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Hm, do you see me doing anything that I could change to get different results? And I am to some extent, but I don't necessarily want a relationship with any of these girls in particular. I've found lots of different things on Tinder: long term relationships, one night stands, Fuck buddies, short flings, even friends. People come for different reasons, but ultimately if you click and a certain style of relationship works then nothing is off the table.
/r/seduction27/06/16 06:51 PM
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So there's a little bit of variety, but generally nothing super explicit upfront. I'll set up a drink date and then a couple hours before the date I'll ask if they rather just stay in (meaning come over) instead. So, then they just come straight to my place. On one occasion we were very flirty and suggestive in text and the invite straight to my place just came naturally. In another case she said no to the first technique citing safety (reasonable) so we went to a bar near mine and then drive ba…
/r/seduction27/06/16 02:23 PM
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What do you suggest?
/r/seduction27/06/16 12:38 PM
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Tell more.
/r/seduction07/06/16 01:37 PM
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In general: Experience is attractive. That said, you have to use your own discretion on how much you are willing to lie. It is not necessary.
/r/seduction26/01/16 12:30 PM
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There is definitely a lot of ingrained stuff from culture that makes it difficult to shake this. Some things that help: -Remember that she has been with men because she likes men. Women like men. We're attractive to them. YOU are attractive to them. -Practice compersion: she's a person who has enjoyed herself and that's a good thing. Be happy for her. You've enjoyed yourself too. -Know your worth. Your value is not based on how you measure up to other men. That is always a losing and unsustainab…
/r/seduction26/01/16 11:34 AM
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Yeah, that's what I'd usually do. Like I said, I'd try to isolate. This was us three in a living room during a rain. So, no bouncing.
/r/seduction18/11/15 09:09 PM
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Good point, I just figured it was the closest term. Hm, what do you mean by go back to talking to my girl? That's kind of what I was already doing and that's where the problem started. We were all hanging socially so it's not like I could cut him out entirely. Or maybe there was and I'd like to know how to do it.
/r/seduction18/11/15 09:07 PM
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Yeah, good point. Only problem is that she is sort of shy so she would answer a little bit and then he'd start answering for himself. He wouldn't be answering for her just was more of a talker than her.
/r/seduction18/11/15 09:04 PM
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I'm going to tell you this from experience and from common sense: stop having causal sex. It's not for everyone. The point of sex or anything for that matter is to enjoy it. Only do what you enjoy not what other tell you you are supposed to enjoy. Please don't keep having meaningless sex or you will feel worse and worse. That may change one day if you become comfortable with it or something in your life changes. But for now it is obvious that it's not good for you. So please please stop doing it…
/r/seduction24/09/15 05:03 PM
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I wouldn't and I don't. Both are just asking to catch herpes or something worse.
/r/seduction14/06/15 02:33 PM
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EBook, yes.
/r/seduction21/05/15 11:45 PM
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Read Conquering Your Campus and focus on the idea of "sharing happiness" as outlined there in. It's a great way of thinking about things. Rather than thinking that you are taking something from others you should be offering them a chance to share in your happy world. Most people will be thankful or glad. Some won't, but with this frame that's totally okay.
/r/seduction21/05/15 11:10 AM
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Well said. What about those initial introductions? A problem I've run into is that often a girl doesn't necessarily seen to introduce me to her friends. Perhaps because we're not officially together. I'm not certain.
/r/seduction02/04/15 10:57 AM
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Oh, it's not about getting the social circle of a specific girl. It's about getting the social circle of any given girl. So, the cold approach answer doesn't really solve the problem. You approach you get the girl and now you want her social circle. I'm in the same spot. I hope that clarifies the nature of the question. Now if you're actually asking me what the value if social circle game is then that is a whole other thing and you may not really be equipped to help me with respect to this quest…
/r/seduction02/04/15 01:15 AM
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Does that make a difference in the answer?
/r/seduction02/04/15 12:25 AM
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Can you say more about the relationship between lifting and matches?
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:15 PM
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Like spamming?
/r/askTRP02/03/15 07:12 PM
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Agreed. This is only one of many paths to success and is not necessarily applicable to all people. Further the value of your age is more relevant to the women you are going for rather than your own age.
/r/seduction27/12/14 10:01 PM
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Yes, incongruence is value lowering. However, inconvenience only occurs if you fail to behave naturally or if one aspect of your personality contradicts another. Then you appear creepy, dishonest, fake. But everything about outer game is built on the idea of faking it until you make it. And it works. Consistently. Another way to think about it with respect to this example is that you are "becoming more adult" rather than "acting a different age". And while the distinction is semantic, I can see …
/r/seduction27/12/14 10:01 PM
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I was in Toronto for a month. And it was fucking awesome.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/14 11:56 AM
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Question though, how would be the best way to handle this as the boyfriend? Now, at first I'm thinking just tell the girl no. But then this fosters a sense of resentment which would pain the relationship anyway. So would you just default to next from the get go?
