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First of all. Slow down. Breathe. Take a second to slow down. Your post is long and filled with highs and lows. Lots of emotions. There is nothing inherently wrong with emotion at all - we aren't supposed to be robots. But you have forgotten the golden rule of this whole thing we call life (and meeting women) : have fun. Very early in the piece you made a fundamental error - you did not listen to your gut. Your gut and your subconscious are usually telling you subtly very important information. …
/r/seduction01/02/21 04:11 AM
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I've got some people who blow up my phone (including friends). I just leave it if I don't feel like responding. It's no big deal. The issues come if that person starts to get angry and aggressive after I have explained I am busy.
/r/seduction30/01/21 02:02 AM
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Why stop responding? Are you trying to let her down gently ? Have you lost interest?
/r/seduction30/01/21 01:58 AM
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Did you make any moves when she was escalating conversation? It sounds like your opportunity may have been missed. It's now almost Feb. New Year's day was a long time ago.
/r/seduction20/01/21 02:22 AM
2

What do you do that displays neediness?
/r/seduction14/01/21 10:56 AM
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You are correct consent is absolutely critical. But instead of asking for permission state your intentions. "Can I kiss you?" becomes "I would love to kiss you right now.", "are you okay with my hand there?" becomes "I've imagined feeling that body of yours all night." After stating your intentions she can reject or accept your advance.
/r/seduction10/01/21 01:58 AM
21

One sentence summary: Don't be a nice guy, be a good guy
/r/seduction08/01/21 12:10 PM
2

Definitely too needy. Stay away from the social media until you have developed some rapport in person. You work together, it's not like she's going to dissappear any time soon. Abundance mentality mate you are busy with your own life and meeting new people. If your paths cross at work, great! If not then let it simmer. Let her see you at work. Keep it organic. But overall avoid workplace hookups as much as you possibly can. They are fucking DISASTROUS 9/10 times. If this is a place you want to h…
/r/seduction02/01/21 12:04 AM
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Generally you don't need courses on social dynamics and confidence. I would start in these subs and talk to people about specific examples. Can you give us an idea about what you are finding difficult?
/r/seduction04/12/20 04:57 AM
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Overly invested. Overly emotional. You have had one conversation with this girl and you are already utterly head over heels. I get it. She actually sounds wonderful, but you gave it all up and left exactly zero mystery. Unless the person feels exactly the same way at exactly the same time this approach is simply not successful. It isn't over yet but I highly recommend that you DO NOT send a follow up. You have already followed up when you did not need to so another one would send a clear shout o…
/r/seduction10/10/20 02:47 AM
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Get rid of the social media right now. Cut that shit out quicker than you can say ABC. Social media is designed to hook us. Whether it's joy, envy, sadness, loss, jealousy - the beast doesn't care it just wants your time and energy. The only way to beat it is to cut it. Unfriend. Block. Do what you've got to do and get her out of your social media feed. Next. Reconnect with your friends and family. Call your mum. Call your cousin. Text your best friend. Family not in your life? No friends? Not a…
/r/seduction26/09/20 03:01 PM
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Overthinking. Over analysing. That is all I see here my man. Do you like this girl? If so, make it known. Do you flirt? Is there any sexual chemistry? Do you tease her?
/r/seduction26/09/20 02:34 PM
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In my humble opinion there should be zero need to hint about other women. If she isn't already assuming that you have other women interested then TELLING her or even hinting at it won't do the trick. It can go drastically wrong and most women are incredibly perceptive so they will see straight through the lie. Bottom line - if you are telling her you have other women in the wings you probably don't. She's smart enough to realise that you wouldn't waste time with her if she isn't interested if yo…
/r/seduction02/09/20 12:49 PM
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Let's pump the brakes here. Step one. Shave the beard. Keep the moustache. Get a good haircut. Maybe a basic fade or the classic short back and sides. Next is the attitude. Life is all about attitude and all about what we make of it. 26 years old your life is still only beginning. You can make choices every single day. Take responsibility for the world around you and your decisions and choices. This is deeply attractive to women. A man who can say 'I am here because of my choices' is extremely a…
/r/seduction16/08/20 12:37 PM
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Go to your settings and turn off 'last seen' that way you won't show when you've read a message. You also won't be able to see when she has seen your message either. For me it's way better that way you can assume someone is busy and there is no stress. I would probably leave it for now and see if she responds. Good for you approaching someone and getting a number. Whatever happens you took the plunge and I'm proud of you. Keep up the good work.
/r/seduction16/08/20 12:24 PM
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I believe it's more of a mindset than any sort of book or drills or anything like that. I have personally never read any pick up books or anything like that. I used to read this forum a lot when I was younger and took the positive bits from it. The biggest lesson for me was to treat people as equals. No matter who you come across nobody is more or less than you. You are equal to them. Treat people with respect but do not be a doormat. Disagree when it's required, agree when you agree and remain …
/r/seduction01/08/20 02:45 PM
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Don't go there seeking validation from anyone. Go there to have fun. Engage people in conversation, dance, laugh, listen. Be present in the moment. If you go there looking to hook up or looking to score you will stand out. Interact with both guys and girls and everyone in between. Don't single people out because they are attractive or you want to get to know them more. Be fun basically.
