Help a fellow guy :)

uniqueusername0011 · 2017-12-24T14:11:24+00:00

Hey! I feel like I’m in pretty much the same boat as you. Im 23, in great shape, good looking guy. I actually get approached by a decent amount of females but I have absolutely 0 game.

What I’m planning on doing is just going out to bars/clubs and approaching every girl I find attractive. I’m gonna allow myself to fail, I except to fail in the beginning. Everything in life just takes practice, that’s all. Just go out there and approach, if you get rejected you get rejected; it’s ok.

petriomelony · 2017-12-24T14:46:42+00:00

remember that people go to the pub to be social. they want to meet new people, or else they would have stayed at home drinking. personally I'm not so keen on approaching at the gym and I have no experience with raves.

I think the hesitation comes when you think you will be interrupting the girl and her friends. one way to counter this is to imagine yourself in her situation:

you're with your buddies at the bar, just chilling and chatting. suddenly an attractive girl comes over and says she wants to have a drink with one of you. what do you all do? tell her to go away because you're having a conversation? or, if her wanted guy is single, shove him towards her?

rejection is basically the perfect filtering mechanism. if you approach a group and they say no thanks, it's not because you're creepy. it's because your goals (meeting new people) doesn't align with theirs. you just saved yourself 15 minutes of boring conversation, congratulations!

also don't feel like you're wasting your best years, that's going to make you do stupid stuff if you believe that. guys are quite lucky in that age is much less a factor in our attractiveness than for women. look at George Clooney, he gets loads of attention even at his age.

so go out there, don't think of it as trying to find a girlfriend, just meeting new people. you have lots of experience doing that!

greninjaw · 2017-12-24T17:48:51+00:00

For how long have you been working out?

Title	Help a fellow guy :)
Author	PastLifeEyes
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	December 24, 2017 1:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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