The Night

tYesterday was a bitch. It wasn't easy to even go out. It was not easy. I forced myself to go. I had done nothing the entire day so going out at eleven at night was like fucking a whale.

I took a cold shower before going out and it really helped "wake" my body up and take on the world. At eleven hahaha.

Arriving at the club I found out it was closed. The two cute girls that were walking sort of with me to the closed club I approached. I said something about

"FUCK, clubs closed eh."

They didn't respond so I just said it again to them this time louder. We chatted and I asked where another place was they told me of a club called Fouf and I asked where they were going and they said they were also going to Fouf and I ended up walking with them.

I had pretty good conversation with them. My banter and humor was pretty on point and Maya was definitely interested. I did some light kino to Maya on the way, I grabbed her waist and pulled her in and when we were crossing the road I put my hand on her back to guide her.

Doing simple kino like this used to be so hard for me to do but now I find it easy. I just did it. I still need to get comfortable with escalation and kino I could of ramped it up.

Daygame is my specialty and once we arrived at the club I felt out of my element and it showed.

On the dance floor I was fucked. Maya and Sasha were dancing and I was just dancing by myself. I felt like a loser. I should of led Maya to the pool table where I could show my best quality (conversation/wit/banter).

I said to Maya

"Let's go to the stage (the club has a stage where you can climb onto and dance.)"

Maya said

"The stage?"

I took her hand but she said something like

"Later"

And this was when Maya and Sasha left. I should of asked for Maya's number but noob mistake.

Now I was alone in the club.

I remember when I first tried to go to a club (I was a sheltered teenager and my first time clubbing was like three months ago.) I couldn't even go. I was soo anxious I walked past the entrance and went home. Then the next time I went alone and felt REALLY anxious and uptight. This time however, I didn't experience any of this. I didn't feel anxious being in the club. I wanted to dance with a couple girls but I don't know how so I didn't.

I didn't really open any girls either. While on stage I said to this one girl next to me who had a neutral expression on her face.

"You look quite bored for someone in a club."

She smiled and went back to dancing.

I chatted another girl at the bar part of the club. My opener was pretty dumb haha.

I said

"It's really cold in here."

She gave me a nice dose of silence. I kept talking and finally she said to me.

"Do you speak French?" (I live in Montreal.)

I replied back in french

"Non"

and that was it. The rejection didn't really bother me but I think next time I go to open a girl like that I'm going to trick myself. I will think that I'm doing a indirect opener and instead I will open direct. 90% of my game is indirect.

Then I went downstairs and sat down in a corner so I could observe how people were behaving. I watched a couple dudes lay down great game and later on they probably laid down some pipe. There was two of them and each had a hot girl on their lap pretty much begging for it. I watched them escalate with their girls and learned quite a lot just by watching.

Tonight if I can afford it I'm going to go out again.

What did I learn?

  • I'm going to try and dance with women by eye contact and offering my hand.

  • I need to lead more.

  • My conversation skills were quite good. I ran good banter.

  • TOUCH TOUCH. I need to touch more and escalate. When I do touch I feel very calculated. In fact a lot of my non-verbal game feels calculated. I need to make my non-verbal game more natural. Touch should come from good vibes and naturally not from "PUA told me I should touch her now. I will touch her."

  • It's all mindset and vibe. A girl will pick up on whatever vibe you are feeling and if that vibe is negative she will feel negative towards you.

  • Logistics. I should of got Maya's number that way later in the night we could of met. I knew she liked me.

  • I need to become more attractive. The club was a huge eye opener as to what the average guy looks like. I need to gain muscle and possibly dress better. I felt like a child in the club.

  • I need to let loose. I felt kind of uptight in the club. Like I had another agenda. Which I kind of did but I noticed the guys that got the attention of the girls were the ones that had this carefree fun loving attitude.

Final Notes

As far as approaching in the club. I think it will come with time. Once I spend more time in that sort of environment I will feel more comfortable and I will start to understand how club game works. Plus being around and observing guys that know their shit will also help me. I learned a lot JUST from watching those two guys.

Overall it was a good night. I learned a lot of new stuff and considering this is my fifth time going to a club I'm happy. I'm going to game everyday/night. I want to see what will happen.

One thing I want to mention before I hit "send". I read TonyDAbsolute's book A thousand tiny failures and even he had trouble going out and practicing game. His first night he didn't even approach but he never stopped and I think it was after three months he finally pulled a girl. That's why I'm not worried about approaching. It will come.

Edit: The title sounds like a five year old wrote it. I swear I'm not five.