/r/seduction01/08/20 02:33 PM
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What was the question and what was your answer?
/r/seduction25/06/20 02:07 AM
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You only truly fail if you let the experience make you bitter and angry. See it for what it is. Laugh. Learn. Move on. Don't let this be emotional baggage it is not worth it.
/r/seduction25/06/20 02:03 AM
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You said she feels like 'the one' it's very unlikely you will just get over her that quickly. It is going to take serious effort and time. I mean things could work out extremely well and I am just giving you the doom and gloom version here but I just don't want to see you in a very difficult situation.
/r/seduction17/06/20 02:20 PM
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Do you mean September 2020 or September 2021?
/r/seduction17/06/20 02:17 PM
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I would HIGHLY recommend not moving in with her. This situation can only get more complex if you are both living together. Option a. She cheats on her boyfriend with you. They have a very messy breakup. You two start a relationship. The pressure to make sure she is happy will be IMMENSE. She will blame you utterly and entirely if she is not happy and will blame the collapse of her former relationship on you. Option B. She goes on happily with her boyfriend and you get to hear them sleeping toget…
/r/seduction17/06/20 02:10 PM
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Flirt with her. The only way to test the waters to see if there is anything more there is to flirt and see if she responds with the same energy.
/r/seduction15/06/20 02:15 AM
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This is a VERY broad question. It's hard to give a generalised funny response here other than to say that a quiet confidence and ability to tease someone you are dating is very important. Can you give us some examples of where your humour hasn't worked?
/r/seduction16/05/20 04:41 PM
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I take everything on Reddit with a grain of salt. Everyone has their own biases and history. I've seen some downright toxic posts and comments on r/Seduction but I've also seen some geat advice. Some people on r/Seduction sound like they've waltzed straight out of the 1950s or someone let their great grandpa near a computer. The point is it's similar to most subs where there are a range of characters and beliefs. I've never been on r/femaledatingstrategy so I have no comment.
/r/seduction16/05/20 04:17 PM
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Absolutely with practice you can create a spark. Not always with every single person, but you can definitely do more to create an interesting and attractive aura
/r/seduction16/05/20 11:53 AM
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Without photographs I will have to assume that you are exaggerating. I honestly doubt that sucking in one's cheeks could go from 5 to 8. Always remember as well that those numbers and rating scale is all about perspective. You could meet someone that falls madly in love with you BECAUSE of your round face. I have some physical features that I think oh if only I could fix those. Growing up I had shocking skin, could not grow a beard, looked tired a lot etc etc. My face was not ideal at all. And y…
/r/seduction15/05/20 02:30 AM
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First off a little background: There is a reason that testing for herpes simplex virus is not included in standard STD/STI tests. A blood test will determine if you have HSV anti bodies in your blood but it will not tell you where the virus has settled. Oral herpes aka cold sores or genital herpes can both be commonly caused by either HSV 1 or HSV 2. It is estimated that by the age of 60 about 70% of the population will have acquired either HSV 1 or HSV 2. Check sources and do your own research …
/r/seduction14/05/20 03:21 PM
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A dangerous game my friend. A dangerous game. First off where are you at? Are you over your ex? Do you want to sleep with them again? Do you want to be in a relationship with them again?
/r/seduction30/04/20 04:01 PM
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'I tried to chat with her a bit with the purpose of going out with her' Major error a lot of people make. The goal is not to date someone or sleep with someone. The goal is to enrich your life and next enrich the lives of others. If you make your goal to date then people can smell it a mile away. People aren't interested in that. People want to be around interesting people who enrich their lives. If you focus solely on attempting to date this girl you will miss out on being your own individual p…
/r/seduction08/03/20 03:45 PM
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Re-read your post. You are focusing your entire personality in this post around your lack of alcohol and dislike for the club. This is not interesting. This is not appealing. Women and men want to be around interesting people who make them feel valued and worthwhile. It is as straightforward as that. If you bring value to a situation you will be sought after. Nobody is going to come up to you and hold your hand at the club. It is not about loving alcohol and it is not about loving the club. It i…
/r/seduction27/02/20 04:42 PM
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Honesty. Honesty. Honesty. I tell people from the outset how much I utterly love my own space and utterly love being single and that it will not be changing any time soon. This serves two purposes : 1. Demonstrates value because I do not seek a partner to validate me and 2. I am upfront and honest from the beginning. No point seducing on a false pretence.
/r/seduction27/12/19 11:15 AM
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Mate I absolutely destroyed a great thing I had going online the other day. It was going so well and I completely torpedoed it. We have good days and bad days. I've missed MANY opportunities with crushes in the past. I cringe at my past (and recent) stuff ups. It's so important though to learn and to remind yourself of all the great times you have had! Think about your current FWB! Some people go their whole lives without that opportunity. Live. Learn. Keep moving forward.
