Hey guys, I've been lurking seddit for ~2 months and have found a plethora of great wisdom and insight. The most important being INNER GAME. I found Real Social Dynamic (RSD) through this community and you guys have literally changed my life forever. Just wanted to say thank you! On to the report.
So myself and two of my buddies head out to this club last night. This has been the first time I've been out in a few months due to having to work nights/weekends. I tell myself all day that I'm going to go out and have a great time and I am just going to approach. We're in line to get in and there is a girl walking by with a "It's my Birthday" ribbon on her shirt. I yell HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! She immediately lights up and comes over to us with her 4 friends (HBs 6-7). I immediately initiate kino with a hug and a bit of jumping. I run the very simple "Wait, how old are you?" with a tone that makes her feel the need to qualify herself to me. I talk to her and her friends and joke around, kinoing birthday girl with high 5s and arm around shoulders etc. They have to go inside because they have bottles, before she leaves I pull her back and whisper in her ear "It's me and you tonight." She's taken aback by this (I guess she's not used to getting hit on in this fashion), but she smiles and tells me to find her later. I say maybe.
Lesson from this part of the night: Approach VERY EARLY into the night, it sets the tone and gets you into state right out of the gates. Initiate kino RIGHT AWAY. Do not wait to start kino, it should be started within the first 15 seconds of meeting a girl.
So we get into the club 20 minutes later, and after grabbing a beer we proceed to the dance floor. To be completely honest, this was the first time I've been on a dance floor in years. I used to be a chode just chilling by the wall having drinks looking at girls that I was too scared to approach. Not last night! My entire mentality was I'm here to have a great time, it doesn't matter what other people think or how they see me, so I'm jumping around, fist pumping, dancing, and I'm not a great dancer but I just didn't care. After about 10 minutes I notice that I'm in the middle of the dance floor and I have so much space around me. It was like people were afraid on infringing on MY space, guys and girls alike. I would also notice girls looking at me, whenever I'd see one I'd dance over to her and her friends take her hand spin her around and just dance and have fun, HUGE smile on my face all night. Every time I approached a girl on the dance floor I'd dance over and point to her and give her a playful come hither motion. I'm inviting her into MY bubble of awesomeness, some girls declined the come hither, but were still smiling and dancing looking right at me so I would just grab them and pull them over and start dancing. Girls are so attracted to guys that take over the situation. A firm grab and pull is usually all it takes on the dance floor to get a girl to dance with you AS LONG AS YOU'VE approached the other girls in her clique.
Important Lesson from this part of the night: Just go out on the dance floor and enjoy the music and most importantly ENJOY YOURSELF! Women are VERY attracted to this. Women don't look at your dance moves, they look at how comfortable you are doing them. If you're comfortable, they'll be comfortable and attracted to you.
After dancing for 20-30 minutes pulling girls over, spinning them, kissing, I go to rejoin my friends and see how they were doing. We're chilling by the bar talking to a few friends that had just come in and a HB9 walks by us, I grab her arm and pull her in "What's your name" "How old are you" (again making her qualify) I felt like I was high. I felt like I could just talk to anyone and say anything. I asked her if she played starcraft because it came to my mind, and I enjoy talking about starcraft. She laughed said no. Tbh I don't really remember what we talked about I just kept kinoing, strong eye contact, and being high energy. It was getting late and I got the vibe from my friends that they wanted to go so I told her that I was heading out but she's GOING to give me her number and MAYBE we would hang out later. She very willingly gives me the number. I run my favorite kiss close where I turn my cheek and point, shes kisses it, turn my other cheek and point, she kisses it, and then I say, well you've kissed me twice and I haven't kissed you once, that's not fair and grab the back of her neck and K-close makeout. I find that leaving RIGHT after a makeout is the best, NO LINGERING. We make out I pull away and say "Maybe we'll see each-other again" and turn and walk out before she even has time to respond.
Important things to take from this post:
1) Approach girls EARLY into the night, it will put you into state and get the pickup blood flowing
2) Dancing: Just get out there and have fun. When you notice a girl dance over pull her into your bubble of awesomeness. Don't worry about how you look, if you're genuinely having fun, it WONT matter.
3) Kinoing: This should be done within the first 15 seconds of meeting a girl, DO NOT HESITATE, be firm but playful.
4) Don't be the ENTERTAINER guy. It's important to be high energy and having a great time, but you must always keep a sexual element/tension with the girl. You're not there to entertain, you're there to hook up, don't lose sight of that.
This was my first FR so hopefully it's well accepted. Hope you guys enjoyed it. Google "Real Social Dynamic" and watch/buy "The Blueprint Decoded" by Tyler and also "The Flawless Natural" by Tim.
Thank you to everyone that read this post and everyone who has contributed to this community. Anyone from the Toronto area that wants to go out and run approaches shoot me a PM.
