Finding it impossible to get over oneitis

Report_Topside · 2020-09-26T15:01:49+00:00

Get rid of the social media right now. Cut that shit out quicker than you can say ABC. Social media is designed to hook us. Whether it's joy, envy, sadness, loss, jealousy - the beast doesn't care it just wants your time and energy. The only way to beat it is to cut it. Unfriend. Block. Do what you've got to do and get her out of your social media feed.

Next. Reconnect with your friends and family. Call your mum. Call your cousin. Text your best friend. Family not in your life? No friends? Not a problem. Get outside of the house and go for a walk. Just do it. Go to any store. Strike up a conversation with the staff. About anything. Catch a train somewhere. Look at the sky. How the fuck is the sky that colour? Wander around your city for a bit.

Get a pushbike. Join a gym. Find a new hobby.

Stay busy. Take control and command of your life again.

Some days will be great. Some days you'll sit in your car and cry. It's all part of being a man and all part of being human.

The most important thing is to take absolute responsibility for your life. You blame NOBODY else for your problems. You make your own life.

e_getts · 2020-09-26T15:42:38+00:00

^ this. it sounds like you just need to work on yourself and boost your self esteem. best way to do this, go to the gym every day, eat healthy, make goals for yourself and strive to reach those goals. This isnt the only girl on planet earth. I know thats easy to say but ive kind of been in your same position before. Just remember time heals everything. Youre not in love with this girl, youre in love with the idea of her. You deserve someone who doesnt put you through this and can let you live assured that she likes you just as much as you like them. But the only way youre gonna find someone like that is if you start to love yourself more.

e_getts · 2020-09-26T15:53:19+00:00

yes. you need to be happy with yourself before looking for a relationship. 100% there is no way around this. Once you find happiness with yourself then it will become immensely easier to find someone to share that happiness with.

If you are not happy with yourself, then you end up depending on women to give you that happiness, leaving to oneitis. And nothing is a bigger turnoff to girls than thinking they are your only source of happiness.

2020-09-26T16:44:36+00:00

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Title	Finding it impossible to get over oneitis
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	September 26, 2020 2:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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