Friends circle

bugxter · 2017-09-24T19:43:28+00:00

Yes, it helps.

No, you shouldn't leave long-time friends who apparently like you just the way you are.

In my opinion you can keep them and still try to make other friendships.

throwthisinthebin17 · 2017-09-25T19:47:28+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2017-09-25T05:14:51+00:00

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I'd like to build another social circle, but I feel like I would be betraying them.

They don't own you. And you don't own them. You're all welcome to branch out and have different kinds of friends and it doesn't betray a damn thing.

Some of them might wrestle with their own insecurity when you branch out, but that's their issue and their guilt trips, if they come when you do start hanging out with other people, are only an indication that they're not as good a friend as you might have thought.

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I know social value is something pretty important when it comes to seduction, at the moment I have a very low social value: my friends don't take care of their look and don't have many friends either.

Fuck this idea of "value." It's not some objective thing you can quantify. Let's back the train up.

Of course you should take care of yourself. Grooming, etc.
The whole thing of value is not that there is some universal standard. It's about confidence to socially interact. It's about confidence in who you are, that comes from investing in building yourself and improving yourself, rather than stagnating as a person.

But none of this guarantees everyone will like you. It just means that, if you take care of yourself inside and out, you'll increase the chances that you'll connect with people who like you for you.

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I am maybe not the funniest guy around, but I can make friends pretty easily thanks to my skills in listening what they have to say.

You don't have to be the funniest guy. Simply being able to see the ridiculousness in life and yourself, is more than enough. Paying attention is more than enough: hell, it's more than most people do.

Which is why listening to people is SUCH a huge fucking skill if you already have that down. I can't tell you how many of my answers to the bevy of questions I see on this sub, come down to PAY ATTENTION.

Should I leave them to get more friends outside of this group, even though we've been close friends for a long time?

You can walk and chew bubblegum at the same time. It's possible to have more than one kind of social circle. In fact, it's often quite helpful to "game" to have different circles that don't mix. That way if you end up gaming out of a circle, stuff doesn't get messy if/when you pursue girls in different circles.

Bobpeel · 2017-09-24T20:28:42+00:00

It already sounds like you are growing or moving away from that circle. You can still be friends, but maybe just start to see them less. Take car of yourself. Join a gym and take on a different hobby with other people that doesn't involve them. Take on a hobby that requires you to get outside and outside of your comfort zone. Join a rock climbing group or acting class or something. Stop looking for chicks and just talk with them. Once you become busy and doing things and taking care of yourself, you will become more confident and the girls will start to take notice of you

throwthisinthebin17 · 2017-09-24T18:27:48+00:00

Women don't care about your social value, when they see you they evaluate how you look, how you dress, how you posture yourself and how they would feel holding your hand (and getting pounded by your tiny muscular butt)

Title	Friends circle
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Comments	10
Date	September 24, 2017 6:12 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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