Gonna be a short FR this week (feel free to look at all my previous FR's!) as really not much to say about last night
Worst part of the night was not having the balls too approach two gorgeous young girls who were sat outside in the beer garden fairly early into the night. A blonde and a brunette. Both my type. Young, slim, pretty faces
Anyone who reads my FR's will know that i've experienced lots of 'instant rejections' from hot young girls recently, and I just couldn't stomach the kick to the ego of having it happen again, especially so early into the night. they were gorgeous, though!
It was also partly a 'competence' based fear/approach anxiety.
Like, I looked at them and tried to work out what I was going to say after I opened. Usually people advise some sort of cold read or a comment on something they are wearing or something, but nothing was jumping out and I didn't just want to do what every other guys does and just be like ''how is your night going?'' as people tell me that that is NOT a good thing to say straight after opening. Still not really sure what the best 'post open conversation starter' is, really.
Anyway, after that place we went straight to some smallish club with a dancefloor.
I started approaching on the dance floor.
I tried a couple of 'hand of God' type moves and trying to make Eye contact and pretend to pull girls towards me with an imaginary rope (has worked before for me) but none of them wanted to play.
Then I tried a few verbal openers Like commenting on a girls dance moves or something. Most kind of ignored me. One of them talked back a little, but I ran out of things to say very quickly.
Then I went and stood near like a pillar close to the dance floor and drank my beer. There was a girl sitting next to me who was OK looking, but nothing special.
I opened her with ''I can tell you're dying to get out there and dance''. She actually laughed even though it's hardly a hilarious opener which made me think she might be interested.
We started to talk a little. I ran out of things to say a good few times, but I DIDN'T eject, which is something i'm trying to work on! There were some awkward silences as I was thinking of what to say next, but luckily she filled in the gaps a few times. Turns out she is a GRANDMOTHER at 37 years old! haha. Quite funny that i'm only in this to get hold of young girls, and here I am hitting on a grandma! She was actually OK looking though, and I assumed she was maybe 26 when I approached.
Then her friend turned up and done some mild cock blocking and kind of tested me.
Funny how it's often actually the friends that try to make me look bad and test me. Happens a fair bit. It's usually the targets friends who shit test me as opposed to the girl herself.
This friend was giving me shit about being young and not being able to grow a beard! I'm 30 but look about 24 adn that's usually the age I tell girls I am.
Having no facial hair (genetics) is actually something that I used to hate and even looked into facial hair transplants at one point. However, I made my peace with it some time ago and now I actually kind of like having smooth skin as it make me look younger which is probably for the best since i'm always lying about my age to young girls and they seem to believe me!
I laughed it off and agreed about not being able to grow a beard and even grabbed the friends hand and made her rub it against my soft skin and I told her ''you love it!''. Meanwhile, the girl I approached seemed to be enjoying me teasing her friend and her attraction was growing.
I done some light kino on her.
Soon after she got up and was like ''listen. I really have to go! It was fun meeting you'' and she walked off outside. It was close to closing time. I didn't really care, obviously and just said ''Cool See ya!''
About 5 minutes later I was in the same spot, just talking too a friend and felt a tap on my back. She had come back. She pointed to teh corner of teh bar, as in she wanted me to follow her.
She asked the bargirl for a pen and told me to write my number on a piece of paper. Told me she thought 'we had a connection and you have good banter'' lol. We walked outside to meet her friends, but whilst we were on our own, I went in for the kiss. Just to practice escalation, really. She didn't pull away.
Similar night to last weekend in a way. A makeout with an older girl who I don't have interest in and no joy with the hot young ones, lol.
I might possibly be out AGAIN tonight where, if nothing else, I really intend to approach some hot young ones! Just despite so much practice and reading, I am often genuinely at a loss as to what to talk about after the open in order to make it a fun interaction and not just an information exchange. I'd love to go out with some people who are good at gaming so I could listen to what they say (since i'm getting more convinced that most advice is more for US girls and a slightly different approach is needed for Uk girls)
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