/r/seduction18/12/19 09:44 PM
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I let the tease go on too far. Initially she responded incredibly well to me turning her down and she actually tried to convince me by talking about how physically attractive she is and what she could offer. I kept teasing too long and didn't 'give in' early enough. Stupid.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:40 PM
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Upvoted because I'm always ready to learn. This time I definitely stuffed up. Normally I have no issues whatsoever with this approach but this time it completely backfired.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:29 PM
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Hey this is good advice and I appreciate the response. She unmatched me after she said I hurt her feelings. It completely blind sided me because I thought it was going extremely well. I am assuming that she has never been rejected before even playfully so maybe that contributed. I don't know. Anyway I just feel like an absolute rookie because normally I am the one giving advice here. I got absolutely schooled on this one.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:16 PM
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Such an epic fail. Feel like an absolute rookie.
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:00 PM
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I'm just so annoyed that I misjudged it so woefully. Absolutely catastrophic failure. And I legitimately feel bad if she was hurt.
/r/seduction18/12/19 02:59 PM
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This is an awesome response. Very VERY good points.
/r/seduction18/12/19 01:29 PM
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Cut a small rectangle into the adjoining wall. Not so small that you can't fit a plate through, but not so large that you could crawl through. The perfect size would be approximately 15 inches x 8 inches. Begin to prepare various meals and gifts to push through your newly made 'Neighbour hole'. Present her with gifts two to three times per week. When she eventually sees the hole and asks questions like "What in the FUCK are you doing?" or "I don't need any more guacamole." you are then in a posi…
/r/seduction17/12/19 08:02 PM
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Six years. Ten paragraphs. A whole lot of hurt. I'll simplify this for you: Dating and relationships are supposed to be fun. Life is short. Blink and it's flown by. You're young. You're kind. Move on with your life to people who have time for you and people who make life fun. This girl is living her own life hooking up with people and so should you. Go and meet other people for your own sanity.
/r/seduction15/12/19 01:53 PM
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By seeing them as equal human beings. No more no less. And by not referring to them as 'pussy'.
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:02 PM
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First things first. Well done on pulling yourself away from the incel and hate culture. That takes self awareness, strength and a grown up attitude. Next. As hard as it sounds and as strange as it sounds you have to look at the world (especially when interacting with women) as a game. I don't mean there are secret codes or cheats, I mean life is here to be lived and to have FUN. Some days are going to be hard and long. Some days you'll lie on the lounge room floor and cry. But, live your life an…
/r/seduction29/11/19 11:42 AM
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"I'm sick of girls putting me on hold and showing a lack of interest in this regard" This is the fundamental core of your issue. Overly emotionally invested in something you have no right and no need to be invested in. You are forgetting the most important part of this whole thing - have fun. You sound like you are forgetting to have fun with it. So what if girls flake or ghost or whatever. You don't know what is going on in their life. You know what is attractive? A guy living his own life who …
/r/seduction20/11/19 10:10 AM
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Because inevitably you feel like you are trying to impress them. When you are talking to a girl in real life you can see them smiling, laughing or eyeing you off. You know where you stand and you are at ease. Online it is a silent wall. A harsh bright screen staring back at you. No tone. No laughter. Three grey dots start buzzing and you wonder what response you will get. It's like gambling.
/r/seduction07/11/19 01:36 PM
2

Ask her out. "Hey I'm going to (insert cool event) this weekend want to join?"
/r/seduction26/10/19 05:09 AM
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How old are you? What is the context? We need more info.
/r/seduction26/10/19 04:54 AM
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The main idea of being a truly seductive person and someone that other people want to be around is to be carefree and have fun with it. By dedicating specific timings, numbers, goals and strategies you are clearly passionate about meeting girls, but this does not always translate smoothly into real life. Part of being attractive to women is that you are attractive to EVERYONE. I certainly do not mean literally at all. Some people won't find you attractive and some people will outright want you a…
/r/seduction20/10/19 02:13 PM
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No I have never put money towards stuff like that because I have tried to learn through trial and error and asking questions since I was a young kid. I don't know why people want to charge money for this stuff because we should all want to help our brothers out. I'll happily give advice for free. This sub is good because people have discussions and not everyone agrees with everyone else but hey at least it's free.
/r/seduction17/10/19 12:44 PM
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Why do you need a course? This sub is for discussing the topic. Ask away if you have questions.
/r/seduction17/10/19 12:38 PM
1

I feel like the whole ownership thing regarding cities or locations is really overdone. It will especially backfire if that person is from the area. I would focus more on really specific spots like pubs or restaurants that you consider your local rather than the entire city. Just my two cents.
/r/seduction16/10/19 03:17 PM
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My man why so much emphasis on the kissing? She has specifically told you she wants to take it slow. Just enjoy your time together. Get to know her. Be cool, calm and relaxed.
/r/seduction16/10/19 02:28 PM
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Every single time.
/r/seduction11/10/19 10:23 AM
1

The King James Bible
/r/seduction11/10/19 08:41 AM
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You don't have to tell her she's cute. Certainly not right now. If she is attractive then she probably already knows. She wants something DIFFERENT something refreshing. Someone who will treat her as an equal not some mythical beast. Women eat, sleep and drink like the rest of us. See her as your equal.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:53 PM
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Spend some time reading and learning and most importantly going out into the world and seeing for yourself. My advice? Keep cool, calm and collected. See the world as a fun game. Don't take things personally. Relax. Breathe. Enjoy the moments you have. She sounds unsure. Not your problem. Keep living your life. Meet new people. Share experiences with them.
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:43 PM
2

Firstly. How old are you?
