I on average approach 1 girl a month, that’s why I’ve never improved much and have been stuck in the beginner stage for a couple years. On Friday I went to the downtown campus and tried to pinpoint my weaknesses, which I found was all of them.

My first approach was rough, I was rusty and felt my pulse shoot up, I calmed myself down and approached a student with headphones in, made a motion for her to take them out. I told her that when I walked by, I felt I should introduce myself because she looked good. She was studying for an exam but didn’t have time to talk. I offered an alternative and said we both need a study break, she couldn’t though, so I said goodbye. She had a cute smile and was warm so it made it easy to calm my nerves.

Cute blonde, I blanked on what to say, but noticed she was writing very fast so I asked what she was racing to jot down. She was doing homework till her bus arrived so she let me join her. I told her she was cute. I asked her some questions on what she was taking, she didn’t ask any questions back so I took the L.

Girl 3: “ Hi, are you headed to the cafeteria.....yes.......alright but you should stop and talk with me for a minute.....no”

Girl 4 was sprawled on a couch. “Hi there, you look comfy”, she mentioned she had a boyfriend, I asked for how long and she said 9 Years.

Girl 5: We made eye contact and she had a smile so it was an easy stop, she was leaving town that night for a couple months and said there was no way.

Girl 6: waaaay to hot for me but I’m so glad I turned back around and approached. I commented on the weird video she was watching, she looked puzzled at me and then I mumbled an introduction and she let me join her. I relaxed even though there was a couple long pauses.I didn’t rush to fill them in, and eventually she started asking me about myself. She’s a waitress at hooters and in school to become a journalist. I asked her why she wants to do that. I put to much pressure on her with the questions so I tried to make the convo more light hearted, I made fun of her name and we laughed about stupid shit. We were both raised in a small town and had a lot in common. After about 20-25min I felt it was time to ask her out. But of course a girl that hot has a boyfriend. We talked a little longer then I made my way out. Not gonna lie, that rejection stung because I really thought I stood a chance.

I approached a couple more girls but I was still distracted by girl 6, I was just going through the motions at this point so I called it a day. I didn’t get any numbers, it just wasn’t my day but I look forward to trying again next week.

I definitely need to learn to speak clearly and confidently during the beginning of the conversation when I’m the most nervous. I missed a lot of opportunities and need to be more decisive when I am going to approach. Be more specific when giving a compliment instead of just generally saying “I think your cute”. Do At least 30 approaches per month starting now.

Any advice or feedback is appreciated

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