Here's a little background info before I came across Seddit, I had major AA, and the single scene in my town is cut throat. After reading up on some pointers on Seddit, I've pushed my personal boundaries and going out. I work as a server at a restaraunt as well so I practice communicating/flirting with my female co-workers as well as customers ( and the tips have improved!). This past Friday a friend and I go to a co-worker's birthday party, I'm all amped I walk in in what I call my super man pose ( feet shoulder length apart with hands on hips, with a look of determination and interest) and instantly sarging the place. In that moment it seemed like all eyes were on me so I say 'sup to everyone and spot this HB8 to my left, so I walk in introduce myself to her (while keeping eye contact) and afterwards begin to mingle. Things were slow at first and I was starting to revert to being introverted and quiet, but I didn't fucking come to a party for that shit. So I got up introduced myself to a HB6, she was alright but way too young for me. A friend of mine picked up where I left off with her, and luckily the music started playing so most of us started to dance. I see another distraught looking HB5 on the other side of the room checking her phone every few minutes or so.

I make my way over to her and introduce myself and ask her for a dance while there was still about 45 seconds of the song left ( the whole time maintaining eye contact). She puts up her bitchshield and calls me out on my eye contact game, after that I let her go and move back over to my first HB8 who I rapported with for about 15 minutes, I learned a ton about her and she was gorgeous, but alas she had a boyfriend, and after talking we all danced and she eventually left for home to see her boyfriend (sigh). During this whole party experience there were 2 girls who had their eye on me. Girl 1 was not attractive at all, and very aggressive (which I gave her cudos for), and girl 2 was a HB7 which I eventually F-closed with (details in a moment). I was flattered by Girl 1, she layed her game down hard and even tried to initiate Kino, but while I was making eyes with Girl 2 across the room, Girl 1 asked for a hug in which I replied. "Ok but just a hug and that's it", so I hug girl 1 and cleverly got rid of her for the rest of the evening. Now Girl 2 I "sealed the deal" with and this is how. As I was talking to HB8 from way early in the party Girl 2 came by me to pick up a glass of water she had sitting next to me, not being too certain it was hers, I told her to be careful drinking mystery waters at parties. She found it flattering I was concerned with her well being and assured me it was her water that she had brought, and that it was legit. She introduced herself to me, and allowed me to finish my rapport with HB8.

LATER in the night as the party had began to plateau, I grabbed Girl 2 for a slow dance to a song that was a slow dance song. Since I apparently had established some initial attraction and charm with this girl she didn't seem to mind at all. While dancing I initiated big time Kino/rapport while talking softly in her ear. After a few minutes I proposed that I steal one of the catholic candles ( in which I have a small collection of) from the party house and we go back to my place, she was all about it. We disappear into the designated jacket room, and we make out briefly so I can confirm what is about to go down. We eventually get back to my place, my room is clean, my bed is made, and the candles are lit. We make out for about 15 minutes, the music is on on the iphone, her phone rings. It's her friends, we both know this, but I play like I don't hear anything and just say "what phone? All I hear is the music" which she finds amusing and charming. We eventually F-close several times until the crack of dawn to the chagrin of my house mates, and a couple of more times around 10 the next morning. When we weren't going in and out of each other, we talked and got to know each other more and she just happens to be the type of girl I am looking for albeit there are some complications that prevent both of us from having anything serious at the moment ( we're just f-buddies for now).

A few weeks ago at my job I encountered a HB7 that I never had the balls to approach. She came back today interested in applying so I took the opportunity to start a little rapport with her. I learn that she is new to town, so I answer all I can about this wonderful town I live in as well as myself (again keeping eye contact), after answering more questions about my job blah blah blah,I ask her out to a coffee and I #-close her much to the surprise of all my co-workers as they know my long AA history. Now there is one thing I do differently with #-closing, and that is if the girl is hesitant for any reason, I take a leap of faith and I give her my name ( Firs and last) and number. If she dosen't call it can go one of two ways, either she isn't interested, or she forgot/lost it, which in my case is fine, if I see her again I am no stranger to giving it to her again (ahohoho).

So of all this I have this to say:

*practice practice practice, you will fail a lot, but like learning how to ride a bicycle you get back on it until you understand damnit

*rejection happens it's ok, just move and be a man, if she's putting up a bitch shield she isn't worth your valuable time

*eye contact, bitches love eye contact. Since I started doing that with everyone, I have gotten more respect and I even feel better about myself

*stand proud, because you're awesome

*Do not worry about the outcome. Don't worry about k-close, #-close, or f-close. Enjoy the journey and live in the moment, bitches can smell fear.

*Keep your room clean, and have condoms ready because if you do do things properly you are headed for pound town buddy