This is my follow up FR to the one I posted a few days ago.

This occurred the day after. I had been invited to a friend's sister's birthday party. I had known her in high school and a number of other high school people were all coming. Basically people who knew me in my AFC days. I wasn't sure how to approach the night, but going into it I had only two goals, to have fun and to not fall back to the afc state they knew me as.

I'll have to admit I did use alcohol as a crutch this night. Below are some of my interactions with the group and notable sets I opened.

Meeting Up

Me: Are you [birthday girl]?
Her: Yea!
Me: You don't look like her.
Her: Who do I look like then?
Me: You look like your brother in a dress! delivered with a grin and solid eye contact
Her: laughs Oh yea? You've seen him in a dress before?
Me: Yea, he pulls it off well.

This pretty much set the pace for the rest of the night. Teasing the random people I sort of new from the group. Made jokes about what age she was turning. Teased another girl that she always called me to get my info (her job). One girl I literally picked her up and hoisted her into air. All in all great night. The guys in the group kept asking me friends, "Is that really SOBH?"

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The Sets

Hilarious Blow Out

2 set, HB7 and HB7.5

Me: Got room against the wall for me to lean?
HB7.5: Yea she scoots aside to make room
Me: What's going on? Just get here?
HB7.5: No, we've been here, just taking a break.
Me: Yea it's fucking hot as shit in there.
HB7.5: Totally, are you from around here?
Me: Nope, where are you from?
HB7.5: [Her City Name]
Me: Really?! Awesome, we're neighbors, I'm from [My City Name] Raise my hand for the high five

Here's where I blow myself out. In going for the high five, my pinky hits her in the eye. Really it just grazed her to be honest. But her friend just straight jumped after that and became the cockblock of doom. But I try to make it right, apologized because it was necessary.

Me: Here, I'll give you a free shot at my eye. she gives me a small tap HB7.5: Hold on my eye is watering still.

Friend grabs her away at the point and I see them meet up with a few guy friends and walk out.

Remembering My Boundaries

2 set, HB7's both.

I forget how I opened them. I think they were dancing, made eye contact smiled and joined in.

Me: What are you names?
HB7: She's [iforget] and I'm [iforget2]. she slurred a bit while speaking
Me: oh you're totally drunk.
HB7: Yea, I drink early because it's more fun.
HB7#2: She does this ALL the time.
Me: Oh you sound way more sober. I'ma call her the fast drunk, and you slow to drink.
laughs around
HB7: I want to go to the bar.
Me: Let's go. put my arms around them and lead them toward the bar

At the Bar

HB7: What do you want?
Me: What are you having?
HB7: Vodka redbull.
Me: Sure get me one of those too.

Now here's the interesting part and why I call this the "Remembering my Boundaries." The HB's had made it seem like they were buying me a drink to start. Soon as the drinks come, they both turn and look right at me. I'm around posted against the bar, so I basically act a little oblivious and silent. When I don't go for my wallet, drunk HB literally reaches in, grabs the drink and downs it and walks off. Her friend follows, and I go off in my own direction.

It's kind of hazy here, I wanted to say something to tease and possibly recover the convo, but a few things. First, I was esctatic that I didn't fucking cave and buy 3 drinks, I kept my boundaries up. Second, attitude of abundance, fuck the set. There was no real reason to keep the interaction going after that.

Dancefloor Freak

2 set, HB7 and HB5 friend.

Not much was said here. It was on the dancefloor, loud as hell so I pretty much only got names and shit tons of grinding going on. Great kino, ejected and reopened a number of times on the dance floor.

There was at one point where I find the two girls dancing with my wing. I grab the Hb7 and start dancing again but after a while she starts drifting to my wing. To this I think "fuck this" and eject, attitude of abundance.

Later in the night I'm dancing with my group having loads of fun and I see the HB7 and HB5 to the side of the dancefloor standing there and looking in my direction. I was already having fun, but when I see this I turn it up a notch. HB7 slowly starts making her way around my group, while dancing. As she nears me I decide to step back and kind of brush against her accidentally. I turn to her and give her a nod of recognition. She immediately attaches herself to me and we begin dancing a little away from my group.

This time she leans in a few times to try to say something. I can't hear a damn thing. I kind of shrug, push her away a little so that we're face to face. I point to my lips, smile and bam, dancefloor make out. Not 2 feet from my group of high school folks. I eject after a bit, rejoin my group. I get a few fist bumps and a looks of disbelief. Shrug it off and return to having fun.

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What I Did Right

  • Attitude of abundance. Demonstrated twice with the bar girls and the dancefloor freak.
  • Keeping my boundaries up with the bar girls.
  • Not letting my afc past affect my present. Didn't give a fuck and acted in a way that was fun for me and ignored what others would think of me.

What I did wrong

  • Relied on alcohol as a crutch. Subsequently led to hilarious blow out.
  • Did not # close dancefloor freak. I didn't even try, although looking back I think I would have been likely to succeed despite not having spoken more than 4 words to her. But I didn't go for partially because I felt like she would have said no. Bad bad bad thoughts.
  • I need to find faster ways to build attraction. I'm coming across normal in my opened sets.