First date, I'm nervous

mac11london · 2019-10-09T07:02:31+00:00

Do not masturbate starting now. Eye contact while talking. Slow down become a snail. Do not compliment uncontrollably DONT or at all maybe once whatever feels right. If you find yourself getting nervous talking fast CHILL TF OUT 👍 maybe meditate it'll teach you how to clear your mind in case you get way in your head.

My first date in a while went horrible. I kept telling her I was nervous, I kept calling her pretty, and I asked if she just wanted to go watch Netflix lol. She was boring af she couldn't hold a conversation.

serpx · 2019-10-09T02:52:12+00:00

Just focus on having a good time, finding common ground between you two, and helping HER be comfortable. She’ll be nervous too. If you think too much about all the things you “should” be doing you’ll probably get too into your head and not do anything.

Now we do have to eventually get flirty so maybe just focus on complimenting her — for me that’s an easy way to flirt. Coming from someone who use to be super anxious during dates.

Just be chill, relax. You’ll perform a lot better if you’re relaxed. Make it a no biggie.

JJtheeJetPlane · 2019-10-09T03:18:22+00:00

If you enjoy yourself, she will to. Start off with a smile, a hug and tell her "you look nice"

Have a hand full of questions you can fall back on when a conversation topic dies down. -what do you like to do in your spare time? -puppies or kittens? Etc...

Statements and fun short stories are great for finding common ground -"went hiking with friends recently and found this magical waterfall, swam of course" blah blah

When you feel anxious, realize it's your body preparing you to accomplish the task at hand. Watch this perspective altering video by googling "TED talk on Anxiety"***

Be okay with failing and awkwardness. You will take the experience and lessions learned from date #1 to perform and better enjoy date #2

First 3 minutes are the toughest. Get through that and you'll eb & flow through the rest. I would wish you luck, but you wont need it! 👍

Title	First date, I'm nervous
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Date	October 9, 2019 2:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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