/r/seduction07/10/19 12:30 PM
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Bizzare.
/r/seduction06/10/19 12:00 PM
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I normally say never say never and I tell people to have confidence and shoot for the stars BUT I STRONGLY advise against trying to pick up through social media. It is next to impossible unless you are in the top 99.9% of attractiveness and even then it is not guaranteed. You are amongst literally hundreds if not THOUSANDS of potential suitors at the click of a button. Let that sink in. Reddit, Instagram, tumblr, Facebook, snapchat blah blah blah filled to the brim with thirsty dudes. How do we …
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:49 AM
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I'm not trying to be combative here, my initial comment was saying you did well by having a go. All I'm saying is that dates v hang outs v friends catching up are all words that complicate something that is really straightforward. I see what you mean about her asking whether you are hanging out as friends but I would respond in a much more relaxed way. One example is a dinner date I went on with a girl I met in a shop. I basically said hey do you want to get dinner when you finish your shift. Sh…
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:44 AM
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Convert friend into girlfriend? I never mentioned converting anyone into anything. Either a girl wants to sleep with you or she doesn't. There is no such thing as the friend zone. I've slept with friends that I still absolutely consider friends and catch up with them regularly with zero sexual tension or hard feelings. They tell me about current boyfriends or crushes or whatever and we talk about it exactly like friends. Your error was putting this girl into a box of friend or girlfriend. Friend…
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:33 AM
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Ahh. Well that was your first error! Of course you're hanging out as friends first. Then attraction comes later. The best thing is though that you had a go! Better than most blokes. Proud of you.
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:23 AM
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This gets posted every 3.6 seconds on this sub. Read my history and 50% is spent explaining why text is horrible for almost everyone. You are a number and words on a screen until attraction has been established in real life. It is as simple as that. Until a woman finds you attractive in real life texting should be used to organise meet ups.
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:22 AM
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She said it's not between friends?
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:11 AM
1

Wait where was the rejection I'm confused?
/r/seduction06/10/19 11:00 AM
2

What is with acronyms on this sub? What is ioi?
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:06 AM
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You obviously aren't screaming enough. Basically every day you want to finish the day with a hoarse throat because of how powerful and assertive you have been. Ordering lunch? Shout your order from your table at the back of the restaurant. Buying a round of drinks? Yell from the urinal in the bathroom. If people question what you are doing or say "Sir this is a funeral home" you know what to do - drown em out with a bit more ASSERTIVE SPEECH.
/r/seduction27/09/19 10:34 AM
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Guys constantly forget this one simple rule. If you want to stand out always speak uncomfortably loudly. Always drown out others when speaking, especially indoors. You want to make sure neighbours and passing joggers out on the street can hear you. The louder you speak the more important your message. Personally I haven't whispered since 2006.
/r/seduction27/09/19 10:21 AM
2

What is a HB?
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:16 PM
2

You talked about yourself. Ask questions my man!! Find out about them. Tease them. Who cares right now about you wanting to work on your dance moves. Irrelevant. Most people go their whole lives having to listen to other people's stories. I have enormous success when a girl tries to ask about me, I say nope, tell me about you. Note well: this only works if you actually give a shit about what the woman is saying. If you don't care then this approach will not work and you will be spotted a mile aw…
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:01 PM
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REASSESS. I kid. But honestly it is next to impossible. Worse than trying to win someone over by text. Unless you are in the top 1% of attractive humans it is frought with difficulties. And even then attractive pictures doesn't necessarily get you across the line. In person I can be funny and flirty and stand out. I feel the room. I gauge reactions. Online I'm just another average looking dude amongst literally HUNDREDS if not thousands for some of these girls.
/r/seduction17/09/19 02:57 PM
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Need more context.
/r/seduction17/09/19 02:21 AM
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Ends disastrously if done poorly - proceed at own risk. The downside is you either shame her for her past which is completely counter productive or you risk coming off as deeply insecure. The only way this works is if you are in a place of such extreme confidence and attraction that you joke about her leaving you for someone else ie (in a teasing/flirting way) "You're getting a bit much for my schedule why don't I set you up with someone else or you give one of your exes a call" again - ends dis…
/r/seduction15/09/19 01:39 AM
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Ooh look at this guy with his matches. Mate half of us don't get anything. Just enjoy it and be happy you had some matches. Tinder is a business. It wants your money. It wants you to pay for it. How? By making you ask questions like this. If you met the love of your life within sixty seconds of joining and then deleted the app it would make them zero money. They need to keep guys interested. It's an algorithm my man.
/r/seduction14/09/19 12:05 PM
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Go back. Talk to her. See what happens. It could be a case of her simply doing her job and being nice to customers so they buy things OR she could have been into you. The only way to find out is to go back and ask her out.
/r/seduction14/09/19 03:14 AM
2

You need to be more specific with the type of aircraft. Fixed or rotary wing?
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:42 AM
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Good to see friendlyjordies getting a shout out on r/Seduction.
/r/seduction08/09/19 06:40 AM
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No problem at all my man. Remember, she could easily have said no. She could have easily not matched with you on Tinder. She could have easily stopped the conversation. She has not done any of those things. Be confident within yourself.
