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I'll try I failed to keep this short and sweet, but I think I managed to make it content rich and not just a description of my night. This is the second 'date' I've ever been on, but I had a LTR before I ever went on a 'date'. If you feel like reading the whole thing I'd love any critique and suggestions.

Getting the Date

I've known this chick for a few years, we only ever see each other at parties. I've poorly flirted with her before when I was more of an AFC, but I've lost some weight, gained some muscle, confidence and game and went for it for real the other day at a house party I was hosting. When she showed up I immediately said hello and did the usual, haven't seen you in a while, how's life blah blah blah. I was just talking to her about stuff, somehow we got on the topic of my new car (1999 Mazda Miata chick magnet, seriously this thing works better than my motorcycle). She said she wanted to learn how to drive stick so I seized the opportunity and offered to take her out and teach her. That was on Friday at my party, and the next morning I messaged her on Facebook trying to get her to come out later that day but she had plans already, so I just let the conversation die to avoid looking desperate. On Tuesday I messaged her again and asked when she had a day off. Apparently she works afternoons and only has Friday and Saturday off, so we made plans for 5:00pm Friday to meet at my place and go driving.

Part 1 - Driving

Friday rolls around and she texts me asking if we're still on. I had been waiting all week to see her but didn't want to project that so I told her my interview (at 2pm lol) might run over but I'd let her know after. I texted her at 4:00 and said we were good. She showed up at 5:00 sharp. I made the mistake of not making any physical contact with her when she showed up, I just had her help me put the top down on my car then we got in and went to my college to find a parking lot. On the way over we did the basic get to know you stuff, "your job sounds like it's soooo fun with those hours" blah blah blah.

At my school I went full teacher mode. Explained how the clutch worked and how to shift the car, start stop etc. It wasn't glamorous at all but I managed to be enthusiastic enough to keep her attention. After demonstrating my mastery of stick shift I had her get in and give it a go. The first time I made physical contact with her, I had her put her hand on the shifter, then I grabbed her hand and showed her the shift pattern. I thought this was a pretty clever form of kino since I suck at it. We drove around campus for almost 2 hours I'd say, me explaining more things to her and making fun of her when she stalled, giving positive reinforcement when she started smooth. She laughed at everything I said so either I was on point or this was some fools game. At this point I think it was some of both. I tried to strike a balance of praise and punishment.

Part 2 - Dinner

Once I got bored of letting her drive my car I told her I needed to go use the bathroom so I drove to my office on campus, I could have just parked like a normal person and gone in, but there was an event going on and the back way in to my office from the loading dock was blocked off by a security guard, so I decided to look important. I told the guard who I was and the office I worked in and he let me through to the loading dock after turning away the two cars ahead of us.

When we got back in the car I asked if she was hungry and she suggested we go to her work (Dairy Queen). I made a big deal out of not eating fried food. I've lost about 40 lbs over the past few years and I actually don't like fried food anymore, but she assured me that they had other options and we went there. I assumed we were each buying our own food since I don't pay for dates as a rule, and took my card out to indicate this, but she paid for me, which surprised me. While we were there waiting for our food she talked to a few of her coworkers and seemed to be flirting with one but I pretended not to notice and just talked to the guy. I got him to teased her with me for taking me to such a fancy place for a first date. After that he seemed mostly neutralized. Up until then no one had said the word 'date' which I like. A friend of mine was having a big party that night and I told her she should stick around for it, which she decided to do. It was about 8 by the time we finished eating and we didn't want to show up to the party until about 11, so we went back to my place.

Part 3 - Pregame

I busted out some wine and opened up Netflix. She immediately suggested Archer, which I love. We watched probably four episodes, which was great, but I easily get engrossed by media and stop paying attention to the people around me. She seemed to do the same thing so I think it was fine that we only really talked in between episodes, about the episodes. I could have done better here I think.

It was around 10 by now so I decided that we should go meet up with my friends (some mutual) before we went to the party. We went over there and about 6 of my friends were hanging out. One of them was one of my best friends, but he sort of has a crush on this chick. He's not very good with women but somehow has a FWB exgf and a prospective new GF/FWB, so I figured he'd let me do my thing. I was wrong, he followed her around like a puppy dog all night. He stole my seat next to her when I got up to get a drink and constantly talked to her. I didn't want to call him out on it since he's a really good friend of mine who doesn't take criticism about girls well, so I hoped he'd just chase her towards me so to speak, and I played Smash Bros with my friends until the party was upon us.

When it was finally time to go to the party were were about 11 of us. Everyone else was waiting on a 12th, but I decided her and I should leave a few minutes early since she seemed to be getting pretty tired of my friend. As soon as we were out the door she was lamenting him to me. I think this was a good thing overall, for me at least.

