Because of all that stuff I've been reading here, I went out alone for the first time in my life last night.

I went to a club which was quite empty, decided to start warming up by chatting with a couple of guys (already started that in a 24 hour shop nearby) and getting the social thing going.

On my way out of the club a set of 3 girls chat me up and ask me if there are people in the club and I am like, no, go somewhere else. I get out of the club meet a couple of dudes who I just met before and they also want to change clubs. I eject with them, but while passing by the three girls I just ask them if they want to join us. They come and we walk like 15 minutes to this other club.

So here's are both my problems:

  • I am still not able to approach myself

which is linked to:

  • I have very high standards lookwise and if I see someone who I really like I get AA, become more outcome independent I guess?

So the next club sucks too, after 3 minutes one of the three girls come to me and is like "we're going here and here, you wanna come?" I ditch the guys, but tell them where I'm going, and join them. We go to the club, they buy me a drink (first drink of the night, because I never drink alcohol alone, so all the approaches of guys and those girls before were cold turkey!) and because it's superfull I lose them. Didn't find them all night long, didn't open anyone, got chat up by a girl who sat at the bar with her boyfriend, lol, complimenting my hair, wtf.

So couple hours later I am back at the first club, it's filled nicely, I start to dance, this one girl gets into my space all the time, begging me to dance with her basically (of course in a passive girlish way), I don't have the balls to approach her, AGAIN.

Then this HB6 (chubby but she managed to turn me on quite a bit) starts grinding me and I get full on sexual with her on the dancefloor. I find her later and F-close (she has this tattoo all from her shoulder to her ass and I demanded to see it, worked, lol) - I was really turned on by her but somehow I also wanted to get that first sex after a LTR out of my system to be more outcome independent and screw with my standards I think?

So how do I fix my high standards and approach problem? Any tips?

I also travel a lot, having been only a week in the last city, will only stay a week here, a week in the next city and then 2 months at a place, which is quite hard if I want to set up more dates.