems unlikely you'll casually run across that many just doing your thing over the course of 5 years. [EDIT: I suspect that you slept with some gorgeous girls and are calling them 10's.] If I'm wrong, congrats, dude. Very few guys have the game to consistently pick up a 10 …
/r/seduction12/11/12 08:53 PM
1

Get creative, man. Try different resources, there's probably a dude on here or elsewhere from Germany that goes out, too.
/r/seduction12/11/12 02:32 PM
0

Then you've got your answer, and seeing as you've said that you're not looking to change your behavior earlier, you will need to simply accept the misattribution. /thread
/r/seduction12/11/12 02:31 PM
1

Hey man, quick heads up- that's not negging. A neg is simply a disqualifier. If you've insulted a woman, then you're just being a dick. I don't know where you got the impression that stuff is negging. If you've negged her, then you've demonstrated high value in that her appearance alone isn't sufficient to impress you. Basically, showing that you don't care or have expectations placed on the interaction. Negging is very rarely needed, usually in situations that most Redditors aren't in: talking …
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:41 AM
1

You came across too needy with the effort to get in touch and too logical/passive aggressive with your efforts to pin down her failure to respond. Same day text was good, but I'm confused why you expected/demanded an immediate response to your offhand story about voting. Girls are bad at even answering direct questions through text, never mind saying "cool story bro lol" to every text they get. Be OK with girls being illogical or non-responsive or not acting the way you want.
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:37 AM
1

Here's the best tip you're going to hear: Learn how to attract women. A woman's number isn't going to mean much if she isn't attracted. That means talk to more girls and develop a stronger social intelligence. Also, have some perspective: you (a stranger from a bus stop) followed her home. You then asked her for her number, oblivious to how uncomfortable she was. Even as a guy, I know I would be creeped out if anyone did that to me, no matter where your house is located.
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:27 AM
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Lol it's probably not what you meant, but I interpreted this as meaning you'll get completely turned off the second she starts talking.
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:15 AM
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Is this a question about girls? If not, there are better subreddits for this question, like /r/motivation.
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:13 AM
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Never thought of it that way. Like a 6 year old who insists on telling you how many fractions of a year they are from 7.
/r/seduction12/11/12 05:07 AM
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