Hi, I'm from South America. Last year, I met a German girl named Julia who was studying in my country for a year. I met her when she only had 3 months left here. A friend of hers introduced us, and Julia immediately had a good impression of me. I got to know her while dancing salsa. A friend later told me that Julia treated me well while she was cold and distant with other guys. So, I set out to seduce her, but (embarrassingly) I chickened out due to fear. I never made a move physically, even though I thought she was giving me all the signals. Finally, at her farewell party, I saw her kissing a guy she had just met that night, which broke my heart.

It hurt me deeply, so I decided to change myself to prevent it from happening again. I started a learning process by reading books, watching videos, and browsing forums and Reddit like this one. Over time, I learned how to do it right, and last November, I traveled through Colombia, Brazil, Uruguay, Paraguay, and Argentina, putting into practice everything I had learned. The result was having more sex than ever before, with different women in different countries. Despite the pain, it helped me improve my life.

Two weeks ago, Julia contacted me and said she was coming on vacation to my country with her family. Her family leaves on March 13th, and she'll be staying alone until March 27th. She suggested we meet up and hang out. I was shocked by the surprise, but we agreed to go to the beach together for two days and spend the night together. But fear has gripped me again. The thought of being with her and trying again scares me, but on the other hand, not trying and failing again also terrifies me. It even seems like everything I learned and applied during my trip through South America was for nothing, and I feel like an "Average Frustrated Chump" again. Additionally, I haven't been having a good time lately, and I've gained weight, so I feel even more insecure. So, I need your advice and words, please. It's almost a week until I see her again. What should I do, and what should I not do?