Messages are integral to OKC, so here they are: http://imgur.com/a/b07WT

Anyways, I texted her 2 or 3 days after that. I deleted the exchange because the inbox was full on my shitty phone... but it was just something playing off of the "what's up," something akin to:

"What's up, [girl's name]? (Did I do that right? I'm still not entirely sure how this colloquialism works.)"

lol yeah, I think you got it. I'm not sure myself but that seems right. How are you, [my name]?

"I'm good, just got off work, about to get totally lit."

Oh that sounds awesome! Unfortunately, I don't have anything at the moment... I have to mooch hash from my roommate, I always feel bad doing that.

"Oh man! Bad situation. At least it's hash, so you don't have to mooch that much for it to be effective. This sounds like a good excuse for us to hang out. I am a cannabis activist after all... gotta give the people their medicine."

Well arent you just the cutest little activist! That sounds like a great idea.

"Great, how about [location, date, and time]?"

Sounds good, [light comment].

"K, I'll see you then. I gotta go now, though, about to make food."

^ on that last one, I was really just ejecting from the convo while I was still ahead.

So then, on the day of, she tries to switch plans last minute, because she has been at some day rave for for a few hours already while I was at work. It was a tense situation, because a day rave sounds like something I would legitimately prefer doing... our plans consisted of meeting in a park and smoking. However, there was no way for me to accept that without seeming like I'm trying to appease her; plus, it would have made it harder to isolate, as she would have people around and I wouldn't really know anybody. I told her that I was going to be in the area by the park at the time we agreed upon anyway, so I wouldn't make it to the day rave on time. This was total bullcrap, of course, but it made me seem busy and not desperate-to-please. She agreed to meet at the park.

We got there, I spotted her, and gave her a hug. After a quick little "what's up" we went looking for a place to sit. She had never been to this park, so I gently turned her around to a good sitting spot by putting my hand on her waist and nudging her in that direction. I gotta say, I think the single best advice seddit has given me is DEFINITELY kino. I never knew how to comfortably introduce physical contact. It has always been my weakness. However, I literally did a step-by-step, textbook run of the DiCarlo ladder, and it was money! When we sat on the grass, I put my hand on her back, waist when she said some things I liked. After a few of those, I switched to touching her leg/knee. After some more cannabis and conversation, there was a lapse in the conversation. I took advantage of it by grabbing her legs and placing them across my lap, to which she chuckled. We sat and talked like that and smoked some more. At the next lull in the convo, I looked her in the eyes and brushed her hair out of her face so that I could see them. She stared right back and was very receptive to having her hair brushed, so I went in for the kiss. She was down.

After kissing/cuddling on the grass for a bit, I knew it was time to begin some serious physical escalation, and that the public park wouldn't do. I invited her back to my place for some zombie-watchin', but she wanted to go to her place... this was great, as I didn't have to worry/care about a goddamn thing if we weren't going to my house.

We got to her place, and it is a den of chaos and debauchery when we get there. Her friends are fairly drunk and were day-raving as well, and are all rambunctiously moving about. She feels responsible since she is the most sober, so we hang around in the living room for a while. I of course politely oblige. My patience was rewarded as she grabbed a blanket for the two of us on the couch, and then started "prepping me" under the blanket. After being prepped for a while, it must have shown in my face, because she just looked at me and kind of chuckled and asked if I would like to listen to some music in her room. I don't remember the music all that well.

tl;dr - Kino is crucial! After navigating the murky waters of text game on OKC, I did a textbook application of the DiCarlo ladder, to great success. Thanks, seddit!