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Long time lurker here since the time I was a needy, depressed, insecure loser. Since that, I have come a really long way and you could say I'm quite the opposite of what I used to be really. So after I could finally love myself I went for improvements in my dating life. As I am 24 and still a virgin I am still new when it comes to that.

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After hundreds of hours of reading and exercising things like eye contact, speech, etc., I now found this girl I am really attracted to. At this point you probably will tell me that it's just one girl of millions. While I also do think that's true, keep in mind I live in a rather little to medium sized city and do not travel a lot since I do have quite a lot of work to do at university and am rather picky when it comes to people that I really want to do more with than just small talk.

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Let's get to the gist of it: I can't really decide on what kind of level I am with her at the moment.

It started off pretty well. I met her at university in one of my classes, we talked a lot and as I made her laugh all the time I guess we both had a good time. Checked her relationship status discreetly ,got her number and continued flirting. She told me that she does not like guys that do not go for what they want. So after classes I went for the close in person and got a "date" (we'll get back to that later). The day after she wanted to postpone the date.

At this point most of you would probably advise me to abort. As I thought we had pretty good synergy though, I just felt the need to continue.

After that, we could not schedule another date. We did however find some free time between classes which she proposed we could use instead. I told her that I'm not about bridging the little gaps in her schedule. After some more exchanged words she told me that there might be a misunderstanding and while she might be single, she is currently not looking for a relationship at the moment because of bad experiences in the past. But she would not have anything against a meetup just as friends.

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At this point I am probably the only guy that would keep going, right? And surely, I did.

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I told her that I am all about having fun together right now and that there still might be atime for that later.

So we agreed on the "date" and it actually worked out wonderfully. We both had a blast because apparently we really enjoy each other company and conversations. She also went with me into the woods next to our university without really questioning that, showed me her tattoo right beneath her breasts for which she basically had to strip her shirt, told me her stories with her ex-boy friends -which were the typical asshole or nice guy stereotypes - , explained me her busy schedule, was really receptive to my physical advances ( I can basically lean in until our heads are pretty much "kissing") and later said that she really enjoyed that time.

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Keep in mind this all happened in less than half a week.

Now after this whole pulling I had to do some pushing. So I told her that I really enjoyed last time and if she wants we could do it again when she's free. I also kept away from her in classes on purpose.

After two days she actively searched for me in class and wanted to sit next to me. I made some more physical advances and she doesn't seem to mind with one exception: If I touch her leg with mine she immediately pulls it back.

The next day she again looked for me and came over. Same stuff basically but still did not ask me for a date.

Which is where I asked her and got a "whatever it is now" set up for next week now in the evening after our classes in university. She told me to text her the time and date again for confirmation so she won't forget. She does know I live right around the corner.

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Now at this time, I am thoroughly confused at what point I am here right now. I watched the Coach and other channels and reread stuff in my books looking for answers but did not find anything fitting to that situation.

I also do not know what to do really at the "date" as it will be 8 PM and she won't be able to drink because she still needs to drive home.

Did I fuck up at some point?

I am really looking forward for any suggestions and feedback and keen on implementing them.

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