First field report ive written, please excuse any spelling/format errors.

I went out solo on queensnight, wearing a white shirt with orange tie, black pants. Trying to "class" it up a bit. I started at the Irish pub where i always start my evenings when I'm going out.

  1. Its a great warm up setting/area
  2. They have Guinness

I allow myself one guinness and then switch to non-alcoholic drinks the rest of the evening. I've tried this once and i love it. I can focus better remember names and carry conversations better. I definitely recommend it.

So i get a Guinness at the bar, which was completely empty everyone is outside, so i move out side as well. The music they are playing isn't really my cup of tea so i decide to move locations and check out where the fun is.

While walking around i do some warm ups with people i encounter. Just fun chit-chat. I teased A really short girl that she had the wurst view of every one around and hope her friend in front of her used Nice shampoo. Get some smiles, still not feeling it. Not a lot of people in for conversation.

Enter bar #1.

Walk in confident body language, smile on my face. Start walking to the bar and keep eye contact with people who stare at me. Though no one holds it for longer then a second. As i walk passed a 3 set (6, 6, 7) i notice them checking me out and whispering into ones ear. My old friend AA kicks in. I don't say anything but do give them a smile and continue to the bar. Order my coke and give a wink to the girl serving me. After i take my first sip from my coke i look back at the 3 set and tell myself. Harden the fuck up i go in and i lock eye contract with a 6.

Me: "hey"

6 nr1 (didn't get her name): hello

Meanwhile the other 6 (next refered to as S) and the 7 (refered to as K) are looking at me to start the conversation.

Me: i don't like it when people talk about me behind my back and i clearly saw you 3 do that. Confusion sets in , they look at eachother and start laughing. Im in!

Me: so are you good friends? (directed 6 and S) ignoring K, the target.

They where and i tell them i have to give them the best friends test. Read it in The Game, wanted to see how it worked.

I asked if they used the same shampoo they looked each other, more smiles and giggles.

S: no

Me: that doesn't matter you looked at each other and friends who have a strong connection look at each other for confirmation. So you passed. Meanwhile 6 was I'm a conversation with a friend who started to introduce her self to the group. I just joined in introduced myself and just pulled her in for the 3 kisses. More smiles.

S: so do you study communication or something?

Me:Im done with my studies, but you're not far of.

S: so what do you do then?

Me: I'm a horse whisperer

S&K start laughing there asses of, apearently they are in a horse management course. Bingo. Some small talk more learning there names. Now im about to give K attention but 6 comes back (didn't notice she left) and drags them of to relocate. I lose focus try a save but still lose the set. Fuck! But, i'm all in the zone!

Lessons learned

  • Have a response ready for when they are relocating, either make sure you join them (or better get invited) or get the close!

I take my second sip of my coke turn around and notice another solid 7. Approach with a smile and open (forgot what i said) small chit-chat, not getting a connection so i eject by saying i have to find some friends and leave the bar

Lessons learned

  • Should have tried to #-close, even though i wasnt going to act on it

Outside: A guy that was balancing 2 beers, made a joke about doing beer thai-chi and showed him how to do itproperly. Won me a few high-fives from his mates. Continued walking along the street (all bars are located in one street)

I see a HB7 throw her beer cup on the floor in a very manly way. Walked up to her and opened: Me: That was a bit manly of you, did you practice that alot.

She smiles, i start kino by putting my hand on her lower back and continue with the conversation an analyses how she throws. She kino escalates me, pulling me in and being all over with her hands so i put a bit if distance between us.

Me: Let me ask you a question, snow or sun?

Her: both

Me: hmm, ok then ski or boarding

Her: sking

Me: small pause ok, it was nice meeting you

And i start walking of, she pulls me back and i move in closer and escalate kino again. Pull her in and continue talking about boarding and skieing.

When her friends say ok were going D, you can come or stay here?

Should have convinced her to stay a bit longer to k-close, but i again don't know what to say and she says bye and goes with them. I move on feeling amazing!

Lessons learned

  • I made a mental note to have an answer to this of relocating problem. This will not happen again after this night!

I go into bar #2, i was hoping to find my little brother + GF since i still owed him a drink.

I Open every one i see, opened a mixed set and a 2-guy set in line to enter the bar. Again enter with strong BL, straite back, shoulder back, chin up and a smile on my face. Open some sets by commenting on outfits and keep working every one I see, everyone is my friend tonight. Halfway through the bar i end up on an elevated bit and check out for potential targets and my brother.

When I notice this HB8 right infront of me. her friend notices me and i pretent i can't get down because its to crowded (which it actually was). So she steps back i step down level eye with her and thank her. She just throws herself against me, but im not interrested and I'm with my back to my target. So i put my hand on her hips and make a 145 degree turn so I'm sideways next to my target. When i notice she's talking with a guy. I can't literally remember this conversation because it was utter bullshit, the obstacle was drunk and couldn't understand me even after repeating myself three times. So i open the guy, who also doesn't understand me. I thought he was English, so i repeat the question in English. He had no clue what I'm saying and walks away. (No my English is not bad) So i open the HB8

Me: is your boyfriend English or just deaf?

