Hi I want to make a follow up to my early post.

TL;DR Talked to a lot of girls at a convention. Didn't close much except for the last one who I'm sure is ignoring me, despite seemingly being really attracted to me.

Anime/comic/geek conventions are full lots of geeky girls who are very social, although you have to be a little conscious since many are on the young side. Luckily the one I was just at gave out green bracelets for all of the 18+ crowd. It was also a massive party con with lots of drinking in the evening.

Going to this con I made a pact to talk to every girl that caught my fancy and for the most part, I was succesful...but that was about it. Anyway, it was a learning experience and there are some things I want to share.

-If your friendly and cordial, girls never think your creepy, but they might not give you attention. I think it is understood that it is a social environment so I never got much in terms of mean faces or grimaces. I did get some cold shoulders or ones that were busy or in the middle of something.

  • Don't mistake attention for attraction. So A lot of female cosplayers love the attention it gives them and are more then willing to hand into contact info but you have to be careful since this could be more to increase views to their facebook or tumblr pages.

  • The numbers are really in your favor. I think this is the big one. The fact that there are just so many people in such a small space means if you strike out it is more than easy to try again within minutes. IMO, there is really no recourse to talking to or hitting on anyone.

  • Don't fear boyfriends or groups of girls. I the success rate of approaching a group vs a single person was about the same. For some reason, I thought that, since this was a younger crowd, people would be clicky.

  • There is no excuse to not have something to open to a cosplayer. They are literally wearing a thing they love. If you don't know anything about the character ask them about the character. If your not into cosplay or a geek, ask them about cosplay. The closest to a number I got was barely into cosplay but it was a great way to start a conversation.

Ok So I have some specific instances were I want some feedback on. I struck out in many cases but I did better than I normally do.

Line Girl - I'll just call this girl line girl since I met her in the line and I have no idea what her cosplay was. We struck up a conversation that she seemed more than eager to begin. However, we were intereupted by another group of guys who were hitting on her. Personally, I get really frustrated when I get "intercepted" and moved on. This was the most frustrating since I'm not so great with defending against other guys when I'm gaming but oh well.

Gunner Girl - This was a girl I met at a photoshoot. I literally asked her about her guns (she was cosplaying FFx-2 Yuna). Later on we met again outside and we took a selfie. I put my arm around her and she was following me around a little bit afterward. But that was it. I felt some attraction but it seemed to die down. I wonder how to keep momentum especially when I had what seemed like a window of opportunity.

Fighter Girl - I guess I'm calling her this because she was dressed as FF7 advent children tifa. We were in a photoshoot together and she was standing by me the whole time and putting her arm on me. She changed her interest to another guy and I changed to another girl I was more into.

Panel Girl - I caught another girl staring at me during a panel. I winked at her and she smiled. Afterwards, I struck up a conversation but her friends pulled her away.

Fire Girl - Dressed as Ifrit from FFX. Saw her at a panel and later at the dance. She was drunk and hugged me and we took a selfie. At the end we hugged for like 10 mins but I don't go for drunk girls so I stopped there. Asked for her number in case was could hang out later and hopefully more sober, but she didn't give, instead dodged to her fb.

German Girl - Again at the dance. Asked a german girl to dance and we were really feeling each other....literally. But she stopped. Saw here again but figured my ship had flown. Later on noticed her making out with some dude and they left together. Think that could have been me but whatever.

Morphing Girl - Noticed a girl who kept eying me at the dance but she was with friends. Later on we danced together but she got called away.

Motoko - Last Day. Last chance. Chatted up a girl for maybe 30 mins who was wearing a Motoko Kusanagi. She was really into me and gave me all the signs. I felt like I could have gotten a number out of it but I chickened out and just went for a fb. She was interesting since she seemed like less of a geek and was really down to talk. She was also local and i felt like I could have asked her out then and there. Want to know how to really get that date or number close.

So there you have it. My goal for this con, game wise, was less results oriented and more to get over anxiety/fear. For the most part I was successful but where do I go from here. How can I turn up the heat, foster more attraction, and date/number/f close? This is what I want to know. Opinions?