/r/TheRedPill18/12/14 02:28 AM
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Hm, may I ask if you are perhaps drawing from a body of experience here? I might be more willing to hear you out of you have anecdotal personal evidence here.
/r/seduction15/12/14 11:05 PM
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Do you ever note carefully what he's doing in a way that may allow us to replicate it?
/r/seduction15/12/14 07:05 PM
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You should share more about this guy. What does him sucking people into his reality look like?
/r/seduction15/12/14 06:08 PM
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I actually had to reread his comment because I thought the same thing as you, that it was defeatist, but he actually does make that distinction.
/r/seduction15/12/14 06:02 PM
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I'd have to express a fundamental disagreement on the nature of seduction here. Let's think about some classic concepts in the seduction community. One: day game versus night game. The idea is that differences in environment change how a woman will respond and thus your game needs to be different to succeed in a night club than it would if you were at a cafe in the middle of the say. Two: social circle game versus cold approach. If you cold approach in a closed social network (a college campus) …
/r/seduction15/12/14 06:00 PM
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Interesting, from the two paths that you listed it seems that there aren't any viable options there. Either be controlled by an abusive relationship or literally become rich just to get a girl. Do you think there is anyway to work within the first model you outlined and achieve some kind of success? And mostly to have them buy me shit, which is something I've enjoyed once in the past to varying degree (meaning average wealth women up to pretty wealthy).
/r/seduction15/12/14 05:54 PM
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Well, I suppose that's just semantics, but I understand what you're saying. Do you have any suggestions on how to immerse myself in that demographic? What sorts of activities, that I, as a non rich person, can do and how to get rich friends if this is something you would say is of value. And sure, mostly because in the past of enjoyed spending their money. I'd like to be able to do that more consistently.
/r/seduction15/12/14 05:49 PM
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Hm, that's a very good question. I suppose the latter, though it's a spectrum. Perhaps I should step back a bit and more strictly define what I'm looking for.
/r/seduction15/12/14 05:47 PM
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Are you asking me if girls have sent me videos of them with other guys? Yeah, of course. They're usually POV because you actually need a tripod or camera man to record anything else. So it's usually from her perspective or from his. My ex sent me bunches of her and her other boyfriend (poly). I never record myself though.
/r/seduction16/10/14 03:09 AM
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I love that shit honestly. I've specifically asked for it several times.
/r/seduction16/10/14 01:09 AM
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/r/fPUA
/r/seduction08/10/14 11:56 AM
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Your success rate is probably low because you're not doing enough work on the front end. By the tie you get the number (or leave the interaction that you got the number during) the girl should already be attached to you and you should already have a date set up.
/r/seduction18/09/14 03:04 AM
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Like I said, that's not really useful or productive advice. Furthermore, I'm off put by seddit's ridiculous eagerness to "move on" because it's highly inefficient and lack any finesse. Yes, we must know when to quit and we must practice non attachment so that failure does not ruin us. But persistence is an amazing tool in every aspect of life. Do you know how many times I've gotten laid by texting some girl from months ago who'd stopped talking to me? Or a girl who said let's just be friends? Or…
/r/seduction15/09/14 06:27 PM
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Thanks! I think I'll give something like that a try.
/r/seduction15/09/14 06:14 PM
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Thanks! Very good advice. How, specifically, would you advise I go about that?
/r/seduction15/09/14 05:27 PM
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Fair point, have you got any advice to be applied now?
/r/seduction15/09/14 05:26 PM
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I'm definitely willing to take a long trip for a girl, but only if we're already close/in a relationship. I don't really know this girl so I definitely wasn't taking a two hour trip.
/r/seduction15/09/14 04:34 PM
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I won't lie, I'm a pretty needy fellow. I seek emotional attachment from pua more than anything. I don't shy away from it. Though perhaps it was bad form to display that so quickly. That said, it's entirely possible that you're right. So the question is, do you have in your skill set the knowledge to turn her into an FWB if you were in my shoes?
/r/seduction15/09/14 04:32 PM
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Agreed. Were these free music shows?
/r/seduction01/09/14 12:33 AM
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Everything. In what way were you homeless? (Couchsurfing? Living on the streets/ under a bridge? Were you able to feed yourself and/or bathe?) What problems did you come across when trying to pick up while homeless? WHat things worked for you? Tips and tricks? Etc.
/r/seduction31/08/14 11:20 PM
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Tell me about your homeless time?
