I'm an easy target for condescension and ridicule, hopefully putting that here will avoid the same, and just get replies from folks who want to help. Yes, I'm an autistic loser in my 30s, still with V-card, and I'm quite hindered from my condition. I want to know how to hint at these social/functional difficulties, without turning off women from "talking negative about myself" at the same time as not pretending I'm normal (I'm highly abnormal, both socially and functionally, hiding that would be deceptive, it would never work.)

With that said, I'm just looking for folks who know how to write a good ad on various places in Reddit. I've been writing ads on the site for a couple years, and average about ONE unique reply from a potentially interested woman every 3-4 months. That's not good enough, and all of them fell through, for various reasons. I've tried messaging women also, I never get a reply, not to mention 99.9% are not close enough in location.

The places I write ads: virginityexchange, and more recently have tried r4r.

One suggestion that has been given is use a throwaway, obviously anyone who looks at my post history will find a lot of cynicism and negativity; on the other hand, the few times I got replies, the women who wrote said they appreciated the "brutal honesty." If a throwaway is the way to go, then I need to write a damn good ad.

Things I don't want to see here: "forget about this, just pay for it, since that's your only hope" "move to Tinder or dating sites" (Have tried before and the rejection is merciless, compared to what happens on reddit)

Trying to meet women in real life is a fair suggestion. But my social skills are about 5% of where they need to be. I doubt I'll ever be ready for that. (Longterm agoraphobics in their 30s, who turned it around and got women, that's advice I'd want to hear)