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[–]CANTgetAbuttPREGNANT 36 points37 points38 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Much more effective just to say "I really like the way things are between us, and I think it's great keeping it casual". This has worked great for me and I have 3 fwb.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Same message but positive instead of negative. Neat
[–]Bigjohnthug 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whatever the truth is works best IME. At the moment that means saying "I like us, I don't want to rush into labels, that killed my last relationship. I just want to let it grow organically."
[–]aldenso 25 points26 points27 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
TL:DR: "I’m not looking for anything serious right now. Don’t get me wrong, I think you’re awesome and I like hanging out with you, I just really enjoy my freedom."
[–]Tenmagnet-15 points 10 years ago* [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
C'mon, there's more to it than that :)
I discuss how you ALWAYS have a relationship with the people around you.
But yeah, if you only wanted to read one line, that would be it.
[–]aldenso 8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
There ain't, though.
[–]juanappleseed 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There is. It's the mindset, not the specific words. It's asking you to look into what relationship means to different people so you can more effectively communicate that you genuinely desire them while wanting to enjoy no obligations you get in a more serious relationship.
[–]JupeJupeSound -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
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[–]juanappleseed 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get what you're saying, but it's the easiest most freeing way I've interacted with women so it works for me.
[–]WillKane 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
What about when you are first messaging with someone online and they ask what you are looking for?
[–]CANTgetAbuttPREGNANT 14 points15 points16 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Looking to meet cool people and see where things go.
[–]FancyAssortedCashews 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Are you every girl on Tinder?
[–]CANTgetAbuttPREGNANT 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Okay fine... "I don't set expectations around dating. Every outcome is as unique as the individual. Let's get together and see where things go."
[–]FancyAssortedCashews 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh I wasn't criticizing, it's a good line, which is probably why so many girls use it. You just made me realize how much I'd seen it
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a girl starts asking what you're "looking for," it's probably fine to break through and at least meet her to see what she's about.
But if she gets more specific about wanting something serious when you meet, and you don't want that..... Then she's screening herself out.
People who aren't compatible with your values, are not shit testing. They're screening themselves out.
[–]ImJustSo 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"I'm not looking for anything, I'm just finding things. Why? Are you LOOKING for something? Because I'm not really interested in someone else deciding for me who I am meant to be. I won't decide what you're meant to be, I think that takes away who you are. Please don't do that to me and I think we could see where things are supposed to go." Or something along those lines is how I respond to that asshole of a question.
[–]rondeline 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're missing a big component...it's critical to know -when- to say this.
You don't say it after you hooked up!
[–]Awston5 points 10 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
This is excellent advice.
[–]meh613 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is lame, just be blunt about what you want -- leave no room for misunderstanding and be sure to stick to it. Likewise, if things change, be blunt about that too.
[–]BearBong -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
These websites.. So much nope to be had. Even more hilarious when op's replies have negative votes.
I think too many guys in this sub get caught up in the cycle of reading these crap blogs vs going out and being an authentic, attractive human.
[–]vardarac -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Which means what, in this context?
[–]just-jake -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am all for tact but it's all kinda BS.
By relationship the girl obviously means serious/exclusive.
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