Dear Seddit,

I'm vulnerableguy. Yo, I'm good at getting girls and playing 'the game', but I have decided to transition away from the game and work on just being myself to get girls. I am interested in falling in love and having a very deep connection with a partner. I know that's what I want... I can game girls, but once we go out on the 2nd or 3rd date I tend to become infatuated with them, so much so I tell them I really like them and then they break up with me. When they break up with me I'm not upset ever though, I usually say, "I understand, I'm pretty intense." I almost expect this to happen now because every time the girl says that we should date or just be friends I sit there with a smile. It's weird because I am usually just glad I was vulnerable and took the risk...

The reason I think they break up with me is I start the relationship as very alpha, as I gamed them, and hit on them by saying things like, "oh you love me" or being 'cocky-confident', but then after a date I let all of that go and I'm just genuinely myself. As a person I am very emotional, but also still confident and fun.

The problem I'm having is not in my ability to tell them how I feel, but I tell them too much to quickly and lose the sense of masculinity that I think they are looking for in me. Or something like this.... They become disenchanted the moment I show that I REALLY like them.

Let me know what you think, I never get past 3 or so dates. Also they are always the ones to break up... if you have any information or reading that might help please tell me!!!