/r/seduction31/08/14 10:30 PM
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I would say that learning when and how to selectively devalue yourself is an important tool to have in your belt. I agree very strongly with your last point, though, that sometimes an incident is a total fluke and there is no useful information to be taken from it.
/r/seduction30/07/14 11:43 AM
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I would argue that is not perfect game. Part of game is comfort and a huge part of that is managing expectations. If you give off a vibe of a womanizer, make yourself so attractive that the girl feels like you're too far out of her league, or because enamored with you so quickly that it scares her off then those are things to improve on. Sometimes you actually have to devalue yourself by doing something dorky just so that you aren't too intimidating.
/r/seduction30/07/14 11:10 AM
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I'm going to be a bit contrarian here, but I say you should. I can't tell from your texts and post but it doesn't sound like you have an established relationship. It's easy for a girl to forget attraction and there are a lot of things to distract from your date. You also have no clue how flaky she is. Basically what you are betting on is that in a single interaction you managed to make her both attracted and comfortable enough that she will keep thinking about you for an entire week. That's not …
/r/seduction08/07/14 08:34 PM
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Hm, I don't want to dismiss your evidence but given the limited information that you're providing I can only guess that either there is something wrong with your execution OR younger girls are responding differently to you not because of their age, but because of your age. How old are you?
/r/seduction22/04/14 07:10 PM
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In my experience it works all the same. 16 to 40 age range. And millenials are the 18 to 30 age range. Maybe be more specific about what you're experiencing?
/r/seduction22/04/14 01:45 PM
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That's the definition of the word, yeah.
/r/seduction07/04/14 07:43 PM
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It's not that complex of a system to scare off the lions. It's not so much pedantic as it is oversimplifying. It's in the same vein as people who say things like "We can put a man on the moon but we can't [something completely unrelated]"
/r/seduction02/04/14 09:05 PM
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I can totally agree with that, but then a murder/suicide metaphor seems even more inappropriate to me.
/r/seduction01/04/14 10:22 AM
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I was with you until you said "getting them to slay themselves'
/r/seduction31/03/14 12:11 AM
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They say at the beginning: Wildebeasts are too fast to catch on foot. Now usually that wouldn't be a problem since you have arrows. But three arrows from three men won't kill a wildebeast. It will just run off. And then you can't catch it.
/r/seduction31/03/14 12:10 AM
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Ohhh! I'd suggest being more cautious in the tone of your writing voice because it obfuscated your meaning a lot of the time. But now I understand the point you've been trying to get at. Yes, that's possible, but if you genuinely thought that I expect that you would have led the discussion with this, so I can't give that too much weight. As for the possible ways that she might not be into me I'd say that sort of thinking is silly and counterproductive. I can't imagine a person can get very far i…
/r/seduction17/02/14 08:56 PM
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Hey, friend, no need to be acerbic. Did you read my post? My question and problem are both very clear I thought. I suppose I could try to rephrase it though if that's what you're asking. Is it?
/r/seduction17/02/14 08:25 PM
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Well that's pretty inarguably a moral question that i should be concerned with her getting fired. Or if you genuinely think it's a matter of the health of the relationship that we have that's a simple matter of discretion. A risk I'm more than willing to take and have in the past. Further on a logistical based I disagree very strongly with the thinking that 5 minutes of complete stagnation is not harmful and I'd at conventional knowledge here supports my thinking. So yes, there's quite a bit to …
/r/seduction17/02/14 08:05 PM
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Oh I see. I should make clear that I'm completely aware of that and am indifferent towards it. Which is why I ask for this advice. I suppose we're in moral disagreement here, but I appreciate your politeness.
/r/seduction17/02/14 07:22 PM
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Actually into. But does it matter, man? It's hard to tell tone from text sometimes, but it doesn't seem that you're actually trying to be helpful here. Am I misreading?
/r/seduction17/02/14 06:43 PM
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You can actually use this as momentum. Being a weird fuck like you are means that people already know you. Which can be very useful. If you turn it properly. What you need to do is h have a personality totally different from your physical appearance. I've seen it happen: some girl or guy does some weird or embarrassing shit that people laugh about but once you meet them their cool and normal and maybe even laugh about the weird thing they do.
/r/seduction30/01/14 12:59 PM
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A couple questions: how many pictures of yourself did you have up on your profile? How old did you post yourself as? (Feel free not to answer that) What race did you identify as (again don't have to answer) Did you have any other scares or negative experiences at any point before being banned?