/r/seduction05/09/19 12:37 PM
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My man the two most important things are to firstly have fun and secondly, treat her as your equal. A lot of guys go in too hard and too stressed and end up putting their date on an impossibly high pedestal. Have fun with it. Tease her. Ask her questions. Learn about her life. Enjoy your night.
/r/seduction05/09/19 12:07 PM
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"maybe meet like minded women" part of your motivation was to meet women. Women know this! They can sense it. Go after your OWN dreams and passions and you will be much more attractive
/r/seduction02/09/19 12:09 PM
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Do you have your own hobbies and goals? Having your own journey helps immensely with creating attraction.
/r/seduction02/09/19 11:51 AM
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King James Bible
/r/seduction02/09/19 11:43 AM
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Sounds like the date went really well man. Organise a time to catch up again. Texting can be very difficult to flirt over especially if you don't know the person well or they themselves aren't very good at texting. Some girls in my experience aren't very good at keeping conversations flowing over text even if they want to. Don't sweat it. Have fun with it and see if she wants to hang out again. If you get nothing back then leave it and move on.
/r/seduction29/08/19 01:36 PM
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I'm glad you can see this is a poor attitude. Girls who are comfortable with their sexuality and their body should NEVER be shamed for it.
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:12 AM
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First off you are judging every guy and painting them all with the same brush. Not every guy cares about big boobs and ass. Secondly, don't worry about what the other girls are doing. I'm a guy. I'm not completely ripped with a huge **** and a chiselled jawline. So what? I work on the great qualities I do have. Stop comparing yourself to other girls it is very unattractive and you will become bitter and resentful. Focus on your qualities. You have no idea who is looking at you and thinking you a…
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:11 AM
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"now i know shes not like hoe giving nudes to everyone" I would switch up this attitude as well my man. There is nothing wrong with sending pictures to people. Don't shame this type of lifestyle because my man I'd had to break it to you but YOU ASKED FOR PICTURES.
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:04 AM
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You asked for pictures straight away my man yeah that's a no go when creating interest especially if she is not DTF. I would let this one cool off. Meet new people. Don't jump in so hard so early. Don't worry we all make mistakes.
/r/seduction15/08/19 03:02 AM
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Don't apologise for that my man! No need to apologise I just didn't read it because your question summed it up for me. Honestly my advice is to have fun with it. Do the response that you feel comfortable with and respond how you WANT to. A lot of issues arise because people curb what they want to say and insert what they think SHOULD be said.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:57 AM
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I didn't even read your post it was too long. She is shit testing you. She says you want to hang out to fuck? You say "Only if you earn it, let's not get too ahead of ourselves". Have fun with it. Enjoy the conversation. Have a laugh. This stuff is meant to be fun.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:52 AM
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Then be honest with her.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:51 AM
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You did not answer my question brother: what do you want.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:45 AM
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The timing is not really relevant because you are living your own interesting life and she can come along if she wants to. Your life should not revolve around her schedule. It can help if you factor in when she gets back but ultimately you want to see if she wants to come along.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:40 AM
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Your question is confusing. What do you want? She was probably shit testing you. What do you want out of this?
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:32 AM
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Yep also works
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:28 AM
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"Hey Stacy/Gwen/Meg/Brooke/inserthernamehere I'm going to ballgame/theatre/show/concert/pub on [insert date here] want to come along?"
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:25 AM
1

Good point I definitely agree with the awkward bitter avoidance.
/r/seduction15/08/19 02:09 AM
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It's a construct that guys have created to justify why someone won't sleep with them or want to date them. What is real about it? It does not exist. Either she wants to sleep with you or she doesn't. You don't think friends sleep with friends? Edit: I've definitely had women say they didn't want to sleep with me or date me. It happens my man!
/r/seduction15/08/19 01:28 AM
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Well if she doesn't want to have sex with you then accept this gracefully and move on. There are millions of women out there do not get into the habit of getting caught up and sad and resentful. Ever.
/r/seduction15/08/19 12:16 AM
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This is an extremely broad question and we will need more information to give you a bit of advice. As for the friendzone I personally don't believe there is such a thing. Friends come and go, relationships change, people develop, feelings shift. People can have incredibly deep and lifelong connections in what people often describe as 'the friendzone' so I don't think it is a helpful term. I believe a better way to look at is whether or not you are seen as a viable sexual partner. What does it me…
/r/seduction15/08/19 12:09 AM
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Oh well if you already know her then definitely hit her up and say hello. I thought you were talking about some Instagram influencer girl or something or someone you had never met. Hit her up and ask her to hang out. If she responds then great! If not move on.
/r/seduction14/08/19 01:35 AM
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Of course not. Mate. My skin is TERRIBLE. I mean terrible. My face must have reached 15 and said "nope not changing". I'm an adult now and I still have the skin of a teen. Does it hold me back? Sure it tries to. It tells me to stay home and not go out. But you know what? You tell that voice to shut up and you get out there. Let's be real here. I have honestly found that it actually relaxes people. Women are often worrying about their appearance and especially their skin. It is a serious source o…
/r/seduction14/08/19 01:22 AM
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So what do you hope to achieve? What is the purpose of engaging with that post? Let's be real here. If she is attractive and has a good personality and lots of followers then chances are multiple guys are contacting her through Instagram. Who knows how many. Your guess is as good as mine. The point is, the digital world is a 2D space where anyone with an Internet connection can strike up a conversation. There is no intimacy and there is no physical contact. Tone doesn't convey well and humour ca…
/r/seduction14/08/19 01:12 AM
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Was the message sent only to you?
