[FR] First Date

I started the day at Lincoln road and in all honesty, I wasn't feeling it. I was in my head when I shouldn't have but eventually decided I shouldn't stress over it or give myself a hard time.

I did a couple approaches that were blowouts, as the first few should be, and once we were in the beach, my two friends found themselves a two set and I chatted up a girl that turned out to be French-Canadian. The conversation flowed well and, unlike I usually do, I tried stretching the idea of "togetherness" and challenging the shit out of her because she was leaving town later that night. Eventually left and got blown out a couple more times, met up with the guys and ended up leaving shortly after to go to the date.

So I pick her up, we park near the shops and walk to get some food. We talk about whatever comes to mind and the convo flows well, not much push and pull though which I have to work on. We get on the beach and keep talking and talking talking (it was entertaining but not the goal) and I still hadn't made a real move.

I had done some really light kino before, leading her through crowds or doorways or grabbing her hand to comment on her jewelry but I wasn't exactly sure when to add more. Eventually though I just fucking put my arm around her, she found a comfortable spot to rest her head and kept talking. I grab her hand and remark on how she could be a hand model (lol), kept talking, and at some point I just decided it was time to kiss her. I really didn't wait for a specific moment nor did I try to coordinate it with a "spike of emotion" or anything, I just straight up looked her in the eyes and went in for it. Rinse, wash, and repeat a couple times until I made things a little more physical, like pulling up her dress, grabbing her ass and breasts so although I got access to gen. admission, she wouldn't let me in the VIP area. Yes, I'm enjoying these stupid euphemisms. Point being, I'm pretty sure what kept her from letting me get my hands down there was the fact that it was in public (not many people around though) so for next time I need to screen for logistics a lot more and get on my home turf so to speak.

This was my first date in a year or so, so anything I did was a step forward and damn if it doesn't do wonders for a man's soul to have a woman on him.

3 Good Behaviors:

Keeping the conversation flowing- I talked about literally anything that came to mind no matter how silly it was which was super vulnerable and felt great, as well as building tons of comfort Taking the lead- when I realized it was time to make a move I didn't hesitate or chode around it, I just did and if it worked I kept escalating until there was a clear "no," calibrated and then tried again later Self amused- I was having fun! And she could sense that which is obviously good, I was so uninhibited at one point I started singing (I can do it quite well but usually self-conscious about it) which was hilarious

Things to Save a Bad Set

In regards to the cold approaching at the beginning of the day, I could have probably plowed a little more because although some of the rejections were bitter there was still room to keep pushing in the other ones

*Lessons learned: * If you managed to get a day 2, it's because whatever small sample of your personality you have to the girl really resonated with her so when the date comes there should be no excuse to be stifled. Also, screen for fucking logistics.

Things to improve going forward:

Setting a sexual vibe early on

Logistics