/r/seduction07/01/14 12:02 PM
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I see this sort of thinking as inherently delusional. For simplicity I won't go through each point of your message but I do genuinely appreciate the general idea. I do stand by non attachment as a philosophy. However one: non attachment is not mutually exclusive to love or goals. It is simply the understanding that all things found will be lost again at some point. But two, and this is the more fundamental flaw I see with the argument that seduction is in any way compatible with orthodox Buddhis…
/r/seduction04/01/14 05:56 PM
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I don't think this philosophy is directly useful in seduction as it calls for nonwant. And seduction is based completely on the desire to achieve a goal. But some of its essence is applicable. Outcome independence ultimately is about goal refocusing. The goal is not the girl in front of you right now it's the fifty girls you meet over the month collectively. And it's the one (or however many) girl you fall in love with or have a great relationship with. This is not what Siddhartha was really tal…
/r/seduction04/01/14 03:04 PM
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Agree, b b then again I hate dancing.
/r/seduction02/01/14 11:04 AM
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This is a personal decision. Is potential sex the the single most important thing in your life? Is your integrity and honor a priority?
/r/seduction14/12/13 05:24 AM
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You make a very good point, which is why delivery is very important. You need make certain that you come across as very calm and nonjudgmental. Sex and sexuality are normal and she should feel no reason to think otherwise around you.
/r/seduction02/12/13 11:16 AM
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Everyone else's answers aren't too helpful. What you want to do is not pose it as a question. Assume she is talking to other guys (because she likely is) and just mention it in conversation. It's much to early to talk about exclusivity (if monogamy is your thing). Go with something like "What's the worst date/sex you've been on this week? And don't say me, or I will totally fight you" or something like that.
/r/seduction02/12/13 01:50 AM
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It's fucking Thanksgiving. She's just busy. No worries.
/r/seduction02/12/13 01:45 AM
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Wait for a lull in conversation. Tell her to come near, take her by the waist, hug her. Then from there you can kiss her no problem of she's okay with the hug.
/r/seduction29/11/13 06:52 PM
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Hm, well that's pretty surprising to me. But I suppose I was presenting anecdotal evidence. So I retract my argument if other guys have genuinely heard this. However I'd also say that often when people say nice they don't mean "kind and caring and sensitive" they mean it as a general adjective mean "good." This is a nice pie. Means good pie.
/r/seduction20/11/13 12:27 AM
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I've literally never heard any real life woman say she wants a nice guy. I've heard then say they want a hot guy, a funny guy, a sarcastic guy, a nerdy guy, but no one days they want a nice guy. I feel like that's just simmering we see in romantic comedies and stand up so often we start having false memories about it.
/r/seduction20/11/13 12:18 AM
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Hmm, what sort of references?
/r/MensRights20/09/13 07:40 PM
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That's actually why I unsubscribed from the MensRights subreddit. It was little more than complaining and feminism bashing and there was never, and I mean never, anything on the front page talking about actual solutions to problems or strategies for growth. I mean that's everything I hate about feminism. MRM has to do better. Feminism too, although that's wishful thinking.
/r/MensRights20/09/13 07:36 PM
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This is a huge marketing problem for MRM. Everything you're saying is correct, but no one takes the shit seriously if the vanguard is made of white cis men. And, honestly, it shouldn't be since that group is the LEAST affected by men's issues. Men of color, queer men, transgender men and women, are affected the most by these issues, as you've pointed out. If the MRM is going to go anywhere it's public face must reflect this. It must be a very left wing, LGBT, men of color, movement. That's somet…
/r/MensRights20/09/13 05:14 PM
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That's so beautiful. And the reason for the break up is understandable. Perhaps you will get to be together again one day.
/r/seduction26/08/13 01:08 AM
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Right, I much rather identify as liberal for this reason. Conservatism is essentially politicized hatred. I agree that people do overgeneralize, so very good point. However, I disagree that it's our job to debase stereotypes. Folks like Louis CK have extreme power to mold the thinking of other people. SO they have a responsibility to not mold it into something awful. That said, I don't think he does, by and large. And given how often he talks shit about women, I can't get mad at this and not the…
/r/seduction16/08/13 11:46 PM
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That's actually still called nostalgia. It just means a desire to go back to an old time. It usually implies a happy memory, but not necessarily. What you're describing is nostalgia.
/r/seduction09/08/13 01:00 PM
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I think that Bill and Louis both poke at women enough to call it even.
/r/seduction06/08/13 11:14 PM
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I consider myself extremely liberal/leftist and that's one of the reasons I love Louis CK so much, so this thread is right that he's pandering to that or perhaps expressing his leftist leanings. But one thing I do have about us liberals as a group is that we're so quick to indulge the myth of "dangerous men and pristine innocent women" and it's ridiculous.
/r/seduction06/08/13 11:13 PM
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