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:49 AM
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You asked. I answered my man.
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:46 AM
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Funny/playful is great - within reason. Seeing life as a fun challenge and not taking things personally and avoiding becoming bitter and resentful is excellent and will hold you in good stead. However, being a constant goofy funny-guy can become irritating. Balance out funny and carefree with serious moments especially when it comes to causes or things you care about.
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:45 AM
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You have actually already taken a major step in realising that you are the sole reason that things aren't working out right now. Your question acknowledges that you are sabotaging yourself and putting yourself in these positions so this is a very good first step. Everything boils down to confidence. Not arrogance. Not aggressiveness. Not smooth talking. Not smooth dancing. Confidence above all else. How do you get confidence?? How do you stop speaking quietly or become withdrawn? There are many …
/r/seduction29/07/19 09:40 AM
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Very good to hear success stories and people doing well. However while I understand the sentiment of being too busy to see her straight away it won't work if you aren't actually busy with things. Don't make it an illusion that you live a busy life. If you actually live a life that is empty she will realise very quickly. The idea is that you don't have to make anything up or pretend to push plans back because you are 'busy' if you want to see her, see her. If you are too busy doing real things th…
/r/seduction13/07/19 11:49 PM
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If you are seeing her at the DnD meet then ask her out in person. See if you guys vibe together at the meet up.
/r/seduction13/07/19 11:29 PM
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It depends how well you know the girl and what the context is. Without more information we can't really advise. The biggest general benefit to a phone call (again I don't know your situation) is that it is considered unique in this day and age. In order to be viewed as a unique man amongst MANY other possible partners for her is to stand out. A confident, interesting or funny (preferably all three) phone call can be immensely attractive. When I call a woman up instead of texting her the attracti…
/r/seduction13/07/19 09:56 PM
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One of the major issues is that at any one time multiple guys may be messaging this girl simultaneously. The choices for her are wonderful and exciting - but that means she can move on instantly and get bored extremely easily. It's just human nature. Imagine you had multiple women right now messaging you and hitting you up. They would all probably seem the same. That's the position you are putting yourself in. Don't worry we've all been there and I still fall into the trap of chasing girls throu…
/r/seduction09/07/19 12:05 PM
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I think it's great you are seeking advice and don't let me deter you but part of learning is actually researching and reading beforehand and trying to find the answers yourself. That goes for anything in life. As for you question though, it gets asked almost daily on this sub. Have a look through my post history and you will see how many times I have explained in absolute detail how bad online communication is for sparking interest unless it is already established in real life. Spend some time l…
/r/seduction09/07/19 11:54 AM
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Communication is for setting up real life meetings. What could this guide possibly offer?
/r/seduction08/07/19 06:55 AM
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Thank you. I was trying to be funny but it didn't work out. Sarcasm doesn't translate well
/r/seduction07/07/19 11:54 AM
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Honestly I thought I was being really funny but it didn't translate well. I'm glad you picked up on it.
/r/seduction07/07/19 11:53 AM
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Intention is really important. If you are teasing someone without the intention of hurting them it will usually work out. However some topics to avoid: never tease about an obvious physical feature ie. Acne, nose, ears etc. This is something they can't change and even if you don't care about it and it isn't an issue chances are THEY care about it. Never tease someone about money or lack of money. It's unoriginal and never funny. At the end of the day though each person is different. Something on…
/r/seduction07/07/19 08:39 AM
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My man you are overthinking. Easier said than done but try and let go. Think about the cool guys you've seen in movies. What do they have in common? A carefree, fun attitude.
/r/seduction04/07/19 11:28 AM
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Thank you. Put a lot of effort into your post and give good advice and detailed thought and I won't even respond and promptly ignore all of the advice.
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:18 AM
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No this is a fully serious post that requires detailed analysis
/r/seduction02/07/19 11:11 AM
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So what you're saying is she probably likes me?
/r/seduction02/07/19 10:55 AM
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All of my friends wanted to go home and they left but for some reason for the first time in my life I said nah I'm good I'll stay out. Completely by myself I just said fuck it. I grabbed a beer and started chatting to a guy sitting by himself. We had a laugh and then I saw her and the rest is history.
/r/seduction02/07/19 09:47 AM
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By far my best approach was a girl on her phone at the bar. She was with another guy and another girl. I smiled at her, she did a half smile and went back to her phone. I finished my beer and walked around to her and motioned to the guy and the girl said "Are you third wheeling?" had such a fun night with them all. Spent hours with them. I never got her details and the way the night went we parted ways unexpectedly. Still a ripper of a night.
/r/seduction02/07/19 08:59 AM
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"Good you need all the practice you can get" If she laughs. Ask her on a date.
/r/seduction02/07/19 08:56 AM
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Need more context homie.
