This is not a report that will impress experienced guys (they’ve been there, done that), will probably end up in nothing for me, but it is an example of how just being there in the moment, handling yourself like you are not desperate and horny, and how something can just fall into your lap (even if it’s prospects are slim… gotta “always be closing”). I’m at my local bier stube in the neighborhood on Sunday night. I notice a group of women starting to gather around at a table next to me. Three, then four, then five, then six. A hen party, always terrible to open as a lone wolf out there. Let them be for a while, or they will gang up on you.

But there is one at the able that sort of spies me and I look at her back. Nothing major at first. I just look at her back with some casual confidence, “Hi ladies, looks like you are enjoying yourself. Have a good time”, all via facial expression.

So, I sit at my table alone, looking decent (I’m fit, tight haircut, watching the music, reading today’s paper… ie., not looking around for something to hit on or desperate. I’m there alone but it’s like it’s a normal Sunday and I’ve got my shit together).

So the hen party is cackling, being girls at some sort of bachelorette party. A new woman comes up to join them and asks, “Are you using this chair”, pointing to a chair at my table. I say [pointing to the chair I’m sitting in], “No, I’m using THIS chair.” They all laugh. Evidently, I’m a friendly and likable guy.

A few minutes later, while I’m watching the band on the patio, my “target” says across their table to mine, “you look like Simon Cowell”… not sure to take this as a compliment or insult mockingly (of course, any opener like that is from her a compliment), I say thus that, “I’m not sure how to take that” (never answer a woman straight forward in the flirting phase). They respond as if it’s a good thing, and I say, “Well, I’d like his income”, and them, “Wouldn’t we all.” It’s a minor breaking of the ice and it’s fun. I continue watching the music and here or there shoot the target a minor look, but make sure she knows I’m looking AT HER…not her friends.

So they are opening the presents for the bride to be. One is a plastic garden gnome with a long pointed hat. I intrude with, “That’s an awfully awkward sex toy” and they giggle. I’ve established rapport with a table of hens without doing too much. Continue with beers, smokes, and watching the band (alone).

About 20-30 minutes later, target girl starts hugging other chicks, as she is leaving earlier than them. She makes her way around the table and when she reaches the side near me I look at her, “Well?” in the sense of “throw some attention this way, Ms Friendly.” I don’t say a word. She come over and sits on my lap and says to the others, “Take my picture” and they do while I wrap my arms around her waist. Click, click.

Then, I pull out my phone and say, “Take her picture getting a number from a stranger at the bar during your party”. Giggles. She’s about to do that for the picture, but then says, “give me your number.” Well, that never works, and I basically say, “I’ve been there before. You women never call. Give me your’s.” She insists on getting mine, telling me she lives 4 hours away. I think, “fuck it, whatever” and scribble my name and number down, writing “Simon Cowell” underneath it.

So, it’s no big event or field report. BUT!!!! There are takeaways here: Even if alone, act confident, like it’s normal.

Be willing to casually, humorously, and briefly interject into another group.

Do not intrude overtly on a group of chicks in certain situations as this will be clearly needy and they will devour you.

Do not act overly enthused or impressed when given a compliment. Act slightly happy but nonchalant (you’ve been there before). Take action when the time comes for it. Even if the odds of a result are low. No harm, no foul.

It’s like if this woman comes to town again I’ll probably not hear from her. But I could. And if the 4 plates I have spinning now are busy, well, then it comes out good for me.

This is not girlfriend material or a search for a LTR. At the same time, if I had just sat there, said nothing, paid no attention, or my attention to them was poorly calibrated, then there would be NOTHING at all to consider here.

So, just learn to deal with situations that are both high or low opportunity. Like the awesome Gretzsky quote repeated on these boards, “You miss 100% of the shots you do not take.”

And who knows... in a few weeks she might come back to town and need some dick and I can give it to her. A totally low-investment opportunity at a lay. Why not?