So I'm sharing these stories with you guys because I feel that there is more to learn from failures than any other kind of experience. Writing these out helps me wrap my head around what I'm doing. That being said, any feedback would always be welcome.

I'm 25 and I have been out of a three year, long distance LTR for about a month now and I've been trying to improve my game. I've spent a lot of time focusing on picking up hobbies that I had neglected, working out and upgrading my fashion, and rekindling old friendships I had allowed to wither over the course of the relationship. So far I haven't had a lot of success, but I'm still optimistic.

If you want to see my first FR it is here.

So this Wednesday, an old friend of mine returned to the country after being gone for two years. His parents are very wealthy and in addition to the house they have in our town, they also have a beautiful apartment in the heart of a nearby city with a roof terrace, where he was throwing a party. It was a great party on top of a skyscraper with a very interesting group of people.

I was conversing with a guy I had discovered was from my home town when a girl that had come with his group came over to stand near us. She was pretty cute, so I introduced myself and struck up a conversation. It turned out she was from France and was in the country for school. I think a french accent on a girl is hugely sexy so my interest was piqued for sure.

I talked with her quite a bit, though I really should have pushed more kino early in the interaction. She seemed very willing to chat and hang out, but all my attempts escalate seemed to fall flat. She wouldn't reject them outright, I just got no response and it seemed like I wasn't building much attraction.

It probably would have been a good idea to abandon this particular pursuit and focus on some of the other girls at this party, but that accent had me hooked. I decided to try to change up mys strategy and instead of going for an f-close, just try get a number and move things a little slower.

Another old friend of mine was at this party and just got promoted to manager at a local craft brewery and had offered to give me a private tour and sampling that weekend. I invited the french girl to come along, figuring getting a private showing would be a good demonstration of value. This is where things took a twist.

She smiled but declined the invitation saying that she wasn't old enough. When I asked her old she was, she said eighteen. This was a bit of a shock for me as I had her pegged for early twenties like everyone else at the party. While I am not necessarily above sleeping with an 18 year old, part of me did feel a little strange hitting on someone younger than my little brother. I think the surprise was visible on my face, and I don't think it helped my cause.

I don't think there was much attraction on her part though. I wasn't hovering around her all night, but I think I had made my intentions clear. When the party ran low on beer, I invited her down into the apartment to find some more, but she declined again.

The party eventually moved downstairs, where I did a little better. I noticed she had a few tattoos and inquired after them, at which point she basically had me taking her shirt half off to inspect a tattoo underneath her bra. Taking this as a pretty clear positive signal I again tried to escalate things, and was met with another cold response.

Reminding myself that I needed to have an abundance mentality, I decided it was time to move on and she didn't stay at the party for long. People were tired and the party was winding down at that point, so I didn't fare much better with the other girls at the party.

On the upside, I did end up in bed with three of the girls was were crashing at the apartment. Unfortunately I couldn't take as much advantage of that situation as I would have like to, as one of those girls was the host's(one of my best friend's) little sister who was also the ex of another one of my best friend's who wasn't there. So besides not being particularly attracted to her, that was a hornet's nest of drama I did not want to kick. The other two girls were pretty cute, but were on the other side of the bed. It was a super comfortable bed though, so I had that going for me.

Besides not getting laid I actually had a really great time at that party, and now that this buddy and his sister are back in the city, I'm sure it won't be the last such party they throw.

But back to this french girl, do you think there may have been a disconnect because of cultural differences? I noticed when I lived in Europe that people in general were more hands on during social interactions. Do you think the kino would have less of an effect on someone who is used to being in physical contact with strangers a lot? I also wonder if my intentions weren't as clear they could have been because she didn't speak English very well and wasn't picking up on what I was trying to say with some subtlety.

Things I think I need to improve/remember:

1.) Escalate with kino early, I never regret doing this. Whenever I do I am always reminded of how effective it is.

2.) I think I'm going to shift my focus and instead of always looking for an f-close or k-close the first night I meet someone, I'll be open to a #-close and potentially setting up a date.

3.) I need to focus on preventing tunnel vision. Whenever I find a girl I'm attracted to at a bar or a party, they become the focus of my night. I don't get clingy and hang around them and seem needy, but I definitely miss out on other opportunities with other girls because I'm preoccupied by say, trying to sleep with a french teenager.

4.) I need to do better escalating from friendly introductions and banter to sexually charged interaction. I don't get bad AA (especially if I am very attracted to someone) and I am good with the cold approach, but I feel like I get stuck in "chat" mode and have a hard time moving into a "seriously though let's go fuck somewhere" mode. I think part of it is that the last couple interactions I've had it was hard to isolate the person I was talking to (big street festival, parties at other people's apartments etc). Do you guys have any tips for getting some alone time with someone you just met without it seeming creepy?

Feedback is always appreciated.