My Background:

Just got out of college in December, broke up with my girlfriend from Freshmen year along with accepting my diploma. Took a job in a brand new city - Cleveland, OH! Spent the last 5 months creating a social group, getting better at work and lurking on /r/seddit. Started working out again, reading my favorite books and playing chess. Typical INTJ, not a native English speaker and fairly new to the American dating culture.

Saturday Night:

Friend and I hit the bar very close to where I stay. The bar if fairly empty for a Saturday night. We go on the patio and grab a table. Chat up this dude who we find out works for NATO and has seen some crazy shit in life! Tell him I am from India, and then start talking about how awesome that country is. He buys us a drink and we move to the inside bar hoping for action. See a set of two, HB8 and HB6. We decide to go introduce ourselves. It is around 11.30.

  • Friend: Hi! I am new to this city and was wondering where all the good bars are? This place is kind of lame.
  • HB6: We just moved to the city too! This bar isn't that bad.
  • Me: There are better places in Cleveland! Let's go the outdoor patio. Less music more fun!
  • HB6: This bar has a patio! Lets go!

We chat them up. My friend chose to flirt with HB8 and I was left chilling with HB6. I knew this would fuck things up because the HB6 was the one responding to him when he opened. Turns out she is an awesome person! Intelligent and friendly. All this time, I had very little Kino. You can say there was zero game (I just bought the book - The Game today), just a simple conversation and lots of jokes and philosophical arguments. Time flew by!

Fast forward to last call, I slip the security guard a ten and he lets us stay in the bar for an extra 30 minutes. We dance in an almost empty bar, take a shot of tequila and leave! As soon as we leave, I propose we go to this pizza place and feed ourselves. All this time, my friend did nothing but Kino with HB8. He did not say a single word! While I was making all the calls. The pizza place is closed, buy some pizza from the guy who had just bought the last sheet! Walk towards the park and sit down and eat the pizza. This is when I start flirting. I put my arms around her and make sure my legs are touching hers. She doesn't counter. We talk about human psychology (she majored in Psychology and I work in that field).

  • Me: How much of this neighborhood have you explored?
  • HB6: None! Except for that one coffee shop we have and the this bar.
  • Me: Give her my cellphone. Give me your number, I'll take you on a date.
  • HB6: What will we do?
  • Me: Don't think too much. It is a suprise.

She takes my phone, adds her number. I ask her for her last name.

  • HB6: Text me tomorrow.
  • Me: I am not going to text you. I'll call and we will talk.

She smiles. It is 3.30 now.

  • Me: I know you run track, but any chance you smoke a hooka I worked for a Hookah shop in college.h?
  • HB6: No. Smoking is bad and it is late. I have lots to unpack.
  • Me: Yeah? Ok.
  • HB6: I am going to go home now.

She snatches the HB8 away from my friend who was apparently trying to full close her. She complies and they both leave. I was content with the #-close and pussied out to put much of a fight.

Sunday Afternoon:

I call HB6. Goes to Voice-mail. Leave a message saying exactly this: "Hey HB6, its powersoul from last night. We should hangout...call me back. We can get coffee"

She texts me back saying "yes, but I came out of a relationship and will only do this as friends." I reply by saying - "Sure, I'll see you Tuesday at 7."

Tuesday Evening:

  • HB6 (6pm): "Hey, work is taking longer and I won't be able to make it there by 7. Can we reschedule for something later in the day or Thursday?"
  • Me (6.30pm): "Let's grab a drink at 9."
  • HB6: "We can meet at the intersection of x-street and y-street, and go to the bar from there."
  • Me: "Let's meet at the same place we ate pizza!"
  • HB6: "Sure!"

The Date: Sit at the bar. Order some white wine. I take this opportunity to get close to her and teach her a little about wine! She listens but rejects my efforts to Kino. We start with some small talk, and every time we laugh I would put my hand on her legs. Eventually she stands up and literally sits parallel to me instead of facing me! I get the hint, we don't have attraction. Became super-beta, and stop Kinoing.

The date goes well, no silent pauses at all! We talked non-stop for 90 minutes. She has to leave and get to work so she suggests we get the check. I put my card on the check and she puts a 10. The bartender says the he can't split the check so I ask her if she would let me buy her drink. She says - "Sure! Only if you let me buy you one the next time." I obviously said Yes, and then gave her my hand to escort her outside. We get outside. I ask her if I can walk her home. She say's NO but wants to meet again. I hug her and leave.

What happened? What did I do wrong? This is literally my first date in 4 years!

I plan on calling her on Saturday and saying- "Hey, since we hanging out as friends, let's do what friends do. Grab a movie. I have two tickets from a private screening of Despicable Me 2 (there will be another 120 people there, it is private not personal). We can grab a drink later and I can show you the east side of town."