I showed up to the bar by myself planning to meet a few of my friends. I get there and I see a friend's girlfriend outside and she gives me a big hug, we talk for a minute and she tells me where the group is. I get to the back of the bar where they are and hang out. The girlfriend from outside comes and joins the group and I notice she's friends with a very cute, tall girl that was sitting near our group. I ask my friend's GF to introduce us and the GF asked me to sit in her seat while she went to the bathroom.

Seeing this opportunity to talk to the friend (who I'll call J) I sat down and pointed out that her headband was upside down and took it off and fixed it for her and started flirting. I went to order a drink for myself and she turned to me and said "Oh! I'd love a shot! You should get me one!" I said "Why should I buy her a drink? We hardly know each other yet. Do you even remember my name?" (All of this way playful but firm) She did not remember my name. She asked me if I remembered her name and I did. I gave her my name and said we couldn't be friends anymore if she forgot it again. I ordered my drink and she ordered her own shot and then she paid for my drink! I talked to her and did some light kino some more and then I got up to talk to my friends standing nearby. After I ignored her for a minute or so talking to my friends she grabbed my hand, pulled me over, and said that I was fun and she wanted me to sit with her some more.

We talked for a bit and then she asked me to go out for a cigarette with her. I don't usually smoke, but it is a great way to isolate so I'll usually end up having a cig or two when I go out. Outside she sees her father and brother and goes off to ensure them that everything was fine and they could go home. I saw a (very pretty, very tall) old friend of mine that is one of my buddy's sisters. She was just talking to me about whatever while J was talking to her family. After J's family goes back inside she practically DRAGS me away from my friend and says something along the lines of "he's mine" in a joking way to my friend. I think J was already pretty into me before now, but seeing me talk to another girl made her ramp up her kino big time. She was all over me after that.

By the time we finish our cigs everyone else has gone inside and she takes my hand and begins leading me back in. I pause, and stop her, give her the look and pull her back to me and we made out for about 10 seconds before going back into the bar. No lines, no gimmicks. Just give em the look and go for it. They'll stop you if they're not ready.

We go back in and we're flirting and having fun, but I make sure to give her some space and I left her alone for a few minutes at a time while I'm talking to my friends. You HAVE to give some space after they show interest otherwise you'll look desperate. I tell her we should go dance. She brings me right to the front of the dancefloor in front of the band and starts dancing her ass off on me. It turns out she was a dancer and a gymnast since she was little. At one point she pushes me back away from her a few feet, throws her ankle up on my shoulder, has me grab her leg, and she does a fucking standing split! I'm impressed and turned on.

The bar starts closing down and I told her I'd give her a ride home. I didn't think an F close was in the cards because her family had been texting her like every 30 minutes since they left telling her to come home. I drove her home and we pulled to the side of the road before we got there and made out like crazy for 10-15 minutes and I dropped her off.

She added me on facebook and has been texting me frequently since. Apparently she has a boyfriend but she never mentioned it to me so I don't really care. That's her decision to make.

Some thoughts:

I crushed some limiting beliefs that night about the kinds of girls I can get with. She told me later she was 5'11'', 120 pounds, and she must have been wearing 3'' heels. I'm 5'8'' and I've never even tried to talk to a girl taller than me. Standing next to her my eyes were about at her chin level. She pointed the height difference out but I really didn't care, and after I made that clear it was a non-issue. I used to stick to talking to only 7-8s because I felt like they would be more receptive. In reality I think the hotter chicks get hit on less because guys are intimidated. Then halfway through the night they get hit on by a bunch of drunks who finally drank enough courage to walk over. This girl is one of the hottest I've ever hooked up with, and now I know it's perfectly possible.

I didn't buy her a drink when we started talking because we really hadn't spoken more than 5 minutes and I wasn't down with giving handouts or being a pushover. Don't be stingy either. We each bought each other a couple rounds by the end of the night.

I also reenforced my belief that there aint no wingman like a lady wingman. If you have girl friends they WILL try to hook you up, and their approval means a lot to other girls. Having a mutual female friend definitely makes them feel like they're safe with you. Also, having other girls you can talk to will ramp up the competition and make your target chase you. Try to make friends with women. An easy place to start is friend's girlfriends and sisters. They're out of bounds so you won't get nervous about trying to flirt with them. They will help you hook up because it's fun for them to vicariously have a wild night through their friends while they're tied down.

tldr; Stop thinking you can't go for hotter/taller chicks. Make friends with women. Don't be a pushover.