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[–]ChelseaDagger14 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Go for the kiss some point in the date - don't wait until the end.
I doubt it's likely you'll friendzoned, you've made your intentions pretty clear that you're out for romance.
[–]igwefgc 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Physical boldness is not my forte but I guess I have to put myself outside my comfort zone :)
[–]ChelseaDagger14 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We’re all nervous, she will be too.
Probably a good idea to mention it. She won’t be unsurprised if you go for the kiss on a date though if it’s going well.
[–]SavvyVolley6 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Go into it with a flirtatious ladies man vibe, not a simp vibe. Tease her and make her laugh and literally crave your touch. Remember, never ever let a girl know that she has you; always keep her unsure and chasing.
And don’t let a shit test throw you off.
How do I create a vibe of something that I am not😭
[–]SavvyVolley6 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well not with that attitude haha.
This is going to sound counterintuitive but you have to not give a shit about her or what she thinks (because you do care about her). You can’t be afraid of losing her. You’ve gotta think like you’ve got plenty of other girls to take her place. It’s a head trick.
First of all, guys THINK and girls FEEL. Whatever you’re thinking, she’s going to feel in your vibe. Likewise it’s up to use to figure out what she’s feeling using our logic and analytics.
You can control your vibe by controlling your mind. If you’re super into her, you’re going to be anxious and worrying about saying or doing the right things and how you look or whatever. All of that anxiety and insecurity is going to reflect outwardly and it’ll weird her out. Also, did you know that humans actually can smell fear like other animals, we just don’t consciously know we’re doing it? Your thoughts control your feelings and your feelings control your body, as in it literally changes your body chemistry and scent and our primal subconscious brains pick up on it. That’s why sometimes you’ll be around someone and just not like them for some reason and you can’t exactly place why.
You can control your mind by practicing meditation as much as possible, tactical breathing, and just thinking positive thoughts about her and yourself. Like when you’re with her, you could just be thinking about how awesome she is instead of negative things. Or you could just be thinking like, “Yeah I’m smooth and funny and I can get whatever girl I want.” Shit like that. Visualize yourself in the moment just killing it. DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT SHE THINKS
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[–]igwefgc 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
First I wanna say thanks for this!! Next idk for me it’s about the mood. Abruptly asking to kiss her when it’s kinda awkward feels.. awkward.
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