Hey guys,

When do you start getting into deep conversations with women? I've started getting into deep conversation with a girl before we've gotten physical, and it feels like I'm dumping myself into the friendzone.

She's been very aloof and closed off, so I've tried to make the conversations more engaging and deep so that she would open up. I've succeeded in opening her up, but inevitably we've talked about goals in life, what we're looking for in relationships, things that went wrong in the past etc. I'd like her to view me as a sexual partner, not just a close friend for free therapeutic advice. Did I shoot myself in the foot? How do I recover?