Over the last six months I've made tremendous progress in going out, from not getting laid in almost a year to hooking up with a few attractive girls and having a bunch more chasing me. Despite all of the areas I've made improvement, one of the things I've consistently had difficulty with and that has been holding me back for quite some time is staying in set.

For example, a few days back I'm out walking around in a new city looking for a place to have lunch. I see a girl walking in the opposite direction, stop her and ask her where her favorite place to have lunch is. She pretty much doesn't know any restaurants in the area so I talk to her for awhile about a few different things, tell her she's going to walk me to a Lebanese place down the street, then ask for her number and go in for lunch. Despite getting the number, I feel like the number could have been much stronger if I'd somehow had more time to spend in set, but I just didn't know how or didn't feel comfortable taking up more of her time.

I always seem to feel like it would be low value for me to do something like ask her to have lunch with me then and there or to keep talking to someone I met at a club for more than 5 minutes for example. I can normally keep a conversation going for awhile, but it always seems low value to me to keep talking to someone I just met for too long. I regularly seem to eject after 5-10 minutes in a set whether at the bar, on the metro or at the mall. I can get a lot of numbers this way but I feel like they could be much stronger if I could stay in set for longer.

What mindset do I need to have to successfully stay in set longer? What types of things can I do to stay in set longer with a girl that I just met at a whole foods, for example? How do you stay in set longer at a bar or at a club? I feel like I need an excuse or a reason to hang out with a group I meet out at a club for too long. I know this is a mindset issue, but what advice can you give for this situation?