Hello Seddit! Long time lurker here,who has never tried to approach women in his life before today. A little bit about myself. Im an extremely shy and introverted 19 year old guy. I've had difficulties socializing (and expressing myself) with people nearly my entire life, especially with women. I don't have many friends but those few I do have are all male. I live along with 2 other male friends, and we don't do much besides playing videogames all day at home. I have tried to introduce them to PUA but they laugh at it and think its stupid and that im weird for doing this.

Anyways after I finished at work earlier today I went to take a haircut, and when I was done with that I was heading home waiting for the buss stop when I happen to see this cute HB 8 also waiting for the buss. Trying to gather my confidence and reassuring myself several times in my head that I should go over and talk to her, as I was in a good mood, well dressed and rocking a fresh haircut, I go and sit next to her.

I notice that she notices me approach and seemed a bit suprised(?). Here is where my confidence falls. I just sit there beside her doubting, questioning and planning what to say and overthinking the situation for like 5 min before I decide to speak to her.

I notice she was texting and her Iphone was looking like a wreck and open with.

"How many times have you dropped your Iphone?"

She reacted a little bit suprised, giggled and replied "Too often"

After breaking the ice I introduce myself and took a handshake with her as she responded.

From here on the conversation was about 80% me asking her questions about herself and 20% her asking questions about myself. There were quite a lot of pauses during our conversation. I tried quite hard to make her interested but she didn't seem very interested.

When the buss comes we sit next to eachother and I try to re-engage our conversation, and again she seemed very little interested, and there was a lot of pauses. Though she did smile ang giggle from time to time when I asked and tried to make a joke. (I am not a funny guy, I have a hard time making people laugh)

I found out that she lives not so far away from me, just a few buss stops after my stop. She said that she likes to go out to drink during the weekends and that she was planning to go out with her friends tomorrow. I tell her that me and some of my friends are also going out tomorrow at this place X and that she should come and meet us at place X. Before I leave the buss I told her that it was nice to talk and get to know her and leave with a handshake.

As this was my first real approach it didn't go as smooth as I would have wanted it to be. My main problem was that I freeze up in my mind and panic about what to say and do, always hesitating. I didn't attempt to #-close as I was dissapointed with my approach, but if she does show up tomorrow I will definately try and see where it goes from there.

Another thing I want to ask Seddit is that I live in Scandinavia and here it is very uncommon and unusal to smalltalk with strangers. It can be seen as creepy. People do respond back in a friendly manner but they dont want to engage in the conversation. This applies during the daytime when approaching people on the street, library, buss etc.., however in clubs the scene is 100xtimes more relaxed and easier.

I find this difficult and challenging but I want to learn how to deal with it. Im not the club kind of guy as I dont usually go to nightclubs, but I will visit some in the near future to understand and get experience.

I should also probably mention that my goal with PUA is to develop myself. I want to get comfortable around poeple and get more friends (male and females!). From there on I want to date and f-close beautiful women around me. Seddit guide me and wish me luck!