Ive been reading a ton of material and hace been practicing but i just found out a problem Ive had for quite a while and just acknowledged, when Im getting to know a girl i try to not show that i like her, in the way that I try not to look desperate and so I try not to be the first to engage nor the first to talk and try to let her be the one that comes to me but this is wrong, what should be my mentality to change this behavior? It just clicked that this cant be right.