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[–]Geron9 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How do you know it's the real number?
I've met the most innocent looking women who have are anything but. You think they are going to tell their future bf about all the shit they've done? Lol.
[–]Hector_Castillo 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
that's why you should present yourself as a lover first that way she isn't hiding anything or is less likely to then, after making a reasonable guess as to her lay count and other qualities, become more romantic and show long term interest
which is what he did
[–]Xanarxses 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So you're suggesting it's even worse than that? Man OP is gonna be throwing a hot dog down a hallway.
[–]cleo_blush 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Why does it matter how many partners shes had previously, especially if it's the same amount as yours. Her worth shouldn't decrease or be thought of as less than if you're also in the same situation.
[–]Hector_Castillo 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
her value as a person isn't diminished but her viability as a girlfriend is. women with high lay counts are far more likely to cheat on future boyfriends. Doesn't mean inexperienced women dont cheat but it's less likely if you screen for other qualities that demonstrate faithfulness
[–]fightthewower 7 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
The GC article touches on this. Basically a study shows it increases hands of cheating by 7% for every additional partner
[–]cleo_blush -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
So are you also liable to cheat on her more because you have the same numbers or is this just some kind of females only science
[–]Hector_Castillo 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
men and women aren't the same. men can easily separate sex and love and women value emotional infidelity over sexual fidelity. men are opposite. if awoman cheats on a man she will never truly respect him again. if a guy cheats, and it doesn't turn into an actual long term affair, it does nothing to the relationship
[–]cleo_blush 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Wait did she just sleep with 7 guys or has she been in a relationship with 7 guys, and she ended up cheating on one of them? I would watch for that pattern of behavior. Not the actual number in which shes veen sexually active with, because women vary in terms of their sexual partners. For example, I've only had 8-9 sexual partners, some casual and some in relationships. However, I have never cheated on any of my serious partners. So the number in my mind doesnt matter, it's how they label and handle their relationships. Men and women both
It's a statistical question. You may be an outlier or the norm, but if the statistics are heavily skewed for women cheating, then why not avoid it? No one is truly special. Every is replacable, men and women alike. If you found a great gal who has a high lay count, then you can probably find a girl as cool/hot as her who has a lower one.
Time and energy are your greatest resources. Why put it in a 3% return account over a 10% return? Small advantages matter when choosing a long-term GF.
As for OP's girl, she hasn't cheated. And she's 21, so it's probably been 75% hookups, and maybe one or two relationships lays.
[–]fightthewower1 point 7 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
She slept with 7 guys and hasn’t ever cheated
[–]Hector_Castillo 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
yo, writer for girlschase.com here. glad you like our material
You screened her well and all seems good IMO. 7 lays is getting up there but its not horrible either. how old is she?
you mentioned her stats but not her actual age.
[–]fightthewower 7 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Ah sweet yeah she’s almost 21, thanks man I appreciate the feedback! Your articles on GC are always a pleasure to read.
[–]Hector_Castillo 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Glad to hear it man :)
Okay 21...hmm....7 is a bit high. I casually saw a girl who was 20 but had 9 partners..and she smoked weed/drank a lil, but GODDAMNED was I crazy about her...so it's hard to tell you NOT to date someone when you really like them, y'know? It never worked out between us, which is for the best (I left the country and went on the amazing adventure I've been on for the past 2 1/2 years).
I'd say it would be a medium-low risk relationship. You'll probably be okay but watch out for shady behavior. She doesn't party but has 7 partners is what is...confusing to me. More details maybe? DId she USE to party?
[–]fightthewower 7 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Ha! I’m sure you have plenty of great stories from traveling 2 1/2 years! I don’t think there’s a much better way to master the social art than traveling. And she’s had one long term boyfriend and the rest have been flings. She’s not into partying at all and doesn’t smoke or drink that much. She normally makes guys take her out on multiple dates with me being her exception (which I believe because she seemed inexperienced when it came to sex/ after sex). One before she left for college, one bf at college, one after her bf freshman year, 2 her freshman year summer, and 1 this summer. Everything else about her tells me she’d make for a great girlfriend. Thanks again for your help (:
Ya I think youre good dude. Honestly. Could be a safer situation but you're reasonably well guarded. I'd say full speed ahead (and you wouldn't be asking about her if she wasn't on your mind a lot).
Just set your boundaries, be reasonably strict, and also be very passionate in bed. Don't be jealous but don't be niave and scared to enforce boundaries either.
best of luck man!
[–]fightthewower 7 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Also Im extremely interested to hear your opinion on keeping your game sharp while in a relationship. Obviously I’ll keep flirting and talking to new and old girls, but where do you think the line is in terms of cheating? Might make for an interesting article as I haven’t seen too much on the topic. Thanks again!
[–]Hector_Castillo 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Check out my latest article. I wrote about being better with girls when you have a GF - https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-having-girlfriend-makes-you-better-women
I don't condone or condemn infidelity, but, ya know, wink wink
[–]chronosthetitan 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Clickbait again! bad advice again also. People shouldn’t read what you post and say “no shit to themselves.”
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