HELP NEEDED

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-14T21:08:54+00:00

Never go out for the purpose of getting laid or meeting women. Go out with the purpose of having fun not only because that's a much better purpose, but because the byproduct of being a fun guy who loves his life is that women want to attach themselves to you. They don't want to attach themselves to the desperate loser who is out to pick up chicks. Get it?

Imreallytired2301 · 2021-11-14T21:08:16+00:00

Don't start off with "hey what's your name" start off with a compliment "like hey I like your shoes" or "like your outfit" if it looks like she put time in her outfit, then proceed with "what's your name?" then she'll say, then you say yours, then after you say your name you give out a greeting handshake, then you ask if she's from around your city, and so on and so on... Btw eye contact is important shows interest

wolfbee16 · 2021-11-15T00:26:18+00:00

Glad you figured it out!!! That was IMO the greatest difference in me attracting girls and not. If your having fun doing your thing you appear in a happy, blissful childlike fun! I dance like a madman!! Am I good? Maybe, but I fucking own whatever dance moves I’m doing.

I think for women they can feel the positive fun energy, and are much more likely to find themselves by you on the dance floor. I went from no girls to 50! Go out, have fun!!

Men who are already nervous put such a stressful goal on their backs of getting laid. Why??? If it happens, cool, if not, cool. Your intent for the night is not to get laid, it’s to HAVE GENUINE FUN with your friends!

While I’m here, another great tip is to listen to a girl when shes talking to you. I, like many of you believed that we needed to have a witty remark right away, which if your not naturally witty is tough. Instead, listen to them speak, pause a second before responding and I promise you will be shocked how witty you really are. This goes beyond just girls too.

Also, my demeanor is that of a carefree, stress free nature. I joke around with girls like I do with my boys and they laugh. Is what I’m saying funny? It’s probably more stupid and random if anything, but I make myself laugh at the humor which 99% of the time they will too. Tone of voice is KEY!! You’ve heard it a million times but it’s not what you say, but how you say it.

A mindset that really changed my game as well was the “fuck it” ideology. What I mean is if I shoot my shot 10x in one night I’m at the very least getting one. It’s a numbers game, and your going to fuck up but trust me that’s how you learn. It hit me right in the ego initially but with practice I cared less and less about rejection. Some girls won’t like you, some will. If you fail, just move one… we are really overthinking this guys!!!

Women are human beings, yet when I was horrible at game I looked at them as an object. Why? Because you put that “sex” on such a pedestal all you care about is sex with them and it shows. You’ll have instances where things click right away and you take them home immediately, but most of the time I’m having a genuine convo with them!!! I’m interested in them and will slip in humor every now and then!

In summary, change your mindset. Go out not even thinking about women and have genuine fun! I swear they can sense the vibe you give off. You’ll be surprised just how many more women will be in your presence!

Don’t be like my friends and I many years ago. Standing on the wall of the club does not look mysterious and sexy, all it shows is that your either boring or lack the confidence to dance. Dancing in of itself is confidence because your doing something in full view of everyone else. Should this scare you? Hell no, I’ll even do some goofy dance moves every now and then and people laugh. Who cares? Did I look stupid? Probably, but I’m having genuine fun showing I could care less about others opinions.

tminus7MT · 2021-11-14T19:35:51+00:00

You keep practicing. It’s not going to be instant, and there’s not a certain question or intro to use that’s going to get you to the next step. It sounds like you figured something out that works for you, keep using it. Practice, get better, keep it up. It sucks, and rejection always happens, but it’s always a chance to take what you learned from that experience and apply it to the next person you try to talk to

SENDMETHICKTHIGHS_ · 2021-11-14T19:55:11+00:00

be yourself! cliche I know but worrying about what the right thing to say is, is going to backfire. Enjoy yourself! it's better to be natural. Hang with your friend. go to more parties. Be around people who are good with girls and you'll pick up on game. Goodluck :) don't take it to seriously or try to hard. Remember they might be nervous about you aswell. It's a two way street. check out ams on YouTube he has some videos on game. don't be won over to easy, tease, don't validate to much. Just show her that you're not scared of her or changing yourself for her. plenty of other good info on YouTube though gl!

also if they're making out with you then you're doing something right.

electronbox · 2021-11-15T05:42:02+00:00

I go out just to have fun, without any intentions whatsoever but i have never actually met someone in a club nor seen anyone giving me a smile etc. don’t know what’s wrong -.-

theosamabahama · 2021-11-14T22:35:25+00:00

Practice. When you are new to game, you get cough up in your head and you overthink stuff, going through all the scripts and techniques. It's normal. But after doing it for sometime, it becomes second nature and you don't have to think about it anymore, you just do it by instinct. Keep practicing.

EchidnaNo1980 · 2021-11-15T02:47:26+00:00

Just takes a little more time grasshopper...but your on the right track

OutrageousRecord4944 · 2021-11-15T03:26:25+00:00

Thats the best part not knowing what to say. Just go up to the girl and strike a convo. If she’s feeling you she’ll drop a signal. For example, if you were at the aquarium and seen this cute chick you can strike up a convo with her. She’ll probably drop something like “Where’s your girlffriend guys don’t to the aquarium alone”. Once they drop a signal that when you take it further and proceed. I always tell men don’t shoot your shot just strike up a convo as if she were another man. This helps with nerves and overthinking.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-14T21:06:38+00:00

Just be a friendly guy who shows that he is also sexually playful.

S0GGYS4L4DS · 2021-11-15T02:31:14+00:00

Downers?

Title	HELP NEEDED
Author	Murky-Finish1733
Upvotes	82
Comments	13
Date	November 14, 2021 7:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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