Part 4 - The Party

We get to the party and my dumbass friend who was hosting it had it in his yard instead of inside. It was a little chilly, and was definitely going to get busted soon, but there was a pool table on his deck so we got in line for pool. I walked around and said hello to all the people I knew including the host and either introduced her or she already knew them. The host also had a thing for her so I tried to make that short and sweet since he was really drunk. I managed to get him to go smoke something instead of bothering us.

Our friends from before showed up and my one good friend started following her around again. Once we got on the pool table he left us alone luckily. We won the game on a technicality but I had a decent game personally so I got to show off a bit. Not long after our game ended the cops showed up and busted the party (at 12:05) , so I suggested we walk to the end of the street and go to the bar.

Part 5 - The Bar

I was driving so I wasn't going to order anything, but she ordered us two Angry Balls' (an Angry Orchard cider with a shot of Fireball whiskey) and tried to pay for them. I normally would just have accepted but since she bought dinner, I bought the drinks. We sat down and got to know each other a little more. Some of the guys from the party came to the bar and stopped to talk to me about what had happened, then another friend of mine called me. He had shown up to the party after it got busted and asked me where the rest of our friends were. I told him I was at the bar and he decided to come third wheel. He has a thing for this chick too, of course. He showed up but he's sort of into PUA and when I glared at him he got the hint and made it short and sweet then bounced. She got a little tipsy off her drink and ended up singing to me. Turns out she has an amazing voice and I just stared into her eyes silently while she sung whatever the hell was on the jukebox to me. That was the moment I knew I was doing well since it didn't get awkward for her. Around 1:30 we bounced and went back to my place.

Part 6 - Back to my Place

On the ride back to my place we weren't that talkative, but I was comfortable with it and I think she was too. I turned on the radio and just let her sing a little over my horrendous speakers. She did tell me on the way that I was a very attractive man. I thought at the time that this was a shit test and she was just fishing for a reciprocated compliment so I just cockily agreed that I was the prettiest princess, but looking back she was a little drunk and may have just been gushing.

When we got back she said she was hungry so I put on some macaroni and cheese. While that was going I put on more Archer. At this point I started getting stuck in responsible mode, so I watched the stove and started cleaning up my kitchen a little. I realized what I was doing though and stopped and had her come 'help' with the mac and cheese. I escalated a little with some kino in the kitchen while we were waiting for the food and talking about more random stuff. When the food was done we sat and ate while watching Archer. This time we were less engrossed.

Yet another mutual friend of ours had been texting her all night and she started complaining about him. Super classic friendzoning (I know, I've had it really bad myself). She let me read his texts and started to get whiny about it. I let that happen a little more than I should have, but I tried to keep it away from her personal problems by taking her phone and messaging another mutual friend of ours suggestive homoerotic messages from myself. This other friend was into her too of course but he was super blunt and not-desperate about it so there wasn't a problem.

It was around this time that one of my roomates got home, my exgf/current FWB. She managed to drunkenly barge into the living room and say she needed her phone charger, then proceeded to go into my bedroom and unplug it from next to my bed. Lucky she just left after that. I tried to downplay it by making it seem like things weren't going well between us (it's actually pretty great) but it didn't seem to phase this chick, which was a relief. I feel like I dodged a bullet here.

I kind of ran out of steam with my game and was lost for what to do and things tapered off. She decided she was good to drive home, but I had had some more to drink and was a little drunk so I started making mistakes. I too obviously asked if she was sure she could drive home, too many times. She got her stuff and went to give me a hug to leave, which I reciprocated. When she tried to leave my embrace though I stopped her halfway, looked her in the eyes for a moment and went in for the kiss. Not too quick, not too long, didn't go for any tongue, I did great, but then I made another drunken mistake. When I pulled away and saw that doggy dinner bowl look I went in for it again and tried to get some tongue, at that she pulled away and said "someone's had a little to much to drink". I had my biggest mistake yet when I replied "don't act like you don't want it" and went in a third time. She let it happen but pulled away early. I immediately knew I had sounded like a douche but tried to recover and just showed her to the door and said goodnight. That was round 3am, making at almost exactly 10 hours, most of which was solid one-on-one time.

Part 7 - Following Up

I didn't message her the next day, or on Sunday, but today I hit her up on Facebook. She didn't reply, for about 3 hours, but she said she was at work and couldn't get back to me. I asked her for her number, which I had yet to get. She gave it to me and I texted her saying I had had a good time and wanted to do it again this weekend. She said definitely and I told her I'd let her know when I knew what was going on this weekend. I'm hoping for the F close but I don't know how that's going to go with all of my friends who want her dick too and my exgf living with me.

tl;dr driving lessons, she bought me dinner, we watched archer, pregamed at my friends place, went to a house party, went to the bar, went back to my place, all of my friends tried to get her and my FWB/exgf almost cockblocked me, but I managed to keep her interest the whole time, k close and get another date