/r/seduction02/07/19 08:53 AM
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Hold up. You don't even know if you want to take her home yet you haven't even met her properly. Flip your attitude around and look at the situation as HER impressing you. Rather than the typical chase that almost all guys go for (I'm definitely guilty of this in the past) let her chase you instead. Now I don't use dating apps but chances are she has been on plenty of dates where she immediately senses that the guy wants to get in her pants then the excitement vanishes pretty damn quick. And I g…
/r/seduction02/07/19 08:07 AM
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What is your concern here? Are the pictures of you?
/r/seduction29/06/19 01:28 PM
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Why did you go for the kiss? What gave you any indication that was the moment for it? Don't sweat it and just see what comes but a great vibe and dinner can be had between family and friends, you don't kiss them though. Were there any other moments leading to this that seemed intimate?
/r/seduction29/06/19 10:44 AM
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Stay active. Stay engaged in the world around you. Take the time to be sad. But do not dwell there because it is a temporary stop - not a house.
/r/seduction29/06/19 07:41 AM
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Agreed. Sounds like a great date. Set up a second meeting.
/r/seduction27/06/19 11:48 AM
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You may have tonnes more experience than me I have never met you before and I know nothing about you. I was referring to the fact that your experience may differ to mine and that's cool because I was giving my own perspective on OP's question. He can take either of our perspectives on board or he can ignore them both. We're all just here to help people out.
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:43 PM
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YMMV
/r/seduction26/06/19 12:37 PM
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This is probably the best way to secure a second date. Well done. Zero advice needed.
/r/seduction25/06/19 12:16 PM
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The most important thing is to have fun. See every interaction as fun. Bored train guard standing on the platform? Make a joke about how annoying people are. Ask about their job. Waiter or waitress at a restaurant, ask for their recommendation. Talk to anyone and everyone that you can. Being confident and living an interesting life means treating everyone equally and talking to everyone - not just someone you want to get something from. So when the ridiculously gorgeous girl with the eyes across…
/r/seduction25/06/19 09:55 AM
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Flip it around. Pretend to be offended and say something like "Well don't expect anything from me either. I'm extremely picky." women are so used to being chased by a tonne of thirsty dudes it is refreshing to have someone being cheeky to them. I used to make the mistake of putting in so much into the chase. Now I tell girls straight away they aren't coming near my bed because I love the covers to myself and they probably snore anyway. Makes them laugh. It works a charm.
/r/seduction25/06/19 09:49 AM
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"Hey I'd love to kiss you right now" with a grin on your face. Read her reaction. If she doesn't want to then she'll let you know and you guys both go on with your night like nothing happened. Laugh it off and don't sweat it. If she does want to, then have fun! Enjoy yourself. Every time I want to kiss a girl I tell them. Personally I'm not a fan at all of randomly kissing someone without some warning and my personality means I'm upfront with how I'm feeling in the moment. Telling them I'd like …
/r/seduction25/06/19 09:45 AM
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I cannot stress this enough - texting is an absolutely terrible place to kindle excitement and attraction that is not already completely solidified in the real world. Texting has a place it absolutely does but that place is NOT establishing your personality or creating attraction. There is no physical contact, no eye contact and no emotion. Cocky attitude fails miserably via text unless you are fully established as a confident, forward person in real life.
/r/seduction25/06/19 08:48 AM
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A judgemental attitude will not get you very far. 'sloppy, drunk, unintelligent and low-quality.' that is a poor attitude when approaching any room or location. Firstly you don't actually know anything about these women prior to meeting them and secondly, you should go about your daily life assuming you are going to meet interesting and engaging people wherever you go. To be truly seductive and truly grown up is to appreciate talking to all types of people regardless of gender or circumstance.
/r/seduction25/06/19 08:43 AM
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First of all, my man well done for chatting to someone and enjoying yourself. You're miles ahead of most. Second. Texting is notoriously bad for striking up interest and excitement. The sheer number of interactions I have utterly torpedoed through text is testament to that. No physical contact, no eye contact, no smiles. Occasionally texting will work but never forget if she is good looking and has a good personality chances are there are at least 5-10 guys minimum hitting her up. If possible tr…
/r/seduction24/06/19 12:06 PM
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There are so many issues with this situation but most of all you have lost the FUN. You have lost the charm of the chase, the cheeky dialogue, the back and forth. You aren't learning about her, you aren't bettering your own life - you're becoming upset, invested, overly-emotional. You are taking the whole situation personally and becoming angry. This is the OPPOSITE of seduction. Pull yourself together my man. She might be flaky, so what? You don't know what's going on in her life you don't know…
/r/seduction23/06/19 01:42 AM
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Don't forget that 9/10 people genuinely think they are being unique or quirky when they make a comment about your appearance. They don't realise that 500 people have made the exact same comment to you previously. Also they often don't mean it maliciously they could be trying to flirt with you or break the ice. We've all done it. Made a comment we think is highly original but in fact the person has heard it a thousand times. As for responses. It depends on the situation. Reacting poorly out of th…
/r/seduction23/06/19 01:36 AM
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Mate wholesome post. Love the positive vibes.
/r/seduction22/06/19 12:18 PM
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Honestly you probably answered your own question. It will depend on the person asking but yes they may be trying to find out if you are relationship material based on previous history.
