I set up a date with the girl from this FR to go to a going away party in another city. We met at the train station at 8 PM and got a hotel room then went out to meet my friend who was leaving. We got some take out and took it straight to the bar. We sat together and talked a bit. Before hand, I texted pretty much every platonic female friend I had in the city and invited them to the party. A former co-worker of mine showed up first.

She's a Korean girl that doesn't speak much English, so I was bouncing back and forth between talking to her in Korean/English and occasionally getting into the conversation my date was having with my friend. I'd give her some small kino on her legs under the table or her lower back, but nothing amazing. Eventually, she went to play darts with a male friend of mine. I stayed with my Korean friend and her attractive friend showed up, so I chatted it up with them for awhile.

As more people came into the bar, I made my rounds saying hello to people I hadn't seen in awhile. My date disappeared for a good 20 minutes. I made a mental note of it, but didn't try to figure out where she went. Eventually she came back and told me she had gone "on a walk". I left it at that. I was all over the bar talking to people or heading outside to use the bathroom. My date complained that I was leaving her alone with my friend too long.

I told her I wanted to tell her something without having to scream the whole time, so we headed outside. I don't really remember what we talked about. It doesn't really matter. At one point she said that I would always squeeze her tighter any time people walked by. She initiated a make out and when we broke it up, she said, "See? I'm not going anywhere."

Headed back in the bar. She played more darts with my friend. I socialized on my own. More Korean girls I knew came in. They introduced me to their friends. They were kind of drunk and very flirtatious. They were initiating kino on me and I #-closed one of them right in front of my date. I went to get a drink at the bar and stood next to her.

Me: Are you being pouty?

Her: Yeah... You're over there doing your thing with those Korean girls or whatever...

Me: I'm here now.

She smiled and gave me a quick peck on the lips. We finished our drinks and we headed out. Last thing of the night worth mentioning was in the cab.

Me: Your hair smells nice.

Her: I took a shower today! ... Wow. I'm terrible at flirting.

Me: Yup.

Went back to the hotel and sealed the deal.

Next day, we woke up around noon and got lunch at one of my favorite restaurants. We went shopping for a little bit, then decided to see a movie. After the movie, we took a bus back to Seoul, which ended up taking two hours. The whole time we played the "Questions game". Basically, alternating questions without repeating anything the other person has asked before. Lots of fun. Some of it was blatantly sexual, like turn ons, fantasies, kinkiest things, etc... and some of it was just plain old goofy shit. The absolute best question I asked though was where she was ticklish. She really didn't want to tell me but eventually did.

Halfway through the bus ride, we got a little frisky. I'd lick, nibble, such her ears and neck. Started some over the clothes rubbing. She was getting super turned on and struggled not to make any sounds that'd attract unwanted attention on the bus. When we finally made it to Seoul, we parted ways at the subway station and made plans for next Friday.

What worked:

  • Showing her around a city I'd lived in for three years meant I knew all the cool little things to show her. I lead the whole interaction of around 24 hours.

  • I brought her into my social circle. I introduced her to a ton of people. Lots of people hadn't seen me in several months since I moved, so they all had really enthusiastic reaction towards me. Social value like a mo' fo'.

  • I was extremely outcome independent. At some point, she joked about finding a better guy at the bar:

Me: Game on.

Her: Rules?

Me: You can flirt with anyone you want, but you're only allowed to leave the bar without me with another girl. Had she left with another guy, I would've been a bit offended, but I honestly wouldn't have felt bad about her leaving with a girl, haha.

  • As far as the #-close went, it wasn't something that I really pursued. The girl asked for my number, so I obliged. I'm certainly not going to reject a cute girl's request for my number. I wasn't actively trying to make my date jealous, but that was the outcome.

  • Exciting, subtle kino. We had great sex in the hotel room, but I feel better about the bus ride back. Anyone can be sexy in a hotel room. Adding that public element of danger is something not a lot of people would be willing to go for. I was encouraged by her admitting that she'd done some public stuff before, but I probably would've ended up doing it anyway.