Hey seddit, before I write up my first field report, I'd like to say thank you to everyone that posts here because this is honestly a great database of information. In a way it's guy talk on a global scale. Anyway, since I've incorporated much information from here into bettering my game, I figured it's only fair I give a little back, so I figured I'd write up a few recent field reports.

Now that the introductions are over, a few days ago I went out on a date with a really nice HB7.5. I was cleaning up my phone book of flakes and dead weight when I dropped a friendly text to her (we hadn't seen each other since early college days), and immediately had a proposal from her to go out. I decided to delay the offer until last week partly because I was genuinely busy, but partly because thanks to seddit I've had some other side projects and didn't feel the need to rush anything (as an added bonus, it demonstrates good confidence and a value on my own time, which can NEVER hurt a man to have). "Don't ever make someone a priority who you are only an option to." I know that's not exact wording, but it's an excellent quote for human relations in general.

Anyway, so we met up at 8 and decided to grab some coffee across the street before going to grab some drinks. Things were going smoothly and I realized early on that the physical attraction was through the roof on her end (body language, nervousness, etc). Oh, I forgot to mention that earlier in the day I started doing small doses of self-meditation while getting ready, pumping myself up mentally. Hitting the gym right before always works for me and help me get into the "I'M THE BOSS" attitude. Going back to the story, HB7.5 seemed genuinely interested and I just felt in the game, just letting conversation flow and see where we would land. After about 30 minutes of this, it was time for a little venue change. Now that all the catch up questions and answers were out of the way, we both eased up a bit and felt more comfortable. Fast forward to the bar, we had a few drinks and things really started heating up. Unfortunately, it was really full and I was not able to find a seat for better kino escalation (great tips in other posts by you guys about seating arrangements in the bars btw). This being said, it was a bit harder to try to be natural without kino (I'm naturally very hands on type of speaker and touchy person, so I feel weird when I'm not able to use my hands as a means of communication, I feel as though some more risque comments are much better received by women with a nice big smile and teasing touch on the arm, etc).

The drinks helped keep the laughs going, which were easily achieved because of the simple fact that she was a genuinely fun person to be around. I usually don't have a problem opening or talking to girls, but reading seddit, I've picked up a few pointers on how to try to gauge the other's interests and measure the amount of talking. There were times where I would allow the conversation to settle a bit to see if she would re-initiate, and she passed with flying colors each time.

I forgot to mention this earlier but, at least from my experiences, your own body language, even when sitting in the undesired interview esque setting can help you come off as the one is conducting the process. Personally I like to lean back in the seat a bit, maybe put my arm across the other seat and just come off comfortable. Not only do you show the girl that you are confident and familiar with the dating scene, you also make her feel comfortable.

Long story short, the night was going well and we were reaching that time period where I had to leave (friend's birthday that night, had to leave to go celebrate, I had told her this early on in the date [within 15 minutes] in order to not make her self-conscious and shut down. This way we both knew until what time we could stay out. I decided to have another venue change, so we got into my car and stopped by to grab a bottle of water and walked around a bit, allowing for ample room for kino and chivalry with doors, etc.

At this point I decided not to pursue a K-close for the night, which helped me tremendously. Since I knew that wasn't part of my plans, I did not lose my concentration and was always an active listener and participator, helping setup my value for the next date, where I will go for the kiss close.

Deciding that I wanted to see her again, I wanted to gauge her reaction to the idea so when we walked by a nice looking bar that she took a liking to, I threw in a "Maybe I'll bring you here next time," to which I received wide spread approval.

So anyway, what is most important about this FR for me was that I felt more aware of certain aspects. Little things that guys miss sometimes because of pre-occupations of other thoughts, nerves, etc. This is where seddit is crucial, by reading other stories and tips and generally seeing other guys talk about what works for them, I was able to incorporate certain things into my personal game.

There are a few questions that I have though. For starters, I always find girls playing with their hair as an instant indicator of interest and in some cases even maybe a bit of intimidation. Do you guys agree with this, and if yes, do you find keeping some level of intimidation helps or not? For me, I've found it can go both ways, sometimes girls will love it, and it will keep them qualifying themselves to you for the night, but other times they get a bit down and negative on themselves and might feel as though you're not into them.