Long read ahead but I’d love some advice so give it a look if you have a moment :)

Met an amazing girl a couple months ago through a rec volleyball league with some friends. She is a friend of a friend, and people were encouraging me to ask her out for awhile, so I finally got past my excuses and cynicism and just decided I may as well go on a date just to see how it went.

We went out (on my first date with anyone ever) last week and it was a total blast. I was totally surprised at how awesome she is. Not a red flag to be seen so far, and we got into some important topics too. As it turns out, we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and raved to our friends about how well it went afterward, and about how many boxes we each checked for each other.

Saw her a couple times in a group setting after that first date and the chemistry was still there. Friends all approve and think we’re great together. Didn’t kiss on the first date, but the physicality has been building over the past week or so and to be honest it’s at a boiling point.

I got some more time in with this girl at our weekly vball match, and I set up that second date. Going to quick grab some food after she gets off work and then drive 45 min to a quiet beach and do a fire. If the fact that she agreed to drive out almost an hour with me to sit on the beach, just the two of us, wasn’t good enough, during our time together yesterday she sent many signals and our conversation and connection was still there. Haven’t fucked things up yet.

I brought up how I found she doesn’t always make a lot of eye contact with people in general, and she responded by saying “that may be the case when I’m just talking to someone, but I’m really into that intense eye contact when I’m doing, other things...”

Not many non-overtly sexual ways to take that statement haha.

Anyhow, later in the night we were all bowling and drinking and we continued to talk one on one. I’m trying to keep it chill when we’re in a group dynamic though, so I’m not following her around like a puppy and I’m talking to my own friends and doing my own thing when she’s occupied. I’ll tell you what though, this girl has a way about her, and although she’s not really seeking it out, she does gets hit on a fair amount. Very intimidating.

Oh ya she also touched my face when we were joking around. Not like an “about to kiss” face touch but ya, another physical barrier broken.

And her best friend slapped my ass. I take it as a sign of approval haha, for all my faults Im often told I apparently have a dump truck.

Anyway let me know if you have any advice for this second date. I 100% plan on at least kissing that girl on that beach so that’s a given at this point, I think waiting on that first date was the right call, the anticipation is tangible on both ends. I don’t plan on going super fast physically, but if she wants I’d eat the hell outta her pussy lol. Known her for awhile now so it’s not like a true second date, where you have seen em only once before.

My big question is that I really want to know what she is looking for, but I want to do it in a way that doesn’t apply pressure or scare her off. I don’t want a hookup, I tried it and it’s just not for me. It’s not like I need a commitment of any kind before we mess around, I’d just like to know sooner rather than later. I don’t think she wants a casual thing either but ya I don’t know the best way to go about that question. It would really fucking ruin my mood if she just wanted something casual so it’s a dicey question to navigate and time.

Guys are told women love an honest vulnerable guy but that’s not the case oftentimes, especially at this stage.

Ok enough from me, what do ya got?