I hope this FR shows some forward progress from my first two. I feel like I'm advancing and it's motivating me to double down.

Practice

Over the past week I've been using OKCupid. I probably sent 50 different women targeted messages. I got responses from about ten of them. Of those ten I'm still trading messages with three or four and have set up a coffee date with one. I've been texting with her fairly regularly and classically qualifying her and it seems to be building attraction to the point where she mentioned "being with me" which is interesting considering we haven't even met in person. I bring this up because, although nothing has happened, OKC and subsequent texting has allowed me to practice qualifying and I can't believe how powerful it is.

Follow up

Along those lines, I've also been texting the cougar from my last FR http://redd.it/fokdm and am completely controlling that frame by qualifying her, not jumping through her hoops, and teasing her. I've gone so far as to ask her why she's attracted to me and she totally bit and told me why. Seriously, qualifying is making my game so much stronger. Brilliant.

Pre-night mindset

After I started posting FRs I've been talking with my friends about pickup and we've been analyzing our successes and failures and have gotten each other excited to keep at it. One mentioned a bar (henceforth THE SPOT) with an astounding girl to guy ratio. We finally decided to go there. Also, I've been listening to some Vin DiCarlo interviews and implemented some of his advice on fashion. My shoes, belt, and watch all matched and I felt like a million bucks.

"They are just waiting for you to go talk to them."

But first before we went to THE SPOT, we started at a different one. I wasn't yet drunk and had some approach anxiety. There were plenty of girls there but I couldn't get myself to make a move. Finally my friend basically told me that he'd give me $20 if I went (he never did ;) so I approached two girls (HB8, HB7) sitting at a table. I sat down in a chair without asking and said hi. I'd say my body language was confident. This seemed to work because immediately they asked me my name, where I was from, what I did for a job, etc. It was nice to have them open me in a sense and things were going well until I brought up politics. My friend came over right at the time the politics discussion was killing attraction and told me we were leaving to go to THE SPOT. Lesson learned: don't bring up politics in pickup.

A confident, sexual frame

When we got to THE SPOT (which held true to its legendary girl to guy ratio) my friend immediately opened a HB8-HB7 two set, which set a good tone. The HB8 was giving me the eye so I started talking to her while my friend was talking to the HB7. I fucked up here because I was talking about stupid shit instead of running game. It's hard for me to remember all the tactics in the heat of battle. What I did right however was with my body language which I'm sensing is my strongpoint compared to talking. I could just sense by the way she was looking at me that she was interested so I put my arm around her waist (she was quite a bit taller than me) like we'd been dating for years. I slid my hand into the back pocket of her jeans and she was totally cool with it. She was wearing a low cut shirt and showing major cleavage and I distinctly remember looking at them with her watching me do it. I was extremely confident about it, not ashamed at all. She was eating it up. Holy shit THE SPOT is amazing. So I eventually decide I need a beer and leave her for no more than three minutes and when I get back my friend is all over her. He ends up taking her home. He opened the set so I will respect his move but damn if it didn't piss me off, I was really attracted to her and she was being really fun.

Alcohol: reduce approach anxiety, increase sloppiness

So once again I used alcohol to get me comfortable enough to talk to strangers and ended up getting too drunk and just being a mess. You'd think I'd learn. Regardless, I had some more moderate success. I'll save the most notable encounter for next paragraph but I ended up approaching probably ten different sets (ranging HB5's to HB7's), danced with one of the girls, and only got hard core blown out once (she said I was creeping her friends out). Other than the creep out, I was escalating kino immediately and girls were cool with it. This is still so astonishing to me that stuff like this is possible. I've gone through life terrified to offend women and it's quite jarring to discover that some girls are so comfortable with their sexuality and body that they are fine with strangers touching them. I guess I should just flip it around and think if I'd be okay with a confident, attractive woman I didn't know touching me immediately. Yes, I'd find that attractive. :)

Competition rears its head

This encounter was interesting. HB8 was talking with two guys but even in my drunken state I could read her body language and saw that she wasn't attached to either of them. I went in and I think this might be my first mixed set approach, milestone! When I sit here sober typing this I really can't believe that I'd do this but I immediately put my hand around her waist and held it there while we talked. She was totally receptive. I can't remember specifics of what we talked about but it was mundane bullshit about jobs etc. Here I do remember qualifying her and I saw immediate results and she was attracted. I can see one of the guys she was with getting frustrated because I was there. He starts trying to engage her more. I'm trying to keep up with him. This is comical and this girl must feel really wanted. He goes off to get a drink and I walk the girl to a more secluded part of the bar. Another milestone, my first isolation! I put both hands around her waist and pull her in close. I start kissing her neck. She's giggling and excited. The guy finds us and is standing right behind me just watching me. This is kind of weird but he says they should leave so she moves away from me. I tell her to take me with her and she says she can't because her one-year-old son's at home. Interesting to learn. MILF! She and the guy leave the bar.

Future forecasting

I am seeing the trajectory of where this is headed. Success is just around the corner. On just my third FR I've had noticeable improvement. From here I need to evaluate what I actually want and why I'm doing this. I've always said I want to meet a lot of women so I can find my best match instead of just settling with the first girl who accepts me. I bring this back to RSD's Australian guy's notion of Core Purpose. Each night out in the field I am scouting prospects in hopes of finding my best match. I guess I have some fear of success in the sense that I don't know how to handle spinning plates, how to be honest about it with the girls, and how to do it respectfully so no one will get hurt. I'm just trying to improve this aspect of my life and not damage anyone.

Key points

  • Stop drinking
  • When talking, use tactics, don't just shoot the shit
  • Qualifying is amazing at building her attraction for you
  • Don't be scared to approach sets that contain guys in them
  • For every one girl who will call you creepy, five will let you initiate physical contact
  • Always be closing! I had two obtainable HB8s slip through my hands due to sloppy game
  • Have an abundance mentality. It's a good mindstate to have and girls can sense it.
  • Establish what I'm looking to get from pickup. Identify my core purpose.

As always, feedback is appreciated. How can I tighten up my sloppy game?

Props to TofuTofu for giving me some tips to make my FRs more readable.