/r/seduction22/06/19 12:08 PM
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It happens to everyone. Sometimes people ghost. The absolute best way to go is to not having emotional attachment to the outcome. I don't mean being devoid of emotions like a robot but definitely no negative emotions. Frustration or anger are the absolute worst ones because nothing positive comes from them. See it as a fun experience that ended.
/r/seduction19/06/19 01:36 PM
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Exactly. She may not even be looking for someone to date at all. I would have these conversations in person to be honest. Read the situation. Being upfront is always a million times better than playing shadow games.
/r/seduction19/06/19 01:33 PM
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Are you posting for validation and assurance that you are doing 'the right thing?' You know what feels right and what feels wrong. Unfortunately bud, if it feels wrong it just might be. If you know she is in love with you or you know she would never sleep with you unless she thought she was getting a relationship out of it then you aren't going to get any pats on the back for being a top bloke by lying to her. My advice is to be absolutely upfront and honest. If you have ZERO intentions in datin…
/r/seduction19/06/19 01:25 PM
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'Was I completely misreading the chemistry and was really the only one feeling it or was that more of an excuse and more likely related to her break up and her bailing out?' Honestly it does not matter. She may have extreme superstitions and may have seen a black cat meaning that she had to leave immediately for all you know. She may have big issues to deal with at home. Who knows. The point is, it is not your burden to carry. It sounds like you had a good date, she didn't want to do it again. S…
/r/seduction19/06/19 01:18 PM
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So you know the answer right? Move on to the next person. This post is way to complicated, emotional and convoluted.
/r/seduction19/06/19 01:01 PM
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Whoa my man very few people have ever had a list of pros and cons about themselves in front of them so hats off to you. Seeing that list of cons would have cut deep. But remind yourself, her friends are going to back her up and tell her whatever she needs to hear to get over you and get through the divorce. They may like you but for her they are going to consider you the anti-christ to help her move on. Your reactions to a divorce are completely normal. The most important thing is that you do no…
/r/seduction19/06/19 12:56 PM
1

First question, how old is everyone in this story here?
/r/seduction19/06/19 12:50 PM
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What?
/r/seduction19/06/19 12:42 PM
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Okay. Part of that voice is trying to protect you - but sometimes our brain gets it wrong. There is a little voice in our heads that has been around since the dawn of humans that has kept us alive. The voice that told your great-great-great-great grandad in the Stone age to "stay away from that sabre tooth tiger" is the same voice that says now "stay away from that multilane highway when riding a unicycle". Both warning of possible danger. However, the brain can't determine real from fake danger…
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:55 AM
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When I was younger and throughout most of my teenage years I was regularly told "You're too nice" sometimes it was said playfully, sometimes maliciously - either way it was said a lot. It was a common occurance for me. I was confused. I would tell myself, "what's so bad about being too nice?" I couldn't figure out why 'being nice' wasn't really working out as well as I imagined it would. It took me a long time to discover that 'being nice' has very little to do with being compassionate, with bei…
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:48 AM
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Already from the start of your post it is painfully obvious you have become emotional and overly invested. What's this comment 'she was not ready for a relationship and the usual bull****.' What reaction is that? She has every right to say that. So what? She might not be ready. My man. Be calm. Collected. Be cool. People (men and women) are attracted to people in control. I don't mean robotic or emotionless, I mean calm. Be in control of your emotions and don't get so worked up over one individu…
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:34 AM
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It sounds like you are taking a lot of positive steps. What does the voice tell you though? What does the negative voice say exactly?
/r/seduction19/06/19 11:31 AM
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You are only 17 mate you have plenty of time. The most important thing about approaching and talking to women is to have fun and to see them as human beings like you would any other person. Don't devote your whole time talking to women. Not in an approach sense but Talk to men, women and everything in between to increase not only your confidence but also your friendship circle and life experience. People are attracted to confidence and calmness. If you radiate confidence and happiness people wil…
/r/seduction07/06/19 04:06 AM
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First of all before I say anything else 15 is a young age and make sure whilst reading this subreddit you take the advice with a grain of salt, meaning do not take everything to heart and make sure you think for yourself and above all respect others and yourself. I don't mean to sound like a an old geriatric but sometimes this subreddit can confuse confidence with arrogance and confuse equal treatment with disrespect. As for your situation musicals sounds like the way to go. You are both extreme…
/r/seduction06/06/19 12:02 PM
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What do you enjoy doing? Do you live in the city or out rural? What does she like to do? How old are you both? Lots more information needed if we are to give this sort of advice.
/r/seduction06/06/19 11:54 AM
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As I have commented elsewhere, if possible transition from messaging to face to face meetings as soon as you can. It is much easier to build rapport in person. Also do not put so much pressure on yourself! Your last sentence will make your life a lot more stressful. Enjoy the conversation. Enjoy her company. Learn about her. Share stories. Most of all have fun and respect. Golden.
/r/seduction06/06/19 11:46 AM
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Obviously with all advice given here there will be exceptions, differences and experiences that will vary but generally, it is VERY difficult to create attraction and excitement via written messages. It is far too easy to become boring via messages completely by accident even if in real life you are a very interesting person. If possible, use messaging as a means to organise face to face meetings especially early in the piece.
/r/seduction06/06/19 11:29 AM
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