HB: Smile That's not my boyfriend

My cue to put my hand on her lower back. Since the bar was really crowded there might have been 5 cm between our bodies and she was pressed against the djbooth, with no place to go.

Me: my bad, ...

HB interupts: you smell nice

Me: Thanks, do you always go around smelling people.

HB:No, but you just smell nice.

Small chit-chat, I notice she's had a few drinks already and is slightly tipsy. Kino is good, we stand close together, I try to keep eye contact, every now and again her eyes switch to her friends (2 guys, 1 girl) behind me.

Me: I have a feeling you are a adventurous girl Holding steady eyecontact

HB: Smile you're right

So i lean in to go for the kiss, she doesnt react/lean in so i bail and lean back out. And this is where i fuck it up. Me: Guess you're not that adventurous after all

HB: I don't even know your name

Me: You didnt seem interrested in it, well im going to see if i can find my friends. I turn my body 45 degrees to make it seem like im walking way, but i wasnt planning on doing that just yet.

Me: But what is your name then, just so i know if i walk into you again.

HB: you already sad bye, angry i turned you down?

Me: sly grin Not at all, im sorry to tell you that it wont ruine my night and i walk away.

SO many lessons can be learned from this, please point out more if i missed any

  • When denied take a step back, move two steps forward a bit later. I was just to impatient probably because of the previous to failures when i just lost the target. This time i went in to fast. This interaction all happend within a time span of 5-7 minutes.
  • ISOLATE, should have dont this, especially with her friends right behind my back looking at her, remove that pressure. Though there literally wasnt alot of space to isolate.

Moving on:

At this point to move 3 meters forward takes about 3 minutes, so i chat with everyone i see, open a few guy sets, ask a few girls some questions, throw in a pfff busy isn't it " though i dont see anyone worth my time. I end up next to a set of 4 girls (7,7,6,8).

Me: Crowded isnt it.

HB 7: I know!

I happen to look in the direction of the bar because i thought i saw someone i knew

HB7: Are you trying to get a drink? Just shout John or Harry, thats the name of the bartenders.

Me: I dont think that would help, see you're a girl you just pull your shirt down a bit and you get served. I've already opened my shirt with 2 buttons but it didn't work.

HB7: shall i get you that drink then

Me: Go ahead give it a try, i'll have a coke (for some reason this always get the "WTF you're not drinking look") At this point the whole set is basicly in a circle towards me. HB7 moved towards the bar and i look at her doing, for a few seconds just shoving through the people infront of it. With a smile i turn towards the set

Me: So who are you doing? Having a good night

General response: Good, crowded. Turns out these girls are from a small village near my city, i tease them because i dont think people have heard from their village and its probably 4 farmhouses, with more cows then people. All is good , everyone is having a good time.

HB7 returns with my drink, I pick up the straw thats in my drink and dump it in her wine, the rest of the sets starts asking were their drinks are because it was HB7s turn.

HB8 looks bored so i start a conversation, just small talk about her village, why she came to celebrate here, is the set a tight group of friends etc. I hold eye contact, smile, initatite kino. Now there is a set of guys behind her and one guy keeps pushing her and being a annoying. I ask her do you know him, turns out he's being an ass all evening and she doesnt know him well. Guy noticed i'm talking about him and steals HB8's attention.

I immediatly start conversing again with the set and make small talk about how i shouldnt have put the straw in her drink because its actually hard to drink without it (yes it was that crowded you couldnt properly lift your arm).

HB7: You can have it back but i've been using it to drink

Me: Well if thats all you've done with its ok.

HB8 is open again for conversation for a while now and i return to my target. Talk about the straw and ask what that dude wanted.

HB8: He said 'why would you talk with that guy he's just talking bullshit'

Me: Shit he's on to me! Well you must like bullshit then!

HB8: Appereantly i do!

Me: Thats great!

Some more small talk for a minute or 2 this isn't leading somewhere and since i cant isolate her i go in for the number close.

Me: Its been great talking to you, how about we go get a drink sometime and you can tell me some bullshit stories.

HB8: Ok

Me: holding phone in my hand How can we make that happen

HB8: I dont know while looking at my phone

Me: Well i have an idea and hand her my phone.

I get her number, say goodbye to the group and leave the bar. (I'll follow up with a mini-fr about what happens next)

Lets round this up:

Finally i find my brother and his GF. Though not much is happening in the bar they are in. Short after i just lose momentum, leave and decide to go home since everybar now has an hour waiting queu. I decide to go home.

Lessons learned from this last set

  • Having someone from the set buy you a drink works great
  • You can use everything to make conversation even a drinkingstraw

Well that was my first FR, hopefully it was readable. If you have any comments or suggestions or anything else through them in a comment. Even if you don't agree with a lesson I drew from an interaction. It will be greatly appreciated.

  • Edited: spelling/format