This is the same girl from my previous FR.

Im going to be detailed as possible so you guys can see where I can improve. Opinions and constructive criticism are open

So I setup the date at 1pm at a popular bakery/cafe. I was speeding to get there in time. Parking was a pain cause of the lunch rush. I parked and I got out and I saw her getting in to the parking alot. I smiled and waited for her a bit to find a spot, but decided to go inside to get in line. I wait for to come in not worrying if she coming or not. I just checked once or twice just in case she was looking for me. Once we order she wanted to pay and ordered first but I said we should combine our orders. We did and said we should spilt. What does seddit think about splitting the check? I joked she should pay cause on facebook she said she was a feminist. So I told her to flip a coin to see who will pay, while she was looking for a coin, the cashier already ringed us up so having cash I just paid. She playfully punch me but said it was tails anyway (but I won so she would have to paid). Since it was packed we had to go sit outside on a little stone bench. We are talking and eating. Im thinking how start kino naturally. She was moving side to side cause of the sun. First it was burning then the shade made it to cold it cute. Not until now i realized that i could have just put my arm around her shoulders So we found a table I moved to it first. I told her i will be back went to get a fork for my pumpkin pie. So after we talk about body language and how males and females react differently on sexual arousal and desires. I don't really remember the order of how the conversation so bare with me So for kino I told her "Let me see your hand." She said why. I told her " I am going to show you something." So I did her psychic palm reading. But I DON'T KNOW SHIT ABOUT PALM READING OR PSYCHIC SHIT!!! but the way I pulled it off was ingenious. With the tip of my index finger I softly traced her palm lines and her skin turn into goosebumps. I told her it is basically a cold readin, then I put my finger tips on top of her's and told her some BS about if you twitch a specfic finger it means somthing like if its the ringer finger you might find a conncetion or relationship. So I did some DHV and I saw alot IOI's in my perspective. She was twirling her hair, grabbing her knees and she said she doesn't know what to do in dates. So we talked more about traveling and how I want to travel to South America on a motorcycle and she wants to go teach English in China. I noticed a big IOI, I was slowly eating my pie because it fucking good, LOVE PUMPKIN PIE. So she looked at it and licked her lips and I asked if she wanted some of my pie she said yes please. So she grabbed my fork and took and small bite. I said "WTF was that come on. You call that a bite?" She eat the rest of the piece of pie that was on the fork. We both laughed. Later, we were talking about sex and sexually stories. I started it off with how I accidentally walked in on my brother doing some foreplay with her Gf. She told me how the night before a guy friend that came back from Somethin-kastan and got drunk and tried (not physically) get into her pants. I said guys are just single minded animals. She told me if I was like that. I said YES very proudly. She looked astonished on my direct response. Guys either rush it or don't do anything about it. And it is all a matter of balance. So while we were chit chatting away. Was eating the crust of my pumpkin pie and she ask for permisson and I said "well I did pay for it, so yes." And later she was grabbing more and more until she felt bad and told me get some so I dont feel bad I said NO not in a aggressive or angry way but assertive. she kept pushing until I said fine I will take have of that small piece.

  • Also forgot mention that we were rating people like HB-whatever, but what was interesting is that she rated herself a 7 which is about where I rated her in my mind. So when we decide to leave I said ok lets go cause it was getting chilly, we were talking for about 3-4hrs and she had other plans for dinner later. We walk to our cars and coincidentally we were park to next to each other so while we were walking I claw her and put my arm around her hip lightly and she gave some resistance me being a pussy (I really hate myself for this) I let go and walked to our cars. At this moment everything was foggy in my head cause I am terrible at closing. So I was thinking how not to fuck it up. So I told her to give me her number and ask when can we do this again. She responded with " I dont know im busy next week." which is a decisive answer. So I went for a huge and she huge so tight it resembled a hug from a younger cousin or my 10 year old niece. So I dont know what to think about that. So she told me to text her. Which I was going to wait until later in the day but forgot and texted her the next day with "I had fun yesterday." but haven't gotten a reply. The AFC side of me is starting to get onititus and do AFC stuff. But I havent texted her once except the text from above. I am starting to get oneititus cause this my first awesome first date without going to the movies and a dinner. Just a simple coffee date.

TL;DR: Went on coffee date on Sunday of veterans weekend built a confident frame and sexual frame, but didn't keep it consistent. I DHV and saw alot of IOI's like hair twirling. Closing the date wasnt my best as I know I could've done better. Told her to give me her number. Asked when can we do this again. And told she was busy next week so that is a decisive answer. I went for a hug (should tried a kiss) and she hugged me like fucken teddy bear

So thanks for reading seddit open to comments and advice and opinions. Might some stuff later if I remember it

Edit She replied

Hey E, sorry for the delay...I had lots of fun, but I've been thinking a lot, and I just don't know if I can do all this dating. I'm still not over my ex :/

So of course I felt bummed about it and kinda was a let down. But I can't force anything on anybody. On the bright side my AA is basically gone compared to my old AFC me. I haven't replied. I just put music did some cleaning and distracted my mind. This was a great learning experience.