[FR] About a week ago I ran into a [HB7] who I hadn't seen in over a year. I had always thought she was a cute girl but she was in a serious relationship for a long time so I never had the chance to take action on my attraction to her (not that would I have been able to back then, since I hadn't been exposed to this game stuff yet). We talked for a little while, we had a lot of good eye contact, and I had the feeling she was feeling me. After a good conversation, I told her I would message her on Facebook and then we went our separate ways.

By looking at her Facebook page, I confirmed my feeling that she was no longer with the guy she had been dating a year ago. She was single which I was happy to see. I sent her a message the next day. Here is the conversation:

*GB: hey lady good to see you yesterday!

*HER:You too! Lol its always nice too see old faces.. We should get together again sometime

*GB: yeah I'm down. what is your # ? so we can figure something out

*HER: 4xx-2xx-5xxx :)

*ME: mines 3xx-5xx-8xxx - ill hit you up soon

Yesterday, which was a few days after the Facebook correspondence, I texted her around 4:00 or 5:00 in the evening to see what she was up to for the night. She said that she was going to the movies with some friends at 7:30pm but was free afterwards. I told her to send me a text after the movies. At this point, I didn't know if I was actually going to hanag out with her, which is why I didn't make finalized plans right then. She lives about 20-30 mins away, and I also didn't know if she was actually going to text me or not, so I kept my night open to other opportunities as well.

She DID text me around 9:30, when she was home from the movie theater. She still was open to hanging out, so I got the directions to her house, hygened(brushed teeth, deodorant, tiny bit of cologne, and yeah I just made that word up :P), threw on some clean clothes and got on the road. I had to stop and get gas because my tank was almost empty and also ran into the convenience shop to buy a package of condoms. In retrospect these two things are logistical aspects I should have taken care of much earlier.

I got to her place pretty late due all of the freeway entrances near my house being blocked off, a ridiculous amount of road work being done (lanes shut down -->MAJOR traffic) and getting lost after having to take an unfamiliar exit due to an exit closure. I apologized for being so late and fortunately she was really cool about it.

She wanted me to come inside, but I suggested we go grab a bottle of wine from the grocery store first. This was a good idea, because it gave us the opportunity to talk and catch up more during the drive. Also, I think it served as a good venue-change. Also, when we were paying for the bottle, the cute cashier girl was giving me a lot of attention, showing the HB that I am desired by other girls (DHV).

We got back to her place, a big and nicely kept house that she shares with 3 other girls who were either out or sleeping. We had the whole living room (wrap around couch and a big flatscreen) to ourselves. We poured glasses of wine then got comfortable on the couch. I smoothly put my arm around her right away. There hadn't been much kino so far, so I wanted to assert myself and let her know I wasn't there to hang out as friends. One of my major sticking points is that I sometimes wait WAY too long to initiate kino or make a move.

After a few minutes of holding her, putting her legs over mine, and playfully moving her around, I initiated the kiss. It went as smooth as possible with no resistance. She was really into it, so much so that she told me right then that I was a good kisser.

After a few more makeouts, in which I had been putting my hands all over what I consider "safe zones"(legs, back, back of neck, arms), I cupped one of her breasts over her shirt. She didn't make a huge deal about it, but she gently moved my hand off and then we resumed kissing without any awkwardness. I wanted to do more with her, but since it was our first time getting together, I didn't want to push the limits to the extreme. I chose just to respect her limits. If anyone has any ideas about this LMR situation, bad or good, I'd love to hear them all. A few more makeouts and then I decided to leave because it was getting really late. She walked me to the front door, we kissed once more and then I left.

Post-Hookup Communication

One thing I have been wondering about, as it applies to this [FR] as well as in general with other girls is this: What is the best way to approach communication in the days following a hookup. Do you text her again that night, the next morning, or wait until you want to make plans with her again? Also, what should the texts, fb messages, calls, etc be about? Asking if she had fun, how her day is going, or just strictly plans for the next meetup?

Thank you for reading,

Gulliver