So, to break a long story down. I lately had several dates with really cool girls and there was always this point when I think they were attracted to me, showed me with some body language (or maybe I read into it, I don't know) and I kinda missed the moment to continue up on that or was simply going like "OK WHAT SHALL I DO NOW?!". In my head I had this fixed idea of going for the bedding at date 1, which kinda put me in the spot to always at least try to get to that base. And to further elaborate, all of those girls are more or less kinda decent, so maybe I wanted that too fast, but yeah, maybe if I had done it right / didn't miss the moment or what, I could have succeeded?

So my take on this is more or less that I should have gone into the offensive and just kissed them when they showed me like "Hey I'm pretty over here, I open up my hair etc.", but then again, if I read the situation wrong, I try to go for a kiss and intimacy and shit doesn't work and it's gonna be awkward?

I kinda took the pansy way of getting the feeling "Hum, maybe it would be the right time now to do more?" but then not acting on it and it kinda dwindled out and then afterwards going for like "Hey, you don't really want to sleep alone over there, do you?" and a little more of begging and groveling, till I'm disgusted with myself and give up.

And the second question might be: WHAT DO THOSE GIRLS THINK NOW? I mean we're all on friendly friends terms and I really like them, and still I kinda assume that those, too, would maybe like to have some fun and not wait for like 10 dates before anything happens. But in their book I'm now the pushy pussy who's then friendzoned and or "oh yeah, he wants to get into my pants, he's a nice guy, but that's all he was after."

And since I tried that and had the same result with 4 different girls in the course of one week I think to myself that I either do something wrong, have the wrong mindset, or am like a poker player who gets desperate because he wants that success and fails ever more by going at it like that.... so yeah, maybe I should just do a constructive pause, reevalute and either go for offensive strategy and see how it goes, or go "yes, maybe that's not the right moment yet, maybe I want this too fast and shouldn't be butthurt by myself if I don't get it (and make it worse by that desperation)".

So yes, those are my freely written down thoughts. I would be very glad and thankful if maybe someone can make any use of that and or give me some tips in how far I have a wrong mindset. I mean, I would also be satisfied with going at it slower or changing a few of my approaches, but repeating the same mistake always again doesn't really feel very nice.

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