The party was at a friend's. He and his girlfriend were the only people I knew beforehand. I am very uncomfortable in this kind of parties. I dislike the music which on top of that is too loud, no room to sit, I hate the smell of tobacco and don't smoke weed. I didn't want to get wasted which would have made all of this bearable. I went there because of 1. No other plans 2. He invited me for a few days and not coming would have been rude and would have hurt him.

I helped my friend prepare the party, so I was there from the beginning. The first two people arrive, friends of the host from school. They barely say hello and talk exclusively to him and his girlfriend. Obnoxious and loud, nothing to get from them and they want nothing from me.

The host cousin's arrives, nice and shy. We talk a bit, he seems very interested in my line of work. The museum he works at to pay the bills will host a temporary exhibition about my work soon. He will get me in for free. His real dream is to draw comics, I am genuinely interested in his work, he talks about it with passion and I spent a good time listening to him.

Spanish girl arrives. We say hello, we make small talk. She is a colleague of Host and dislikes her job. She ask for ours. I tell mine, cousin tells his. She screams in a high pitched voice that she reads comics all the time and grabs the arm of Cousin. I leave.

Another colleague of Host is there. We are in the same scouting association. This gives us a lot in common and we talk for about an hour. At this point I realize that her and Cousin alone have made the party worth it. Scouting girl seems very uncomfortable, very nervous. Cannot look anyone in the eye. Throughout the party she will talk to me often without me prompting for it. I try to kino her but she does not kino back. Had we lived in the same town I would have gotten her number, but I drop it as we will probably never see one another again. I had a good time talking with her and I think she had a good time too.

The party starts as a lot of other people have arrived, I demonstrate the little gregory, a very fun cocktail. Huge hit. Cousin stays in corners, does not dance, talks very little. I chit chat with him from time to time. Spanish girl tries every man in the room. I see Host's ex roommate. Long time no see, chit chat, I am happy to see him. His girlfriend is following him everywhere he goes and looks only at him. I wonder if she's shy and bored or madly in love. I try to talk to her but she is very distant and can't keep an eye off her bf. I see she does not need me and leave.

School girls are wasted and dancing in their bras. Somebody spills a beer on Host's computer. I use mine and succeeds in filling the dancefloor which was dead at that point. As I leave my computer after my playlist is made, I dance the rock with scouting girl and another girl. I am having a really good time. Drunken bras girls come near my computer and change the music. Rock dancing people leave the dancefloor and drunk jumping people take it. I notice some drunken beer bearing people around my computer and switch it with Host's other computer and tell it to him so he can prevent any damage.

At this point my stamina is gone. I am tired, I smell like cold tobacco and the effect of the small amount of alcohol I drank are gone. Cousin's friend (Two guys, three girls) arrive. I decide to try one last time before declaring it over. I go for the guys in order to not look like I'm only there for the girls. I have the same job as one of the guy and we share a deep conversation near the window where the air is breathable. He introduces me to the girls and I begin to work on one of them I find very attractive. Maybe a 6 or 7 objectively, but everything I like in a girl. We chit chat and dance. They have to leave in a hurry because Host's gf is mad at them for having smoked weed in the bedroom. Drat.

Cousin is on the dancefloor for the first time. He dances with spanish girl. Ten minutes and a make out session later he leaves with her. I am in awe and wonder if him being shy was his true personality or not.

The party is over for me but as I sleep at Host's I bear the few more hours of party as well as I can. The day after I help with the clean up.

Lessons learned :

  • Trying to bring things to people will give me a very good time, even in a shitty environment like a party.

  • Kino is hard to do. Touching people on the arm when making a point or telling a joke is easy to do and seems natural. I have no idea how to do more than that. Men reciprocate kino more than women. I have no idea whether I should wait for people to reciprocate before escalating.

  • I think I can tell when to leave.

EDIT: FR #0 is there

FR #2 is there